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October 2018 Moms
rabtaido1214
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Stabby Saturday (7/7)
rabtaido1214
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I didn’t see this yet so I hope it’s ok I’m starting it up. I’m just cranky today so I need a vent on a million different fronts.
1. Really bummed. A close friend gave us a Maxi Cosi convertible car seat they used with their 2 kids. It would be great as a second car seat to keep in my husbands car, and grow with our baby for a while. I trust them, it’s in good condition and no accidents. I thought this was great since it would retail (new) for a few hundred. Just realized that car seats have expiration dates. Honestly had no clue! Well, it’s older than I realized and it expires this year. It totally makes sense when you figure their oldest is probably 6 now. Damn, was so excited we would get to save some $$$. I’m completely for safety first, just thought I able to accomplish that for free. Too good to be true!
2. My husband had reverted to playing some dumb computer game. He goes through spurts of playin it in all his spare time and then not playing it for several months. He started a few weeks ago. We had a staycation this week and he woke up and would go straight to the damn game. Normally when we don’t have any plans we get out of the house and find SOMETHING to do, but with this game he was seriously consumed and we had the lamest week (albeit lazy and relaxing) ever. To be fair I just couldn’t come up with anything I wanted to do with it being so hot and humid out most of the week and if I did he would have eventually gotten off the game to do it.
3. Related to above, now he needed a new laptop and a desk for our downstairs so he can play and be down here with me. How sweet, not. He got a laptop Tuesday, and it was literally the day before his birthday so I couldn’t give him crap without sounding like a huge bitch. He has been talking about a laptop for several years and hasn’t gotten himself one (really didn’t need it for much since he has a work laptop). And naturally has to be a stupid expensive one because he doesn’t half ass a damn thing. Then we found a nice looking desk today that will look more furniture-like than office-like for our living room. So ridiculous. I feel like I’m trying to plan for two children’s expenses, my husband being the much more expensive one, for now.
4. He is so useless when playing the game unless it aligns with downtime in the game. Can you let be dogs out? Response: not right now, in like 5 minutes. Ready to take the dog to the vet? Response: yep (meanwhile still tapping away at the keyboard. We arrive 10 minutes late). Can you make dinner? Response: sure, I’ll start in like an hour. (Guess why). This BETTER be out of his system by October.
1. Really bummed. A close friend gave us a Maxi Cosi convertible car seat they used with their 2 kids. It would be great as a second car seat to keep in my husbands car, and grow with our baby for a while. I trust them, it’s in good condition and no accidents. I thought this was great since it would retail (new) for a few hundred. Just realized that car seats have expiration dates. Honestly had no clue! Well, it’s older than I realized and it expires this year. It totally makes sense when you figure their oldest is probably 6 now. Damn, was so excited we would get to save some $$$. I’m completely for safety first, just thought I able to accomplish that for free. Too good to be true!
2. My husband had reverted to playing some dumb computer game. He goes through spurts of playin it in all his spare time and then not playing it for several months. He started a few weeks ago. We had a staycation this week and he woke up and would go straight to the damn game. Normally when we don’t have any plans we get out of the house and find SOMETHING to do, but with this game he was seriously consumed and we had the lamest week (albeit lazy and relaxing) ever. To be fair I just couldn’t come up with anything I wanted to do with it being so hot and humid out most of the week and if I did he would have eventually gotten off the game to do it.
3. Related to above, now he needed a new laptop and a desk for our downstairs so he can play and be down here with me. How sweet, not. He got a laptop Tuesday, and it was literally the day before his birthday so I couldn’t give him crap without sounding like a huge bitch. He has been talking about a laptop for several years and hasn’t gotten himself one (really didn’t need it for much since he has a work laptop). And naturally has to be a stupid expensive one because he doesn’t half ass a damn thing. Then we found a nice looking desk today that will look more furniture-like than office-like for our living room. So ridiculous. I feel like I’m trying to plan for two children’s expenses, my husband being the much more expensive one, for now.
4. He is so useless when playing the game unless it aligns with downtime in the game. Can you let be dogs out? Response: not right now, in like 5 minutes. Ready to take the dog to the vet? Response: yep (meanwhile still tapping away at the keyboard. We arrive 10 minutes late). Can you make dinner? Response: sure, I’ll start in like an hour. (Guess why). This BETTER be out of his system by October.
Re: Stabby Saturday (7/7)
I'm stabby at myself for bit sunscreening for the short time I was out side today, I have a small circular burn on the bump):
yesterday my husband and I went to Toronto to look at some baby stuff and browse around while I’m still feeling up to walking all day. We ended up meeting my sister and some family friends for dinner before taking the train home. I told my sister about the baby shower plans and how many people to plan food for. She said, “I thought I was just going to like help with the planning” and then started looking to our family friends like they should help too. My husband is very independent and doesn’t like asking anyone for anything. He didn’t even want to have a shower but my sister very adamantly offered. We were both embarrassed. I told her that you offered to do the shower and I don’t know why you’re now acting like we are forcing it on you. She said, “okay okay” and then said to our family friend that they could email to figure out what to do.
On the way home my husband said we should just tell her not to do anything and take care of the food ourselves by getting some stuff from costco. My sister has never been the most responsible or reliable person. I’m tempted to tell her that too but I don’t want the responsibility of doing it ourselves and my sister and brother in law have way more disposable income than we do. I also am super embarrassed that she is pulling in a family friend to help.
Should I just tell her to forget about it and attend as a guest? I’m really upset about how she acted but I have enough responsibility preparing for baby.
I personally think she should follow through. If she offered something and then didn’t feel like it later, too bad. She made a commitment.
I would call her and tell her you really appreciated the offer at Easter but then it didn’t seem like she was as willing yesterday, and politely but directly ask if she wants to host it or not. You thought she wanted to do this by her offer but you don’t want to feel like she’s doing this out of obligation. Give her the option to give you a clear answer so you both know what is going on.
Me: 33 DH: 31
Location: Castle Rock, CO
DD: 10.13.18
baby #2 due: 7.14.20
@jenchoo I know how you are feeling. This is one of the reasons why we decided to do the shower at our place and just do it ourselves. My family isn't responsibile and my friends don't have money to spend on a big coed party with 50 or so people. I'm grateful one of our close couple friends offered to pitch in and be the hosts.
I'd say if you want to ensure your sister doesn't flake out have a sit down with her and explain it more in depth about how you didn't want the shower in the first place and she forced you. Now it feels like you are doing the work. If she decides to pull out then you at least know.
My stabby situatuon is I found out through Instagram that some of my old co-worker friends, who I'm quite close with, had a party and didn't invite me. It was a girl's house that started working there long after I left, but I know her and have included her in past outings. She is good friends with my coworker at my new job and he even said to me Friday he was invited last minute and wasn't sure why since it seemed like a (company) party. But then I saw on Instagram stories that it wasn't JUST workers of that company it included some ex- coworkers like my best friend (who never mentioned it to me)
So now I don't know if I point it out to my friend or just leave it. I just want to know why they didn't include me? Did they think it was too soon after my surgery, or because I'm pregnant? I would like to be included in invites going forward even when baby comes because they are a big part of my social life. I have noticed I don't get invited to industry events now that I'm pregnant so I guess I'm no fun anymore?
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
It may be the pregnancy thing, or it may be the no-drinking thing (I can’t remember if you drink at social functions or not).
I’ve been dealing with getting shut out of happy hours and parties for years because I choose not to drink at the vast majority of events. I don’t think that is a conscious choice on people’s part to exclude me, so much as an unconscious “this isn’t her kind of thing” bias. I’ve also noticed that in smaller groups, people are uncomfortable drinking if I am not drinking, as if my choice to not drink reflects somehow on their choice to drink. (Weirdly- I encounter a similar vibe when I go to a sushi place with someone since I don’t eat sushi.). I try to make an effort to go to and be present at any of this kind of thing I get invited to, just to keep my spot on various dance cards.
With respect to the pregnancy thing, I suggest combatting it head-on. Tell you friends “I feel stir crazy with this pregnancy thing- I know I might leave early, but I would love to be included if you are planning another get together.” You don’t have to ask why you weren’t included, or make a big deal about it, just start letting people know that even though your circumstances have changed, you still want to do things with them. I’m also making an effort to foster my 1:1 relationships as I believe those will be easier to maintain after the birth than my group activities.
I just found two poops and one barf spot in the basement near my cat’s litter box. She didn’t bother letting me know that the cat had vomitted and wasn’t going in the box.
Dude- seriously? She said she didn’t see the poops (they may have happened overnight, so, maybe...), but she did find the vomit. According to her- most cats vomit occasionally, and she just thought the cat had overeaten.
My cat is NOT most cats. I’ve had her for over ten years. Hairballs aside, she doesn’t barf “occasionally.” Even if she thought it might be normal for my cat, she could have fucking texted to let me know.
Ohhh!!! I’m super stabby about this all over again!
home.
I pinched my eyeball trying to get my contacts out again last night. Ouch that hurts!
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
@chyvie I think it’s natural for people to assume you don’t want to go out to parties when you’re pregnant. So many people have tough pregnancies and don’t want to do things. Plus, with your surgery I’m sure most people assume you want to rest. I wouldn’t take it personally.
I totally understand if they thought it was my surgery, nobody knew I'd recover this quick. The pregnancy thing would hurt more because they know I am having a good one and still want to go out. I am a very social person and even if I'm not able to drink I can have fun. I didn't drink all that much for a year before getting pregnant.
I did bring it up to my friend when she text me how my weekend was. She said she would have invited me but she only got the invite last minute and didn't think to ask the host to include me. The girl who organized it is kind of a flake and forgot to invite a bunch of people, so she might have just over looked me.
I just told my friend I have been feeling left out and I hope when baby comes I will still get invited to things. She said she totally understands and will ensure I'm included. It felt good to make my thoughts heard.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
Just another indicator of my introverted madness.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
What worries me is when I am wandering through Walmart talking to myself like a mad woman. Like last night. I was maybe short on sleep? And a wee bit stressed?
I have to force myself to be social lately. I forced myself to go out last night, even though I worked while everyone was swimming. I did socialize a little though.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
Notice that my cat comes first in things I talk to.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
My H works for Porsche and has talked to the dealer in Co Springs a couple times about transferring. I may need to consult with you some time about which areas to look at and which to avoid.