@kbernal2021 hmmm it’s been a long time but I feel like I did the sunflower. I think I just grabbed whatever I found at cvs though. I’m sorry you’re dealing with a clogged duct! No fun. Lots of warm compresses and maybe see if you can find someone to do ultrasound therapy.
I stopped tracking diapers because... because there are so many! Milo was fed 45 min ago and I heard at least 4 farts that sounded like a mini blowout! We change poopy diapers several times a day so I figured if I can't keep track it means there are plenty? Anyone else stopped tracking? We are on day 10 today!
@kissableviv i don’t count poops or pees because they are too many and usually during feedings anyways. I’m going through diapers like crazy so I’ll use that as a good sign. I only track feedings for my own sanity.
@kissableviv I dont count diapers either. I know I have at least one wet diaper per feed, and normally a dirty diaper per feed as well. I am also changing in between feeds but DD pedi looks for 6-8 wet/dirty diapers a day and shes well beyond that with the ones at feedings alone so I dont keep track.
@kissableviv we haven't been counting the diapers either. He is also a champion pooper, when he was born the very first thing he did was per on the midwife and then popped all over me as soon as they got him on my chest.
+1 for leaking. We're still having trouble latching so the lactation consultant suggested basically just doing continuous skin to skin for the whole day to see if would help. It hasn't, but I've leaked all over the house and never know when it's happening.
Have another appointment tomorrow with the lactation consultant, hoping something helps because I'm tired of being bit by a piranha. DS Has a lip tie and is a tongue pusher, so we try to nurse for a bit but then I have to resort to pumping probably about 90% of the time. Things are getting a little better, but we're not there yet.
@noideawhatshesdoing Sounds tough. Hope the lactation consultant has some good advice to offer! My little one just latched on to a part of the boob that did not include the nipple because the nipple guard slipped - OUCH! Glad I realized it and managed to pry her off of me relatively quickly.
@zande2016 it’s like contractions all over again! I had no idea that was going to happen so I was so caught off guard. I hear they get worse with each delivery!
Collin keeps fighting me on the right boob. He’ll latch on but then detach and act like he can’t find it again. I have to hold my boob most of the time and usually express to keep him in longer than a few seconds. It’s so frustrating especially at night. We do better with the left. Any tips would be much appreciated! I’m going crazy trying to figure out if it’s a position thing, nipple cream taste, or something. He tends to relive himself (poops and farts) more when he’s on the left so maybe it’s a stomach thing? Idk
@wildtot I had a LC tell me to start on the slacker boob every time I BF DD bc she didn't like to feed on that side if I moved her there second. It was more of a supply issue for me but thinking if your LO is hungry enough, he'll latch on that side more easily if he isn't already partially fed by the side he prefers. Also, try different holds - cross cradle, football, side laying, reclined, even "sitting" upright on your leg. You may just find a position he prefers.
@wildtot Right boob is harder for me, too. I was wondering if it’s a handedness thing on my part, that maybe I am more comfortable getting her into position on the left side. When my little one starts head bobbing like you described, I try to boost her head up a bit (move the bopping up onto the arm of the chair more) and pull her in closer, while directing her head (fingers on those bones behind/near the back of the ears). Seems like that helps a little.
Any tips on addressing a clamp down latch that only seems to happen on one side? (Not coincidentally...my right.)
I don't have a slacker boob, I feel they actually switch, lol. I do tend to squeeze the boobs more because tbh he is so little and his mouth is just so small! But he is able to suck on his own without the squeeze so I'm ok with that. Occasionally he will also fight me @wildtot and latch completely wrong. He stays for a suck, then stops, fights me again. It's a little dance but he only does it occasionally if he is pissed. For being newborns they sure are strong!
@zande2016 I’m so nervous about the PP cramping with BFing. It’s true that it gets worse each time and it was awful last time (and this is baby #5). I didn’t feel like I needed any pain meds after delivery except for the cramping. I stayed on top of the 800mg ibuprofen and that seemed to help.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
I also have this issue on my right side. Except I think DD prefers that side over the left. She will pull off the right side more and need to relatch many times during a feeding however I think it's because the flow is so fast she cant keep up. On the left she grunts and seems to get frustrated and I think it's because she has to work a lot harder for the milk. My left side is also where I have dealt with clogged ducts, milk blisters and where thrush began which could also contribute.
Anyone else's LO completely puke or spit up a ton from one side only? I can feed on one side, get a good burp but no spit up and switch sides, feed them get multiple burps with lots of spit up or enough for me to consider vomiting (soaking half a burp cloth.) It happens regardless of if I feed on that side first or last.
DS will only latch on the on the right, and not all the time. And only in football hold. But at least we're up to about 50% of the time he'll latch properly on that boob and not bite. The left, forget it. It's like the boob and nipple are too big and unwieldy for him or something, doesn't matter if we start with the left or move to it and the nipple shield is no help. But at least we're improving on the right side, so I'll take what I can get. The two things the lactation consultant has us doing is 1. switch to a Brest Friend pillow since it straps around so we're not fighting position with ten thousand pillows (boppy does not work for us at the moment), and 2. she's also got us putting a finger in his mouth to suck for a couple minutes before feeding to sort of warm up his tongue because once he's warmed up he'll cup his tongue so he can pull vs push with it. Weird, but seems to be working. Also seems to get some of his antsy out before putting him to the breast.
@MichelleAG05 it's only on the right side she spits up a ton of vomits. And it doesn't matter if she nurses from the right first or last she spits up sooo much regardless only from that side. Left side is a simple burp with little to no spit up.
So my first son didn’t latch at birth and feeding him was a huge struggle. Baby 2 so far is obsessed with being on my boob at all times and feeding him is a breeze, but he literally isn’t content unless he’s on or next to my boob and my nipples are taking a huge beating. Hospital lactation consultant confirmed he has a tongue tie and I need to decide quickly if I’ll get it fixed since it works best the sooner you do it. I don’t want to go through that ordeal again and put him through unnecessary pain, but even when his latch seems/looks deep, it’s so painful to nurse him. I am thinking I will need to get it done and just waiting to hear back from the lactation consultant I used with my son so I can hopefully have her over to asses and help me decide. I feel so bad because I cringe every time he roots. Hoping he’ll lay off a bit once my milk comes in.
@zande2016 my 2.5 year old son has a lip tie (undiagnosed until recently but our challenging start to breastfeeding makes sense to me now that I know) and the first few weeks of nursing him were pretty difficult. Once we got the hang of things the pain and discomfort went away and he’s been nursing since without problems. I’m not saying don’t get the tie fixed BUT if you don’t want unnecessary pain (which is definitely what would have kept me from wanting to fix his had I known about it) just know it will eventually stop being uncomfortable/painful!
+1 for the STM+ postpartum cramping being the worst thing ever.
Can any of you mommas that have had their milk for a couple weeks remind me how long the rock-hard-painful phase lasts after your milk coming in?? I am SO engorged I just want to cry! DD is nursing like a champ but has a hard time latching because of the hardness. My older son has been nursing too which helps marginally but I need someone to promise me this phase will be over soon because UGH.
@kmac103 I believe the feeling of engorgement leveled out for me around day 10? I still get the feeling of being full when DD goes longer stretches without nursing like at night but nothing like when my milk came in.
I've been totally absent since DS made his arrival, but i want to make a better effort to get back involved and totally needed this thread!
We've been doing pretty well, but the anxiety is real. One day i worry i am not producing enough because he nurses constantly and then the next day I leak over everything! I woke up this morning in a legit puddle and even got our floor wet trying to change a diaper first. Is anyone else experiencing an insane amount of leaking??
Also I thought we were doing well with the latch but now the last couple days my nips have been hurting again!
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
@MrsMiller8588 lots of constant leaking here also. We have dealt with 2 rounds of thrush since DD was born nearly 3 weeks ago. If your leaking a lot I would offer advice to change out your nursing pads very very often. Not that thrush is super common or easy to get but I know dark moist areas are a breeding ground for it. In an attempt to get over my second round I've been going without a bra and will literally soak a towel when I feel letdowns and usually end up soaking my shirt in between without noticing. Eventually our bodies will level out to the amount our babies nurse, it's so hard in the beginning with so many growth spurts contributing to cluster feeding and our babies trying to figure it all out!
Lots of leaking here too. Same thing happened with DS and i don’t recall it ever going away. I noticed that I’ll leak around the two hour mark and around 4 hours when I’m officially becoming engorged. Using pads (reusable or disposable) are so annoying to nurse with especially while being out and about.
@MrsMiller8588 no leaking here yet but I had a toooooon last time. I slept on a towel for a while my supply regulated. I’m sure I’ll be back there shortly lol
@MrsMiller8588 I have had some leaking issues mainly at night though as she is inconsistent on her feedings. The other day i woke up soaked and had to change in the middle of the night.
my right nipple is killing me today so sore. I think I need more free boob time and let them just air out maybe. I think I have a pretty strong let down at times because she seems to get upset and have difficulty staying on lately. I wish I could just feel confident but I just feel anxious with each change
Breastfeeding has been a *totally* different experience than it was with my boys. She can latch (still a bit shallow because I have huge nipples but we're working on it), she's content and only lost 5% of her birth weight in hospital so I know she's actually transferring milk and she's pretty sleepy so I have to keep setting alarms to feed her overnight (NICU got my boys on a q3 schedule and they stuck to our like glue when we got them home). Going to check in with our family doc today or tomorrow and probably an LC just to get some hands on help latching her deeper. my milk started coming in last night too, I'm leaking on the opposite side when feeding so I'm anticipating porn star boobs shortly lol .
It’s so hard to keep up on here with a baby taking all your attention! But I just wanted to commiserate with everyone who is engorged. I’m so uncomfortable! I feel like my other kids were able to empty my boobs during a feeding but little man is not even touching the hardness. Lots of questions for the doc today at his first appointment.
@kmac103 The really crazy engorgement only lasted a few days. But I still wake up full and in pain if she hasn’t fed in a few hours over night. @lindsayleigh1989 I woke up soaked last night. As a FTM, I just have to say...all of this is crazier than I could have imagined! Cool and glad to be able to feed my daughter, but what an experience!
@kmac103 The really crazy engorgement only lasted a few days. But I still wake up full and in pain if she hasn’t fed in a few hours over night. @lindsayleigh1989 I woke up soaked last night. As a FTM, I just have to say...all of this is crazier than I could have imagined! Cool and glad to be able to feed my daughter, but what an experience!
Amen! Breastfeeding is so hard, and I honestly knew it was going to be my biggest challenge .Definitely had not anticipated a lot of what we've experienced but my fears have been confirmed lol. I had told DH I was more nervous about BF than delivering the baby!
@comealongponds similar situation. Baby is a great sleeper and I also used to set alarms the first week or so to wake him .also lost a similar amount of weight at birth, 4%. And also has a small mouth for my nipples lol. His latch is ok but could be better, I will see my doula who is also an LC again next week to get everything squared!
@kbernal2021 maybe your let down is stronger on that side and it's making her get too much, too quickly? Totally guessing here because I'm not a LC (but I could have stayed at a Holiday Inn last night ). I've heard people say to pull baby off as soon as let down starts and use a burp cloth, then reattach baby once the initial let down is done. Once she's a little bigger she will be able to handle the flow, if that's the problem at all.
I definitely forgot how painful things are in the beginning and,like @zande2016, this little guy only wants to nurse and be right next to me! Currently wearing him in a wrap because he wouldn't settle to nap. He took a giant pooping his sleep a few minutes ago and it's soooo stinky! Lol
@MichelleAG05 I may try that and see if we notice any difference. I'm wondering if I notice she spits up a lot of vomits on that side after feeding should I offer the other? If shes overeating and that's what's causing it idk if offering the other side does more harm than good (such as hurting her belly.) All the questions when you have no upcoming visit with the pedi until baby is 2 months .
Hi all, sorry for being completely MIA since the baby was born — turns out babies take a lot of time and attention.
BFing has been going well insofar as that Nathan is gaining weight like gangbusters. In the hospital all the nurses commented on what a strong, aggressive suck he has. Well, good for him, not so good for me. My nipples are cracked and sore and the first few minutes of getting him to latch are excruciating. We’re talking toe-curling pain that makes me cry out and whimper until the latch finally gets deep enough. MH is so concerned, I hate to see how much it’s troubling him in addition to how much it’s hurting me.
We used nipple shields for the first week or so because a combination of relatively flat nipples plus super engorged boobs were making latching impossible. We were both doing great with the shields, but over the last few days I’ve been trying to wean him off of them because I find them annoying (the feedings are messier, they have to be cleaned, they’ll fall off, it’s annoying to sit down to nurse only to realize you don’t have one handy, etc). That’s when the nipple pain started to set in.
Seeing an LC later today for tips but I’m thinking I took the shields away too fast and maybe I should phase them out more gradually, just to give my nipples a chance to heal. Definitely interested in others’ experiences weaning off of nipple shields.
@kbernal2021 I stopped offering the other side with my DD when she was puking often. I had an oversupply and strong let down on both sides so she always only needed one. 2 months is a long time, I get it!! Luckily we go in at 4 weeks!
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+1 to random letdowns. I am always checking my shirt when I'm out wondering if I've leaked through. Any baby crying gets one for me also!
I stopped tracking diapers because... because there are so many! Milo was fed 45 min ago and I heard at least 4 farts that sounded like a mini blowout! We change poopy diapers several times a day so I figured if I can't keep track it means there are plenty? Anyone else stopped tracking? We are on day 10 today!
+1 for leaking. We're still having trouble latching so the lactation consultant suggested basically just doing continuous skin to skin for the whole day to see if would help. It hasn't, but I've leaked all over the house and never know when it's happening.
Have another appointment tomorrow with the lactation consultant, hoping something helps because I'm tired of being bit by a piranha. DS Has a lip tie and is a tongue pusher, so we try to nurse for a bit but then I have to resort to pumping probably about 90% of the time. Things are getting a little better, but we're not there yet.
Any tips on addressing a clamp down latch that only seems to happen on one side? (Not coincidentally...my right.)
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
Interesting idea about sucking on s finger first to get “warmed up” - may have to try that out.
+1 for the STM+ postpartum cramping being the worst thing ever.
Can any of you mommas that have had their milk for a couple weeks remind me how long the rock-hard-painful phase lasts after your milk coming in?? I am SO engorged I just want to cry! DD is nursing like a champ but has a hard time latching because of the hardness. My older son has been nursing too which helps marginally but I need someone to promise me this phase will be over soon because UGH.
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
We've been doing pretty well, but the anxiety is real. One day i worry i am not producing enough because he nurses constantly and then the next day I leak over everything! I woke up this morning in a legit puddle and even got our floor wet trying to change a diaper first. Is anyone else experiencing an insane amount of leaking??
Also I thought we were doing well with the latch but now the last couple days my nips have been hurting again!
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
my right nipple is killing me today so sore. I think I need more free boob time and let them just air out maybe. I think I have a pretty strong let down at times because she seems to get upset and have difficulty staying on lately. I wish I could just feel confident but I just feel anxious with each change
Amen! Breastfeeding is so hard, and I honestly knew it was going to be my biggest challenge .Definitely had not anticipated a lot of what we've experienced but my fears have been confirmed lol. I had told DH I was more nervous about BF than delivering the baby!
@comealongponds similar situation. Baby is a great sleeper and I also used to set alarms the first week or so to wake him .also lost a similar amount of weight at birth, 4%. And also has a small mouth for my nipples lol. His latch is ok but could be better, I will see my doula who is also an LC again next week to get everything squared!
I definitely forgot how painful things are in the beginning and,like @zande2016, this little guy only wants to nurse and be right next to me! Currently wearing him in a wrap because he wouldn't settle to nap. He took a giant pooping his sleep a few minutes ago and it's soooo stinky! Lol
All the questions when you have no upcoming visit with the pedi until baby is 2 months .
BFing has been going well insofar as that Nathan is gaining weight like gangbusters. In the hospital all the nurses commented on what a strong, aggressive suck he has. Well, good for him, not so good for me. My nipples are cracked and sore and the first few minutes of getting him to latch are excruciating. We’re talking toe-curling pain that makes me cry out and whimper until the latch finally gets deep enough. MH is so concerned, I hate to see how much it’s troubling him in addition to how much it’s hurting me.
We used nipple shields for the first week or so because a combination of relatively flat nipples plus super engorged boobs were making latching impossible. We were both doing great with the shields, but over the last few days I’ve been trying to wean him off of them because I find them annoying (the feedings are messier, they have to be cleaned, they’ll fall off, it’s annoying to sit down to nurse only to realize you don’t have one handy, etc). That’s when the nipple pain started to set in.
Seeing an LC later today for tips but I’m thinking I took the shields away too fast and maybe I should phase them out more gradually, just to give my nipples a chance to heal. Definitely interested in others’ experiences weaning off of nipple shields.