It’s not quite the middle of the night yet (havent gone to bed yet) but I’ll start this off with some TMI.
Most of you have probably figured out by now that I’m pretty determined (aka desperate) to do all the things to get this baby to come on his own. Part of that is making sure we have sex every day. Well we were in the middle of it just now and my son started crying. At first we ignored it but he wasn’t settling and crying was getting louder and more intense. I decided we couldn’t stop, then it would all be for nothing and one of us would be asleep by the time the other settled Him. soooo we ignored the crying for a few mins and finished what we started, then the second it was over, I forced H to go get our son and rock him. All is quiet now. Seriously the things I do to try to get this baby out.
@zande2016 haha I feel you, sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Cluster feeding is killing me tonight. I cant go to the bathroom or change i barely had time to eat, which I did while feeding. Hope it means she sleeps well tonight though. Also I feel a little stalkerish. so our house has a row if houses behind us. The last few nights I have noticed one house always has their main floor and unfinished basement lights on until like 3-4 in the morning and I am crazy curious whst they are doing that late.
@lindsayleigh1989 I hope baby sleeps well tonight and you need a break from cluster feeding. Also, I hope you're doing well in general , these early days can be tough!
Also, I'd be nosy about the neighbors too!
It's just after midnight here, not what I'd call the middle of the night though it feels like it.
DH and I just got back from taking DD to the ER. It's been a stressful and tough evening. She seemed totally fine this morning, then around 1pm preschool called saying she had a fever of 101 so I ran to get her. She was fussy but seemed ok. I checked her temp under her arm a few times and it was in the 100-101.5 range. She wouldn't take any medicine so I just kept giving her liquids.
DH came home early and it seemed like she was getting fussier. He suggested using the new thermometer (kinsa smart thermometer) and we started getting temp readings varying from 102.5 to 104.7!
I panic, call the advice nurse and just cry talking to them because I was so scared of a fever that's almost 105. They tell me to take her to the ER. The highest temp reading the ER got was 100. They gave her meds that she took like a pro, checked her out and sent us home.
I don't know if the super high readings were correct or not, maybe they were or maybe I dragged her to a 2 hour ER trip for no reason.
@lindsayleigh1989 oh man I remember clusterfeeding, it’s so hard but just remember baby is helping your body get the signal to make more milk!
@runsomewhere oh no that’s no fun! What kinda thermometer is it? Forehead? I’ve noticed my son’s temp is always higher on the forehead temporal thermometer than the ear one they use at the doctors. One time my son had a 104+ fever and I rushed him to the doctor who was on call on a Sunday. He was like ehhh you’re fine, at this young age they can spike this high and it’s okay, a long as he’s not over dressed and can cool himself off it’s no big deal. I was like ummm no buddy he could have a seizure. It is true though that kids run much higher fevers than adults. I hope she’s feeling better!!
@runsomewhere that’s really scary!! If I’m questioning a temp reading I take everyone’s temperature lol. If one is scary high and someone else’s is normal then I tend to believe it but if there’s only one sick person and everyone is “running a fever” then I tend to give the thermometer some side eye.
Im glad your DD is ok though. High fevers scare me!
@runsomewhere we do the same thing with our thermometer that @hillbillywife does-- check everyone's temp to get a standard reading before checking the sick kid. We use a forehead thermometer for the kids. Hopefully your DD feels better soon!
@lindsayleigh1989 the things we learn about our neighbors at 3am feedings!! Cluster feeding...I remember those days/nights. It'll go back to normal soon. Hopefully you are able to get some rest during the day.
@flockofmoosen3 thank you, and double checking the thermometer definitely seems like the thing to do, I'm having a duh why didn't I think of that moment.
Omg I'm so sleepy! Having family over all day so we didn't nap with baby. Def trying to do that tomorrow.
It's not MOTN really but I guess as of now it is lol. 1030pm feels like 3am! Currently finished pumping, it's sooooooooo boring!
Baby latched well at birth but his mouth is so tiny he then lost that and is not staying awake while feeding so I have been hand expressing and pumping just until he gets better, at least I can still feed him!
Also, how do you stop kissing and snuggling a newborn?? Seriously DH and I are smitten and we just wanna cuddle with him all the time.
Officially one day old and without H here since the afternoon I am having some guilt sending LO to the nursery so much. I’m get so tired while feeding that I’ll just fall asleep feeding/cuddling him. I haven’t had my first BM so I’m not wanting to eat too many solids yet even though they keep saying it’s ok. BF seems to be getting better as i do it while skin to skin. Still waiting to get LO bathed because the nurses are busy and only seems to be delayed more with each shit change.
Can we talk about how CRAZY meconium poops are??? Milo had 4 of those already. Definitely a pooper. He is such a chill baby but I can tell he hates diaper changes. He cries so much during poopy diaper changes! Because he is so small I also think he doesn't like wipes too much, he hates a wet butt lol.
Now we changed him and swaddled him tight and DH held him while he sleeps and then started crying saying how much he loves him. So cute.
@kissableviv we got a pooper too! I think more than his brother. We have to change a poopy diaper every 1-3 hrs!!! It’s good though and it helps avoid jaundice issues what they told me.
I’m so stupid right now. I’m having some trouble peeing after the catheter so they have me trying all these tricks (running water, blow bubbles in a cup, and some peppermint thing) well regarding the peppermint i thought was suppose to apply it and i did. Turns out you don’t and it’s just suppose to sit the restroom. Shy to admit to the nurse i applied it and now my crotch is very minty and slightly burning. So here i am at 430 am with a fresh burning crotch trying to wipe it off and pee at the same time. Oh and looks like some of the CS bruising has moved down to the lip area and have to ice it. Cant imagine how that will feel with peppermint.
@kissableviv my son was pretty tiny at birth and he was the same way. He still hates to be cold to this day! When he gets out of the bathtub in the Winter time he says "wrap me up mama, wrap me up!" until I get a towel around him.
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@kissableviv I remember the motn pumping sessions well...I highly recommend an iPad with Netflix and Bluetooth noise cancelling headphones. It's the only thing that kept me going. Oooh, and snacks/water! Also I don't think there is a way to stop, soak up all the cuddles!
Lol @wildtot "shit change" is probably the best autocorrect ever...maybe there's a nursing student around who can do the bath? If it's peppermint EO, that can burn off it was undiluted so I'd let your nurse know (and tbh she should have been more clear in her instructions and hopefully those will serve as a reminder to be clearer in future!)
@comealongponds lol didn’t even notice the autocorrect haha. The burning from the peppermint went away pretty quickly after wiping it a bit. Embarrassing!!!
@comealongponds lol didn’t even notice the autocorrect haha. The burning from the peppermint went away pretty quickly after wiping it a bit. Embarrassing!!!
Oh good! I can’t imagine having burning down there on top of everything else post-delivery!
@kissableviv I don't know if you're already doing this but Vaseline on their bum really helps with the meconium poops. Those poops are so sticky they stick to their little bums and irritate them, the Vaseline keeps the poops from sticking to their skin. Yay for baby snuggles!
@kissableviv Bella poops all the time! We are talking every feeding and also hates her diaoer change. it is pretty much the only time she will actually cry.
@wildtot 1) don't feel guilty you need recovery and rest time. 2) burning crotxh sounds horrible. hope peeing gets better soon. make sure to eat though it can help you poop and keeps your strength up.
Bella only wants me to hold her right now I think she may be gassy but hey at least someone is sleeping. I had a total breakdown yesterday (hormones) it felt good to cry though i just couldnt stop and cried off and on all day. mom guilt was so strong. It just hurts how much dd prefers dh over me at times but I know she loves me and it is probably a phase but i just wonder sometimes if I don't do a good enough job with her. DH is always so calm with her but at times I raise my voice ir yell which makes me feel terrible. I did bedtime with her tonight baby free and it was nice to hve that just the two of us.
also does anyone else have a twtichy baby? She twitches so much when she is asleep.
+1 for mom guilt. DS is always playing by himself and for the 4th, I literally did nothing. I'm always exhausted and hurting, and when I do feel slightly energetic, that energy is always spent at work. I feel like I should be doing more with him since it windbreaker just be the two of us for much longer. Just trying to remember that all of this is momentary.
+1 to mom guilt! DS definitely prefers DH right now, like he leaves and requires 6 hugs and kisses, and DS stands at the door after it closes and pouty faces yelling "I need more hugs and smooches!" for like 3 minutes. I get a, "Bye, mom!" lol. Also @kat029 mine plays alone often and I am always feeling guilty but have to remind myself its good! It doesn't help when he does the slumped shoulder head down, "Ok...." and walks away. Drama.
ETA: @lindsayleigh1989 my DH is definitely the yeller most of the time and he's much more strict with less chances to make the right choice, and he is STILL DS's fave person. Don't beat yourself up! Easier said than done, I know.
@lindsayleigh1989 you're doing great mama! It's definitely a phase and you know you aren't loving one over the other. Also, Milo is definitely twitchy! DH calls him the little conductor. Sometimes before we swaddle him we watch him fall asleep and he twitches his arms in the air as if he is directing an orchestra!
@kissableviv And my kids both went through phases at different ages where diaper changes were like torture to them. I even started calling it "time for baby torture!" Lol
You know, it may be hard, but consider if your DD reaaaally wanted you all the time right now while you are also needing to attend to baby at the same time. It is hard, but try thinking of this time your DD prefers her daddy as a little break for you. This from a STM needing to juggle my kids' needs and demand for attention.
@kissableviv my son did the same thing for the first few weeks, arms STRAIGHT up in the air. It's that startle reflex. My kid still despises having his diaper changed to this very day, and he's 21 months. Some people swear by wipe warmers to make it more tolerable but I've never tried that.
I'm up at least 2 or 3 times to pump in the middle of the night. I always see this thread and in my sleep haze, try to figure out what MOTN means....My brain always try to make it "Moment of the.....", so I never participate. I need to write it down or something so I know to come here at 1am
So I might be late with this tip for some of you but with our DS, our nurse at the hospital told us to slather his whole diaper area in vaseline for the first few days so the meconium poop just wipes off with one wipe. It was great advice because that stuff is so stickey and after DS got circumcised he definitely hated getting changed!
Up pumping here. My twins are working so hard on bfing but we’re still topping off feedings with a fortified bottle as the nicu instructed. We had our first few pedi visits, since they were preemies we go back every two weeks! They’re supposed to help guide me in how to feed the boys but he couldn’t even understand the point of fortifying their milk (for growth but their weight is good) and I’m realizing that no one is going to instruct me on exactly what to do so I’m focussing on nursing as much as possible so I can kick the pumping ASAP!
Up feeding little man. He didn’t sleep at all last night, wide awake from 10pm-6am, and I have a feeling tonight might be the same. He hates being put down, and just cries nonstop at night unless he is being held. After feeding, burping, changing diaper, and having him fall asleep in my arms, I try to put him down but he immediately wakes up to cry. I tried ignoring for a little while, and switched his swaddle technique, and tried our laying him in different positions, but he just won’t stop. It’s hard because he’s so good during the day and will let me put him in his chair, but so upset at night. I even fed him every 2 hours today to try to stay ahead of the cluster feeding, but it hasn’t made a difference so far. I don’t want to put him in the vibrating chair at night because I don’t want him to get used to it, and because I’m scared of SIDS, so here I am. Holding my sleeping baby. Praying he’ll let me get at least 2 hours of sleep tonight.
@emsnedds can you sit in a recliner and wear him and catch a little sleep that way? I’d prob try nursing lying down and co sleeping for a couple hours but I know not everyone is comfortable with that. Hang in there, he’s prob still got his nights and days mixed up. With my son we started keeping him in quiet/dark around 8 pm and keeping him in the light/sounds during the day so he’d figure out night vs day eventually.
as for me, I just can’t sleep. I’m hot, have heartburn, and I’m cranky and mad that I’m still pregnant. Like I woke up with this super angry cranky feeling. But I have no one to take it out on or complain to cus everyone’s sleeping.
@zande2016 I’m sorry you can’t sleep! The last month of pregnancy is so difficult when trying to get any kind of rest. And thank you for the advice. I’m personally not comfortable with cosleeping, and I really want to train him to sleep in his own bed every night, but who knows how long I can go without sleep before changing my opinions.
Up pumping too. It's 2am here and I'll likely have 2 more sessions before we're all up for the day.
@emsnedds We had some sleepless nights with DD when she was small. The only thing that got her to stop crying was bouncing in the RnP. I'm never comfortable with cosleeping either and really didn't want to start bad sleep habits but sometimes a reset night of sleep is good for everyone, no matter how it's acquired (so long as it's safe). A few nights in the RnP here and there aren't going to ruin your sleep training plans - DD was sleeping through the night in her own crib by 5-6 weeks. Hang in there!
@zg49 We did vaseline in the beginning with DD and eventually switched to Aquaphor. She's 1 and we still apply it every diaper change. She has pretty sensitive skin and without it, her bottom is easily irritated. And bc of the Aquaphor (or any barrier between skin and wet diaper), she's never had a diaper rash! I don't see stopping as long as she's in diapers.
@TalesOfASocialIntrovert Thank you for the idea of a reset night. I hadn’t thought of that, mostly because if I get a good night sleep while baby is in the vibrating chair then it might turn into a reset week lol. I will try to give it some time and then definitely try a reset night if I can’t stay up anymore. Good luck pumping! Hope you get lots of rest in between sessions.
I’m up feeding! Collin was in the nursery for about two hours so we can sleep some before discharging later today. I woke to him crying to be fed and me fully engorged ouch! Hopefully he’ll feed for a while so we can sleep more. We was cluster feeding all day yesterday and my nipples almost bled. i got a feeling I’ll have to BF and pump due to oversupply again. We’ll see how my milk evens out. Hope you all catch some Zs! Your all awesome mamas!
Anther feeding and pumping session DH is up getting ready for work so he's feeding DS which means i can pump right away and save some awake time. I loath pumping but DS isn't latching well yet. This happened with DD too but I didn't pump faithfully so by the time she did latch well, my supply was half of what she needed and never came back. I remind myself of that every time i don't want to pump in the middle of the night. Really hoping to make BF work this time around.
Day 3 and already getting painfully engorged. Debating in asking to pump before discharge and donating. Collin wasn’t able to fully empty me out earlier. Nurse is surprised with my supply and all the milk feelings/letdowns. My poor boobs and nipples. If i can survive another week with EBF i will be super proud of myself since I never went past one week with DS. Taking it one feeding at a time. I did feed him some from a bottle earlier and he did great!
Re: MOTN 7/2
Most of you have probably figured out by now that I’m pretty determined (aka desperate) to do all the things to get this baby to come on his own. Part of that is making sure we have sex every day. Well we were in the middle of it just now and my son started crying. At first we ignored it but he wasn’t settling and crying was getting louder and more intense. I decided we couldn’t stop, then it would all be for nothing and one of us would be asleep by the time the other settled Him. soooo we ignored the crying for a few mins and finished what we started, then the second it was over, I forced H to go get our son and rock him. All is quiet now. Seriously the things I do to try to get
this baby out.
Cluster feeding is killing me tonight. I cant go to the bathroom or change i barely had time to eat, which I did while feeding. Hope it means she sleeps well tonight though. Also I feel a little stalkerish. so our house has a row if houses behind us. The last few nights I have noticed one house always has their main floor and unfinished basement lights on until like 3-4 in the morning and I am crazy curious whst they are doing that late.
@runsomewhere oh no that’s no fun! What kinda thermometer is it? Forehead? I’ve noticed my son’s temp is always higher on the forehead temporal thermometer than the ear one they use at the doctors. One time my son had a 104+ fever and I rushed him to the doctor who was on call on a Sunday. He was like ehhh you’re fine, at this young age they can spike this high and it’s okay, a long as he’s not over dressed and can cool himself off it’s no big deal. I was like ummm no buddy he could have a seizure. It is true though that kids run much higher fevers than adults. I hope she’s feeling better!!
Im glad your DD is ok though. High fevers scare me!
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@lindsayleigh1989 the things we learn about our neighbors at 3am feedings!! Cluster feeding...I remember those days/nights. It'll go back to normal soon. Hopefully you are able to get some rest during the day.
It's not MOTN really but I guess as of now it is lol. 1030pm feels like 3am! Currently finished pumping, it's sooooooooo boring!
Baby latched well at birth but his mouth is so tiny he then lost that and is not staying awake while feeding so I have been hand expressing and pumping just until he gets better, at least I can still feed him!
Also, how do you stop kissing and snuggling a newborn?? Seriously DH and I are smitten and we just wanna cuddle with him all the time.
Now we changed him and swaddled him tight and DH held him while he sleeps and then started crying saying how much he loves him. So cute.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Lol @wildtot "shit change" is probably the best autocorrect ever...maybe there's a nursing student around who can do the bath? If it's peppermint EO, that can burn off it was undiluted so I'd let your nurse know (and tbh she should have been more clear in her instructions and hopefully those will serve as a reminder to be clearer in future!)
@wildtot 1) don't feel guilty you need recovery and rest time. 2) burning crotxh sounds horrible. hope peeing gets better soon. make sure to eat though it can help you poop and keeps your strength up.
Bella only wants me to hold her right now I think she may be gassy but hey at least someone is sleeping. I had a total breakdown yesterday (hormones) it felt good to cry though i just couldnt stop and cried off and on all day. mom guilt was so strong. It just hurts how much dd prefers dh over me at times but I know she loves me and it is probably a phase but i just wonder sometimes if I don't do a good enough job with her. DH is always so calm with her but at times I raise my voice ir yell which makes me feel terrible. I did bedtime with her tonight baby free and it was nice to hve that just the two of us.
also does anyone else have a twtichy baby? She twitches so much when she is asleep.
ETA: @lindsayleigh1989 my DH is definitely the yeller most of the time and he's much more strict with less chances to make the right choice, and he is STILL DS's fave person. Don't beat yourself up! Easier said than done, I know.
@kissableviv And my kids both went through phases at different ages where diaper changes were like torture to them. I even started calling it "time for baby torture!" Lol
You know, it may be hard, but consider if your DD reaaaally wanted you all the time right now while you are also needing to attend to baby at the same time. It is hard, but try thinking of this time your DD prefers her daddy as a little break for you. This from a STM needing to juggle my kids' needs and demand for attention.
as for me, I just can’t sleep. I’m hot, have heartburn, and I’m cranky and mad that I’m still pregnant. Like I woke up with this super angry cranky feeling. But I have no one to take it out on or complain to cus everyone’s sleeping.
And thank you for the advice. I’m personally not comfortable with cosleeping, and I really want to train him to sleep in his own bed every night, but who knows how long I can go without sleep before changing my opinions.
@emsnedds We had some sleepless nights with DD when she was small. The only thing that got her to stop crying was bouncing in the RnP. I'm never comfortable with cosleeping either and really didn't want to start bad sleep habits but sometimes a reset night of sleep is good for everyone, no matter how it's acquired (so long as it's safe). A few nights in the RnP here and there aren't going to ruin your sleep training plans - DD was sleeping through the night in her own crib by 5-6 weeks. Hang in there!
@zg49 We did vaseline in the beginning with DD and eventually switched to Aquaphor. She's 1 and we still apply it every diaper change. She has pretty sensitive skin and without it, her bottom is easily irritated. And bc of the Aquaphor (or any barrier between skin and wet diaper), she's never had a diaper rash! I don't see stopping as long as she's in diapers.
Hope you all catch some Zs! Your all awesome mamas!