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Monday BF (7/2)

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Re: Monday BF (7/2)

  • edited July 2018
    @jennybean80 sorry things were exhausting and I hope you get some time to relax!

    @ninji15 agreed! Never too late! I know of a lady that switched at 38 weeks. I will probably be switching to a different midwife and birth place around 28-29 weeks. I would switch!
    Forgot to add that you are paying them so you get to choose if you keep them. If they aren't doing what you want or you just don't like them you can 'fire' them. Same during labor, you can ask for different nurses! 
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  • @jennybean80 So Sorry you had to go through that. I hope you get some rest!

    AFM, we found out yesterday that DH will not be getting any paternity leave. He’s an attorney for a small law office. They told him he can leave when I’m in labor (ok, thanks), but that he can’t take any other time off unless he wants to use his vacation days. Which would be fine except he only gets 10 days off per year and we already have about 7 of them planned (and they are super strict about it). He only asked for a week after I have the baby and another week to work from home (and we live less than a mile from his office so it would be super easy for him to go in if he had a meeting or court or something like that). It’s just really frustrating because he works so hard for them, and never takes time off. He works most weekends and most nights after we have dinner. He is so bummed, I just wish they would be a little more accommodating. I don’t feel like his requests were unreasonable...
    Me:29 DH:30
    Married:10/2012
    TTC #1: 12/2017
  • @spartan4life he can apply for FMLA and get up to 12 weeks. It's of course unpaid. That's what DH is doing. 
  • @jennybean80 I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hope some rest helped!

    @spartan4life that's a bummer! I'm sorry.

    Afm, the thermostat in my store is currently reading 84. I emailed about having it fixed yesterday because it didn't seem to be working right and no one is getting back to me and all my boss said was, "yuck, good luck!". I'm sweating and all my customers are complaining saying it's too hot to shop on here. 
  • KFrobKFrob member
    @sammierose464 Doesn't FMLA only apply to employers with a certain number of employees, like 50 I think?  
  • KFrob said:
    @sammierose464 Doesn't FMLA only apply to employers with a certain number of employees, like 50 I think?  
    Damn. Yes. I wasn't think she said small law firm.
  • @sammierose464 Yeah, I was wondering that too. There are only like 8 employees there so that won’t work. He’s going to see if they will let him take a few extra unpaid days, but if he does that I’m going to have to force him not to work which is a battle itself!
    Me:29 DH:30
    Married:10/2012
    TTC #1: 12/2017
  • He can check if they allow it, but they aren't required to. And it sounds like they aren't too keen on letting him.
  • @chyvie lmao... I guess that was a poor choice of verbiage. Yup, couple times a day some days!
  • @spartan4life my best friend's husband had the same issue with his small law firm when they had their son... they offered no flexibility or unpaid time off. I think he ended up saving a weeks of vacation and using that, but in the long run ended up leaving the firm and getting a job with the County as they offered better benefits and more flexibility. His "work wife" had to do the same thing when she had her first child. It still amazes me that there are employers out there who do not offer any flexibility, it just doesn't make sense!
  • DH has no leave either, so he's just taking vacation. (He is eligible for FMLA if we decide to go that route)
  • I'm a little late getting back, but @ninji15 they gave me no issues! The only downside was that I transferred at 35 weeks and delivered at 39 so I didn't get to meet all the doctor's before delivering. The one that delivered DD I didn't meet until that day but I ended up loving him too so it worked out!
  • @sarahzett that is what I thought when I read it!! 
  • My bf today is I have two stretchy nursing bras, a support tank top, and a cute maternity top that I can not find!! Ugh! They aren't in the laundry pile and I have dug through the places I would have stored them but time to look everywhere in the bedroom as it is driving me crazy! I want to throw one of the nursing bras in the hospital bag so I don't forget! (yup, I have a bag for me started!) 
  • chyviechyvie member
    I got Lily dust on my favorite maternity shirt. Washed it with oxy clean and it still is stained yellow
    So sad
    Me 33 DH 41
    TTC since 2016
    Due: October 12, 2018
    Location: Ontario, Canada

  • @sammierose464 Yeah, I don’t think they will. Which is annoying because one of the partners took a 6 month maternity leave when she had her daughter. I think most of hers was unpaid, and she was a partner (has since left the firm after screwing everyone over for 6+ months but that’s another story for another time) but still, he isn’t asking for much IMO. I do think it’s unfortunate that maternity leave and paternity leave aren’t better for everyone all around.

    @cagncoo12 He has considered moving to a larger firm but he really likes where he works and the work he does, despite the benefits being terrible. I just hate seeing him so bummed. I just wish they would work with him a little since he puts so much in to his work. He will have 3 days of vacation time so he will use those I guess.
    Me:29 DH:30
    Married:10/2012
    TTC #1: 12/2017
  • @ninji15 - I’m on #TeamChangeDoctors - especially if you haven’t even been seeing the doctor in question!  It isn’t too late, and the longer you wait, the more you are going to feel like “it’s too late.”

    Also- I would think that manual labor in 100+ heat is putting you and baby at risk.  If nothing else, you are in the same situation as if you were sitting in a hot tub- elevating your core body temperature.  (And drink more water!!)

    @spartan4life - That sucks. I know that working like a dog is one of those things that comes with the territory for lawyers, but still. 
  • @chyvie for future reference, if you get lily dust on shirts, dont wash or dab, get scotch tape and tape the dust off. Its the easiest/most effective way to minimize stains
  • chyviechyvie member
    @kiwi2628 wish I knew that! I panicked and washed it. Pregnancy brain didn't allow me to think to Google it! 
    Me 33 DH 41
    TTC since 2016
    Due: October 12, 2018
    Location: Ontario, Canada

  • @coffee-saur I definitely remember cutting my own hair with my "bow wow boutique" scissors that came with some dog grooming toy thingy. So I'm pretty sure I was older than 6 haha. My mom still has the lock of hair I snipped off. It's crazy how much darker my hair was when I was younger!! (Yes, I'm the weird one whose hair got much lighter as I aged)
  • @sammierose464 dang that's a huge change! I just went from super dark brown to borderline blonde/very light brown. But I'm most definitely still a brunette :wink:
  • He and my little sister both have super light blonde hair. Mine is blonde but darker than that.
  • @chyvie have you soaked in oxiclean? Sometimes I have to soak multiple times for like 24 hrs. 
    DS  12-1-2014
    DD 10-29-2016
    #3 due 10-13-2018
  • chyviechyvie member
    Well nothing to lose so I'll try that! Thanks!
    Me 33 DH 41
    TTC since 2016
    Due: October 12, 2018
    Location: Ontario, Canada

  • I guess it's not really that shocking she did cut her hair. My jaw just dropped when I asked her if she'd cut her hair and the guilt on her face gave it away before she admitted to it. I wasn't even mad, just surprised. The real kicker is we're leaving tomorrow to go see H's brother and family in WY, and Sat is a cousin's wedding in MT. We're going to be at the in-laws till Friday then stay night in Billings since the wedding is in the morning then back to in-laws and home on Sunday. I'll have to figure out how to comb her hair with the half bangs she gave herself. Oh well, at least life sure ain't boring!
    DS 6/6/10
    DD 3/15/12
    DD 6/3/14
    #4 Due 10/26/18!
  • rabtaido1214rabtaido1214 member
    edited July 2018
    We had new neighbors move in a few months ago. Haven’t formally met them even though the houses in our neighborhood are very close together, I’m just antisocial or something. This morning my husband had to go outside and finally ask them to stop kicking their soccer ball into our fence. They have a goal set up in front of our fence that runs down our side of the property line between our back yards. They could kick the damn ball in 3 other directions, but choose to have their approximately 3 year old son, and the dad, kick it (with crappy aim) toward the goal in front of our fence. This fence has been such a headache for us from day one with the fence company, crappy install, storm that nearly knocked the whole thing over, and finally getting it completely reinstalled again by a new company. Don’t damage our fence! It saves our lives having 2 dogs. Not to mention I never want to deal with a fence company and expenses again. I’m really starting to feel like a cranky old person. Our old neighbors were basically nonexistent they were so quiet. I miss that lol. Now I feel like it’s going to be forever awkward with them too and I hate confrontation and awkwardness.
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