Why does everything have to turn into a 2 hour conference call???? All I wanted was to update how invoices are sent and the company wants me to sit through 2 - 2 hour conference calls!!!!!! One starting at 10 and the other at noon!!!! Why?????
I co-lead a local mom's group on facebook and we plan events in real life (mom's nights out, play dates) and today a mom posted that she wants to start hosting basically a mom's night out...she got SO many responses. Our events don't get nearly the response. Just annoyed....
My coworker that sits in the cube right behind me spends 60% of her day making personal phone calls. We got new office phones in January. She hates them for some reason and complains about the phone multiple times a day. She also does voice-to-text for all text messages. I know everything going on in her life, and I don’t want to. BE QUIET.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I’ve been trying to talk to my HR rep before I tell my boss about my pregnancy and she keeps setting up meetings then not showing up. HR here is so bad sometimes! At least they have a separate benefits person who will hopefully be better. I just want guidance on some concerns around promotions and bonuses and being treated fairly!
I couldn’t concentrate after lunch as I’m working from home today thanks to our messy living condition. I started picking things up and decided to clean the main floor before resuming work. Well, the smells coming from the kitchen trash can after throwing out a bunch of crap lying around made me dizzy. Onto the mudroom - I smelled something sour and garlicky. It was pungent. I found the culprit. DH had left three donuts out in a plastic bag that was hidden by a bunch of things (shoes, coats lying around). THEY HAD MOLDED AND SOME MORE.
I sent an angry text to DH bc now I’m just pissed at all kinds of smells that make me gag. Taking a break from my first break to clean - on here to unleash my anger. They will never understand what it is like to clean when pregnant. AHHHH. End rant.
I had a long chat with DH about him contributing more to household upkeep, because I'm just so tired and I can't keep up by myself right now. We agreed on specific chores I want him to take on ( nothing even big). Not even two hours later, he'd left the kitchen a disaster ( this is one of his chores to manage) and I asked him to please remember the agreement. He comes back with, "I thought this was supposed to be a joint effort." THAT after I'd spent the afternoon washing walls and trim, doing laundry, decluttering, and washing the floor space around the garbage because it had gotten dirty. I. Was. So. Mad. And he laughed.
@UnbreakableKimmySchmidt My gamble is that the same number of people show up at that woman's event as at yours. "Look, shiny!" quickly becomes, "Oh, pants... I think I'll stay home."
Trying to get my 5yo to have a filling done today was probably the most embarrassing and frustrating thing I have done in awhile. We now have to be referred somewhere do her to be put out and I'm so mad! The dentist is old school and gave my kid shit and I was doing my best to hold it together without breaking down myself because i was mortified with how my daughter was behaving and ugh...
@sareej521 Try not to be so hard on yourself. My kid sister hated the dentist, and they had to sedate her. She was 6yo, and even sedated, she kicked so hard that she broke my mother's rib. My sister is now in her 20s and is still afraid of the dentist. Maybe try a fear discussion with your child to see if you can smooth out the anxiety a bit.
Went to Walmart today with my 4 year old. Told him if he behaved he could get a small candy on the way out. He behaved until we passed the candy aisle and he insisted he wanted a giant bag of Lollipops. I said no, something small. So he proceeded to be a jerk about it and let out a blood curdling shriek. So I told him no candy at all. Cue hysterics. So we check out and I take two steps towards the doors and one of my bags rips and my jar of spaghetti sauce (the ONLY thing i want for dinner) smashes all over the floor. I had to drag him screaming back through the store, with sauce all over my legs, for a replacement.
Brought up to DH today that I wanted to consider giving the baby two middle names, one we pick out together and the other be my maiden name. For reference, I never changed my name so I legally still go by my maiden name AND my parents gave me two middle names (one they picked together and one family name) so to me it seemed perfectly normal and no big deal. He immediately shot it down which is really annoying. I mean I feel like if the baby has his last name it's not a very big compromise to add mine as a middle name, it's not like I suggested doing a hyphenated version of both or making up a brand new one
@julesf817 that sounds truly awful. I hope the rest of your day was better!
@KLS123 that would bother me too! Especially since you didn’t change your name. The baby is just as much a part of your family heritage as it is his.
AFM... the ymca camp DD and DS are at this week is so ridiculously disorganized. It took 20 minutes for DD to get to my car at pickup today because they couldn’t find her group. The group of teenagers that never left campus all day. At one point a staff member said “I don’t think they’re back yet from their trip” and I said it better be a trip to the bathroom they’re talking about because nobody had my permission to drive my child anywhere.
married 7.11.09
Me: 31 DH: 36
DD (14) and DS (11) adopted from US Foster care December 2016 BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
Currently fuming. DW and I were making dinner when I forgot one ingredient (prego brain, exhautstion, whatever) and she gets pissed. Says “I know you’ve got pregnancy brain but it just means you have to concentrate a little harder”.
Oh is that it?!! I say cut me some slack and she rolls her eyes. We continue to be passive aggressive to each other while waiting for meal to cook. I fall asleep for a few mins on couch and she verbally jolts me awake and tells me dinner is ready. When I get up to get some, I ask her if she’s having some. She says no. I eat in silence and then she makes herself a turkey sandwich.
Currently no change in our situation. I knowww she gets hangry. But it’s no excuse to be a jerk to me about forgetting to add some freaking sugar. And then to not eat at all?!?!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
@KLS123 that's super frustrating. I'm in a similar boat where I also kept my maiden name but our children will have H's last name. I would probably push harder on including my name somehow if it weren't ridiculously long and hard to spell/pronounce. Instead I've decided to make the middle name Foster, which is my grandmother's maiden name but also sounds a little more like an actual name. I didn't really give H a choice - I told him he gets to choose either the baby's middle name or last name and he hasn't tried to call my bluff yet haha.
I am sooo over work and counting down the days to maternity leave. My department was recently restructured and I went from being on a team of 4 to now having to take care of the same amount of work by myself without anyone else in my department who has any kind of knowledge of what I work on. I told my new boss I was pregnant pretty early to hopefully create some urgency for her to hire somebody else for me to start training but it's not moving as quickly as I would hope. I'm leaving for vacation tomorrow and will have to bring my work laptop with me (again) and I am soooo not happy about it.
@KLS123 keep pushing for the middle name! I gave DD2 two middle names because one of them is my maiden name. I wish I had done it with DD1. This baby will have it too. I think it is nice for them to carry on both parents names.
@rooonilwaazlib ugh, I would have lost it if DH tried a simultaneously patronizing and passive aggressive jab like "concentrate harder." I agree it was a jerk move to refuse to eat it at all.
@rooonilwaazlib ugh, I would have lost it if DH tried a simultaneously patronizing and passive aggressive jab like "concentrate harder." I agree it was a jerk move to refuse to eat it at all.
I agree,I would have given H a verbal tongue lashing
@rooonilwaazlib Wow! That’s not okay. I would have ripped my DH a new one if he did that.
My rant is that it’s hot and my car’s AC is crappy right now. I don’t think it quite got up to 100 today but it’s supposed to be 103 tomorrow. At least it cools down at night for now. In July and August, it can be 11pm and still in the 90’s. Hello summer...
@rooonilwaazlib 1) that GIF is so perfect and 2) your DW's hangry alter ego sounds eerily similar to mine...suuuuuper passive aggressive
DLpanda08kaf1788Jackiemxoxo Oh it's 100% happening and DH will eventually get on board but I was just shocked by his immediate reaction without at least considering my side of it first....very unlike him. Glad to hear there are other ladies out there with the "maiden name as middle name" bandwagon. I will admit there are a few, very minor inconveniences to having two middle names but most of which have to do with some form of "which one do I bubble into the standardize test section?" or filling out forms in some way. NBD
@KLS123 - at least you're not hyphenating your kids last name. My best friend married a guy with a hyphenated last name, her MIL basically stole her chance at hyphenating her last name if she wanted to, she wasn't about to have 3 last names.
@galactickates I've never been a fan of hyphenating since it seems complicated and confusing but I never thought about the ramifications of when that child grew up and got married, that's kind of a nightmare! Thanks for re-affirming my non-hyphenating stance!
Brought up to DH today that I wanted to consider giving the baby two middle names, one we pick out together and the other be my maiden name. For reference, I never changed my name so I legally still go by my maiden name AND my parents gave me two middle names (one they picked together and one family name) so to me it seemed perfectly normal and no big deal. He immediately shot it down which is really annoying. I mean I feel like if the baby has his last name it's not a very big compromise to add mine as a middle name, it's not like I suggested doing a hyphenated version of both or making up a brand new one
Whaaat? That’s so not fair! I’d definitely keep pushing this issue if it’s important to you, since when is he the only one to choose? He’s being way too old fashioned and honestly, having your name as middle and his as last is a pretty big compromise on your part, not his (less traditional but still).
For the record im in the same boat as you (didn’t change my name with marriage, planning on giving baby my name as a middle name and his as last). Hubby said the baby could take mine as the last name though if I wanted which I appreciated
It annoys me how my sister talks about my DD. When she learned to walk she said I’m glad (nephew-same age) isn’t walking he’s actually using his brain. If she climbs something, that’s pretty short, that’s why she can climb it. She says frequently, “I can’t understand a single thing she says.” Yesterday DD was a little shy around her at first (her son was similar with me) and she kept going on about it how shy and anxious around people DD is and how glad she is her son isn’t. It’s all so unnecessary, it’s like she needs her son to be better at everything so she’s always looking for weaknesses in DD. I’m really glad our second kids will be 10 months apart instead of 11 days.
@pttomato it sounds like you have a similar relationship to my sister and me. She's gotten pregnant very easily each time (she's due with #3 in Sept) and had extremely easy pregnancies and deliveries. I'm talking no morning sickness, no tests, all natural births with no complications... at least with this one she didn't lose all of the baby weight from #2 so she's not a smug skinny B. I haven't told her about this pregnancy yet because she's always been so preachy about my prior losses and "maybe I'm not meant to be a mother". The good news is, her oldest DD prefers me over my sister
My big gripe/rant this week is how every stupid f&$#ing thing is making me nauseous. Even while taking Unisom+B6+Magnesium. Biggest offenders: my new desk in my home office (I work from home), our chimney (why does it smell all of a sudden?) and of course the cages of the guinea pigs that my husband insists we have but doesn't like to clean. Also, the only time I feel okay is when I'm eating, and I'm actually tired of eating. I'm eating some random stuff now just to keep going. Just ate half of an avocado. Trying to give myself an hour between snack sessions. Also, no puking, only extreme nausea and gagging. The only solace is that my PGAL brain takes comfort in being sick (sick = healthy pregnancy, right).
This is petty and stupid but a cousin of mine reached out to me last night for help with a scholarship. I have no problem helping her out. However, I kinda don't want to help because her mom hates my family, why would I want to do her daughter a favor? I haven't spoken to said aunt in years and I'm just salty as hell over stuff that's happened over the past 10 years.
@wkuandrea I’m sorry you deal with this too. My sister is just so ridiculous about everything. I mentioned a book series DD likes (Ladybug girl) and she responded “I would never let (nephew) read that. It should be Ladybird beetle, ladybug is incorrect.” Seriously?
Well I finally got someone in my hr to talk to me about my concerns after a week of trying to pin them down, and the lady was a total condescending bitch. Basically said it’s too bad I’m concerned, there’s nothing she can do about it. I got the general sentiment and get that you can’t blame someone of something that hasn’t happened yet. I just wanted some guidance on how to tell my management and ways I could try to be treated fairly and she just shot me down. Now I’m crying in the bathroom because I can’t get myself under control. Stupid hormones.
I am so sorry @mrsmang. You should have been able to address your concerns without that kind of treatment. You have every right to ask for guidance in a situation like this. I hope you're able to talk to someone who will be more understanding.
I've been finding myself really annoyed with people always talking about MS and asking how I feel. "How are you feeling? Oh the morning sickness?"
No your face is making me not feel good. Stop asking me how I feel.
One of the reasons I’m holding off telling people that I’m pregnant as long as possible. The unsolicited comments/questions (though usually well-intentioned) drove me bezerk last time.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@mrsmang i'm so sorry you got that response from your HR that has to feel awful to not have the support or open dialogue you thought you'd be receiving. Is there anyone else you feel comfortable talking to? I completely agree with @katethemom. You do have every right to guidance. That's just awful you were treated like that
I posted a week or two ago that my new health insurance was requiring pre authorisation for the extended release metformin that I've taken the last 3 years for PCOS. They have now denied the pre authorization and appeal, despite having documentation from 3 specialists at 3 practices who all agree with the dose and type of medication that I should be taking. I am absolutely livid that my insurance company thinks it knows my "medical necessity" better than three specialists.
wkuandrea my jaw just hit the floor at your sister saying maybe you're not meant to be a mother. Holy shit. I can't believe some of the toxic relationships people have to put up with. I'm so sorry.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
merostomata yeah I was pretty surprised he pushed back since he never once pressured me to take his last name when we married. Honestly I think it was more that he thought two middle names was ridiculous or annoying rather than if I had just asked for my maiden name to be the middle name. idk, I'll bring it back up at some point and figure it out....
pttomato and wkuandrea why are sisters so difficult? I also have a somewhat complicated relationship with my sister but I *think* she will be supportive but will just somehow make this all about her per the usual. My sister-in-law is a special kind of nightmare and she just had a DD in January so I am secretly praying mine is not also a girl because I just know that will egg on competitive/comparative nasty comments for.ev.er. Hang in there ladies and we will all just collectively try and let it roll off our backs.
mrsmang WTF she needs to get a new job since HR is clearly not her strong suit. Sorry you had to deal with that. Your concerns are valid and that's messed up to be treated otherwise.
@pttomato Both of my girls ended up being due right around the same time as people close to us. DD1 is 1 day younger than H's sister's third baby (accident) and people always compare them, especially in size because niece is a petite little thing and A is in the high 80's for percentile in weight and height. Then DD2 was due 2 weeks after H's best friend and his wife were due with their third (also an accident!) and now DD2 is always getting compared with their daughter. Now I'm pregnant with my third (shocker, accident! Haha) and am wondering who the heck i will have to share this pregnancy with and who this baby will constantly be compared to
@kns1988 it’s ok — she’s got a long history of saying terrible things. Other times she’s very supportive and sweet. DH thinks she’s the devil she’s my only sibling and I still love her. Sisters are complicated.
Sick of being nauseous. Haven't puked yet. Just always nauseous. I eat. Nauseous. I don't eat. Nauseous. I feel crampy. I have heartburn. Today I had off of work and I just wanted to lay around all day and sleep. All. Day. Which would be fine except I have a 2 and a half year old. I'm off tomorrow and I don't want to leave the house again tomorrow either. But I know I have to go to the store. And visit my husbands grandparents. But I'm always so uncomfortable, tired and nauseous! And then I feel guilty about being so lazy. Let's hope this nausea doesn't last til week 21 like the last time.
@katethemom@galactickates@KLS123 thanks ladies. I didn’t reach out to anyone else in HR since the lady I talked to is assigned to my business area and therefore would be someone I will probably have to interact with in the future whether I like it or not. I don’t want to give her more reason to not like me. I did end up telling my bosses and they were so happy for me and super supportive so I felt a lot better after that. I’ll just have to see how it goes! Ive decided the most important thing is the baby and I’m willing to just figure it out. Not worth stressing too much about at this point!
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Re: Rants!!!! Week of June 10th
Why does everything have to turn into a 2 hour conference call???? All I wanted was to update how invoices are sent and the company wants me to sit through 2 - 2 hour conference calls!!!!!! One starting at 10 and the other at noon!!!! Why?????
I co-lead a local mom's group on facebook and we plan events in real life (mom's nights out, play dates) and today a mom posted that she wants to start hosting basically a mom's night out...she got SO many responses. Our events don't get nearly the response. Just annoyed....
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I sent an angry text to DH bc now I’m just pissed at all kinds of smells that make me gag. Taking a break from my first break to clean - on here to unleash my anger. They will never understand what it is like to clean when pregnant. AHHHH. End rant.
I had a long chat with DH about him contributing more to household upkeep, because I'm just so tired and I can't keep up by myself right now. We agreed on specific chores I want him to take on ( nothing even big). Not even two hours later, he'd left the kitchen a disaster ( this is one of his chores to manage) and I asked him to please remember the agreement. He comes back with, "I thought this was supposed to be a joint effort." THAT after I'd spent the afternoon washing walls and trim, doing laundry, decluttering, and washing the floor space around the garbage because it had gotten dirty.
I. Was. So. Mad.
And he laughed.
My sister is now in her 20s and is still afraid of the dentist. Maybe try a fear discussion with your child to see if you can smooth out the anxiety a bit.
@KLS123 that would bother me too! Especially since you didn’t change your name. The baby is just as much a part of your family heritage as it is his.
AFM... the ymca camp DD and DS are at this week is so ridiculously disorganized. It took 20 minutes for DD to get to my car at pickup today because they couldn’t find her group. The group of teenagers that never left campus all day. At one point a staff member said “I don’t think they’re back yet from their trip” and I said it better be a trip to the bathroom they’re talking about because nobody had my permission to drive my child anywhere.
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
means you have to concentrate a little harder”.
Oh is that it?!! I say cut me some slack and she rolls her eyes. We continue to be passive aggressive to each other while waiting for meal to cook. I fall asleep for a few mins on couch and she verbally jolts me awake and tells me dinner is ready. When I get
up to get some, I ask her if she’s having some. She says no. I eat in silence and then she makes herself a turkey sandwich.
Currently no change in our situation. I knowww she gets hangry. But it’s no excuse to be a jerk to me about forgetting to add some freaking sugar. And then to not eat at all?!?!
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
I am sooo over work and counting down the days to maternity leave. My department was recently restructured and I went from being on a team of 4 to now having to take care of the same amount of work by myself without anyone else in my department who has any kind of knowledge of what I work on. I told my new boss I was pregnant pretty early to hopefully create some urgency for her to hire somebody else for me to start training but it's not moving as quickly as I would hope. I'm leaving for vacation tomorrow and will have to bring my work laptop with me (again) and I am soooo not happy about it.
My rant is that it’s hot and my car’s AC is crappy right now. I don’t think it quite got up to 100 today but it’s supposed to be 103 tomorrow. At least it cools down at night for now. In July and August, it can be 11pm and still in the 90’s. Hello summer...
DLpanda08kaf1788Jackiemxoxo Oh it's 100% happening and DH will eventually get on board but I was just shocked by his immediate reaction without at least considering my side of it first....very unlike him. Glad to hear there are other ladies out there with the "maiden name as middle name" bandwagon. I will admit there are a few, very minor inconveniences to having two middle names but most of which have to do with some form of "which one do I bubble into the standardize test section?" or filling out forms in some way. NBD
For the record im in the same boat as you (didn’t change my name with marriage, planning on giving baby my name as a middle name and his as last). Hubby said the baby could take mine as the last name though if I wanted which I appreciated
My big gripe/rant this week is how every stupid f&$#ing thing is making me nauseous. Even while taking Unisom+B6+Magnesium. Biggest offenders: my new desk in my home office (I work from home), our chimney (why does it smell all of a sudden?) and of course the cages of the guinea pigs that my husband insists we have but doesn't like to clean. Also, the only time I feel okay is when I'm eating, and I'm actually tired of eating. I'm eating some random stuff now just to keep going. Just ate half of an avocado. Trying to give myself an hour between snack sessions. Also, no puking, only extreme nausea and gagging. The only solace is that my PGAL brain takes comfort in being sick (sick = healthy pregnancy, right).
Andrea -- FTM at 39!
No your face is making me not feel good. Stop asking me how I feel.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I posted a week or two ago that my new health insurance was requiring pre authorisation for the extended release metformin that I've taken the last 3 years for PCOS. They have now denied the pre authorization and appeal, despite having documentation from 3 specialists at 3 practices who all agree with the dose and type of medication that I should be taking. I am absolutely livid that my insurance company thinks it knows my "medical necessity" better than three specialists.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
pttomato and wkuandrea why are sisters so difficult? I also have a somewhat complicated relationship with my sister but I *think* she will be supportive but will just somehow make this all about her per the usual. My sister-in-law is a special kind of nightmare and she just had a DD in January so I am secretly praying mine is not also a girl because I just know that will egg on competitive/comparative nasty comments for.ev.er.
Hang in there ladies and we will all just collectively try and let it roll off our backs.
mrsmang WTF she needs to get a new job since HR is clearly not her strong suit. Sorry you had to deal with that. Your concerns are valid and that's messed up to be treated otherwise.
Andrea -- FTM at 39!