@lindsayleigh1989@wildtot@SmashJam I will also Ben searching for hat thread. Long story below but DH and I decided today will be the day we go out and get all the stuff we need for the hospital bag.
@zande2016 that would absolutely make me lose my mind. I have been super forgetful lately too, so if I couldn’t find something that I knew u bought. Ugh so frustrating. I’m a ftm, but my DH insisted on baby’s going home outfit to include socks and a hat. But I’ve heard from so many STM’s that say they never used hats or those mittens.
I would add this to symptoms but there is not one for June up yet, and it’s not really a symptom story. Anyway- I had an appointment on Friday and my doctor wanted me to go in for BPP testing on Saturday. They said I would go weekly from now on for it, because I have a high BMI. I’m obese, but I haven’t even gained the 10-15lbs they said would be okay and healthy. (I’ve gained 5 maybe 6lbs now).
Anyway, I went in for the test yesterday at 12, they tested my fluid, how the blood flows through the placenta, baby’s heart rate etc. during that test I was so nervous, they told me it was to make sure baby was doing okay, if for some reason baby wasn’t doing okay then we would talk about inducing or a c-section. I’m 34 weeks so this obviously terrified me. Anyway, I didn’t notice during the test but baby’s heart rate was high. The tech kept asking me how much water I drink, I drink water like it’s going out of style so I dismissed any concern that that question might have posed. They completed the test sent me home. I passed one of the midwives in our doctor group to chat about some things that came up in our last appointment. She has told me I tested earlier in the pregnancy for GBS, so I was considered GBS positive for this pregnancy. (Just means I need antibiotics when baby is born)
anyway, so I go home I was doing things around the house getting ready for baby. I got a weird phone call from an NYC number at like 4:45, I wasn’t even going to answer. My DH was like just answer it. It was my MFM saying he needed to go over the testing results from today. (I’m like oh I thought all was good) he told me that my fluid level was considered normal but on the lower side of normal. He also told me that baby’s heart rate was tachycardic during the test, 175-178 range. He asked me to go into labor and delivery at the hospital so baby could be monitored for a longer period of time.
At this point, I was annoyed I’m like it’s been hours doc, but he said while he thought there was minimal risk he’s rather I get check out. So DH and I rush over to the hospital. (Poor DH was def freaking out at this point) and we go get the fetal monitors on etc. Baby was super active all day, he always is, and literally kicked them off. He’s got very strong kicks! Anyway, while they tested his HR did spike up but it was during movement. And mostly because he was hiding away from the monitors. Anyway so we were there for like 2 1/2 hrs because baby kept hiding from the monitor so the results were not what they wanted.
Then the L&D doc comes in, and is like okay so why are you here? And I explain my doc said he would call and tell you I’m coming. This is what they found at the test etc. then I asked him to call my doctor. To finish this long rant- they said the baby was fine, and the doctor agreed my fluid level is on the lower side of normal. So he encouraged me to drink lots of fluids, and if I was leaking fluid or having contractions to come right back in.
Then they gave me discharge paperwork that was all about Braxton Hicks contractions. I’m like that’s not even why I was here!
But now we are home, I have to schedule another one of those stupid tests for this week, I’m just grateful baby is doing okay and it was all a big scare for nothing.
DH and I are now hyper focused on getting things ready for baby and the hospital bag ready so that if we end up needed to go in sooner we are prepared.
Y’all...your weekend could sound like mine! I’m a full time organizational pro and nester. It’s in my nature. DH likes to do things last minute. So, getting the nursery ready has been a real struggle. And when we do actually do things, he does ONE thing and thinks we are good for another week or so before another “project” needs to get done. Like, bro, let’s just get it done!!
@catftm2018 how stressful! Glad things are look ok! If i recall well DSs HB was almost near or in the 170s and like you said it would spike during his movements. He too would kick off the monitors. I hope things continue to go well!
@catftm2018 I’m sorry you had to go through all that! I don’t understand why they wouldn’t just hook you up to the monitors right then and there when the heart rate was high during the ultrasound. That seems crazy to me to make you come back hours later. I get twice weekly NSTs and my baby’s heat rate is always baseline around 150s and when he moves it accelerates into high 170s. They’re always really happy with that, those accelerations are exactly what they’re looking for. Re fluid, drink allll the water.
@zande2016 that was my thought exactly, I thought that was part of the test to behind with, and it confused me that they didn’t do it. I should have been asking questions, but I was thinking that all was fine so they didn’t need to do that part. Now I know- I need to ask questions and push back a lot harder. Glad to know your babe is doing the same thing and healthy!
@catftm2018 glad that baby is fine! So annoying they waited for hours to call you back to the hospital.
We were gonna go to the lake today because its supposed to be 75 and sunny, which I find to be lovely lake weather. But now it looks like it won't even be 70 by 12, and naptime is 1. So I dunno if we are gonna go. We can find something else to do pretty easily but I was excited about the lake beach! Darn. Have to settle for some hiking with the doggos.
@zande2016 I occasionally put socks on DS (July baby) but never hats after we left the hospital. He ran verrrryyyy warm though, and we don’t keep the ac’s that high unless it’s really humid so it was mostly onesies or thin sleepers for him. DH’s idea of cleaning is throwing everything on the ground in a laundry basket and everything in the counters in the garbage or a drawer. Idk how he’s made it this far in life, truly.
@catftm2018 glad everything looks good! So annoying with the run around!
Glad to know I’m not the only one with a cleaning-impaired husband lol. My toddler on the other hand loves to clean. I was just cleaning out the linen closet and he found a couple (really old) boxes of tampons and he’s currently having a blast taking them all out of one box and into the other, then back to the first box again, etc. who needs toys when you have tampons!
@zande2016 i use to distract DS during diaper changes with tampons lol (something about the wrapper with something inside was intriguing) who needs toys!
DH told DS he’d make him pancakes before checking to see if we have pancake mix in the pantry.. Spoiler, we do not. So I made some batter from scratch and sat my butt on the couch with my coffee. DH had DS in the kitchen “helping” him make pancakes. Apparently that means letting him chug syrup out of the bottle while he wasn’t looking. Back to hiding in the living room... Ignorance is bliss.
Guys! my DH has a FOOL PROOF system for cleaning, I think you should tell your husbands and save your marriage.
He leaves literally everything he every uses once or thinks he might use on the floor of our bedroom, the kitchen table, or the island. And then he NEVER TOUCHES IT AGAIN. Apparently having things within eyesight and not put away is the key to always finding things! DIDNT YOU KNOW?!? **insert eye roll here**
Laughing at all the cleaning impaired husband's.. is it just in men's nature? My husband and I are approaching 8 years of marriage and he still cannot seem to remember to close a cabinet door to save his life! Lights aren't as bad as the cabinet doors but pretty close, and he hoards EVERYTHING. Luckily for me he doesn't put any of it up so I go right behind him and throw all that crap away and he never knows! I mean who needs a receipt for socks you've already worn.
ETA:: Anyone else notice their babies movements following a different schedule than before? Maybe it's because I've been on vacation this last week and had a chance to catch up on sleep and relax a bit, but I used to feel like she never slept and was constantly moving and this last week she still moves just not near as much as she was prior.
Whoa, lots going on today! @catftm2018 I'm so sorry about the ordeal! So I had the opposite probablem baby wasn't moving much and I had not eaten in 4 hours. So it took some candy to get him going ! He was super active before the doctor, as always, and then got shy.
My OB says if the fluid is "low" or not great at this point (35) he would just monitor it because it could also be that baby didn't pee at that time. Of course he may do IV and extra hydration before any other measures. He said if fluids are worrisome at 38 weeks he would induce. Maybe your babe wasn't peeing? Hehe. The hr is a bit higher than mine was but I agree they definitely want to see the spikes that's why they gave me candy and had me on my side.
Omg every freaking day, it’s “do you know where my belt is?” “Where’s my wallet?” “Dammit just had my work phone, where did it go??” Like I don’t keep a goddam gps tracking system on your Personal belongings at all times, and for the 1,000th time no, I don’t know where you slippers are!! I am going to teach my boys to be self sufficient if it kills me.
What a crazy morning.. DH had to rush to work for an emergency meeting at a store an hour away. Come to find out, his boss had a heart attack IN one of their stores last night and died. He was only in his 50’s, life is so short.
I’m really aggravated and trying to keep my Cool. The ikea that’s closest to us is closed on Sunday’s so my H drove an hour and a half to the next closest one, on one of the worst traffic highways in all of CT, only to find out they don’t have what we need for the stupid crib. After he spent an hour on the phone with customer service this morning and was told they did have it. And now he tells me they’re shipping it to us. Why couldn’t he just get it shipped in the first place?? He literally spent half of the entire day and half a tank of gas to go there! And now the nursery still won’t be done. I just feel so defeated about everything lately. I have this overwhelming feeling of wanting to run away. The more upset I get, the more I’m cramping and feeling breathless (aka contractions). I know it’s not a huge deal and I’m over reacting but I can’t help it, I’m just so frustrated.
@zande2016 hugs to you! such big hugs. I know its hard to think about now but maybe he was just trying to make sure it was done TODAY so you would stress less, and didn't think shipping would be fast enough? Just remember, regarding the baby-it will sleep somewhere. You have a PNP or a bassinet or a swing or something right? A small box? I know it makes us feel good to have everything in place so we don't have to stress but in the end, the baby will sleep somewhere, and won't even know the nursery isn't done! Maybe find something super small you can accomplish today that will make you feel better about having things done? Just one tiny thing. Or do something with your other LO that they've wanted to do and watch them laugh while you relax?
I know me saying "relax" or "its not that big of a deal" is easier said than experienced but its just a thought. More hug to you!
@zande2016 I actually just rock the kids consignment shops. We have a few around us and I try to swing by once a month or so. I've been lucky to find some really good stuff, like a swaddle strap so we don't have to use the swaddle blankets that get all hot, muslin blankets, and a sun shade for the carrier. One of them actually has a 25 cent rack for stock thwy just need gone so I grab summer clothing there. Facebook Marketplace, too. I'm actually going to pick up a brand new dekor diaper pail for like $8 since our genie is busted and we decided to go disposable wipes. That's actually how I found our diapers too, full lot of Grovia for $100 plus shipping. Then of course... Amazon... dun, dun, dun (DANGEROUS!)
@SmashJam I logically know you’re totally right, if the baby came tomorrow he’d have everything he needs and more, I just have this overwhelming desire to get my house perfect and it’s a disaster right now. The nursery has his half put together crib in the middle of it, and there’s nowhere else we can move it. I know it’s dumb because he probably won’t even sleep in it for months, but I want to at least be able to rock him in there, which I can’t do with the current state it’s in. I’m just in a crappy horrible State of mind these past few days, my anxiety is at an all time high and I just have this hopeless feeling. I guess it’s about way more than the crib but that’s what I’m dwelling on at the moment. I’m not really sure how to get myself back to being myself rright now.
@zande2016 have you ever seen a therapist? It might be a good idea to schedule an appointment or sign up for one of those cool online therapy things to get some help. I’ve recently started doing therapy and we haven’t gotten to a whole lot of meat and potatoes help type of stuff yet. It it is really nice to feel validated by a stranger. Or help me process through why my opinion might need to change.
@hillbillywife I have here and there but nothing regularly. We were also doing couples counseling for a while but the copays were ridiculous. I’m recognizing that I’m having a lot of anxiety and having a hard time not being able to control things the way I want to...I’m not normally an anxious person but I had it had postpartum for a few weeks last time and then it went away on its own. So I’m thinking this anxiety may be hormonal and now I’m scared it’ll be bad postpartum again.
Well pool didn’t happen. DH and i had an argument this morning and it was not as warm as i expected. So we’ll be going next Sunday instead and I’m trying to make it a play date with his girl buddy from the sitter. Finally got stuff out of the crawl space and washed some baby stuff. @zande2016 my anxiety has increased a bit too and eventually leads to a depression state if it gets out of hand. I’ll be going on anxiety meds day of delivery. Hope you feel better soon!
Well, how's this for a random, my DH is now filling out an application for a new place. we've been having some issues with the neighborhood lately and even though I made peace with being here another year, DH has been thinking more and more about safety and he went into a big spiel about giving the baby a better neighborhood (disclaimer, we don't currently live in a TERRIBLE area at all, it's just very urban and has had issues with half way houses popping up close by).
We checked out a place I found today and while the area is really nice and super close to the bay, the unit is slightly smaller and we'd have less storage -not to mention it's a price jump. And the timing is so poor!! We have paid a lot of $$ for my parents Airbnb this summer, more than our current rent actually, so we could put my parents in our place instead and cancel the bnb and take our time moving over July and August. However, I'm also stressed about the downsizing and the amount of work and money involved...
DH just wants to turn in the application and see what happens, while I'm kind of excited because the place is really cute and I'm also a lighthearted, impulsive kind of person, the other more reasonable and controlling part of me is freaking out...
Well DH left yesterday morning for his 6 months of work and our son is having a really hard time and I just want to sit and cry for him. He cried for a while yesterday after DH left and then we had a good rest of the day playing outside, in the water, riding bikes, and then playing inside as well. He woke up crying 2x during the night saying he just missed his daddy. I just held him and cried with him. I just wish I could make the time pass so fast for my sweet boys sake
@kbernal2021 I’m so sorry. That’s gotta be the worst feeling ever. Take some time to let yourself be sad for a while. I feel like trying to not let things get to me makes it worse when I finally can’t hold my feelings in anymore. Day by day. I hope the time flies by for both of you!
ETA @zande2016 it might be worth looking into again. Or going to your PCP to talk about anxiety meds. I’m anxious about having PPD again after this one and plan to find someone to talk to pretty soon after. I’m sorry you’re struggling.
@kissableviv wow! I remember you saying before about the crazy things in your neighborhood. I hope whatever happens works out well for you and your little family!
@hillbillywife thank you for the encouragement. Prior to him leaving I felt like since we've been here many times before with deployments/military training etc. That it would be no different and a walk in the park. I forgot this time I'm 5 weeks away from having a new baby and a huge emotional and hormonal disaster so it feels like the first time he left all over again, and seeing my son sad has me all in the feels. I'm hoping as time passes it will get easier for DS, and I'm so beyond greatful that we will be able to see him once a month in these 6 months. I think that alone helps DS tremendously!
Re: Weekend Randoms 6/2
@zande2016 that would absolutely make me lose my mind. I have been super forgetful lately too, so if I couldn’t find something that I knew u bought. Ugh so frustrating. I’m a ftm, but my DH insisted on baby’s going home outfit to include socks and a hat. But I’ve heard from so many STM’s that say they never used hats or those mittens.
I would add this to symptoms but there is not one for June up yet, and it’s not really a symptom story. Anyway- I had an appointment on Friday and my doctor wanted me to go in for BPP testing on Saturday. They said I would go weekly from now on for it, because I have a high BMI. I’m obese, but I haven’t even gained the 10-15lbs they said would be okay and healthy. (I’ve gained 5 maybe 6lbs now).
Anyway, I went in for the test yesterday at 12, they tested my fluid, how the blood flows through the placenta, baby’s heart rate etc. during that test I was so nervous, they told me it was to make sure baby was doing okay, if for some reason baby wasn’t doing okay then we would talk about inducing or a c-section. I’m 34 weeks so this obviously terrified me. Anyway, I didn’t notice during the test but baby’s heart rate was high. The tech kept asking me how much water I drink, I drink water like it’s going out of style so I dismissed any concern that that question might have posed. They completed the test sent me home. I passed one of the midwives in our doctor group to chat about some things that came up in our last appointment. She has told me I tested earlier in the pregnancy for GBS, so I was considered GBS positive for this pregnancy. (Just means I need antibiotics when baby is born)
anyway, so I go home I was doing things around the house getting ready for baby. I got a weird phone call from an NYC number at like 4:45, I wasn’t even going to answer. My DH was like just answer it. It was my MFM saying he needed to go over the testing results from today. (I’m like oh I thought all was good) he told me that my fluid level was considered normal but on the lower side of normal. He also told me that baby’s heart rate was tachycardic during the test, 175-178 range. He asked me to go into labor and delivery at the hospital so baby could be monitored for a longer period of time.
At this point, I was annoyed I’m like it’s been hours doc, but he said while he thought there was minimal risk he’s rather I get check out. So DH and I rush over to the hospital. (Poor DH was def freaking out at this point) and we go get the fetal monitors on etc. Baby was super active all day, he always is, and literally kicked them off. He’s got very strong kicks! Anyway, while they tested his HR did spike up but it was during movement. And mostly because he was hiding away from the monitors. Anyway so we were there for like 2 1/2 hrs because baby kept hiding from the monitor so the results were not what they wanted.
Then the L&D doc comes in, and is like okay so why are you here? And I explain my doc said he would call and tell you I’m coming. This is what they found at the test etc. then I asked him to call my doctor. To finish this long rant- they said the baby was fine, and the doctor agreed my fluid level is on the lower side of normal. So he encouraged me to drink lots of fluids, and if I was leaking fluid or having contractions to come right back in.
Then they gave me discharge paperwork that was all about Braxton Hicks contractions. I’m like that’s not even why I was here!
But now we are home, I have to schedule another one of those stupid tests for this week, I’m just grateful baby is doing okay and it was all a big scare for nothing.
DH and I are now hyper focused on getting things ready for baby and the hospital bag ready so that if we end up needed to go in sooner we are prepared.
@catftm2018 that’s so scary!! I’m glad that baby is fine!
@zande2016 that was my thought exactly, I thought that was part of the test to behind with, and it confused me that they didn’t do it. I should have been asking questions, but I was thinking that all was fine so they didn’t need to do that part. Now I know- I need to ask questions and push back a lot harder. Glad to know your babe is doing the same thing and healthy!
We were gonna go to the lake today because its supposed to be 75 and sunny, which I find to be lovely lake weather. But now it looks like it won't even be 70 by 12, and naptime is 1. So I dunno if we are gonna go. We can find something else to do pretty easily but I was excited about the lake beach! Darn. Have to settle for some hiking with the doggos.
DH’s idea of cleaning is throwing everything on the ground in a laundry basket and everything in the counters in the garbage or a drawer. Idk how he’s made it this far in life, truly.
@catftm2018 glad everything looks good! So annoying with the run around!
He leaves literally everything he every uses once or thinks he might use on the floor of our bedroom, the kitchen table, or the island. And then he NEVER TOUCHES IT AGAIN. Apparently having things within eyesight and not put away is the key to always finding things! DIDNT YOU KNOW?!? **insert eye roll here**
ETA:: Anyone else notice their babies movements following a different schedule than before? Maybe it's because I've been on vacation this last week and had a chance to catch up on sleep and relax a bit, but I used to feel like she never slept and was constantly moving and this last week she still moves just not near as much as she was prior.
@catftm2018 I'm so sorry about the ordeal!
So I had the opposite probablem baby wasn't moving much and I had not eaten in 4 hours. So it took some candy to get him going ! He was super active before the doctor, as always, and then got shy.
My OB says if the fluid is "low" or not great at this point (35) he would just monitor it because it could also be that baby didn't pee at that time. Of course he may do IV and extra hydration before any other measures. He said if fluids are worrisome at 38 weeks he would induce. Maybe your babe wasn't peeing? Hehe. The hr is a bit higher than mine was but I agree they definitely want to see the spikes that's why they gave me candy and had me on my side.
I’m really aggravated and trying to keep my Cool. The ikea that’s closest to us is closed on Sunday’s so my H drove an hour and a half to the next closest one, on one of the worst traffic highways in all of CT, only to find out they don’t have what we need for the stupid crib. After he spent an hour on the phone with customer service this morning and was told they did have it. And now he tells me they’re shipping it to us. Why couldn’t he just get it shipped in the first place?? He literally spent half of the entire day and half a tank of gas to go there! And now the nursery still won’t be done. I just feel so defeated about everything lately. I have this overwhelming feeling of wanting to run away. The more upset I get, the more I’m cramping and feeling breathless (aka contractions). I know it’s not a huge deal and I’m over reacting but I can’t help it, I’m just so frustrated.
I know me saying "relax" or "its not that big of a deal" is easier said than experienced but its just a thought. More hug to you!
myself back to being myself rright now.
@zande2016 my anxiety has increased a bit too and eventually leads to a depression state if it gets out of hand. I’ll be going on anxiety meds day of delivery. Hope you feel better soon!
We checked out a place I found today and while the area is really nice and super close to the bay, the unit is slightly smaller and we'd have less storage -not to mention it's a price jump. And the timing is so poor!! We have paid a lot of $$ for my parents Airbnb this summer, more than our current rent actually, so we could put my parents in our place instead and cancel the bnb and take our time moving over July and August. However, I'm also stressed about the downsizing and the amount of work and money involved...
DH just wants to turn in the application and see what happens, while I'm kind of excited because the place is really cute and I'm also a lighthearted, impulsive kind of person, the other more reasonable and controlling part of me is freaking out...
ETA @zande2016 it might be worth looking into again. Or going to your PCP to talk about anxiety meds. I’m anxious about having PPD again after this one and plan to find someone to talk to pretty soon after. I’m sorry you’re struggling.
@kissableviv wow! I remember you saying before about the crazy things in your neighborhood. I hope whatever happens works out well for you and your little family!
Have we heard any updates from @carsonraynee? Thinking of you, girl!!!