@StephBrim24 Yes to shots today. My pediatrician doesn't support giving Tylenol before 3 months unless she's advised otherwise. I would definitely ask though! They did give me a dosing chart so you could at least maybe get your hands on one of those when you go. My first son had a sour tummy after the rotavirus stuff but it was so much better this time around so hopefully Cora won't be bothered by it. Good luck!!
I am going to get blood work done today to become a milk donor. I have given away lots of milk to other babies over the years, but this is the first time I am donating to the milk bank for use in NICUs.
Thank you @fragglemom! I try to avoid using medicine with my kids when I can so I never remember if I decided it was necessary at this appointment with my other kids. Thank you for the hope that the rotavirus vaccine might not bother Cora. It was awful with my other two.
@DDRRT1982 that’s awesome! I wish I made enough! I have about 30 ounces in the freezer which I am impressed with because I have never had a freezer stash before. In other news my kid is rolling! He rolled belly to back the other day and just started rolling back to belly. This is going too fast!
Last vaccination question. What’s the latest that side effects can show up? I like to know when I’m allowed to breathe a sigh of relief. I’m so good at detecting fevers just with a kiss on the temple in my older kids, but babies are so much warmer that I struggle to know when they have fevers. And thermometers are fickle things.
My random is about postpartum clothes - I'm 11 weeks out and... ugh! maternity pants are droopy (and hot), but my regular pants go up but won't button. I've been rocking the flabby belly as a point of pride - I grew a human! but I'm kinda getting over that. LOL Any suggestions? Do I just walk around in leggings and tunics? I feel like I have to but yet another wardrobe.
Eta to say sorry I've been mostly MIA. We've had internet issues that I think are finally fixed and I have been avoiding exposing LO to screens for now. But I had a dream about you all so I had to make sure I got back here today!
@StephBrim24, my pediatrician said to watch for a fever/other symptoms within the first 24-36 hours after shots. DD1 always got fevers but DD2 was fine with her shots so far. Hope Cora’s been doing fine so far! @fatstagnation, I’m kinda in between also. I’ve just been sucking it up, either dealing with the drooping or wearing elastic waistband skirts to work (I’m fluffy to start with). If I’m wearing one of my longer tops, sometimes I’ll put a rubber band through the button hole and loop it around the button- that gets me a bit more use out of my pre baby clothes both before I needed to switch to the maternity clothes and after. Glad to see you’re still well and now with the interwebs again!
@fatstagnation I was bigger to begin with but my maternity pants for the most part fall down. So other than leggings those don’t work. My prepregnancy jeans fit but I have to wear flowy shirts with them because they look too tight because of skin stretching yet again and not going back. So tunics, leggings and jeans and where I am at for now.
@fatstagnation +1 to the tunics and leggings camp. I bought a ridiculous amount of cheapo leggings on Amazon and am rocking them most days of the week! Necessary evil.
Also, resale shops are a good option. You won’t feel the financial sting as much and you help the environment. I was super in shape before Sam, so my prepregnancy clothes aren’t even close yet. I wear workout gear most times bc it 1. It sets the mindset I am going to workout and 2. Fits my lifestyle of juggling kids and being spit up on. When I do get dressed I look for elastic band options. Jeans and shorts today come in those styles and can be cute. I don’t love flowy shirts, but they are a must now. Don’t be afraid to go a size up or two. Well fitting clothes always look better than clothes that are too tight. Plus, you will like the feel and wear them more often.
Too hot for leggings here, so I've been doing gym shorts and t-shirts. I'll have to buy more clothes for work though. I can't wear gym shorts and teach! Haha
I was wearing a large before pg (which for my height is...not good) so going a size or two up would push me into the plus sizes and I just have a bad mental/emotional reaction to that. ugh. I know clothes that fit are more flattering and I need to bite the bullet. And I think curvy women are sexy but when it's me... You guys just reminded me that I did buy some beautiful leggings just before I really popped and they didn't fit. I'll go dig those out. I'm totally a slacks/button up shirt/black leather shoes person when I leave the house but hello athleasure!
Is there an award for sleep fighting? I think I'm winning. LO (13 weeks) was doing so good sleeping at night he would wake up maybe twice but usually just once. Now this past week he will fight sleep until about 930 ( like I know he is tired but he would rather scream than relax, once he relaxes he is out) then he is up at 1 then 3,5,6, and 7. I usually swaddle him but now he just gets mad, I tried hands out too. But he will wake up regardless if he is swaddled or not.
I started a bedtime routine of Johnson's bedtime lotion massage, pjs, then bottle all in a dim room. I start at about 8pm. This doesn't seem to help yet but I'll give it more time.
Pretty sure I'm going to go insane if we don't get some solid sleep here soon.
@sgrn18 I think it’s the age. Declan has started screaming at bedtime this week- he was 13 weeks last Friday. I think they are learning to do more and don’t want to sleep. I played with him for an hour last night before he finally got tired.
@megpeg awesome lol as long as it means it ends eventually lol. I can deal with waking up 2times but not 1000 times.
I felt like the world's worst mom before this sleep stuff all happened because DH's friend's wife got all braggy about how she got her 6 week old to sleep by 7pm and he only woke up at 10pm to eat then slept all night. When i was trying to explain our situation, her facial expressions and replies were just down right judgemental. I let her get to me and I shouldn't have.
@sgrn18 I'm so sorry. A baby sleeping through the night at 6 weeks is due to luck. Let your DH's friend's wife pat herself on the back. Maybe PPD or PPA has her needing it. Karma will likely hand her a sleep regression at 6 months that lasts a year if she really is just a bish. My first didn't give me more than 2 hours of sleep until he was 6 months old and then he started sleeping through the night and is still going strong at 2 and a half. Chin up. Sleep is coming. Do what feels right for you. You're doing a great job!
Old Navy has linen type of pant that have elastics waists so I’ve them for work - they also have Capri type ones for those mommas in the hotter places. Elastic waist has been key for me.
@sgrn18 we have a very similar routine with our LO she fought it for awhile but I thinks she’s learning the routine and now sleeps from 8 til 11 then a bottle and 11:30 til 6 but we haven’t hit 13 weeks and that growth spurt/leap yet. It’ll happen. It’s rough when they don’t want to sleep.
I just need to vent a minute... I am very greatful that I get to be a SAHM and I know DH works very hard for us to be able to do this and he knows I do and says he could never do it.
I was kind of pissed tonight when he asked if we had any plans Friday night and I said no thinking he wanted to do something together and was a little excited. Without asking if it was ok he texts his best friend and asks him if he wants to go to the car races and blow off steam because his friend had a rough week and tells me about it in passing later. Then he was talking about him taking the older kids to see the incredibles 2 on Sunday for Father’s Day and I can stay home with Declan. He works out after work almost every night for an hour and only sees the kids for maybe an hour before they go to bed.
When is it my turn to not be at home all the time and get to do something? When is it my turn to work on myself? I need to figure out how to make myself a priority to me and him. I always put everyone else first and there’s nothing left for me anymore. How do I make myself a priority? I love him and my kids but am feeling empty lately because I don’t feel appreciated. He tells me I should start going to the gym(for some time to myself)but I have yet to figure out when that is supposed to happen.
I know part of this is just exhaustion because I am up every 3 hours at night pumping trying to keep my supply up.
Edit- I am still not used to this stay at home thing it’s only been since last August.
@megpeg Have you sat down with him to fell him how you feel? I’ve noticed with my DH and really all men, they have to be told usually what we want or need because they’re horrible at just offering or doing it on their own. Communicate with him, and maybe it can change.
I’m still a working Mom and my first 10 days back have been brutal (in middle of a deadline) and I have been bringing work home to do after the kids go to bed and worked Saturday from home and DH seems so confused why I’m not chippy or lovey come night time. They just have different expectations than us. When I text him during the day that I’m sad I’m not with the kids or just tired, he basically is like “yeah, maybe it’ll get better.” So yeah, men are just wired so differently.
@megpeg I had a really hard time making time for myself. No one was stopping me because I wasn't even asking. It's one of the drawbacks to being a SAHM. I would find myself being jealous of DH's commute because it meant he got to be alone and even drink a hot coffee in silence. I've gotten much better at making plans for myself. Sometimes I'll even just escape to wander the aisles of Target alone once the boys are in bed. Being alone with the kids makes DH really appreciate how important it is to get a break now and then. So make yourself an appointment for a mani pedi. Maybe even invite a friend so you can have an adult conversation! You owe it to yourself to reserve some time for self care.
@fragglemom thank you! That’s also what I needed to hear! I am jealous of his workout and he doesn’t think about it like it’s time to himself. I guess I am still just adjusting to this and need to talk more to him about needing some me time.
I am very much like you in the fact that I throw everything into everyone else and then get shocked when nobody recognizes all I do or the sacrifices I make to make the world go round. It’s hurtful and sometimes I would just like a little appreciation. However, I will probably not change my nature to take care of the people I love at my own expense bc that’s just who I am and I would have lots of guilt if I compromised them. It’s just a struggle, but I think not having regrets for how I cared from them will be worth it in the end.
As as for the working out thing, I do make that my one priority bc I truly believe my health is a long term investment so I can be around when my kids are adults. With that being said, if I left working out around my husband’s schedule I would not be able to workout regularly enough during normal hours. I pay a lot of money for a gym membership that has a decent daycare and consider this a family expense. I have cancelled it before to save money, but the return of money wasn’t worth the compromises to my health and sanity. When they are this little we need help to get to the gym or to actually enjoy a workout and if our husbands aren’t available we have to find alternatives. At least I do.
I hope you all find something that helps you get through and makes you feel like you are doing something for yourself.
@DDRRT1982 I just called and talked to my Husband. His gym is closing the end of the month and he needs to do something else. I found one that’s half the price of his membership that covers our family and for a little extra covers daycare. I asked him to think about that one and we can talk about it. I am borderline diabetic right now and really need to start taking some time for myself and stop feeling guilty that I am spending extra money or should be doing housework. Thanks all for the advice.
That’s what’s so great about this forum. We’re all in different versions of the same boat. I’m stressed because my SIL moved in when the baby was 3 weeks - and the move was disorganized. It’s great having an extra set of hands but she’s oblivious to our routine and I feel like it’s an extra person I’m cleaning up after (adding to my stress is the fact that I’m back at work and my MIL is coming for a week and I just want my house clean and organized before her arrival). I know it’s hard to take time for yourself and it’s hard to keep on top of things - especially when you’re tired. I feel guilty leaving the baby, but sometimes I just need to not think. It just makes me feel a lot better to read that I’m not the only one. Thank you all for being here and sharing.
Nate fell asleep FINALLY at 6:30 and I completely skipped bath time and just laid him down. I told my brother in law to go find someone else if he wakes up and screams because I was going to relax in the pool alone. It was such a nice 20 minutes alone. I needed it so bad. I need to find time to be alone at least once a day.
@shoretobe gah! My sister lives with us for almost 2 years and it was a freaking disaster. I had mice because she would leave open bags of food in her room.
@megpeg I would be so upset! The way she moved in was such an upheaval. I’m annoyed with myself that my in laws are making me feel anxious and off balance (it wasn’t like that until I got pregnant). I’m frustrated that I have more patience for my mom and sisters. Trying to remind myself to be kind and keep fostering a good relationship with my in laws. It’s just hard when they make me feel like we have to rearrange everything for them and their plans when right now I just want to get comfortable being a mom. Sorry to vent. I feel a little better actually spitting it out though
Yesterday my husband came home and wanted to go do yard stuff outside. I know it needed to be done, but I had spit up in my hair, hadnt brushed my teeth, and needed to pee. I had to make him sit and listen to what I needed. Sometimes if I talk when he is doing something it's in one ear and out the other. He is always doing something with the house that he thinks takes priority over taking care of LO while I take 30 mins to myself when he gets home. I'm really glad to have joined this community I feel so good knowing I'm not the only one with struggles.
I did take the opportunity to watch "Ali Wong's: hard knock wife" comedy special on Netflix yesterday. While it is highly inappropriate it also makes it super funny. It felt good to laugh like that.
Oh yeah my brother, his fiance, and their 3 year old live with my mom. Geez they are soooo gross. My mom is the epitome of an obsessive cleaner, like her house always looks like a model home it's so clean. Then you go to my brother's room and it's got food wrappers, fast food cups, and dirty clothes everywhere. My mom tried to give them privacy but went back there because the toddler needed something and she saw the mess and about had a heart attack.
ETA I know they "live" there but I still feel like they should act as guests or at least respect that it isnt their house.
Last night I could have committed a crime of hormones and murdered my husband. He was stupid drunk and we all ate dinner at 7ish. Well he starts yell talking as drunk people do and woke Nate up. It took until 9 to get him calmed and back to sleep. I decide to go to bed and my husband said he was going outside to "finish his drink" because that was totally necessary while I'm rocking and shushing Nate to sleep. He finally goes down and so do I. 12 midnight rolls around and my husband walks in, turns on his flashlight on his phone and wakes Nate up on purpose to change his diaper.... who wakes a baby up to change his diaper. He claims it's because he was "stirring". Nate of course screams his head off because he was sleeping good and hates diaper changes. Instead of changing the diaper quickly he stumbles around and Nate peed everywhere. Up his back, all in his hair, everywhere. My husband gets mad and I then have to change his outfit, clean his hair, nurse him to calm him down, redress him, swaddle him back, and get him to sleep. All while my husband peacefully fell asleep. Needless to say if there's any rum left, I'm pouring it out.
@mccurleya oh, hell no! I would have told him to sleep somewhere else after he woke him up the first time. And today he would be letting me take a nap or go to bed early.
@mccurleya I would have definitely killed him! It's such work to get a baby sleeping I think i would have lost my sh*t! I probably would have been planning his death while he peacefully drunk slept after that causing so much nonsense!
And definitely agree there should be some serious ass kissing today and you should get a glorious nap.
My husband just called to tell me he scheduled his vasectomy consultation. I am not really sure how to feel about it. We always have said 4 kids and are only at 3. We don’t have much room in our house for another but I am still sad.
sgrn18 that is exactly like us. he doesn't get it. He hold the baby for enjoyment and then has something 'important' to do and I'm back on child care duty.
I'm actually really mad at him right now. he told me he's sick of picking up after me and doing the same thing over and over again. This is a person who can't find his wallet/keys/phone/... at least once a day bc he literally leaves stuff lying wherever. and doing the same thing over and over again is pretty much the definition of SAHM. sorry ladies, but i'm glad to hear i'm not the only one thinking about killing MH!
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In other news my kid is rolling! He rolled belly to back the other day and just started rolling back to belly. This is going too fast!
Eta to say sorry I've been mostly MIA. We've had internet issues that I think are finally fixed and I have been avoiding exposing LO to screens for now. But I had a dream about you all so I had to make sure I got back here today!
@fatstagnation, I’m kinda in between also. I’ve just been sucking it up, either dealing with the drooping or wearing elastic waistband skirts to work (I’m fluffy to start with). If I’m wearing one of my longer tops, sometimes I’ll put a rubber band through the button hole and loop it around the button- that gets me a bit more use out of my pre baby clothes both before I needed to switch to the maternity clothes and after. Glad to see you’re still well and now with the interwebs again!
You guys just reminded me that I did buy some beautiful leggings just before I really popped and they didn't fit. I'll go dig those out. I'm totally a slacks/button up shirt/black leather shoes person when I leave the house but hello athleasure!
I started a bedtime routine of Johnson's bedtime lotion massage, pjs, then bottle all in a dim room. I start at about 8pm. This doesn't seem to help yet but I'll give it more time.
Pretty sure I'm going to go insane if we don't get some solid sleep here soon.
I felt like the world's worst mom before this sleep stuff all happened because DH's friend's wife got all braggy about how she got her 6 week old to sleep by 7pm and he only woke up at 10pm to eat then slept all night. When i was trying to explain our situation, her facial expressions and replies were just down right judgemental. I let her get to me and I shouldn't have.
a sleep regression at 6 months that lasts a year if she really is just a bish. My first didn't give me more than 2 hours of sleep until he was 6 months old and then he started sleeping through the night and is still going strong at 2 and a half. Chin up. Sleep is coming. Do what feels right for you. You're doing a great job!
@sgrn18 we have a very similar routine with our LO she fought it for awhile but I thinks she’s learning the routine and now sleeps from 8 til 11 then a bottle and 11:30 til 6 but we haven’t hit 13 weeks and that growth spurt/leap yet. It’ll happen. It’s rough when they don’t want to sleep.
I was kind of pissed tonight when he asked if we had any plans Friday night and I said no thinking he wanted to do something together and was a little excited. Without asking if it was ok he texts his best friend and asks him if he wants to go to the car races and blow off steam because his friend had a rough week and tells me about it in passing later. Then he was talking about him taking the older kids to see the incredibles 2 on Sunday for Father’s Day and I can stay home with Declan. He works out after work almost every night for an hour and only sees the kids for maybe an hour before they go to bed.
When is it my turn to not be at home all the time and get to do something? When is it my turn to work on myself? I need to figure out how to make myself a priority to me and him. I always put everyone else first and there’s nothing left for me anymore. How do I make myself a priority? I love him and my kids but am feeling empty lately because I don’t feel appreciated. He tells me I should start going to the gym(for some time to myself)but I have yet to figure out when that is supposed to happen.
I know part of this is just exhaustion because I am up every 3 hours at night pumping trying to keep my supply up.
Edit- I am still not used to this stay at home thing it’s only been since last August.
I’m still a working Mom and my first 10 days back have been brutal (in middle of a deadline) and I have been bringing work home to do after the kids go to bed and worked Saturday from home and DH seems so confused why I’m not chippy or lovey come night time. They just have different expectations than us. When I text him during the day that I’m sad I’m not with the kids or just tired, he basically is like “yeah, maybe it’ll get better.” So yeah, men are just wired so differently.
As as for the working out thing, I do make that my one priority bc I truly believe my health is a long term investment so I can be around when my kids are adults. With that being said, if I left working out around my husband’s schedule I would not be able to workout regularly enough during normal hours. I pay a lot of money for a gym membership that has a decent daycare and consider this a family expense. I have cancelled it before to save money, but the return of money wasn’t worth the compromises to my health and sanity. When they are this little we need help to get to the gym or to actually enjoy a workout and if our husbands aren’t available we have to find alternatives. At least I do.
I hope you all find something that helps you get through and makes you feel like you are doing something for yourself.
I’m stressed because my SIL moved in when the baby was 3 weeks - and the move was disorganized. It’s great having an extra set of hands but she’s oblivious to our routine and I feel like it’s an extra person I’m cleaning up after (adding to my stress is the fact that I’m back at work and my MIL is coming for a week and I just want my house clean and organized before her arrival).
I know it’s hard to take time for yourself and it’s hard to keep on top of things - especially when you’re tired. I feel guilty leaving the baby, but sometimes I just need to not think.
It just makes me feel a lot better to read that I’m not the only one. Thank you all for being here and sharing.
I did take the opportunity to watch "Ali Wong's: hard knock wife" comedy special on Netflix yesterday. While it is highly inappropriate it also makes it super funny. It felt good to laugh like that.
ETA I know they "live" there but I still feel like they should act as guests or at least respect that it isnt their house.
And definitely agree there should be some serious ass kissing today and you should get a glorious nap.
I'm actually really mad at him right now. he told me he's sick of picking up after me and doing the same thing over and over again. This is a person who can't find his wallet/keys/phone/... at least once a day bc he literally leaves stuff lying wherever. and doing the same thing over and over again is pretty much the definition of SAHM. sorry ladies, but i'm glad to hear i'm not the only one thinking about killing MH!
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