BF Monday

chyvie

It is early Monday but I already have one so I started it! B!tcH away ladies!

chyvie

As you all know I have had a crappy last week. Well I was hoping this week would be a little less eventful until my AC broke last night and today is going to feel like 38 degrees Celsius (100 F) and I work from home. Currently sitting in my underwear with all the blinds down and a fan directed at me. Let's hope I don't get called into a video meeting LOL I hope the repair man comes today or tomorrow!

krzyriver

@chyvie Oh man, the worst! I had no AC when I was pregnant with Z. 

I’m in pain from all the unpacking yesterday and can’t watch Z myself, but I’m going to have to juggle him while unpacking more so that the place isn’t littered with boxes for him to climb.

chyvie

@krzyriver Make sure you take it easy and don't over do it. Your baby and body is most important right now.  Unpacking can wait a day until you feel better. 

cdepperschmidt

Some random human was beating on our door at 10:30 last night. My H almost immediately opened the door and no one was there. Pretty sure it was teenagers. Also, hubs and I got in a fight last night so I’m just salty today.

pajamstagrams

@chyvie omg that sounds horrible. Make sure you drink plenty of water and don't get dehydrated!!  Our HVAC used to break in our old house a lot and I'd have to come home from work to babysit the handyman and it was awful. And it always breaks when it's really hot or really cold out! Never a nice spring day!

SawyerRichardson

@chyvie Oh no! Our AC went out last summer when DD was about 3 or 4 months old. And since I'm in GA, by the time the repair guy got here it was 87 in the house! We just did a bandaid fix since we didn't have the money to replace the whole unit right after having a baby. I'm so nervous it's going to happen again this year..  Fingers crossed for you that the repair guy gets there soon! But on the upside, you could use this as an excuse to eat all the popsicles!!

DunkinDecaf

Kids woke up at 4:30 and would not go back to sleep. Day officially started at 5:15. I need a 9 hour nap.

SawyerRichardson

@DunkinDecaf I was complaining this morning that DD woke up at 7:10 this morning because she usually wakes up at 8:30. I was sad that I missed out on that extra hour of sleep. Now I see that I have no room to complain though so I'll shut up now! 

DunkinDecaf

@SawyerRichardson haha I mean an hour of sleep is an hour of sleep! I’d still be bummed. FIL is watching DD1 now so I’m going to nap while DD2 does.

cjx95

@cdepperschmidt that's so rude!! I hope it doesn't happen again especially when the LO will be sleeping. 
My bf, the last couple of days DH hasn't really wanted to do anything I've asked to do, like visit our godbaby, come with me to see family, etc. He always says he doesn't really wanna go out today, then within a few hours leaves to go do what he wants, doesn't ask if I want to go (I don't but at least ask me) and comes back hours later.. then he'll ask if I want to go get ice cream when he comes home because he knows in my pregnant state I can't say no to ice cream. I had a dream that I finally said something about it and we got into an argument so I think I'll bring it up today..

rc-cola

Someone tagged me on Facebook because of my work, asking me to opine on a political debate they were engaged in. I actually hate debating on Facebook, largely since I more or less do it for a living. There is a lot of vicarious trauma that I deal with in my work as well and I really try to insulate myself and practice self care on the weekends when I can. I didn’t respond for several hours and then the person tagged me AGAIN in a comment. Just take a hint!

jynjer4

My BF is directed at my unborn child. Don’t kick me in the middle of sex kid! It completely killed my mood and now I’m grumpy. Guess I’d better get used to it!

chyvie

@jynjer91 OMG that is too funny! I probably would have bursted out laughing and said your kid is trying to kick you back to DH! HAHAHA 

nasalot188

Both my boss and coworker waltzed in today over an hour late and didn't bother to message or anything. I don't care you are late, but isn't it common courtesy to let your work know? I always do. 

sunnyknightsarah

I posted this a few days ago in a different thread but I’m still bitchy about it lol. My BF is people who don’t accept other’s choices.

My husband went to a bachelor party for his friend in Texas last Wednesday and called me Friday to tell me he’s leaving early because the groom’s friends were doing things that made him uncomfortable (read: cocaine) and he wasn’t going to stay in that situation. Also, he thought the “private stripper” the best man hired was blurred between stripper and hooker. Gross. (She also brought the drugs. Wtf. What kind of seedy ass stripper did the best man hire?!)

My husband was really looking forward to this trip. He thought since everyone is approaching 30, and it was a destination trip to Austin, that it would be a fun weekend of beer drinking, live music, exploring the city, and a strip club. But the guys in attendance (who are friends of the groom not friends of my husband) are the type of people who are all single and never have been to a bachelor party, so they were just trying to recreate “The Hangover” and the type of bachelor parties in the movies. 

They also did not accept if you said you had enough to drink and didn’t want anymore, or didn’t want to take part in their idea of a “good time” and just laid into the peer pressure. My husband is secure in himself, strong willed and has a great moral compass (so much so that the bride-to-be only agreed to her fiancé doing this trip because my husband was going), so I don’t worry about him getting taken advantage of or anything, but I still can’t believe some of these guys trying to force others into these activities. Respect people’s choices. My husband called me appalled at their behavior (ready for fatherhood, I guess haha) and said, “I’m not into this stuff. Plus I have a kid on the way. I don’t want to be caught up in their shit.” I would have felt the same way. 

I’m proud of him for trusting his gut and removing himself but what a shitty situation. These guys need to grow up. 


Edited for a spelling error

chyvie

@sarahzett Well done for your husband standing up for himself and getting out of the situation. Sounds like he is going to be a great father and is already an amazing husband! 
I hope the groom didn't/will do anything he will regret all because of his asshole friends. 

sunnyknightsarah

@chyvie thanks! I was very proud of him. Peer pressure is real at every age and it’s easy to give in rather than stand up to everyone else. 

I hope the groom didnt didn’t do anything he’d regret either. He was really drunk and my husband talked him out of trying the cocaine so at least he protected him while he was there. The groom is such a good guy; he just gets easily persuaded into things by his idiot college drinking buddies (which I assume is why his fiancé doesn’t like them lol). 

jynjer4

@sarahzett I get that you’re annoyed by said “friends’ ” actions putting your man in an uncomfortable situation (I would be too) but it sounds like you have a really good guy to be thankful for!
IMO, if you want to get trashed, do cocaine, and hire some nasty strippers go right ahead. It’s your life. But it’s NEVER ok to try to pressure someone to join in if they aren’t comfortable.
If I was the groom I’d be super nervous about the conversation that’s coming if his bride-to-be finds out about what went on!!

jennybean80

The teachers at preschool thought it was a good idea to put “fairy dust” in the twins’ hair. So glitter. In their hair. You know what is a PITA to get rid of? Freaking glitter in my kids’ hair!!

sunnyknightsarah

@jynjer91 amen! I am very thankful for him. I tell him all the time “you’re one of the good ones; I think I’ll keep you.” Haha 

And I agree! Do whatever you want but don’t force others to join. 

sunnyknightsarah

@jennybean80 why oh whyyyy did that ever seem like a good idea to them? Lol

jennybean80

@sarahzett I have no idea! Maybe they secretly hate me

cdepperschmidt

@rc-cola I have a friend who works in politics and he straight up comments back, please don’t tag me in posts like this again.

rc-cola

@cdepperschmidt that’s not a bad idea. I don’t want to be rude but thats a lot nicer than the things I sometimes feel like saying...

dash83

@sarahzett your hubby sounds like a stand up guy, keeping his priorities straight. People are free to make their own choices, it’s nice though he kept you and baby at the top of mind. I really hope too the groom was able to behave himself, I would have raged like a crazy women if I found out about that type of shenanigans on my DH’s bachelor party! 

sunnyknightsarah

@dash83 I’m so glad too! And yessss - I would have lost my mind too if he did similar things at his. Luckily, he said he’s never been to a bachelor party like this and this isn’t “the norm” amongst the ones he’s been to. I’m very glad we had a discussion prior to his bachelor party about what things I am ok with and what I am not lol. Plus he’s way more of a reserved, introverted person so I knew he wasn’t going to go crazy.

pajamstagrams

@sarahzett DH told me some slightly questionable things that went on at his bachelor party...but I'm not entirely sure anyone was successful in their shady endeavors and DH doesn't really know because when he drinks, he hugs the toilet all night lol. Plus he was rooming with my brother, who also didn't handle his alcohol well that night, so I think they didn't stay up so late. But DH has told me some stories of friends of friends bachelors parties that got way out of hand, so these wild ones do happen occasionally. Im glad your husband got himself out of a situation that made him uncomfortable!! 

chyvie

My husband got too drunk and the bouncer didn't allow him in the strippers for his bachelor party! So he came home and the guys all had fun without him. LOL he says he faked the drunknes to get out of it because strippers are gross!   

sammierose464

My husband's was at their motorcycle club. They rode their bikes to dinner that I'm pretty sure had bikini servers. Then they went back to the club for drinking and a stripper. Their buddies paid for a private one and installed a stripper pole at the club (which is still up). And of course, the stripper was named Samantha. Which his buddy teased was to keep it easy. She gave them all can koozies, so I get to see it all the time at the club.

I can't say much because I went to a female strip club for mine.

krzyriver

Oh man, H and I did a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. He has lots of female friends and I have lots of guy friends so we thought it would be more fun. We got a party bus and went dancing. No shenanigans.... except for when our neighbor, who H only invited because someone bailed and he paid a cut of the bus fare, got too drunk and started hitting on me. H punched him in the face. 

norahkate

Long work rant, and not really all that relevant to anyone, so feel free to skip this. I just need to get it out somewhere.

So it's not monday, but since it is my work monday i'll go with it. i work at a tiny office...my two bosses and i. one of them is getting close to retirement and has been looking at work/numbers to figure out how much he can cut back before it makes sense to retire completely. He has been very open about this with both his partner and I.

He is off today and she came in in a lousy mood anyway. She starts telling me how she was "not trying to snoop in his office" but went in on Friday to check on his plants (he takes care of his own plants) and just happened to notice that he had a retirement folder started (he keeps this folder in his desk drawer. I know because I gave him most of the information that is in it)...and that inside it had blah, blah...(translates to, the exact types of information he would need to figure out what he needs to know).

So for one thing, nothing negative or shocking there at all. But most importantly, WTAF?! Such an invasion of his privacy and just so wrong. Then she goes on all aggravated about how he must question how she figures the split in their pay but she knows it is right, etc. I reassured her that he has never questioned that (at least to me) and that he has actually made it a point to ask me to explain it to him better (he does not handle that part much) just to be sure that she would not be shorted at all as he cut back on clients/work.

This all makes me so uncomfortable and part of me just wants to walk away, but in all honesty it is a really great job for me. The work is easy but I can do other things (like this) when I am bored and the pay is great and the hours are extremely flexible. They have very different personalities but rarely work side by side, so it is a fine balance. This is over the top though and I hate knowing that she is acting/thinking this way. I wish she would just not have told me. I just think the previous couple of office managers they had were always "on her side" so to speak so she expects me to feel the same. Ugh. 

chyvie

@krzyriver That is horrible! WHO hits on the bride while at their bachelorette party with her finance there!!! well that guy deserved it! 

sammierose464

@norahkate that's so inappropriate, all of it. 

knottieamusements

@norahkate - That sounds like a nightmare.  I’m sorry you are dealing with it.  

chopchop25

@norahkate that is not okay behavior, at all.

Monday BF on my work Monday, too. I just bumped a meeting due to an overlapping meeting that now my boss will likely cancel. And then he told me I'm not off of the big project, which I thought I was getting switched off of. I F'ing HATE this project and there's already too many people working on it and so I'm bitchy and cranky as hell right now. I do not want to work on this until baby comes, that is way too long.

coffee-saur

This is the Monday-est Tuesday ever. Morning started with DH coming to tell me that our dog is sick. He said she's acting lethargic and shaky. When I got up later, she was still acting tired and I got her water and put it by her and fed her but she didn't even get up to eat, which is very unusual for her! She'll usually wolf down her food so fast you'd think she'd get indigestion. When I got the children up about a half hour later, she hadn't touched her food or water and laid there when the children came out, also very unusual for her. We brought her inside and she relaxed with the children for awhile and seemed to perk up a bit so I told DS to take her out to her food and she started eating. Later, closer to lunch time I went outside and she'd evidently barfed up all she'd eaten along with some other unidentifiable stuff that may have been the cause of all the trouble. I'll keep an eye on her and if she's not better tomorrow, we'll be making a trip to the vet. DS for teary eyed when she was obviously not herself this morning and wouldn't leave her side.
It's been so awesome how well she's fit in our lil family. She is loved very much and DH just said yesterday how lucky we were getting such a good dog. She's gotten very protective of all of us and won't let 'scary' people into our yard, like the UPS lady and a couple Jehovah's witnesses this last Sat. The UPS lady just told her hush and is now considered ok. I hope she barfed up whatever was making her feel sick and will be her old self this afternoon!

chopchop25

Hope your pup is okay @coffee-saur! Keep us posted!

sammierose464

I hope she feels better!

SawyerRichardson

@coffee-saur Sorry to hear about your pup! Fingers crossed he feels better soon!

knottieamusements

@coffee-saur - Oh no!  I hope she is feeling better soon!