@echo-charlietango I didn't put DS on FB at first, he was over a year when I finally caved (because I used to live on FB in college, not so much anymore though). I did get some repeating questions, "when can we post him on FB?" I'd just tell them, he's my kid, whenever I decide. And a couple people forgot, so I just politely reminded them and they immediately took it down/zoomed in to crop him out. I still rarely post pics of him. I think my MIL posts more than I do, but since she's 3 hours away it's still not too often. Not sure what I'll do with this babe since DS is already on FB. Probably just the same mentality as with DS currently, I'll post photos here and there, just not over the top. I doubt I'll do some big announcement, probably just post a random photo ag some point. I'm going to have to remind people to not go crazy posting though. I will say, I think since DS was older when I finally allowed it, some of the "novelty" of it wore off.
I’m another limited fb poster for kid photos. There are some, but I didn’t want access to all of their photos online. This was so hard with family. I’m not a 0% photos, just a few times a year is fine.
I’m the same as @CecilB93 — I post occasionally, mostly on IG. I don’t really post on FB anymore in general. I’ll link to his monthly updates on my blog.
Before he was born I was on the fence about what to do re: privacy and then A came out horribly sick and I started doing a NICU update every day to keep everyone in the loop. So the decision was sort of made for me. I’m glad I did it — I have an entire diary of what happened when, when otherwise I really wouldn’t remember much.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Don’t have an announcement idea yet, but I did make my DH take this picture last go around. For the record, he’s a HUGE coffee person so it fit perfectly. Now to meet the creative bar I set last time... oh this will be fun.
I probably should be more concerned about social media exposure or my child, but for some reason it's just not a red flag for me. I completely understand why some people would feel that way, but we have so much family literally around the world that it's just the easiest way to keep people up to date. Plus, I like to see other family members and friends growing up too.
@texas_t that's part of the reason I gave in. I do know someone who created a private page for her son (not account, just a page) and added friends and family so she can post without the whole world seeing, so that's an option, too!
@texas_t same. We only see my MIL a few times a year, so I'm sure she lives for the facebook updates on our kids (her only grandchildren). My family is pretty spread out, too. IDK it's hard for me to get too worked up over it because only my friends can see the pictures and I know who I'm friends with. I have transitioned a lot of it to IG lately, though, and will probably continue to do so more and more, since FB is just generally an annoying place to be lately.
@runrinserepeat Yeah, my husbands family is all in California and the Philippines! He is pretty much the poster and just tags me in everything. He just wants to show off our kid to our families, so I find it endearing, lol!
Count me in on the disliking social media and children. The field I work in has way to many creepy and terrible things I've come into contact with I don't even want it out there. Also, how do you know your children want their faces on social media. It REALLY kills me when parents use their child's ENTIRE name as a hashtag. Don't they realized that is searchable?
Also, none of you will see my face or my children's faces while on the bump lol stranger danger for lyfe!
@Jens_Hoes I am glad I’m not the only paranoid one. I read an article when DS was a baby written by a Dad whose child’s newborn photos were hacked and posted on a child porn site. That really freaked me out.
It's interesting getting all these different perspectives on social media and kids! Husband and I both have our Facebook pages pretty tightly locked down and our friendslists decently curated; we don't share a lot, but I have no hesitation about sharing the occasional family picture or a super cute moment there (toddler "helping" make coffee? passed out on Daddy's lap at the 'Hawks game? asleep with her head in a book? sure!). It's definitely not a frequent thing, though, and as she gets older we'll start asking before we post. Like others, my friends and family are spread pretty far, and social media as a tool is invaluable in helping us bridge that gap.
Honestly, it's more the thought of companies collecting data on her already that makes me a little uncomfortable more than the people who see them or whatever. But really, anything that gets backed up to the cloud, any picture I take on my Android phone or send via any sort of digital platform (email, shared Dropbox accounts, Google photos, Snapchat, whatever) is still providing data to be harvested. I browse this site on Chrome, I had a baby registry with my name on it for her, I shop online for child-related things, I use email to communicate with my child's daycare... The Interwebs already know she exists, and know all kinds of demographic and consumer data about her; what we share on social media isn't going to be the only or even the most important driver of her internet presence when she gets older.
I guess I'm on the more laid back end of the spectrum, social media wise. I do have tightly private facebook and instagram accounts, but I definitely share photos of my kiddo on both, mostly because all of my family lives far away and it's the easiest way to share with them. Not to mention, even with friends who live close, we all work so many hours and are so busy, social media is the only way we stay in touch regularly! I am grateful that I get to see cute moments of my friends' littles on instagram or fb because otherwise I would only see them once or twice a year (at most!) So, we will definitely announce on facebook and share photos of this little when he/she comes along! I do totally get the anti kids on social media mentality but, for me, the pros outweigh the cons (though, again, I can totally get the perspective where they don't, it's just different for every person, I think.)
Also, none of you will see my face or my children's faces while on the bump lol stranger danger for lyfe!
THIS times a million. I've seen too much here to share that sort of information in such an open forum.
As far as how do you know your kids even want to be on social media... my kids are old enough to tell me, but that probably means I've failed them as a parent more than anything they often demand that I take their pictures and share them, or ask to go through my facebook feed and put hearts and thumbs on pictures of other babies.
@maureenmce I have the same perspective. I understand and respect why some people don't, but my page is pretty private, and I love sharing my kids, especially for people who may not see much of them otherwise.
@texas_t I'm the same too! I really understand and support other people who want to keep things off the internet, but I've always loved using social media to stay connected. I spent so many years away from family as a newlywed, and now that I'm close to family I have friends that are almost like family that I want to be able to share experiences with.
Hubby & Me: Born 1993 Married: August 2013 Son: December 2018 Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
My husband and I told our immediate family when we were super early (about 5 weeks) around Easter. We gave them all Easter baskets, with a little photo frame that says Baby (Our Last Name) Coming Winter, 2018. Each basket had a photo frame, a pacifier, a onesie, and a person letter from us to them. We were really excited and we can't wait to meet our littlest one! I am 10 weeks and 2 days, we are waiting until (at least) 14 weeks to announce it to everyone via social media.
As far as social media sharing ... I share a limited amount due to laziness and lack of motivation to live my life through social media, not because I have some objection to having my kids' pics out there. I mean, it's just pics, not their social security numbers and my home security system access code. haha. But I get why others might have some objections; that's fine. I don't share photos of others' children for this reason.
As for our "announcement" ... I am not yet sure, but since SO and I are always doing some major project (right now we're renovating our entire downstairs and he's got various other things going on) I might post something along the lines of "we've started our next big project, ETA 22-Dec" with a u/s pic or I don't know what yet.
DH: Since you’re here we can tell you th- Friend: *points at me* She’s pregnant. DH: Yep.
One down several to go! Next announcement is tomorrow, a friend will be in town and wants to see us, so we might as well spill more early beans It’s nice coming out of the closet.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
We haven't announced to anyone yet, but my cousin is super suspicious! Lol We are waiting another 3-4 weeks to share the news. Haven't made our Facebook announcement yet, but we will be using a dorky Harry Potter Christmas announcement.
Also, these just came in the mail! Announcing via gifts for my sister's and neice's birthdays on my side and a father's day gift for his dad on his side.
Told some friends last night at dinner! I had received my iced down Chardonnay, when someone bought a round of shots. I relinquished mine and said “well, I guess this is a good time to tell you that I’m pregnant.” DH got a lot of high fives and our closest friend was really excited. It was really nice drinking (watered down) wine, and nobody gave me crap about avoiding the cigar bar.
Next announcement is to my MIL in a few days when she’s in town
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
(DH leads her into kitchen, where I’m sieving a watermelon) DH: Ask Echo what she’s making! Me: Oh yeah - watermelon aguas Fresca...because I’m pregnant and can’t drink booze MIL: *gasp*
It was well received of course! She and a coworker stayed for dinner and dessert, intermittent baby talk. She’s sworn to secrecy and likes being in the loop
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Told my siblings over the weekend- my sister got a very anticlimactic "hey you're gonna be an aunt", to which she replied "Yes! I f**king knew it!". My brother (he's 24) I set up by telling him I needed him to do a job for me, and it didn't start until December but I wanted to tell him now so he can get ready for it. The job title is uncle. He immediately started crying and had to leave to room. When I went to check on him he was so happy he couldn't get it together. It was adorable.
@tumbleweed-1 Dude, it’s my new favorite thing ever. One smallish seedless watermelon, 3-4 limes, dash of salt. Cube the melon and place in blender, when blender is full add one cup water & blend until smooth. Strain into a pitcher. Add pinch of salt and juice of 1-2 limes. Repeat until you’re out of watermelon or room in your pitcher. Serve on ice.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Re: Share your Announcements here!!!
DS2 due 12/12/18
Before he was born I was on the fence about what to do re: privacy and then A came out horribly sick and I started doing a NICU update every day to keep everyone in the loop. So the decision was sort of made for me. I’m glad I did it — I have an entire diary of what happened when, when otherwise I really wouldn’t remember much.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
I just put this up today. I’m only 9ish weeks but I figured it was a good time to announce.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
DS2 due 12/12/18
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Also, none of you will see my face or my children's faces while on the bump lol stranger danger for lyfe!
Honestly, it's more the thought of companies collecting data on her already that makes me a little uncomfortable more than the people who see them or whatever. But really, anything that gets backed up to the cloud, any picture I take on my Android phone or send via any sort of digital platform (email, shared Dropbox accounts, Google photos, Snapchat, whatever) is still providing data to be harvested. I browse this site on Chrome, I had a baby registry with my name on it for her, I shop online for child-related things, I use email to communicate with my child's daycare... The Interwebs already know she exists, and know all kinds of demographic and consumer data about her; what we share on social media isn't going to be the only or even the most important driver of her internet presence when she gets older.
As far as how do you know your kids even want to be on social media... my kids are old enough to tell me, but that probably means I've failed them as a parent more than anything
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
As for our "announcement" ... I am not yet sure, but since SO and I are always doing some major project (right now we're renovating our entire downstairs and he's got various other things going on) I might post something along the lines of "we've started our next big project, ETA 22-Dec" with a u/s pic or I don't know what yet.
Me: 40 | SO: 32
DDs: 11, 7.5 | Due: 22-Dec
We're having another GIRL!!
And what a better thing to do on Micah's birthday than to see his baby sibling for the first time! It's a bittersweet day, indeed!
My 4 yo was very unsure, but since then has been super sweet. He came over and asked if he could touch the baby.
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
DH: Since you’re here we can tell you th-
Friend: *points at me* She’s pregnant.
DH: Yep.
One down several to go! Next announcement is tomorrow, a friend will be in town and wants to see us, so we might as well spill more early beans
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Also, these just came in the mail! Announcing via gifts for my sister's and neice's birthdays on my side and a father's day gift for his dad on his side.
Next announcement is to my MIL in a few days when she’s in town
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
(DH leads her into kitchen, where I’m sieving a watermelon)
DH: Ask Echo what she’s making!
Me: Oh yeah - watermelon aguas Fresca...because I’m pregnant and can’t drink booze
MIL: *gasp*
It was well received of course! She and a coworker stayed for dinner and dessert, intermittent baby talk. She’s sworn to secrecy and likes being in the loop
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@scaredunprepared Tell me about the Harry Potter announcements when the time comes!
@tumbleweed-1 Dude, it’s my new favorite thing ever. One smallish seedless watermelon, 3-4 limes, dash of salt. Cube the melon and place in blender, when blender is full add one cup water & blend until smooth. Strain into a pitcher. Add pinch of salt and juice of 1-2 limes. Repeat until you’re out of watermelon or room in your pitcher. Serve on ice.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@echo-charlietango Ok that recipe sounds amazing. I'll have to try it over Memorial Day weekend!
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
That's cute! And what a happy little guy you have!