@chopchop25 my OBs office said they don’t even schedule them before you hit 20 weeks, because they want to make sure everything is fully developed enough for them to get good images. Mine is scheduled on my 20 week ticker change day exactly
@pumpkinpancake Mine said the same with Z, but this time they let me schedule at 19 weeks. I had to go back for a second scan with Z anyway, so I figured on week early wouldn't hurt all that much.
@chopchop25 my OBs office said they don’t even schedule them before you hit 20 weeks, because they want to make sure everything is fully developed enough for them to get good images. Mine is scheduled on my 20 week ticker change day exactly
^so that’s kinda what I meant. My OB prefers to do them at 18 weeks on the nose. I think generally each dr/practice has a preference
@pumpkinpancake Mine said the same. I wanted to do a week earlier, but they said they want you at 20 wks. So I scheduled for the exact day of 20 wks. It's taking so long to get here!
I’m having a really hard time selling our baby stuff... why is it so hard? I don’t need 2 high chairs or cribs, but I don’t want to let them go!!! I think part of it is that an older friend (whose kids are 10 years older than me) was in pretty much the exact same situation as me - twins and then 5-6 years later she had another and she told me she regretted not having a 4th because her youngest was pretty much like an only child since the twins had each other and were so much older. That’s one of the things I was worried about, especially after another friend’s little sister said how she was always alone and her twin brothers had each other (they have the same age gap too). I mentioned maybe having a 4th to MH and he almost called the urologist right then (joking because he was driving, but he is very serious about no more). The thing is, even if we did have another, we still wouldn’t need 2 of those things... so why can’t I let them go? Ugh!
For Mother’s Day, we used to go out to dinner with MIL & family, but since she passed away, nobody wants to do stuff anymore (I’m the only mother & not their mother, so I get it). This year they are going to the cemetery with wine to spend the day “with” her. I may tag along with the kids since MH is leaving at 8am that day for work. We’ll do something on Saturday instead, but I don’t know what. Last year MH helped the kids cook me dinner.
I’m more excited for the anatomy scan than worried. I know things can go wrong, but more likely than not everything is fine and we finally get to find out baby’s sex (& if we’re going to be fighting over names for the next 4-5 months- why are boy names so hard?) I’m also secretly hoping for a hidden twin in there. I know there isn’t, but it would end the discussion on a 4th (MH isn’t against 4 kids, he’s against having to deal with me being pregnant again & I don’t blame him).
My scan also scheduled my 20wks exactly. My hospital asked for my 20 week date when scheduling. I know the chances of abnormalities are low, but I also know that my choice to take Zoloft raises them slightly. I still think taking Zoloft for a healthy me was the right choice though.
I actually try to book my ultrasounds as late as possible, because I figure the baby grows exponentially every week and the scans are always more fun the bigger/more baby like they are!
I find a way to make any situation shitty. With my first it was 19 weeks and I went crazy waiting and worrying. With my second it was 18 weeks and then I worried the rest of my pregnancy that it’d been too early and they might’ve missed something. Basically, anxiety is an asshole
April symptoms thread in the June18 BMB just got closed by the admins. Time to go lurk while I wait for my next meeting...
Looks like snark started toward the end...FB move related. It's like watching/reading a mini novella - is it pathetic that this has been the most entertaining moment of my day so far? (Probably. Things are dry closing out the year here right now.)
@nmadjeski Yes! I started it this week and then my husband started watching it with me. It's funnier as it goes on. I'm just sad there are only seven episodes!
@estellegetty I started watching it yesterday! I like it so far, but it definitely hits a litttle close to home! I forget what those first few months were like, and it kind of makes me think “what have I done?” for doing it all over again with a toddler now too!
I had to run to Home Depot and planned to stop by Publix after on the way home and grab some rainbow sherbet ice cream that I've been craving for like a week. I totally forgot and I already put DD to bed and my H is out of town for work so I cant leave! I'm so irrationally upset right now.. I just want some ice cream!!
@pumpkinpancake OMG I had the SAME exact thoughts during the first episode. I was freaking out inside like WTAF did I get myself into this time around?!?! But the following episodes made up for it because it was so funny and I couldn't stop laughing that I sort of forgot about the first episode...kind of like newborn snuggles makes you semi-forget the sleep deprivation.
This may belong in a FFFC thread- but does it make me a bad member of this BMB that I had to go check that thread out before continuing to try to catch up on everything from today? (Which at this point, I don’t think is going to happen tonight....)
@knottieamusements right!? It definetly doesn’t make you a bad person...it’s just like everyone hoping for some excitement in the Deleted thread. We’ve had such a tame board I feel like it’s only natural I feel slightly guilty for how much I enjoyed reading that thread. I feel bad that someone’s feelings are hurt but she did not handle that well and that’s on her.
But with only a couple posts, did she really expect to be invited? My last BMB was kind of like that. There were 3 or 4 girls that kind of ran things how they wanted and If you weren't in their group then you didn't get approved for the FB group. I don't have FB so I didn't have to deal with that, but I can see how people would be upset. There were more than a couple people who went to it her BMBs because ours was so hostile. That's part of the reason why at first I was so confused by how nice everyone was on here! I'm used to newbies getting their heads ripped off.
@knottieamusements I don't blame you. We've been busy today! I'm so far behind because I didn't eat lunch at my desk today and took a nap between jobs!
My anatomy scan is at 18w5d. I saw my MFM at 10w5d and he goes "schedule your next ultrasound in 8 weeks" so that's what we did. It'd have to be a Wednesday as that's the day I work from home and thankfully DH is able to trade half a shift with someone.
Well now that I've caught up with June, I'm glad we aren't planning to move to fb for awhile!! Honestly I agree with one of the ladies in that fb is a lot more personal and a lot more info is available to essentially internet strangers so not everyone will be invited over when that time comes. I know we've had this conversation before so I won't kick the dead horse but I'm happy to stay on this platform for a long time lol I really like you ladies and how tame we are! Though I do love the occasional snark as well
With DS, they specifically wanted it at 20 weeks. This time (different OB) she said 4 weeks from my 15 week appointment. So I’ll be 19-something. But when we were scheduling, we were looking at dates over like a one week period, so I don’t think they’re very strict.
I’ll be 19+4 for the anatomy scan. But I’m also booked for ultrasounds every 2 weeks, so if they cant see something then, hopefully they can pick it up at the next scan.
I’m going to go read the June thread, but I’ll say this in my last BMB people’s feelings got hurt bc they didn’t make it over to FB, but honestly we let almost everyone in who was ACTIVE on the bump. If you only post three times during an entire pregnancy you are not making it...sorry.
The bump def dies completely after your BMB moves to FB so people who didn’t have FB got left out. Most of them actually made FB accounts JUST for our BMB and I’m so glad they did. I’m still super close to my whole S16 group and our FB Group is extremely active.
ETA: we didn’t move to FB until July or August and most of us were due in September.
I’ll be 19+6 at my anatomy scan. They tried to schedule it later but I requested to have it on the 29th because I have my 20wk appointment with my midwife on the 30th. (She encouraged me to get it done a day or 2 before) That way she’ll already have the results and we can discuss them then instead of waiting another month. I wasn’t really nervous about it but now I really am after seeing everyone else is worried! I was in FTM blissful ignorance I guess.
WOW. That June thread was great. I didnt have a great BMB with my first LO. They were not nice girls at all. I've been really surprised that everyone here has been so nice! I know I havent posted a ton, but I'm trying and will do better! You ladies are awesome and I really appreciate you all
@estellegetty same exact thing happened with D16 - we let in all regulars and have been super close ever since. We didn’t move to FB until after most of the babies were born, though, I think January.
I don't think I'd want to move to FB until Oct/Nov for us. We still have new people joining us, especially recently. I'd hate for someone to come looking for support and find an empty board.
Oh my, that thread... My last BMB didn't move to FB until babies were a few months old which was kind of nice, because quite a few people stopped posting after the LO's came and we also gained a couple new regs. And of course once the move was announced, there were a couple "Wait, I've never posted before, but I feel very close to you all and can I come to?!" posts. However once we got to FB there was DRAMA and we ended up spliting into 2 separate FB groups and a private chat board.
BFP #1: due 6/17/2013, DD born 6/25/13 BFP #2: due 6/30/2017, MMC found 12/7/2016 BFP #3: due 10/21/2018
I personally wouldn’t want to wait until the babies were a few months old bc my BMB was my life line during those first few months and FB is SO much more convenient then the silly bump app. I agree to wait til right before the babies are born or even after the first few are born, but I wouldn’t want to wait too much more than that.
We will figure it out when the time comes, but all I know is I’d be lost with my S16 FB Group!
Re: Randoms 5/3
For Mother’s Day, we used to go out to dinner with MIL & family, but since she passed away, nobody wants to do stuff anymore (I’m the only mother & not their mother, so I get it). This year they are going to the cemetery with wine to spend the day “with” her. I may tag along with the kids since MH is leaving at 8am that day for work. We’ll do something on Saturday instead, but I don’t know what. Last year MH helped the kids cook me dinner.
I’m more excited for the anatomy scan than worried. I know things can go wrong, but more likely than not everything is fine and we finally get to find out baby’s sex (& if we’re going to be fighting over names for the next 4-5 months- why are boy names so hard?) I’m also secretly hoping for a hidden twin in there. I know there isn’t, but it would end the discussion on a 4th (MH isn’t against 4 kids, he’s against having to deal with me being pregnant again & I don’t blame him).
Looks like snark started toward the end...FB move related. It's like watching/reading a mini novella - is it pathetic that this has been the most entertaining moment of my day so far? (Probably. Things are dry closing out the year here right now.)
Wow. That was quite the thread....
This may belong in a FFFC thread- but does it make me a bad member of this BMB that I had to go check that thread out before continuing to try to catch up on everything from today? (Which at this point, I don’t think is going to happen tonight....)
I feel slightly guilty for how much I enjoyed reading that thread. I feel bad that someone’s feelings are hurt but she did not handle that well and that’s on her.
My last BMB was kind of like that. There were 3 or 4 girls that kind of ran things how they wanted and If you weren't in their group then you didn't get approved for the FB group. I don't have FB so I didn't have to deal with that, but I can see how people would be upset. There were more than a couple people who went to it her BMBs because ours was so hostile.
That's part of the reason why at first I was so confused by how nice everyone was on here! I'm used to newbies getting their heads ripped off.
My anatomy scan is at 18w5d. I saw my MFM at 10w5d and he goes "schedule your next ultrasound in 8 weeks" so that's what we did. It'd have to be a Wednesday as that's the day I work from home and thankfully DH is able to trade half a shift with someone.
The bump def dies completely after your BMB moves to FB so people who didn’t have FB got left out. Most of them actually made FB accounts JUST for our BMB and I’m so glad they did. I’m still super close to my whole S16 group and our FB Group is extremely active.
ETA: we didn’t move to FB until July or August and most of us were due in September.
BFP #2: due 6/30/2017, MMC found 12/7/2016
BFP #3: due 10/21/2018
We will figure it out when the time comes, but all I know is I’d be lost with my S16 FB Group!