@pumpkinpancake I feel the same way - next appointment isn’t until the 31st and my symptoms are way less than they were so of course I’m worried something has happened! I can’t wait until I’m feeling movement regularly so I know baby is ok.
@pumpkinpancake your comment about having more time at work made me laugh.
I think it makes sense that you feel more anxiety now. When you open up and share that info, you put yourself in a much more vulnerable situation. It's hard when the walls are down, but good for you for doing it! Also totally feel you on waiting for the next appt. Time is moving SO.SLOWLY.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's annoyed by ultrasound "potty shots". I'll believe you if you tell me you're having a boy, I don't need to see his penis. I don't care if it's a blurry ultrasound, it feels like an invasion of privacy to me and I've *always* been uncomfortable about them.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
oh jeez the poster on ttgp who then went to 1st tri. Smh.
That was rich. "I didn't get what I wanted here....let me go to this other thread, hardcore bash the ladies from the first thread, and do the same exact thing!" SMH.
@elothair the wait is so tough! I’m lucky in that I don’t reallt have the traditional symptoms with my pregnancies, so other than my growing bump and feeling a little extra tired, I barely feel pregnant sometimes. I feel like that just makes it harder sometimes to wait. My next appts are the 31st too (regular OB visit and anatomy scan) so fingers crossed we both have good days that day!
@chopchop25 yeah I wish I could have waited to tell extended family until after my next appt, but we’re flying back east to visit my family over Memorial Day weekend, and my appt isn’t until the day after we get back home. At this point, visually there’s not really any hiding it, so we bit the bullet and just told everyone now.
Yo, @sammierose464 even the TW heads up didn't prepare me for how much anxiety I'd be feeling over my anatomy scan next week after reading your comment.
I'm not really one for getting offended easily, but that definitely rubbed me the wrong way today. Remaining positive with an anxiety disorder is challenging enough!
I feel the same way. I'm a very paranoid/doomsday/pessimistic kind of person and as soon as I posted our announcement on social media yesterday I regretted it because "what if something is wrong at the 20 wk scan?!?". Everytime I tell someone new I get the same anxiety. I know the odds are low of anything bad happening, but it's a struggle for me to not worry all the time. Hugs to all of you who feel the same.
@jemmerjams hugs to you too. The anxiety is real, and I try to stay positive but can’t help but worry about it. Hopefully we will all get peace of mind and good results at our anatomy scans.
I wasn’t nervous last time going into the 20 week scan, but this time I really am. I’m sorry others are feeling anxiety about the scan.
What (if anything) are you guys planning to do for Mother’s Day? I REALLY don’t want to go out to a restaurant because our toddler is currently a nightmare when we go out to eat. A picnic would be my ideal day, but then we have to worry about the weather. I guess as long as I’m with my kid, my mom, and MIL it’ll be a good day.
Re: Anatomy scan - I am floating in blissful ignorance, and plan to continue trying to do so. I figure that super obvious bad things might have been spotted in the previous (albeit cursory) ultrasounds.
Re: Mother’s Day- FTM, so no advice on dealing with little ones. My Mom is going to FL with me tomorrow for a business conference (I will be living my life vicariously through her as she hangs out on the beach and I languish in conference rooms). Then we have a busy weekend in St Louis planned with an Art Fair, a Baby Expo, potentially a trip to Buy Buy Baby, and some housework. (So no great insights- but a picnic sounds like a lovely plan.)
@estellegetty we probably won’t be doing anything for mother’s day to be honest. DH and I aren’t big into the Hallmark holidays since restaurants are always so crowded, so we’ll probably just have a nice day the three of us doing our normal weekend stuff. Hopefully he’ll wake up with DS and let me sleep in a little
I dont care at all about drive bys or what they actually post... I just pray for them to happen so that I can read all the responses and gifs from you guys!!! I was a little behind over the weekend and saw the two... couldn't wait to see reactions and ya'll were so nice and tame. Let em have it ladies!!!
My anatomy scan is on the 14th and I'm a hot mess about it.
I might be alone on Mother's Day. SS will be with his mom and DH has been working a ton. I'm expecting him to work Saturday, but not sure about Saturday. If he does work it will be 4am-4pm. So I'll probably nest!
@estellegetty DH and I are going out to dinner on mother's day, but that's our only plan so far. This weekend is the first he hasn't worked in like 6 weeks, so it will be great to have him home and spend time with him.
Normally my mom's family gets together for mother's day late lunch/early dinner but I think I'm gonna skip this year because A) (see above). my mom won't be there. C) my mom WILL be here in town 2 days later so I'm having my "genital" reveal (as my brother so eloquently put it, BUT NO US PRIVATE PART SHOTS) the next weekend, and everyone I would see on Mother's day will be at my house the next weekend anyway.
I’ve been a total ghost lately and I’m super behind! Life has been so busy! Maybe I’ll catch up this week...
I totally get the anxiety about the anatomy scan and the anxiety about something going wrong now that every knows. I had no anxiety last time, but this time I’ve got a lot more. Im so afraid of going to my appointment and finding something is wrong. Anxiety is such a bitch!
I was actually dropping here to post an awesome random though! I scored a halo swivel bassinet in like new condition for $150 and I’m super excited!
Good grief! That lady on TTGP then 1st trimester board was a trip! I laughed tho, when she got kinda offended when they said her pee sticks were gross yes, they are gross, no need to share them with the world!
Mother's Day I'm thinking picnic, too. Depending on weather and how my mom feels by then. I'd love to go to the lake if we could! It's a drive but as close as we can get to a beach. I'm a total humbug about holidays. I severely dislike a bunch of fuss for anything. I don't know if the in-laws will want to do something or not. SIL likes to try and guilt the rest of us into dishing out money for gifts. Not just $20-25, usually $50 to over $100. I get really stabby when that happens.
Went shopping with my brothers girlfriend today!! I was looking for some dresses, a belt, and tank tops, ended up with one dress, a pair of shorts, 2 or 3 shirts, some jewelry, no belt and no tank tops so today was not a win for my wallet!
I think as we get closer to the anatomy scan, I get more nervous that they'll find something wrong.
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I have had two friends in the last year learn of severe defects at the "20 week" scan that led to termination or death of their babies. It scares me.
Yeah I’m feeling the same way. Especially because the girls know about this baby and are talking about him I’m way more scared about loss than I was with my previous pregnancies.
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I’m also unusually worried because I have an aunt who had to terminate because of a “not compatible with life” diagnosis found at the anatomy scan, and she had two girls and then the one she lost was a boy. I’m (kinda) named after her, and our families are eerily similar so I have that weird superstitious worry about this guy.
Gaaah now I’m feeling the anxiety about the 20 week scan too!
Also my husband just found out he has to be out of town for work for the anatomy scan. I was going to just go myself but now I’m thinking I should reschedule...but I also don’t want to wait longer than I have to.
Gaaah now I’m feeling the anxiety about the 20 week scan too!
Also my husband just found out he has to be out of town for work for the anatomy scan. I was going to just go myself but now I’m thinking I should reschedule...but I also don’t want to wait longer than I have to.
That’s such a tough one. Is there someone else you can have come and support you?
@rc-cola highly likely the ultrasound technician can't say anything and you will need to follow up with your doctor. Can your husband be at that appointment?
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@coffee-saur - Those threads are really best with a mixture of the helpful and the snarky. The helpful for the completely dense, and the snarky for the completely clueless.
Ugh! I'm with you ladies and the anxiety. It just hit me like a ton of bricks a few weeks back. I tried to ignore it but now it's not just about this pregnancy, its spilling over into every day life.
I honestly didn’t even know I was supposed to be nervous, but all of these worst case scenarios are definetly in my brain. I’m so tempted to move up my appointment to get answers sooner.
@chopchop25 I wouldn’t. Too early and they can’t tell as accurately that everything is ok. OBs have different preferences between 18-20 weeks for when they do the scan but they usually feel pretty strongly about when it’s done.
Also, it seems worth mentioning that serious abnormalities being discovered at the anatomy scan are very, very unusual. More than likely everyone in this group will be fine.
@DunkinDecaf Oh, I'd still try to keep it in the window. Right now I'm scheduled for it at 19.5 weeks - just thinking about moving it to early 18 Not a huge gain but potentially 8-10 days of peace of mind for me...
Phew! Finally got DD's dress for her kindergarten graduation done! It's on Thursday and I really don't like cutting it that close. Now I'm ready for a nap but that won't happen till later this afternoon.
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I think it makes sense that you feel more anxiety now. When you open up and share that info, you put yourself in a much more vulnerable situation. It's hard when the walls are down, but good for you for doing it! Also totally feel you on waiting for the next appt. Time is moving SO.SLOWLY.
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I have had two friends in the last year learn of severe defects at the "20 week" scan that led to termination or death of their babies. It scares me.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
@chopchop25 yeah I wish I could have waited to tell extended family until after my next appt, but we’re flying back east to visit my family over Memorial Day weekend, and my appt isn’t until the day after we get back home. At this point, visually there’s not really any hiding it, so we bit the bullet and just told everyone now.
What (if anything) are you guys planning to do for Mother’s Day? I REALLY don’t want to go out to a restaurant because our toddler is currently a nightmare when we go out to eat. A picnic would be my ideal day, but then we have to worry about the weather. I guess as long as I’m with my kid, my mom, and MIL it’ll be a good day.
Re: Mother’s Day- FTM, so no advice on dealing with little ones. My Mom is going to FL with me tomorrow for a business conference (I will be living my life vicariously through her as she hangs out on the beach and I languish in conference rooms). Then we have a busy weekend in St Louis planned with an Art Fair, a Baby Expo, potentially a trip to Buy Buy Baby, and some housework. (So no great insights- but a picnic sounds like a lovely plan.)
My anatomy scan is on the 14th and I'm a hot mess about it.
Normally my mom's family gets together for mother's day late lunch/early dinner but I think I'm gonna skip this year because A) (see above).
I totally get the anxiety about the anatomy scan and the anxiety about something going wrong now that every knows. I had no anxiety last time, but this time I’ve got a lot more. Im so afraid of going to my appointment and finding something is wrong. Anxiety is such a bitch!
I was actually dropping here to post an awesome random though! I scored a halo swivel bassinet in like new condition for $150 and I’m super excited!
Mother's Day I'm thinking picnic, too. Depending on weather and how my mom feels by then. I'd love to go to the lake if we could! It's a drive but as close as we can get to a beach. I'm a total humbug about holidays. I severely dislike a bunch of fuss for anything.
I don't know if the in-laws will want to do something or not. SIL likes to try and guilt the rest of us into dishing out money for gifts. Not just $20-25, usually $50 to over $100. I get really stabby when that happens.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
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I’m also unusually worried because I have an aunt who had to terminate because of a “not compatible with life” diagnosis found at the anatomy scan, and she had two girls and then the one she lost was a boy. I’m (kinda) named after her, and our families are eerily similar so I have that weird superstitious worry about this guy.
Also my husband just found out he has to be out of town for work for the anatomy scan. I was going to just go myself but now I’m thinking I should reschedule...but I also don’t want to wait longer than I have to.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!