This shower subject has been making me nuts! We have a few dilemmas to work out. My husband and I decided we wanted to have a joint shower. 1) I feel weird about inviting my stiff relatives on my moms side who aren't party people to a more fun, laid back shower- could I just send them announcements with a registry link instead? 2) I don't have any friends, and his sisters/mom haven't offered to throw us one (my parents want nothing to do with this), so I'm not sure if we should just plan it ourselves. 3) Our house is decent but not laid out well for having more than a few people at a time, and we don't want to shell out any money to have this party somewhere else. If we decide to just have a regular party with friends, would I be able to say we just didn't have the space if anyone else asks about it? 4) Am I allowed to tell people we won't be opening any gifts in front of guests? I don't know anyone with a baby and have no idea how these things work!