2nd Trimester Check-in w/o April 23rd

halfanewt

@marimarii I’m in awe of your gym time, so I hope it’s doing the trick! 
@lablover78 your closet is so organized! Can I borrow you for a weekend  
@BusinessWife  mind adding me as team green? I hope your work situation end up working out exactly how you want it to..the options are so overwhelming! 
@hottietoddy good luck today! 

AFM.. 
How far along? 17 weeks today! 
Appts this coming week? Regular checkup Monday, still getting used to how quick they are! They also had me schedule my anatomy scan. Seems crazy to think it’s that close! 

How're you feeling this week?
Pretty good, aside from the lovely combo of spring cold+spring allergies. Breathing is overrated, right? 

GTKY:  What are your cravings or go-to snacks these days?
Berries and orange juice. Bring on the fruit! 

chicandbubbly

@hottietoddy I hope your surgery goes well, thinking of you!

chicandbubbly

I've worked from home basically part time- since my 14 mo old was 6 weeks old. I used to work in the office pre-baby but I work for a web design company and all my work is on the computer anyways so it has been totally fine and I am so thankful that was an option for me.That being said it is really hard especially now that my son is super active to get work done. I feel guilty because I want to be spending all day with him, not at my desk. Naptime is basically my only time to work which means nothing else gets done (cleaning, etc. haha.) Since I will have 2 under 2, my husband and I decided I will quit my job and just be a SAHM. I'm planning on having next month be my last so I can spend some time with my son before baby sis arrives!

sarzee2

@hottietoddy good luck today!

@lablover78 I immediately texted that picture to DH...putting the dresser/changing pad IN the closet is a game changer! That would free up space in the room for me to have a chair! So excited now!

@laurad75 Yeah the older I get and the more I think about it, sometimes my living situation seems so odd, but I think the fact that we pay way less than market rent and also that DH promises we'll buy a house in Jersey or Long Island in 5 years helps me hang on! I do worry that if we only ever have this kid he'll tell me we can "make it work" in the apartment for the rest of our lives but I'll have to put my foot down then! I agree with you that I could never live in an actual house that was my IL's or my parents...it would never actually feel like mine.

sarcasticowl

@chicandbubbly You're very lucky indeed. Our employer (DH and I work at the same place) requires those who have a work-from-home arrangement to also have childcare in place. Too many people abused the privilege of working at home and also having their kids at home and either weren't reachable during the day at times or didn't complete work in a timely fashion, so that's not an option for us (DH is a web developer and could also WFH some days but has a lot of meetings he wants to be there in person for - I am an administrative assistant and have to be at my desk all day). It's funny how we talked about how things would be sort of abstractly before we were pregnant and now that we are it seems like the situation is so much more complicated than we could have imagined, in terms of what we're going to do and what we need to consider (finances, insurance, retirement). It's amazing anyone can afford kids anymore!

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@lablover78. Add me to team #swooning over your closet!!! :love: great job!  And Perfect fit! ;)

chicandbubbly

@lablover78 the closet looks amazing!! Isn't it so fun to do a baby closet? Baby clothes and accessories are just so much cuter then ours lol. My husband and Dad made baby some closet built ins too and I can't wait for it to be done- her closet is nicer then mine haha.

lablover78

Aw thanks ladies! Pinterest really helped me realize what was possible and it seems like lots of peops take the doors off of the closet to create more space. I wasn’t sure and actually requested something much simpler but my mom’s partner had a vision and went to town- so so happy!! Also when we do sell this house we can just slide put the dresser and out the doors back on it should still work. The nursery is a tiny little room so every bit helps!

lablover78

Ugh girls I’m having such bad anxiety. I woke up sleeping on my stomach in the middle of the night I’m very petite and at 21w5days my belly is pretty big. I can’t stop thinking that I smothered my little bean. My stomach was tight and uncomfortable for awhile and I thought I felt him thumping around right after prob mad and stretching out but now he’s quiet- which is normal for this time of then day but I’m just so triggered. Anyone else find themselves on their stomachs??? My OB already has me on 2 week visits so I feel silly for calling about this...

2MomsHoping

Sorry guys it’s been hell at work this week.  Budget season, yuck.  Needed to take a little mental break before going back at it and wanted to catch up with everyone.

@safire3 the unpaid maternity leave is freaking me out as well.  We have a little cash tucked aside and though we planned to save it doesn’t appear to be happening.  I keep telling myself it will all work out and even though its unpaid I can only the FMLA allowable 12weeks so I plan I taking every second of it I can.  An hour long drive for childcare sounds like a great option for backup care but for all the time I think it would be exhausting. 

@klyn7 OMG real life does cost so much more money than I ever thought it would.  I nanny share sounds like a good option but we haven’t had much luck finding another family to share with yet.  Granted we haven’t really looked that hard but we have been stalking a facebook group in our area for it.  I’m a little bit nervous instead of having to coordinate and get along with one nanny, and with a whole other couple with another set of priorities.  I’m just worried things would get complicated.  

@lablover78 that closet is to die for!  I love that the dresser fits in so perfectly so much usable space!!! Owning your own practice does put a major damper on the whole maternity leave.  I’ve been talking more about this with my work friends and pretty much everyone’s recommendation is to leave work on time, hang out with the kids till bedtime and then take out the laptop and work until you pass out.  Oh and hire a housecleaner to come on Friday’s so your house is clean on the weekends when you actually might have people over, let it be a giant mess the rest of the week. I’m not sure how realistic working from home in the evenings would be for your situation, I’m sure you have to have meetings with clients but perhaps you can try to limit it more than you do now.  I think its just hard.  The fact of the matter is no matter how much you try working moms are going to have less time with their kids.  I guess my hope is I can commit myself to being as present as possible during those times and really appreciate those moments because the time is so short, also learning to set limits with work and saying no to friends or obligations I would normally say yes to. 

@hottietoddy Sounds like your cervix isn’t too bad but I would totally do the same thing and take every precaution.   I hope everything went smoothly.

@cseley321 thank you for sharing your story.  I never considered how staying at home might contribute to PPD.  I really struggled with depression when I was younger and isolation was definitely one of my biggest enemies and something I never thought of before. 

@businesswife Sigh some bosses do not put together coverage plans very well, it’s so frustrating and often the whole team suffers as a result.  

@halfanewt for the breathing those nasal sticky strips that go on the outside of your nose totally help at night.  When DW first bought them for me I gave a major eye roll but I’ve turned into a big fan. 

@sarcasticowl I agree it all seemed easier in the abstract!  Now that’s it’s here I’m like whoa life is turning upside down. 

hottietoddy

Hi Guys,

Just checking it report update surgery went well and baby and I are fine. I'm on pain meds and bed rest mostly sleeping. They are optimistic will still get to 37 weeks. Wasn't fun not going to lie but we did it. Thank you for the kind words. 

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@hottietoddy. Yay! Glad to hear it went well, and you are resting and recouping  (((hugs)))

@lablover78. I am still sleeping on my stomach @ 20+4...
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ETA I personally tend towards the, "if it feels comfortable, it's probably fine," camp, and try not to worry.  ;)

sarcasticowl

@lablover78 Do not worry! They have a lot of room in there to go backwards toward your spine or side to side. He probably just shoved himself into a corner and hung out. Every morning I get up and my belly is small and by the time I leave for work she's stretched herself back out and I'm popped again. Even in deep sleep your body would tell you to wake up if anything was wrong, and your mattress has a lot of give, too. You're not sleeping on concrete. Please don't worry!!

@BusinessWife I only just stopped sleeping on my stomach close to the end of 21 weeks. You definitely know when it's over 

lablover78

Thank you so much- sometimes you just need to hear it ya know??

@hottietoddy so glad to hear it!!! Take care of yourself. 

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It's Friday!!!!  Any belated Bump Day takers...???
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lablover78

Sitting in the car at 21w6days. Friyay y’all!

pickles313

Gwar. This post is from 2momshoping. My phone seems to always default back to this old name I’ve never really used.

@hottietoddy hope you are continuing to feel ok and resting after your surgery. Will you need to be on bed rest continually or just while you heal?

i got a call from my doctors office this afternoon I guess I failed my 1 hour glucose screen so I have to go in for the 3hr one next week. Kinda nervous but want to get it done ASAP Incase I need to make some changes and such. 

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Oh gosh @pickles313 @2MomsHoping. I was wondering when I saw the screenname pop up! Lol. So sorry you didn't pass.  Fak.  Hopefully, the 3 hr goes better! ❤

adirat

@2momshoping Sorry to hear it I hope you pass the three hour!

@lablover78 I'm a back sleeper and I find side sleeping SO uncomfortable, even with a snoogle. I have been trying to go to sleep on my side but I often wake up on my back or sometimes even on my stomach. My OB said that it's good to endeavor to side sleep, but that your body will wake you up before you do any damage to yourself or baby by back/stomach sleeping. So that's what I tell myself!

persnickity

@adirat my OB said the not sleeping on your back rule was silly. She said you're on your back for labor and delivery if you get an epidural, potentially for as long as you'd be sleep at night and there's not a concern then, so why be concerned before. She also said you'd wake up if there was an issue.

2MomsHoping

Thanks @businesswife and @adirat thanks for the good vibes on the 3hr glucose.  They actually posted my labs in my patient portal and the results didn’t look super bad so I’m keeping my fingers crossed, sounds like lots of people fail the screen and go on to pass the 3hr so I’m hoping I’m one of them.