November 2018 Moms

Questions w/o 4/1

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  • Did anyone else experience cramping after a TV u/s? It’s just light cramping in my middle abdomen, nothing painful just uncomfortable. Wondering if the “dildo cam” is to blame.
    With DD I did, and some light spotting after as well (around 9 weeks)
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  • @prairiemomma82 @blue2mango Thanks guys :). My PGAL brain was starting to act up a teeny bit but I feel better now. 
  • Wondering about UTIs and kidney infections. I was given antibiotics and am on my last day but the back pain after I pre is so unreal, I feel like my back is going to give out. I've also been so sick with MS I know I'm not flushing out bacteria with fluids, it's like s catch 22. Anyone else have any experience with a bad UTI/ kidney infection and MS? Anything you think would help ?
  • @MouseMama817 - I think that's normal. They did an abdominal ultrasound on me today and I am extra crampy so I'm hoping it's from the pressure of that. I totally get the PGAL brain. It sucks.
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    DS2 born 11/2018
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  • @jkmartin723 if you're done the antibiotics and symptoms haven't resolved, definitely go back to the doctor. If you can't stay hydrated orally, an IV might be required. Depending how dehydrated you get, you could have serious complications. 


    I have a question about bump stuff. Today I found out baby is measuring 1 day behind my EDD based on LMP. (Which is fine, I'm not freaking out at all. I actually thought I ovulated 2 days later than expected). But would you all suggest changing my date on here to reflect that? Or wait till I talk to my Dr/midwife? And how do I change it without changing LMP date on the app?
  • @jkmartin723 I would definitely get checked out. I had kidney issues last pregnancy and it sounds similar to the pain you're describing.... intense pain on one side of your lower back. Let us know what they find! Good luck to you.. kidney pain is seriously worse than labour! I hope it gets resolved asap! 
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  • Is anybody else feeling overwhelmed?  We are expecting our third and I feel like lately I just feel so uncertain like what did we get ourselves into? Can I even handle being a mom to three?  Sometimes I don’t even feel like a good enough mom for the other two.... 
  • MouseMama817MouseMama817 member
    edited April 2018
    @mempartyof3 I’ve had this thought from time to time, mostly during nap time when DD won’t sleep but I so badly need to nap myself or clean the house in peace or get some work done or just sit in quiet and I think to myself “holy sh*t nothing is going to line up when baby #2 gets here wtf am I going to do?” I know it’s hormones, but the level of frustration I feel when my daughter won’t nap is high enough that I wonder if I even deserve another. Part of that is PGAL brain, part is being a SAHM with no time to herself, part is hormones. I think it’s all totally normal. You’re going to be a fantastic mama to all 3, overwhelmed or not.

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  • Thanks @MouseMama817 I feel like these feelings tend to be more prominent with lack of sleep and increase in nausea. 
  • @mempartyof3 I know exactly how you feel. I had no concerns going from 1 to 2, but now I'm freaked out. I already don't feel like I have enough to give my 2 babies, how will I manage 3? Will the other 2 feel slighted? Will my sweet middle baby be okay between the others? So much anxiety. 

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  • @babybrain2018, I wouldn't bother changing my EDD based on a 1 day swing but it is totally up to you.  Usually doctors only adjust if it's a week or more since babies will measure ahead or behind pretty regularly while we are all still so early. EDD is just an estimate anyway and it's rare to hit the actual day :smile:

    If you want to adjust more directly, try setting up apps using the ovulation date rather than LMP, usually there is an option to use one or the other. 
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  • Thanks @purelex! This is all new to me! I appreciate the reply and advice! I will leave it as is!
  • @mempartyof3 I am having all sorts of emotions about it as well. I know no one ever regrets having a 3rd, so I keep telling myself that. And I wanted this SO bad. I'm just worried how baby 3 will fit in. DD and DS are such best friends. It is darling. I'm sure baby 3 will work right into that dynamic, but it is so hard to imagine this little one. I'm also concerned about being stretched too thing. My husband travels a lot for work and I already feel overwhelmed. I just figure this baby is going to live in a ring sling attached to me for the first 6 months of life. He/she will be just fine and it will all work itself out like it always does.
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  • A couple q’s...

    1) Has anyone been told to take baby asprin along with their vitamins? This is new for me in this pregnancy. 

    2) Home Dopplers: I’ve read a lot about the risks with home use, but would love the peace of mind that the heart beat brings. Risk/benefits?
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    @prairiemomma82 *TW maybe* Baby aspirin is sometimes recommended for people with a history of loss. It has something to do with helping prevent blood clots I think. However, I've always heard it recommended that you take it right after ovulation and maybe a few weeks after the BFP. How far along are you now? I'm not sure it's necessary for you to take it at this point but I guess it doesn't hurt if your doctor recommended it.
    FWIW, I think the research behind that is pretty slim. I saw an RE for my losses and she never recommend baby aspirin. I believe very few people have blood clotting issues that would actually be helped by taking baby aspirin. But baby aspirin doesn't really hurt anything either. 
    Someone correct me if I'm wrong about this, but I've never heard baby aspirin recommended aside from to possibly prevent loss. Or maybe it's to prevent the threat of blood clots elsewhere in your body, as pregnant women can be prone to those. 
    ETA: Google also says it can help prevent pre eclampsia. Did your doctor say why you should take it? I probably should not have tried to answer your question as it's clear I don't really know the answer.  :D
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    DD2: 10/2018  <3
  • @prairiemomma82 my midwife actually asked today if I was on ASA but I don't know why. 

    Also, I was told by my doctor that dopplers are associated with a risk of autism, and to stay away from them. Ultrasounds are safe, but studdies have been showing a correlation between dopplers and autism, and while it is not yet proven, he said it's not worth the risk. So for myself, I decided my peace of mind is not worth the risk. But as with every single decision we make while pregnant, you have to weigh the pros and cons and decide what's best for you. (I was ready to buy one before he told me not to. So I totally get people wanting to use one!)
  • @offtoneverland thanks! They added a bunch of supplements to my pill line up at the appointment, so it was tricky to keep straight (should have been taking notes, I was still on just-heard-a-heartbeat-high) I have never heard about taking it for pregnancy, I do believe it was preeclampsia risk related though? She said something about placenta too? They want me taking two at bedtime every day, staring immediately. Between my celiac disease, diabetes, history of loss, and age, I guess I’m checking a lot of boxes. I was talking to a fellow who is working with my regular ob-gyn and she even said to DH and I, “I really do hope things go well so I get to know you guys better, you’re fun!” It was a nice sentiment, but also felt a bit pessimistic. 

    @babybrain2018 that’s what I was reading too. I really want the reassurance, but don’t want to add more risk to the mix. I emailed my dr to ask her opinion. 
  • @prairiemomma82 Doctors don’t like Home dopplers because they can cause unnecessary stress on mom’s if they can’t find baby’s heartbeat. Sometimes it can be really tricky. I have a Home Doppler and don’t use it very often. Once you feel baby move it becomes unnecessary. 
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  • josie12367josie12367 member
    edited April 2018
    @jkmartin723 So glad you were checked out and things seem to be on track. Stay hydrated and get some rest hun!
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  • @blumoon18 Holy science, Batman! That was awesome, thank you so much for sharing. 
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    DD1: 8/2014  <3
    TTC #2: 6/2017
    BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
    BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
    BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
    BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
    DD2: 10/2018  <3
  • @lurvleybunchococonuts So I read it over again, and I was mistaken in that the study did look at various types of ultrasounds including doppler. However, doppler was not associated with the "deeper" scan risk, but the regular ultrasound was (at least that was my take). Per this CNN article (https://www.cnn.com/2018/02/12/health/ultrasound-autism-study/index.html), a radiologist said, "Please don't cause any undo fear in the minds of pregnant women. They have enough to worry about," Ziskin said. If anything, the study "should give expectant mothers confidence that ultrasound will not cause autism spectrum disorder or delayed development," he said." 

    Oh dear, too late.. 
  • STMs: Is anyone else dealing with hemroids already? I can't believe this has started already!! It is actually waking me up at night. Ugh!
  • MouseMama817MouseMama817 member
    edited April 2018
    Does anyone know of/recommend a newborn insert that can be purchased separately and used in the PNP? I know there’s the Dock a tot but that ish is expensive. 

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  • HR work related questions. On my manager’s advice, I emailed our director of HR asking about details and specifics of what I will eventually need to do for my short term disability/leave of absence for maternity leave. My manager said HR is kind of terrible at this stuff, so to follow up, get everything in writing, and copy him on emails if they are ignoring me. It took a week to get a response, and the response from HR was her setting me an outlook event to call her tomorrow morning. 1) I haven’t exactly announced to everyone (I’m a pretty private person), so I don’t really want to have this conversation on the phone at work, and 2) I emailed her for a reason. I want an email response. 

    Is it reasonable for me to respond to her outlook invite just saying I’m more comfortable having this conversation via email at this time? I feel like she’s the HR director, I shouldn’t have to say these things, but I also feel weird responding with that since she’s so much higher up than I am....

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  • @runningyogimama I think that's a perfectly acceptable response.  If they need it to be an actual conversation than they can schedule a meeting in their office.  Seems obtuse of them to schedule a phone conversation at this point.

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  • @lurvleybunchococonuts They are in a completely different office, halfway across the country, so an in person meeting isn’t realistic, but I was super caught off guard at the request for a phone call, when a simple email response of what I need to do and the timeline for it is all I need right now.

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  • @runningyogimama oh I guess yeah, an in person meeting wouldn't work than lol.  Still... for that sensitive of a matter you'd think they'd handle it differently.

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  • Thanks all for the thoughtful responses/studies/opinions regarding home Doppler’s. It’s greatly appreciated! I’m going to go ahead and purchase one to use carefully and with reliastoc expectations this early in the game (8w3d)
  • @runningyogimama, I wouldn't let the HR person's position intimidate you.  When it comes down to it, you don't report to him or her.  FWIW, I find it super annoying when people send me random meeting invites without first checking if I am available.  Along those lines, there are a few things you can do... you can decline the invite and say you are already booked and re-ask your questions via the email, saying something like "in the meantime, while we work on rescheduling our conversation, can you tell me..." or just be straight and say you would appreciate a written answer since you don't want co-workers overhearing -- they should be fine with that since HR matters obviously need to be private.

    Or, you can do the opposite and accept the meeting but take the call in a conference room or other private place.... I like to use my cell phone and go sit in my car if I don't have anywhere else available.  On the call, you can say that you will also want an email/written confirmation of everything discussed so you have it documented for future reference (baby brain is for real!!). 
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  • @purelex I ended up declining the invitation and included in my decline response that I would feel more comfortable discussing this via email. We have to book conference rooms, so I would have no way of knowing which one is available (unless she scheduled it for me, which it doesn’t seem like she would do), and I have a 15 min walk from my parking garage to work, so I can’t even go sit in my car and take the call. I didn’t feel the conversation needed to be a call...I just need to be told what I need to do/fill out, by when, and who I should direct my questions to. I felt like she should be able to just answer those questions in an email (or direct me to who could answer them). 

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