Weekly Randoms 3/26

nlc8424

It's the last week of March! I think spring may actually be on its way where I live! What's going on this week?

DanyTargaryen

I actually get Good Friday off so it's a 4 days week for me. Hoping I can manage to take at least a half day Thursday, or maybe even the whole day to make it an even shorter week!

southernlady07

@DanyTargaryen Me too!! I love three day weekends. I always feel like I actually have time to enjoy my weekend AND get things done. Plus, that's three days of naps! 

SkilledSailor

@DanyTargaryen Girl I like your style. Yes to a shorter work week! 

I'm having a staffing issue with my business which is super frustrating. Theres a good chance I'll need to ask H to leave his full time job a bit early this week to do a pick-up. I feel bad because he's already overworked at his normal job. I hate it when I need to ask him for help with my business on top of that. 

DanyTargaryen

Aww man. Good luck this week @SkilledSailor!!

nlc8424

Good luck @SkilledSailor, hope your H can help!

My H will be out of town tomorrow and Wednesday so I'll be on the struggle bus trying to get out the door the next few days. Currently dealing with frustrations regarding starting a class at work. I've been in touch with marketing and they've dropped the ball on the timing of the advertising and didn't get me fliers that they promised. I'll either need to postpone the class to do some more advertising or put it on hold once again since it's pointless to have less than 5 participants. It can be so tough having to rely on other people for projects.

knitknitread

@SkilledSailor Good luck this week!

I really need to start packing this week but I really have no desire to get everything packed up.

SkilledSailor

@nlc8424 How frustrating! Which way do you think you will go with the class? 

@knitknitread What are you packing for?

nlc8424

@SkilledSailor I think I'm going to extend advertising for a few more weeks and ask for the fliers, and then wait to see how many sign up.

MandyMost

We started a home renovation project today. I'm freaking out! Ahhhhh! We're putting in a master bath and some closets. It should be done in plenty of time before the baby is here, and we can sleep in the now-empty room that will become the new nursery until they're done. So the timing really was right. But Ahhhhh! This morning they helped move all the furniture for us, and they're (supposedly) doing demo right now. I'm dying to see it when I get home. It's supposed to take up to 3 months until it's done, but fingers crossed it's much quicker. I'm just dying to see it when I get home, it might be all torn apart. Hopefully it's nicely contained and cleaned up like it's supposed to be!

knitknitread

@SkilledSailor We are having to move. Our current landlord is wanting to sell their house. We knew it was coming (eta- and our lease is up) and we couldn't get the financing to purchase the house, unfortunately.

We lucked out the my Step-grandmother went in to a nursing home recently (she is enjoying it). So, we are getting to rent her house for cheap. It works out well for everyone because it keeps her house from going into disrepair. It's not forever and it puts us in a better situation to save more money for a down payment.

yosemite2018

Not much going on this week, I’m still exhausted from work but the end of tax season is luckily in sight. Thursday the architects are coming to measure our property so I am looking forward to seeing designs for the addition after that! We’re most likely adding a jacuzzi in our side yard (right outside the master bedroom) which I am super excited for! Construction will probably last through late winter/early spring of next year so hopefully we won’t be displaced from our house for too much of it (but we can stay with my parents when we need to, so not a huge deal).

Other than that we’re planning our sex reveal party. We decided to do a piñata with blue candy. Everyone has been trying to get me to drop hints non stop for 3 days so it will be a long 13 additional days until we reveal!

SkilledSailor

@knitknitread That's good that the timing ended up working out for a win-win for both you and your SGM! I understand not wanting to pack up an entire house though. Moving stinks. 

yogapants247

Sooo - I think we have a house!!! We put an offer in on Saturday morning and it was accepted by late afternoon! We don't have the inspection for another week, but the sellers seemed to take really good care of the house/property and most of the big stuff is new, so I feel very optimistic it will go well. I cannot believe we might actually be moving into a HOUSE in 30 days! DH and I have been apartment-renters since we started dating (and before that), and I don't even know what we will do with so much space. I am so freaking excited for our toddler and for our dog, who both desperately need a yard, and this house has a perfect one. 

We moved down to NC from NYC a little over a year ago because we knew we weren't going to be able to afford a home up there within the next decade, and we've made many other big changes in our lives to make this happen. It just feels like a dream come true, and I seriously cannot stop smiling. 

pourmeanothermocktail

@yogapants247 YAY!!! That sounds so much like my life, we just bought our first house in October, and even as a kid growing up I didn't live in houses, but only cheap sometimes nasty apartments and townhouses. That's so exciting! Fingers crossed for everything going smoothly!

knitknitread

@yogapants247 That's so great! Crossing everything that it goes smoothly!

Redpuma119

@yogapants247 Becoming a home owner is really such a big moment! Happy for you guys!

nlc8424

@yogapants247 yay! That's so exciting, as tough as it may be at times I love being a homeowner and I'm sure you will too. Fingers crossed the inspection goes well!

jumpy57

@yogapants247 congrats that's so exciting!!!!! 

treeofcheem

@yogapants247 Congrats! That's so exciting! And it must feel great to have things come together after making big changes like that. MH has talked about moving out of this area a million times because it's so expensive, but we've been very fortunate with certain family situations and were able to buy a house last year. Without the help from family and a few things falling into place we couldn't have done it, but actually packing up and moving can be hard to do!

DanyTargaryen

Congrats @yogapants247!!

Wishilivedinflorida

Congrats @yogapants247! Such great news!

nlc8424

Speaking of home renovations I have two good contacts for getting quotes to redo our hall bath including a neighbor (who is a distant family friend) and my daycare providers husband who does contracting. I'm excited to get the ball rolling and finally have bathrooms without carpeting in them, haha who would have thought that would be so exciting.

treeofcheem

I've seen several friends post this on FB, but if you haven't seen it floating around on the Internet somewhere already it's a great visual (IMO) of contractions and giving birth. Obviously a baby is bigger than a ping-pong ball, though...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URyEZusnjBI

klj0228

@treeofcheem that is the best visualization I have seen to explain contractions and effacement without it being too graphic. Thank you for sharing

SkilledSailor

@yogapants247 Yay! Congratulations! You're in Western NC, is that right? I know quite a few people who move from NY or CA partly to enjoy homeownership here. 

@nlc8424 That is very exciting! Who decided carpet would be a good idea for bathrooms? Ick. What else will you be doing to the bathrooms? I love home renos. 

@pourmeamocktail How's everything going with your family? 

Y'all, Carter's is having a 50% off sale and it's taking everything in me not to go buy cute clothes. Logically, I know I should be buying the boring things like the cloth diapers instead. But baby clothes are so much more fun! 

southernlady07

@SkilledSailor You can't go wrong with cute sleepers and onesies! You will NEED those, too 

yogapants247

@SkilledSailor - We're in Charlotte!

nlc8424

@SkilledSailor I wish I was kidding when I said that my kitchen had carpet too when we moved in! Most of the main floor did, but a decent amount had hardwoods underneath. So our hall bath is a total gut. Pink tub, pink toilet, pink sink and old vanity. Fake tile on the walls. So we want to put tile on the floor, new tub (nothing fancy), new toilet, new vanity. Probably will just paint the walls. I actually need to look for some inspiration for decor for the bathroom. Our master also needs to have carpet removed and tile put in, the rest is fairly updated. I'll post before and after pics once we're ready!

klj0228

@yogapants247  congrats on the house! That is so exciting, especially all the extra space and knowing it is all yours! We are north of Charlotte, not too far from Hickory. 

pourmeanothermocktail

SkilledSailor said:

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@pourmeamocktail How's everything going with your family? 

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TW: Family loss, cancer

Well, today we got the biopsy done, but it's more to find out what type and what stage rather than IF it's cancer, if you understand. The CT scan was pretty clear (I've seen it) and with a 71 year old that's been smoking for more than 50 years, it's a matter of likelihood too.

So far, my mom is hoping to come up and visit in June for a wedding and DS's birthday. But that would depend on one of my aunts being able to travel to Florida from either Chicago or Seattle in order to take over for her. And obviously a lot hinges on what types of treatment, if any, are available, and how much time they think we'll have (I know I sound pretty low hope, but I've got a lot of experience with cancer unfortunately, and I think it's realistic to ask how much time rather than talk of long term remission). Crossing fingers that either a short span without much suffering, or a quick treatment with a year of good time after is in our cards. Maybe that's harsh, but that would make it possible for my mom to be here for birth/recovery, and a year of good time would make it possible for her to meet great-grandchild number 5.

I just wish we hadn't just been through this, for perspective my grandfather was hospitalized mid-september, diagnosed first week of October, and gone February 1st...this year. I know she's not happy without him, so I'd really prefer she doesn't suffer more.

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And in a selfish fashion, knowing that DH can't take days off for this birth, and there's pretty much no one else around that can help more than 2 hours a week (or me handling my MIL for hours, but still only one day per week) while I am at home with barely 2 year old (hopefully more verbal by then, lol?) and newborn with no sitter, I'd really really like my mom to be here.

nackie

@pourmeamocktail you said MIL is an hour away?  Is your son close with her?  Maybe she could host him for a sleepover once a week or so?  That might be fun for both of them and you wouldn’t have to deal with her more than you can tolerate. 

pourmeanothermocktail

nackie said:

@pourmeamocktail you said MIL is an hour away?  Is your son close with her?  Maybe she could host him for a sleepover once a week or so?  That might be fun for both of them and you wouldn’t have to deal with her more than you can tolerate. 

An hour away, and she's not really into him. she self-admits that babies and toddlers aren't really her thing. She will only watch him with her husband, and it's only happened maybe three times total in his life? Not ideal for his first sleep overs. He doesn't sleep through the night regularly yet, still prefers to nurse overnight once. So while it's a good idea in theory, probably not feasible either. He's really only close with my mom. But she's the one that really tried to bond. 

SkilledSailor

@yogapants247 That's what I thought! Such a fun area! We live in the Triangle.

@nlc8424 Ugh whose idea was it to carpet in those areas? So silly! Can't wait to see some before and afters! 

@pourmeamocktail *hugs* That is a lot to be dealing with emotionally on top of everything else. So sorry. 

klj0228

@pourmeamocktail I’m sorry you are having to deal with all of this in a time that can already be stressful enough. Sending you lots of hugs! 

pourmeanothermocktail

Thanks all. I support appreciate the support and space to speak, it means a bunch. 

Sad or maybe good thing? is that it's still less stress than last pregnancy. I know we will get through, and I'm going to do my best to just ride the storm. I really feel like my stress was a major contributing factor to pre mature labor last time, so I'm trying to do what I can to stay chill. What I really want for my birthday is a giftcard for prenatal yoga.

adirat

Oh @pourmeamocktail I missed your previous update. I'm sorry you are dealing with so much. Hugs.

nlc8424

@pourmeamocktail I know how it feels to be "insensitive" to terminal illnesses. I hope that your grandma is comfortable and not in pain no matter what, I'm sorry for all that your family is going through. Totally okay to want to be selfish IMO and want things to happen sooner rather than later so you can have your mom back. Big hugs.

pourmeanothermocktail

My little guy has already been to 4 funerals. He's 21 months y'all. I personally have watched three family members waste away slowly, and I'd prefer quick and as painless as possible for anyone. If they do find a treatment with high success rates, low suffering, and lots more quality time-I'm all for it. But f*ck cancer guys. 

nlc8424

@SkilledSailor BTW, it was a little old lady who decided the whole house needed to be carpeted. No idea why, but they literally installed hardwood floors and put carpet on top right after so our hardwoods were like new when we moved in.

starla

@pourmeamocktail F*ck cancer! I'm sorry you're dealing with this and it's complicated with being pregnant with a little one. I hope it goes as well as it can for your grandma.