Selfishly created because i just signed up for our tour at the end of April and I’m super excited! Hoping to get more details at my appointment this Thursday too. I’m really hoping this hospital is open to immediate skin to skin during a c section.
I'm anxious this morning and I don't know why because I have no good reason really. So weird! Today is a busy day so maybe that's why. Wish every weekend was a 3-day weekend!
Some excitement to share revolves around 2 big decisions that were made, we decided on the stroller and on the SUV! feels good to stop doing all the research. We also already got some numbers from the dealership and it looks like we can get a really good interest rate and keep payments in check.
@wildtot We have our tour scheduled for mid-april. So excited! It seemed like so far away when I scheduled it back in January..Now it's right around the corner. So crazy!
@kissableviv I'm feeling anxious this morning as well. Not sure why? My day and week isn't too crazy.
We finally picked a color for the nursery! and have it all cleaned out and prepped ready to paint this week. And made an appointment for our registry this weekend. It's so overwhelming and we have no idea what we're looking for, so figured an appointment would be best. Feels good to get things moving. And my MIL offered to make a big ticket purchase for us, like a crib or stroller. So that was really nice of her.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
Ya'll. Please send all the coffee. In addition to normal, "I can't sleep or get comfortable" pregnancy issues last night I had to deal with my husband struggling to sleep. He does this "levitate above the mattress and then flop down like a whale" thing. So, he does that again at 3 am......and breaks the bed frame. Huge crack noise, mattress falls to the ground, and to top things off the glass break sensor goes off, setting off our house alarm. By the time I got back to sleep it was after 4 am. And the bed is only propped up with boards now, it'll have to be fixed or replaced (not in the budget).
@runsomewhere we decided on the Uppababy Vista for the stroller and we'll get the new VW Tiguan for the SUV. it is sooooooooo pretty inside and super spacious. It's a little more money than the CRV but it has a completely different design and feels a little less "plasticky" to me. I'm used to DH's Acura so I'm spoiled, lol. It is a good compromise to avoid the unnecessary extra $$ for the Volvo which I also had my eye on.
Plus with the whole dieselgate fiasco, VW is now offering really good warranty on their vehicles. My FIL had a Toureg that got recalled because of that whole scandal and he got so much money once he traded it in!
@wildtot hooray for the raise! That's pretty great! @MichelleAG05 how annoying! I'm sorry you didn't get much sleep!
Today was bounce house/free play day and in addition to staying 10 ft away from my child I actively ignored him for the entire time we were there as he played with a group of boys. They were rough housing and chasing and I just let them handle things (unless it looked unsafe). And the other parents were totally cool too! I'm getting a little better at not helicoptering...although Saturday at a party that MIL and FIL were also at FIL called DS "wild" and I was like...is taht good?? Its always something!
@MichelleAG05 oh man!! Our bed frame broke when I was pregnant with my last baby. We ended up sleeping on the floor till I was like 36 weeks and couldn’t handle it anymore. Then DH built us a bed. Hope you’re able to get it figured out!
@hillbillywife - I definitely thought through all the options last night when I wasn't sleeping and taking apart the frame and putting the mattress and boxspring on the floor is the top of the list. That will give DH time to fix the frame (if he can). The long-term plan was to move this bedroom set into the guest room once DD is ready to move to a big girl bed and get us a new King sized suite. But that's still probably 2-3 years from now because the set she will move into (that's currently in the guest room) is really tall! My dad built it for me when I was a girl so it's important to me that she use it.
Oh no @MichelleAG05 that sounds like a bad night! I also couldn't sleep, I don't know why, but I am SO tired. Driving to work this morning was a challenge.
We turned in our official one month written notice this morning pulling our son out of daycare. For those who didn't read on another thread, we had a big issue with the facility and I was uncomfortable keeping him there. My mom also had just offered to watch him full time while we get back on our feet financially, so the timing worked out. But, I definitely cried while writing the letter last night. I am so sad about pulling him out for some reason - I guess because I want him to have the social interaction and the learning, plus I wanted his life to stay the same and not be interrupted by my husband's job loss. Technically we could keep him in now that my H got a new job, but after what happened with the daycare lying to us, I would have to find a new facility, and then I would just have to pull him out yet again this summer when the baby comes since it would be too tight financially to keep him in on just my husband's salary while I'm on leave. We'll just use these next few months to try to save money, but I have serious anxiety and guilt going on today. Ugh parenting decisions are hard.
@zande2016 think of it as a time he will get to bond with his grandma and get extra special 1 on 1 time. I think you made the right choice bc that place sounded super shady.
@zande2016 your doing what is right for you and your family. The daycare is a total fault for this. Glad to hear your mom can watch him and you can save some money. Social interaction and growth doesn’t necessarily mean will end because of this. Your son can continue to strive regardless! I agree that it’s a better move to do now than the summer because that can be a lot of change for a little one. *hugs* hang in there your doing great!
Sorry about the no sleep @MichelleAG05! @hillbillywife, ugh, strep, well at least now you know and can focus on treating it. @zande2016 hugs. I also agree that this was the best decision, however I know it doesn't make it easier!
Broke a molar lastnight while eating a tostada...ugh!!! Now I'm sitting at the dentist hoping to all the things holy:
1. Doesn't cost me an arm and a leg, even with insurance. 2. It doesnt hurt.
Eta: Because Im pregnant, the dentist has to have written approval from my ob to give me local anesthesia. So I'm not able to get anything taken care of until then. Dh is here bitching at me saying they can't help me and I need to just deal with the broken molar. Also, he is telling me I could have waited on this. He is irritating the F OUT of me.
Thanks for the support @wildtot@kissableviv@moguippy! my mom used to watch him full time (well 4 days a week, my H always had Thursday's off before) from when he was born until 12 mos when he went into daycare. she was and still is amazing with him and they are very close and have a great bond, which I love, but I feel she keeps him inside too much and always has the TV on. It is more of an issue now that he's older and not an infant anymore. It's just habit/background noise a lot and I know she still interacts with him a ton, but I want to encourage her to get out with him more. Maybe I'll see if she wants to do a music class with him or something. He absolutely loves seeing his grandma and gets so excited when we tell him she's coming over, I just want him to be around other kids too.
@zande2016 I’m so sorry this is a hard adjustment. I agree with what @wildtot said. He’ll be able to be well adjusted still. I’m sure your mom will do fun things with him that get him around other kids. And maybe this first step will lead to something even better!
@zande2016 maybe put together a list of activities for her to bring him to. Like reading hour at the library on tuesdays and play group on thursdays, etc. Maybe that could work?
I just signed up for Muir Mommies. I am so thrilled I'm almost emotional about it.
Muir Mommies is a free weekly mom group for moms with newborns offered by my hospital (John Muir). It's 8-9 weeks and it's grouped by delivery date so all the women in your group, about 20, all have babies super close in age. It's led by the woman that teaches the labor, breast feeding, newborn care classes. The structure is a brief discussion of a different topic each day, followed by casual conversation. You sit in these floor chairs with your baby next to you/in front of you either in their car seat or on a blanket. It's super friendly and laid back, you change your baby or feed them right there, get support and ask any questions you may have.
I attended this when my DD was a newborn and I cannot express what a great tool it is for new moms. The instructor is so knowledgeable, you get out of the house and make new, local mom friends who have babies pretty much the identical age as you.
I highly recommend this program or anything similar that you ladies may have access to.
@runsomewhere Thanks for the advice! I haven't signed up for any birthing/pregnancy classes and don't think I'm going to, but this sounds like a good class. Just signed up!
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@runsomewhere I went to a weekly breastfeeding support group with DD until I returned to work. It was 20-30 women in chairs in a circle just breastfeeding their baby. Everyone introduces themselves at the beginning and two lactation consultants assist anyone that wants it. It was 2 hours and most of the time was just chatting with other moms. I had a terrible start BF DD so I went the first week she was born and found it very therapeutic getting help, talking to people in similar situations, and just simply getting out of the house! I don't know if I can swing it once this LO comes since DD will only be 1 yo but I definitely recommend it (or something similar) to any mom, especially FTMs
I want to cry tears of joy. I attempted a walk in for my fingerprints for my citizenship application and they were super nice and let me in...the officer even made jokes...a little surreal but I still can't believe they got me in and out in 10 minutes! So grateful that I don't have to reschedule and I'm actually gaining a week in the whole process since I went in early. Good things can happen on Mondays!
@zombiehoohaa no fun! I had a chippef tooth/filling done during my second tri with my first but some dentists are more cautious. @zande2016 I so feel you. It is easy to just stay home but so so important for the littles to get socialized. Hope she is willing to take him to a class.
sending health and caffeine vibes to everyone as well!!
@zande2016 I’m glad you got everything figured out. What a lucky kiddo to get to spend quality time with grandma! As far as getting out, do you have a local children’s museum? We got a membership to ours for a pretty reasonable one time fee. We mostly go on the weekends for free play, but ours also offers tons of scheduled activities during the week. Maybe you have something similar near you?
So tomorrow is our 3rd wedding anniversary. I feel terrible that I haven't gotten him anything yet but he hates gifts and spending money and I work late tomorrow night. I got us sparkling juice for tonight and tomorrow and a cheesecake to have a mini celebration tonight after DD went to bed. I really have any expectations but to be honest I will be really disappointed if he doesn't do anything tomorrow which feels silly since I didn't really do anything.
@lindsayleigh1989 happy anniversary! Anniversaries are hard, my DH is a little more romantic than me, and pre kid we always went out to eat. Post kid...not much happens, lol, but I always wish we did a little something. I hope your mini celebration turns out great!
Found another consignment sale in early April! It’s starts during the week and goes into the weekend so hopefully they’ll still have stuff by the weekend. Me+consignment sale = danger for my wallet lol
@lindsayleigh1989 happy anniversary! My H is the same way. He would rather me not buy him anything big or expensive. And because he’s the only one making money I usually don’t do anything crazy for him. Hopefully you have a nice little celebration anyways though!
@zande2016 glad one stress is behind you - did you ever get a solid answer on what daycare was really doing? Was it just to make a spot like you thought? @wildtot I went to homegoods to pick up a wood cutting board to pyrograph a monogram on for the bridzilla shower this weekend and then got like 7x as much costing stuff for us/new kitchen lol and that was being reserved - oops
So I was poking around the internet about showers and found this horrendous bit of baby shower lack of etiquette (i'm still shaking my head and laughing) so thought I'd share: unbelievable-tales-of-baby-shower-gift-grubbing-greed/
@gingerbride26 I did not find out what really happened, but I decided to let it go for now, because I am afraid to report it or do anything that might make them mistreat my son in the month he last left there. Once he's done, I might write to or call the owners or look into reporting it. Not sure if I'll ever truly know what happened.
@moguippy that is terrible, I'm sorry! Check local mom facebook groups and see if anyone is giving away an unopened pump - I see it all the time, sometimes women will get one through insurance but never use it.
@moguippy I have grandfathered insurance so was surprised that mine did cover a pump. I talked to a friend and hers wasn't covered so she found a used one online for cheap but replaced all the tubing and parts that touch the milk. She said it ended up being was less expensive that way so maybe some thing you could look into?
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
I emailed the insurance and they will cover 80% of the cost of a pump (up to $500) after I reach my deductible, if I go to a covered retailer. According to their search tool, there is not a covered retailer in my state. wtf. why is this so difficult. I don't mind paying a little if it means I can pick what pump I want. But I don't want to drive 2 hours to get it. I emailed them back and told them to find me a covered retailer in my state. We'll see what they say...
Re: Weekday Randoms 3/19
Some excitement to share revolves around 2 big decisions that were made, we decided on the stroller and on the SUV! feels good to stop doing all the research. We also already got some numbers from the dealership and it looks like we can get a really good interest rate and keep payments in check.
@kissableviv I'm feeling anxious this morning as well. Not sure why? My day and week isn't too crazy.
We finally picked a color for the nursery! and have it all cleaned out and prepped ready to paint this week. And made an appointment for our registry this weekend. It's so overwhelming and we have no idea what we're looking for, so figured an appointment would be best. Feels good to get things moving. And my MIL offered to make a big ticket purchase for us, like a crib or stroller. So that was really nice of her.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
Sigh.
Plus with the whole dieselgate fiasco, VW is now offering really good warranty on their vehicles. My FIL had a Toureg that got recalled because of that whole scandal and he got so much money once he traded it in!
Woo! I got an unexpected focal raise. Not much but still worth something with baby coming.
Today was bounce house/free play day and in addition to staying 10 ft away from my child I actively ignored him for the entire time we were there as he played with a group of boys. They were rough housing and chasing and I just let them handle things (unless it looked unsafe). And the other parents were totally cool too! I'm getting a little better at not helicoptering...although Saturday at a party that MIL and FIL were also at FIL called DS "wild" and I was like...is taht good?? Its always something!
also- yay for hospital tours!!
@wildtot congrats on your raise!!
I took DS to the docs today. Turns out he has strep. Hooray. But at least he should be able to go back to school tomorrow.
We turned in our official one month written notice this morning pulling our son out of daycare. For those who didn't read on another thread, we had a big issue with the facility and I was uncomfortable keeping him there. My mom also had just offered to watch him full time while we get back on our feet financially, so the timing worked out. But, I definitely cried while writing the letter last night. I am so sad about pulling him out for some reason - I guess because I want him to have the social interaction and the learning, plus I wanted his life to stay the same and not be interrupted by my husband's job loss. Technically we could keep him in now that my H got a new job, but after what happened with the daycare lying to us, I would have to find a new facility, and then I would just have to pull him out yet again this summer when the baby comes since it would be too tight financially to keep him in on just my husband's salary while I'm on leave. We'll just use these next few months to try to save money, but I have serious anxiety and guilt going on today. Ugh parenting decisions are hard.
@hillbillywife, ugh, strep, well at least now you know and can focus on treating it.
@zande2016 hugs. I also agree that this was the best decision, however I know it doesn't make it easier!
https://money.cnn.com/2018/03/17/news/companies/toys-r-us-closing-questions-answered/index.html
1. Doesn't cost me an arm and a leg, even with insurance.
2. It doesnt hurt.
Eta:
Because Im pregnant, the dentist has to have written approval from my ob to give me local
anesthesia. So I'm not able to get anything taken care of until then. Dh is here bitching at me saying they can't help me and I need to just deal with the broken molar. Also, he is telling me I could have waited on this. He is irritating the F OUT of me.
@kissableviv exactly! Time to get better!
@zande2016 I’m so sorry this is a hard adjustment. I agree with what @wildtot said. He’ll be able to be well adjusted still. I’m sure your mom will do fun things with him that get him around other kids. And maybe this first step will lead to something even better!
@zombiehoohaa fingers crossed for a good outcome!
Muir Mommies is a free weekly mom group for moms with newborns offered by my hospital (John Muir). It's 8-9 weeks and it's grouped by delivery date so all the women in your group, about 20, all have babies super close in age. It's led by the woman that teaches the labor, breast feeding, newborn care classes. The structure is a brief discussion of a different topic each day, followed by casual conversation. You sit in these floor chairs with your baby next to you/in front of you either in their car seat or on a blanket. It's super friendly and laid back, you change your baby or feed them right there, get support and ask any questions you may have.
I attended this when my DD was a newborn and I cannot express what a great tool it is for new moms. The instructor is so knowledgeable, you get out of the house and make new, local mom friends who have babies pretty much the identical age as you.
I highly recommend this program or anything similar that you ladies may have access to.
@zande2016 i second the activity schedule or classes! Maybe look into some free days at local museums she can take him to.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@zande2016 I so feel you. It is easy to just stay home but so so important for the littles to get socialized. Hope she is willing to take him to a class.
sending health and caffeine vibes to everyone as well!!
@wildtot I went to homegoods to pick up a wood cutting board to pyrograph a monogram on for the bridzilla shower this weekend and then got like 7x as much costing stuff for us/new kitchen lol and that was being reserved - oops
So I was poking around the internet about showers and found this horrendous bit of baby shower lack of etiquette (i'm still shaking my head and laughing) so thought I'd share:
unbelievable-tales-of-baby-shower-gift-grubbing-greed/
@moguippy that is terrible, I'm sorry! Check local mom facebook groups and see if anyone is giving away an unopened pump - I see it all the time, sometimes women will get one through insurance but never use it.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19