Oh no she didn't... PLUS a question

mintea

I have been in slow, prodromal labor for a week now. When I saw my OB three days ago she said she wouldn't be surprised if I went the next day but... I'm still pregnant and irritable and uncomfortable and getting exhausted. I burst into tears this morning when I woke up to a dozen messages of congratulations on my phone. My mom posted something stupidly vague on Facebook like "Grandson - so excited!" I am going to kill her. It was a dumb mistake but I can't express how much I didn't need that right now.   

Quasi relevant question: did any of you stop working before super active labor? Like I am sitting at my desk, super uncomfortable. I think the attitude here is once I go out the baby should arrive within 12 hours. What are some words to say to basically indicate I can't do this anymore and I need to just rest until he arrives?

kiki75

I sent an email to my manager and office mates when I was still in triage hell and not yet admitted: Been up all night. Feel like garbage. Won’t be in today. 

The end. Hello HIPPA. If they ask for a note, I’m sure your doctor would write one. They’ll get over it. 

fatstagnation

ask your mom to make another post clarifying that LO is not here yet. You don't need to reply/explain to anyone at this point. It's her mistake, let her fix it. 

maelily15

I’m having the opposite problem with my work- they all apparently expected me to take time before the baby arrived and are constantly surprised to keep seeing me at work (due Saturday). My work has been ramping down my assignments in anticipation of me going out and they’re doing it voluntarily. 
But each work situation is different. Like @kiki75 said, due to HIPAA laws, they can’t probe you for an exact medical reason why you need to take leave. But it’s always good to have it in writing from your doctor in case your employer are jerks and attempt to penalize you. Honestly, they shouldn’t make too much of a fuss because you’re within a few weeks of your due date. 
I also agree with letting your mom handle the mess she created but if you want to clarify to stop the incoming premature well wishes because it’s a constant reminder of your continued misery (I’m there too), you could post something to your social media about it- and then make your mom one of the last calls you make after baby arrives. Honestly, with DD1, I had wished that we hadn’t announced when the induction was scheduled because our phones were blowing up with people wanting updated (social media and text and phone alike). Not fun after 24 plus hours of labor. This time, we’re not announcing until after baby arrives and threatening my MIL with serious consequences if she announces on social media before us (which she did with the gender reveal). We can’t avoid telling her when it’s go time because she’s going to be caring for DD1 but we have set strict social media boundaries because we don’t want any unnecessary distractions. 

stardustskies

My last day was the 16th and I'm not due til the 26th. I just wasn't feeling it anymore and my patience was too thin. I figure I can get whatever last minute stuff done that I need to and just relax with some "me time" before the baby is here. 

paigew123

I’ve got everyone at work routing for an overdue baby so I can make all deadlines this week. 
So far he’s listening to them as I’m officially overdue! 
Was so hoping baby would be here already so I wouldn’t need to deal with it all....
i though of just telling them I won’t be in past my due date and that’s final, but I care too much about my damn job!!! 

maelily15

I completely understand @paigew123! My job is offering voluntary work hours on Saturday (my due date) and I’m seriously considering going in if they haven’t scheduled the eviction by then. I haven’t missed out on voluntary extra hours since switching to my new department 9 months ago. I’m supposed to go out on FMLA as of Friday but we can always rewrite that paperwork- nobody expected me to last this long since I had a pree induction with DD1 at 37 weeks.