MH had to report for Jury Duty selection this morning. When he got the letter in the mail, I panicked thinking it was for me and I started planning how I was going to get out of it by telling them I'd need hourly pee/snack breaks.
We are expected to get bad weather this afternoon I'm planning to work through lunch and leave early to hopefully avoid driving in it.
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
MH had to report for Jury Duty selection this morning. When he got the letter in the mail, I panicked thinking it was for me and I started planning how I was going to get out of it by telling them I'd need hourly pee/snack breaks.
We are expected to get bad weather this afternoon I'm planning to work through lunch and leave early to hopefully avoid driving in it.
I had jury duty while pregnant with DS. They wouldn't let me go based solely on the fact that I was pregnant and had to pee often. I was told I could go, but it wouldn't be considered serving and I could be called again soon instead of being on the 3 year exemption list for having served.
_______________________________________________________________________________________________ MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks DS born 9/13/16 BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
@southernlady07 I got selected for jury duty with a four week old baby. I wrote a letter to be dismissed and took it to the courthouse but was told too many people had already been exempt and that I had to go! I was panicking about it for weeks and told them I was breastfeeding and would have no choice but to bring my newborn. On the Friday prior to when it was supposed to start I got a call that the case had been thrown out and I was no longer needed. All that stress for nothing! I would actually not mind doing it if I was selected not pregnant and not with a newborn. Hopefully your hubby gets an interesting case!
@born2run911 I’m curious what they said when you told them you would have to bring baby with you since you were breastfeeding. I’m thinking if you had actually had to serve and showed up with a baby they would not have been happy.
Kind of a busy day at work, I'll likely be fairly MIA tomorrow through Thursday except at night since I'll be at a different location for my job. Looking forward to this weekend already, I have a hair cut scheduled and I'm hoping my new ring will be in and I'll be able to go pick it up. Also I'm fairly certain my H is home all week which is great! We need some time together so I hope we can spend some QT together after DS goes to bed.
@born2run911 I’m curious what they said when you told them you would have to bring baby with you since you were breastfeeding. I’m thinking if you had actually had to serve and showed up with a baby they would not have been happy.
This happened to me and I was told I would have to make arrangements for someone to care for my daughter and that I was to not bring her to the courthouse. BFing was not an acceptable excuse.
@knitknitread WTF?! I’d raise some major hell about that if I couldn’t bring my newborn while breastfeeding.
I have a relatively slow week this week and I’m so excited about it. Hoping to get computer work done for the business. Then some cleaning and finishing painting the nursery. Just one wall left!
@born2run911 I’m curious what they said when you told them you would have to bring baby with you since you were breastfeeding. I’m thinking if you had actually had to serve and showed up with a baby they would not have been happy.
The court clerks were aware I was planning on bringing a newborn. I am also curious as to what would have happened if I actually showed up with a baby but I guess I’ll never know now! @knitknitread that would also make me furious. Daycare for 5 week olds is not readily available. It’s crazy you can be exempt for being a college student but not a breastfeeding mother (I do think students should be exempt). @adirat did it seem like they were pissed she showed up with a babe?
I’m too lazy to resurrect the social media thread. We had a good appt today at 13 weeks and are now fb official! Had to share thebpic because dd is just too cute.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@knitknitread that’s insane! It’s an newborn not a 6 month old or something. I practice in our circuit court almost daily so now you have me curious. Tomorrow I’m totally going to ask around for the policy.
Oh, I made just they knew exactly how I felt about their policy. It was ridiculous. Hell, not everyone even has access to someone to watch their children anyway.
@born2run911 Nope, not at all. The court clerk fawned over how cute the baby was then stamped the mom's form and they went home. It makes sense to me. Forcing a new mother or father to be on jury duty is ridiculous. Give them the two year break or whatever.
@SkilledSailor ...she has not stopped touching my stomach and talking to her baby “brubah or sistah” since we got home. In hindsight, I should have waited and told her on a weekend when dh would be around to provide a buffer...tomorrow is gonna be a looonngg day. Haha!
I’m pretty partial to the cuteness, when she cooperates she takes a good picture. Once a year we do a big photoshoot and she poses for a calendar we then fill w cf facts and sell as a fundraiser. They’ve been a big hit w family and friends.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
Here they don’t excuse you from jury duty for having a newborn but you can postpone it for up to a year I believe. I postponed until the day after DD’s first birthday which was the week of Thanksgiving (it’s very unlikely to get called then).
@born2run911 Oh my gosh, that is so stressful! I'm so glad it worked out for you. I would also enjoy doing it, but not while pregnant or breastfeeding!
MH eventually got dismissed because they had enough people, but said after going through the selection process he would have been interested in serving on the jury. It was a first degree murder case!
Me: 32 DH: 32 BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012 BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Haha my friends and I just had a huge debate about it. I tried earlier in the day with no success, then was able to balance then, and now I can't do it anymore. Some of them believe you can always balance eggs so I told them to do it tomorrow, send me a picture, and the debate will be over.
I'm waiting for my NT scan and someone in the waiting room used some super scented lotion. Omg. I'm gonna puke. In a room full of pregnant women you'd think they'd know better!!! It's so mean!!! And it's hot in here! Or I'm having hormones. Ugh. I feel icky
So I am going to rant/vent a little. I told everyone last week that DH told his mom I’m pregnant via text message. She finally called me today and asked how I was feeling, then immediately talked about how excited she is and she has already picked out what she wants to be called. She said, I’ve decided I’m going to be Nana. I told her I would have to think about it because my mom is Nonna and I think they are too close to the same thing. Really I was more mad that she spent 30 minutes talking about how excited she is and only asked once about me. This is my baby and my pregnancy! She should have asked if Brian and I are excited, have we had an us, have we heard the heartbeat?! Instead it was all about how excited she is and what she wants to be called.
I think it got to me because she is always all about her. My pregnancy and my baby story is not going to be all about you! I am not going to lose myself and my wants in all of the things that other people want. I think I am going to lay down the law early, at Easter, that none of them will be at the hospital when baby is born. We will call after the baby is born and 4 hours later everyone can come visit. My hospital has a 2 hour rule, but I want to expand it some so we can rest and spend time as a family of 3.
@klj0228 that’s annoying that she’s so focused on herself. Some people just can’t let themselves not be the center of attention. If it helps at all with the Nana/Nonna issue, my dad is Papa and DH’s dad is Papi. DS has never seemed confused about who’s who. (he does confuse Papi and Poppy the doggie that lives down the street, but that’s a whole other issue). If you just don’t want to let her have her way though I can’t blame you too much
@klj0228 If it helps at all, kids usually come up with their own names for grandparents :shrugs: My MIL hates it but DD insists on calling her Mamaw, even though we have all only ever referred to her as "grandma".
@nackie I agree w knitknitread! Dd refused to say “grandma”, she would say “grammie” and “grand” and “ma”, but ask her to say “grandma” and she said “Fwafwa” thus my mother in law is now named Fwafwa by all the grankids... forst grankid perks! Haha
Also, kids are super adaptable dd caught on early that some people have more than one name. We call my fil “Bamper” but he hates it, so when he is around he is “Granpa”. ...there may be a little spite involved among his kids...
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
@klj0228 my mom is really good at turning things around and making it about her, it drives me crazy. I have to limit my communication with her about certain topics to avoid the woe is me guilt trip. Also, it drives her nuts that DS says grandpa, nana and papa but not grammie. He tries to say something along those lines but it's hard to understand.
Thanks everyone! I know there is a chance our kid will just choose a name based on what they can pronounce or like to say. I do think a large part is I don’t want her to get her way. And by this being the first thing she brings up about the baby it felt like it was about her not us and baby. I’m sure I’m being at least slightly irrational.
@klj0228 meh. I can really see both side of this. She did open the convo by asking about you. Since it sounds like your relationship is somewhat strained, maybe your answer was not as elaborate/ conducive to follow up chat as it might have been with your mom and friends. And she did express excitement, which many truly terrible narcissists wouldn’t. If she hadn’t been as effusive, you might be irritated about her lack of enthusiasm. This is a pot kettle thing, bc it is so easy to not give the in laws the benefit of the doubt we give our own parents and I am just as guilty of that. My MIL was the opposite on the name thing and wanted to be called whatever DS came up with. Out of nowhere he started up with MeeMaw and now she’s stuck with what is possibly the worst grandmother name ever.
@klj0228 I found during my last pregnancy and fully expect it this time that people don't really gaf about how you're doing. Especially at the end, they'll always ask to be nice, but barely listen to the answer.
@patience7150 I have noticed that. Or when they do ask and I answer honestly, such as the MS having been horrible, they seem taken aback. As if the only appropriate answer to “how are you feeling” is “overjoyed/excellent/etc.”.
I find there are people who care about you being pregnant, and people who care that there’s going to be a baby. Of course some people are both, but it’s pretty obvious those who only care about the baby. Your MIL seems like someone who only cares about the baby, and you just happen to be the vessel carrying her future grandchild. Honestly, the sooner you face this the easier it will all go!
@MandyMost oh I completely agree I am just the vessel carrying her grandchild. Just my FIL and sMIL are completely opposite. I mean of course excited about their first grandchild, but also excited and worried about me and the pregnancy.
oh, and @spottedginger she did say something about th text and I just said, I know he is such a man. Because I don’t have a great relationship with her/she talks crap about her son to me I have stopped trying to see her side and keep her happy.
@SkilledSailor and @Patience7150 you are so right! If things are not all hunky dory and you aren’t over the moon (or you are over the moon about being pregnant and having a baby, but not loving this pregnancy thing) people think you are a monster.
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Re: Weekly Randoms 3/19
We are expected to get bad weather this afternoon
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
I got exempted for being a college student
I have a relatively slow week this week and I’m so excited about it. Hoping to get computer work done for the business. Then some cleaning and finishing painting the nursery. Just one wall left!
@knitknitread that would also make me furious. Daycare for 5 week olds is not readily available. It’s crazy you can be exempt for being a college student but not a breastfeeding mother (I do think students should be exempt).
@adirat did it seem like they were pissed she showed up with a babe?
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
I’m pretty partial to the cuteness, when she cooperates she takes a good picture. Once a year we do a big photoshoot and she poses for a calendar we then fill w cf facts and sell as a fundraiser. They’ve been a big hit w family and friends.
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
@jhjocelyn what a cute pic! Your DD is adorable!
MH eventually got dismissed because they had enough people, but said after going through the selection process he would have been interested in serving on the jury. It was a first degree murder case!
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
I'm a little bummed that it's so dreary today here. Some first day of spring. I want sunshine and at least 60 degree weather.
@EErin86 I’ve had it work once but haven’t tried since. So interesting.
I think it got to me because she is always all about her. My pregnancy and my baby story is not going to be all about you! I am not going to lose myself and my wants in all of the things that other people want. I think I am going to lay down the law early, at Easter, that none of them will be at the hospital when baby is born. We will call after the baby is born and 4 hours later everyone can come visit. My hospital has a 2 hour rule, but I want to expand it some so we can rest and spend time as a family of 3.
If it helps at all with the Nana/Nonna issue, my dad is Papa and DH’s dad is Papi. DS has never seemed confused about who’s who. (he does confuse Papi and Poppy the doggie that lives down the street, but that’s a whole other issue). If you just don’t want to let her have her way though I can’t blame you too much
Also, good for you for setting boundaries early!
Dd refused to say “grandma”, she would say “grammie” and “grand” and “ma”, but ask her to say “grandma” and she said “Fwafwa” thus my mother in law is now named Fwafwa by all the grankids... forst grankid perks! Haha
Also, kids are super adaptable dd caught on early that some people have more than one name. We call my fil “Bamper” but he hates it, so when he is around he is “Granpa”. ...there may be a little spite involved among his kids...
bfp#1-10/29/12,EDD: 7/3/13. nothing found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 12/10/12. "Bean"
bfp#2-5/10/13! EDD: 1/18/14. "Peanut" Arrived 1/13/14. Diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis
bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"
**Psalm 139:16**
oh, and @spottedginger she did say something about th text and I just said, I know he is such a man. Because I don’t have a great relationship with her/she talks crap about her son to me I have stopped trying to see her side and keep her happy.
@SkilledSailor and @Patience7150 you are so right! If things are not all hunky dory and you aren’t over the moon (or you are over the moon about being pregnant and having a baby, but not loving this pregnancy thing) people think you are a monster.