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TravelingCouple
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2nd Trimester week of March 18th
TravelingCouple
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How're you feeling this week?
How far along?
Appts this coming week?
Don't forget HDBD on Wednesday!
How far along?
Appts this coming week?
Don't forget HDBD on Wednesday!
Mommies to be:
@TravelingCouple EDD 6/19 GIRL!
@Aera11 6/21
@mtpbadger EDD 7/4?
@coco305 EDD 7/14
@jr102217 EDD 7/15
@cseley321 EDD 7/22 GIRL!
@safire3 EDD 7/23 BOY!
@irisheyes81 EDD 8/4 GIRL!
@2MomsHoping EDD 8/12 GREEN!
@laurad75 EDD 8/20 BOY!
@sarcasticowl EDD 8/30 GIRL!
@lablover78 EDD 9/1
@BusinessWife EDD 9/9 GREEN!
Re: 2nd Trimester week of March 18th
16+1 today, feeling good- but still exhausted. Was hoping that would let up this trimester. Having my MaterniT21 drawn this week.
I’m actually slowly adjusting to the idea of having a son. I didn’t even realize that I assumed I was having a girl until I was in total shock, disbelief and confusion when we opened the envelope and it said boy. So grateful to be here
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
AFM no appointments this week with OB but I do have another massage to schedule and a chiropractor appt. This sciatica sucks and I started getting some foot pain today. I’m a mess lol. This will be my last couple days in the 2nd trimester as I’ll be 28 weeks on Wednesday. I hope everyone had a great weekend. We went and bought some more random baby stuff and organized the nursery a bit. It’s looking cute.
@holls214 28 weeks already?! Time sure if flying! I hope the massage and chiro help relieve some of the pain!
OB appt tomorrow and have the gestational diabetes testing...yay. I’m really nervous I won’t pass for some reason! We did some organizing of the condo this weekend and went to look at cribs/bedroom sets which was overwhelming...so many choices! I’ve been waking up every night at 2am WIDE awake and it sucks!!
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
@Holls214 congratulations on 28 weeks that's awesome. Hope you feel better this week!
@mtpbadger don't worry too much about the GD testing. If you do have it not end of world ( from someone already on the GD diet and insulin). I think the anxiety around it is far worse than adjustments required if you do have it. But you may be just find too!
I can't believe you're already approaching the third tri @Holls214! Post a nursery pic when you're ready
I have my GD test this week too @mtpbadger & I'm mentally preparing myself to have failed...I know it's ultimately not that big of a deal & I'm pretty healthy for the most part, I just feel like it would be added stress I don't need. Hoping we both pass!
26 weeks, almost 27. Crazy how fast time is flying! I feel like we're slowly starting to check things off our to-do list. We have paint for the nursery & our our crib can be assembled after DH paints hopefully next weekend. We also got our car seat last week too. I have my glucose test this week but I don't know if I actually see my ob or not.
How far along? 15 weeks 4 days heading to week 16
Appts this coming week? Have a break this week but do have 2 hour therapist appointment Tuesday with my husband
******TW******
So I went to lunch with my in-laws this weekend and it was not good at all. My husband and I are not taking a break from family for several months and I do not plan to speak to or see my inlaws for any forseeable future. I have written about the details in the spoiler below. It isn't too positive so just wanted to separate from rest of my post if you don't feel like reading. I am still so upset and trying not to make this a defining moment of my pregnancy. But I could use support. I hope you guys will understand as you are like minded having gone through fertility struggles to get here. I've been reaching out to friends and family also who are supportive.
So sorry for the drama again this week- but unfortunately the family lunch went very badly and wasn't my fault or anything I could control. I'm now just trying to cope. It was literally one of the worst days of my life and I've been through some shit. My sister in law showed up clearly pregnant in a maternity shirt and a bump at the public restaurant. They did not tell me but proceeded to have lunch and pretend it wasn't happening?? I barely made it through lunch, even my 8 yr old niece knew. I barely ate and went outside about 6 times, barely stayed in my seat and pretended I was feeling sick. (Technically I was very nauseous and having panic attack). It was my husband's birthday lunch so I felt I couldn't leave. Plus without confirmation, I literally could not tell what the reality was.
They told my husband after he took me home that they have been keeping it from me and lying to me. She knew after Christmas and they say there were only 'sort of trying' and 'were trying to let me be happy first'. They never had a serious conversation with me about trying and there were several times they could have told me she was pregnant after Christmas as we spoke several times and instead pretended it wasn't happening?! I would have preferred to be treated with dignity and respect and told the truth. Here I was sharing my most personal details of my life with them and they are talking about it amongst themselves, yet they choose to lie to me about everything else going on. I went shopping with my mother in law and spoke to my sister in law and her about trying and the baby several times. It is so disgusting to me and I don't trust them at all anymore.
Even before fertilitiy struggles, I have always thought people who think they are 'sort of trying' are not very smart or in denial. I have never understood why people think we buy that they 'weren't really trying'. It is pretty black and white, if you want a baby, you go off birth control. Seeing as though she'd been pregnant 2 times before with this method, there was no reason to think there was any grey area. So the kind and respectful thing to do, if they did care about my feelings, would be to own up to their decisions and speak with me about it in a clear manner. My husband claims that he sort of knew because my brother in law made a few jack ass remarks about thinking what they should do is have unprotected sex and 'play with fire' and let 'god decide' over Christmas? I remember these awful comments and I also clearly remember my sister in law saying they were not trying and she did not want another baby. In my opinion this is terrible communication and decision making skills. Selfish presentation in front of other family members and complete lack of sensitivity.
They said they have no issues of risk and were going to tell me after Christmas and my my mother in law suggested they all chose to lie instead. But then, they didn't tell me over the phone or stay away from me so I could be happy, she showed up and everyone pretended it wasn't happening. I literally thought I was going crazy. I had a panic attack at the lunch on sat, a nervous breakdown sat night and barely slept. Was not good for me or baby. The worst part was my husband took me home then went to their house and they told him there. They manipulated him into thinking they were being nice to me? I had to explain how maybe they thought they were but it takes a high level of stupidity and selfishness to conduct things as such and treat someone who is supposed to be a loved family member so poorly.
My husband and I talked for several hours sun morning and he finally understood what they did wrong and why I was so upset. And now I'm ok because he understands and agrees not to let it ruin our relationship, thank goodness. He spoke with his in laws and told them what they did wrong and how upset I am. My husband told them we are taking a break from all family stuff for a several months. I am not speaking or seeing his family for the forseeable future. I don't ever want to speak to or see them again personally. I am focusing on staying ok with my husband and we are headed to therapy on tuesday on how to proceed with future holidays, the baby ect. He and I are ok and I am making that my first priority. But I am still so upset, sick to my stomach all the time and hard to function.
The thing is I didn't do anything wrong! I was supportive of them having another baby if they wanted- we discussed this and the answer was they were not last fall. My mother in law also innappropriately trapped me in a car one day about 6 months ago and told me they are thinking about a third kid, but 'you know how they are' doesn't mean it will happen. She said she thought I might be upset and I clearly told her, why would I be upset? I don't care what they do and it just sounds expensive to me. (They can't afford it and already have 2 kids and and house they cannot afford). I am not jealous or would say my kid is more important. I have been nothing but kind and open with them and I feel utterly betrayed and like even if they do care about me they are too toxic to be around me and my family.
These same women barely contacted me when I had a MC, as if it was a put out. I have had a bad feeling about them since then. They consistently manipulate the people around them and always need to be the center of attention. I am not into drama and attention. I never asked for the limelight or for things to be kept from me, I was supportive and kind to them always. I do a lot for her kids and my husbands family.
It is so funny what a woman's intuition can do- I have been nervous about that family birthday gathering for months. On the bright side I feel that if I can see that coming I must have a good intuition and will be a good mother.
@hottietoddy I’m so sorry lunch didn’t go well but I’m glad your hubby has your back and that you are doing okay now! You, your hubby and little one are the most important thing right now and I’m glad that’s the focus. I hope therapy helps this week to figure out how to navigate the future.
@lablover78. Ah! Congrats on Team Blue! I know it can be a mixed bag of feelings around sex/gender. We have all fought so hard to get here, we don't always have or want to voice a preference, but I do think no matter how deeply we truly feel we just want our baby, it's only natural to picture the child one way or the other (bc, I'm, unless you get BG twins, you won't have both at once!) So I think it's 100% okay and good and healthy to let yourself process the news. You've gone from imagining one or the other in this sort of loose, open-minded way, to opening that envelope and seeing the definitive answer in black and white. Plus, for the time being this is about all we know of the child: "Baby Boy Lablover." Thats it! Maybe now the open-minded thing can shift to more specific details of their personality, interests, or physical features? Because of course your son is going to be more than just "male offspring of lablovers," he will be the wonderful, beautiful, interesting, special little guy that he is. But you guys are still several months / a few years away from getting to know him in all his myriad ways. Which, I mean, boy or girl, is really the fun part anyway ;) Congratulations!!! I know you are both going to be awesome parents to that little boy. ❤
@hottietoddy. Wow, I'm so sorry lunch didn't go better. But glad you're talking about it with H and working on finding some healthy boundaries. Sounds like much-needed! :s. (((Hugs)))
@Holls214 OMG, how are you moving onto 3rd Tri already!!?? Like ships in the night, almost, but GL! I'm so excited for you!!!
Question for you all - do you give a urine sample at every appt? I’ve never had to give one (besides my first prenatal) but I’ve read some do at every appt??
I hadn't brought it last time bc I threw out the cup, not realizing, so they gave me a new one for next time... if i haven't already lost it! I pulled it out of my purse in the car so as not to inadvertendlty be flashing a pee cup the minute i opened my purse! Lol. So hopefully it's somewhere easy to find again or else they are going to start getting a bit annoyed w/ me lol #badpatient
I’m 19+1 and feeling good. We had a very chill weekend alone this weekend which I allowed me to regain some lost energy I desperately needed. No appointments this week but I’m really looking forward to my anatomy scan on 3/27. It feels like it’s been so long since I’ve seen the baby and DW was able to move around some meetings to come. So excited!
Also someone asked about classes, but I don’t remember who and I have a very long winded summary of my investigations this weekend. I’ve decided to go with a hypnobabies class. They are kind of hard to find and a little expensive ($400-$500) but you can also do it online. Its 6 weeks each class 3.5 hours so it’s intensive. It focuses on relaxation techniques and self-hypnosis. I watched several youtube births both for home deliveries and in hospitals and I was sold. I’m getting on the crazy train ladies I’m committing to natural child birth. Though not committing enough to deliver in a place other than an hospital where I could get an epidural if I cave..lol. Other classes I found interesting were the Bradly Method (this is a very commit to natural and many women felt bad if they didn’t make it without meds which turned me off, and it’s also known as husband assisted birthing with ticked off DW). Hynobirthing, is very similar to the Hynobabies class I choose but the main difference is hypnobirthing isn’t as in depth about the relaxation techniques and practice. Birthing from Within (also a really good option, talks about relaxing and coping with pain, focuses on going with the flow of labor and accepting interventions if needed to have a positive birth no matter the circumstances. I loved the philosophy but there was a birth art section that was a little too out there for me and I just liked the relaxation in hypnobabies best. I also checked out my intro to birth class with my doula which was good but all that was covered in the hynobabies class, and the hospital birth class…which mostly sounded like how to be a good patient from the curriculum so I nixed that.
For the announcement this weekend it went better than expected. We got lots and lots of love from extended family, friends, and cousins. The opposition (my grandma, aunts/uncles and some cousins on my mom side did not like/comment but I did not receive the usual onslaught of hate texts/emails so I’m calling it a win! It stinks not having the greater majority of your family in your corner but DW and I are so lucky to have so many people to support us and our little growing family. Both our parents have come around to our marriage and are so excited for the baby and I’m just so thankful that my joy wasn’t ruined.
TW for announcement in spoiler – losses mentioned.
@lablover78 congratulations on your little boy
People always talk about little girl cloths
but the little boy clothes with the bow ties…I just can’t even. Congratulations!
@Holls214 I feel awful you’re having so much pain, I really hurt my back several years ago and had luck with doing an inversion table a few times a day. It really helped between the chiropractor appointments. I’m not sure about using one during pregnancy because it could cause blood to rush to your head so DEFINITELY ask fist. Do they have you using ice as well to reduce the swelling? It’s hard to manage pain without the anti-inflammatories.
@mtpbadger I’m sure your pass your test with flying colors and good to hear your little girl is growing well. Good luck. Also I only had to give a urine at my first appointment.
@hottietoddy people can be so dumb. I can see where it would be a nice gesture to let you have the limelight for a little while with your pregnancy but also it’s a little crazy to show up with a bump one day and not tell you. I would buy the considerate act if they did tell you later on before it was obvious. They may not have intended to have it affect you so badly, and I totally understand how small jabs from family can build and build and build so that it makes you loose it. Do what is healthy for you. Focus on the relationship with your husband, your health, and the health of your growing baby. If that means a break from family functions there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Take care.TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
2016
* April IUI#1 - BFN
* June IUI#2 - BFN
* July IUI#3 - CP
* Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP
* November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP
2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal
* April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining)
* November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal!
* November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!!
2018 DD born 8/20/18
2019 5PGS frosties ( 4 remaining)
* September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
I have been rotating with ice and heat. Just trying to not let this effect my job but at this point I care more about myself than my job. They are being nice but also I have a new boss now who said maybe I should go on FMLA early to protect myself. Not sure what to do.
@mtpbadger I pee in a cup every time. It's to check for protein in the urine (preventing preeclampsia)
@lablover78 congrats on the boy!!
@hottietoddy I know this was from another thread, but don't take being labeled as high risk as a bad thing. It's simply more preventative care, more watchful care, more attention to details and more chances to see the baby on the U/S screen. I personally prefer being high-risk considering everything it took to get pregnant. My high risk is AMA and overweight (and my OB is watching me closely for preeclampsia) I've really bonded with my OB and I have a total girl crush on her now. Plus all the office staff have become my friends (even though I've been going to that practice for years) and they get back to me quicker than before. Regarding the U/S with the MFM/Perinatologist (was it @businesswife asking?) I had one at 12 or 13 (NT scan), then AS scan #1 at 16, AS scan #2 at 20, AS scan #3 at 22. Now I don't know when I'm going back, that's up to my OB. Also with the Perinatal/MFm I've NEVER met them, just the techs. Tell them to go eff themselves if they try telling you what to do. That's between you and your OB.
AFM: 23+2 today I FINALLY popped. Other than not sleeping well I'm doing alright.
Also, DHs family keeps coming to visit and I'm so over it. I told him no more! I know we live in Miami- but get a f*^king hotel people. I need to clean out and fix the baby's room FFS
also these people come for like a week and want us to entertain them after work, and you would think they would at least treat us to 1 dinner, nope, we've been paying for everything, I have yet to hear his nephew say thank you after we pay. He doesn't even do a fake reach for his wallet. Cheap bastards!! Whoa ok didn't think I was going to vent. Lol
How far along? I'll be 27 weeks tomorrow
Appts this coming week? My glucose test is on Thursday. It was supposed to be last Thurs but I wasn't doing it while sick I moved it to this week. I'm really hoping I'm better by Thursday. My health is progressing so unbelievably slowly, I am normally over colds in 3-4 days tops.
@lablover78 Congrats on your baby boy
@Holls214 I'll be joining you in 3rd trimester mid next week! Next Monday will be last time posting this board, can't believe I'll be moving on to 3rd tri. Surreal.
@mtpbadger Yay for crib shopping! Yes I have to leave a urine sample at every appt.
@hottietoddy I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of that with your family. I can completely relate to how IF has affected so many of my personal relationships with family members. Many of them are still mending to this day. There's just something about going through it that changes your perspective on so many things...and no one, no one can understand unless they've been through it themselves. I would be upset if I were you too. You have every right to take a break from them and just enjoy your family unit right now. I've had to do the same with certain relationships.
@2MomsHoping Beautiful announcement!!!
@2momshoping LOVE!! It sounds like you have a good attitude about your fam but I’m sorry that you even have to go there.
thanks ladies for all the comments regarding my baby boy!! I did read a lot of articles from boy moms this weekend and I am truly excited for our future relationship and shaping him into a kind, caring and respectful man who will grow up with a strong and successful mama as an example of what a wife can be!
No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion
Thank you for the kind words @Aera11, you are right taking care of myself is the most important thing. This is the main thing that people have been telling me so it is starting to sink in.
Yes @2momshoping you are right, well said. The highest priority is taking care of myself and the baby and self care is allowed. I'm sorry you have to deal with family not supporting you. So happy that your announcement went pretty well! I find what you are doing inspiring and congratulations not only on being pregnant but living the life you want even though there is opposition. I hope I can do that more in my life.
My husband didn't understand at first why would I be upset because they had good intentions? I called them all a-holes when upset. I had to explain how I don’t disagree they were thinking they might be kind, but it takes a good deal of stupidity and selfishness and manipulation to do what they did. That is definition of a-hole in my book. Unfortunately, I think my husband is used to their manipulation and part of it is that his mother and sister always frame everything they do as if they are angelic, maternal angles that only strive to please the family. Here are a few more examples if up for additional long winded reading:
@coco305 congratulations on finally having a bump! I assume you mean your belly popped and you are showing now right?
thank you that is a good perspective and I think you are right. Being labeled 'high risk' is just an opportunity for extra care and information about the baby. More ultrasounds and someone keeping a closer eye on me. I should probably be thankful I have the care I need. I think that old man scary doctor was just upsetting, but I do plan to continue with the perinatal and see my normal doctor. She was kind and I enjoyed the appointment with her. They have the most up to date fancy equipment. Their ultrasound was amazing able to see the blood flow and all the anatomy. It was awesome really.
I know how you feel, my brother and his wife live over seas and they will visit for weeks and sometimes a month at a time. It is like having roomates. Now with the baby coming and when it is here we aren’t going to be able to entertain them the same. My husband says they are going to have to stay in a hotel. It is a hard situation because I don’t see them much and like the extra time I get with them when they stay here. They are also able to come more and stay more because they don’t pay for the hotel. Yeah, those people should be buying you dinners and gifts though the entire time. That is what my brother does, but they are pretty well off. It costs my brother an estimated $11k to visit from overseas, crazy.
Thank you @TravelingCouple- I really appreciate hearing your perspective and challenges with relationships. I agree it changes the way you think about things. It means a lot to hear others say they would be upset too, it helps me feel better.
Thank you @lablover78 – that is how I feel- mean girls. I think my biggest fear at this point is that my husband will become resentful now with me because I have to stay away from them to be healthy. I worry this will strain our relationship because now he has to separate the two parts of his life. He is going to have to shift the blame to them and not me, because they are at fault. His family never blames his mom or sister for anything and they let them get whatever they want. So this is hard on my poor husband. We have also really made strides with therapy and have been going for several years. It has helped us so much and I am so glad we have the foundation and help to get through things like this. I am hopeful for that reason. I actually took the thread I wrote on here today and sent it to my therapist in an email ahead of time. This will allow me not to think about the details and relax. Then I don’t have to pour over it all again in therapy tomorrow, just telling the story gets me so upset again. She is awesome and will read it ahead of time and print it out. She is really a life saver.
How're you feeling this week? Pretty good, same as usual. Not sleeping very well. More round ligament twinges, which are always a treat (not). Also I have massively screwed up my shoulder just by sleeping so I'm going to look into a prenatal chiropractor. Anyone had experience going to one, and was it positive? The last time I went to a chiro was about 15 years ago when I was in college waiting tables, and some days the aftermath of my appointments was more painful than the aches I needed to get treated! @Holls214 let us know how your chiro appointment goes. DH and I went to a "preparing for baby" class that's part of a series that our employer does and one of the speakers mentioned how easy it is for your muscles, tendons, joints and bones to get out of whack when pregnant. The hormones that help your pelvis stretch for birth are also acting on EVERYTHING in the body, so like me you can be fine one day and the Hunchback of Notre Dame the next.
How far along? 16 weeks 5 days today.
Appts this coming week? Just got back from an OB appointment where basically he just listened to the baby's heartbeat, answered a few questions, I peed in a cup and they weighed me. What a waste of time LOL. I did schedule my anatomy scan for April 9, though, so really looking forward to that (and equally terrified).
@lablover78 Congratulations on your baby boy. I love that your hubs cried. I so rarely get that much emotion out of mine so I know it's a big deal when I do.
@2MomsHoping I love your announcement too! Such a creative way of incorporating the IVF, the rainbow, and the holiday. Amazing!
Thank you everyone for all the love on the announcement. It’s a little hard to put myself out there like that but it ended up being a really good experience to have it all out there.
@Holls214 if you can stick it out I would try to avoid taking your FMLA too early. I guess it depends on how your company is but mine don’t really let anyone extend beyond the 12 weeks. You want to make sure you can have some left over to recover from your birth and to be with you little one. Sometimes you can get accommodations for your job to walk less or sit less, etc. or take the FMLA as intermittent so you would only take a day or partial day when you absolutely have to. That way you can keep as much as you can for later.
@coco305 yay for a bump! It’s good to know they do come around eventually!
@travelingcouple I’m sorry your still fighting that cold, I hope it gives you a break soon.
@hottietoddy thank you for the kind words. Don’t sell yourself short you are living your life and you are standing up for yourself. Keeping putting one foot in front of the other. You are doing right by yourself and we are all here rooting for you. We have lead a bit of parallel lives. My MIL and SIL have a manipulative side. It took a while for DW to see it now she has less patience and tolerance for it than I do. Hopefully the therapist can help him to see things more clearly. Sometimes coming from a spouse things said about a family member can make the defense mechanisms go up no matter how diplomatic you are. Best of luck.
@sarcasticowl I know those 5 minute appointments are so crazy. I take tons of time in my day for just about nothing….though I do have to say anytime I get to hear the babies heartbeat I’m pretty happy. I never did buy a Doppler to they are reassuring.
TTC History in Spoiler ***Trigger Warning*** Losses/Child Mentioned
2016
* April IUI#1 - BFN
* June IUI#2 - BFN
* July IUI#3 - CP
* Sept IVF#1 - 4 Retrieved & Mature, 4 Blasts. Fresh Transfer 1 - CP
* November FET #1 - Transferred 1 Blast - CP
2017 Switched REs - Recurrent loss testing for me - all normal, remaining 2 frosties sent for PGS - both abnormal
* April/May IVF#2: 9 retrieved, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 7 blasts! Sent for testing - 2PGS Normals (0 remaining)
* November IVF #3 12R, 8M, 6F, 4 blasts! - All 4 PGS normal!
* November FET# 2 (Transfer a PGS normal from IVF#2) - BFP!!!
2018 DD born 8/20/18
2019 5PGS frosties ( 4 remaining)
* September FET#3 (1PGS normal) - Beta#1: 139.7 Beta#2: 322.6
@2MomsHoping the announcement is very sweet and I'm glad people responded nicely to it.
@hottietoddy I'm sorry the situation with your in-laws is causing so much stress. I think its really smart to visit a counselor with your DH to help you navigate the future.
@lablover78 Congrats and welcome to the boy mom club!
@mtpbadger I give a urine sample at every OB appointment.
How're you feeling this week? Fine. I'm not sleeping well which I am sure is due to just having a lot on my mind. Now that we are definitely moving at the end of June my mind is racing about how much has to get done.
How far along? 18+1 today
Appts this coming week? nothing this week but anatomy scan is a week from today and I am so excited. I haven't felt him yet (at least I don't think so) so I'm just really anxious to see him and know everything is okay.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
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@lablover78 yay for a prince! I can only imagine the true gentlemen you are going to raise! Especially as we dont have enough good princes out there!!
@2momshoping omg that announcement is amazing!! I love rainbows anyway and you brought it all to another level! I know you were apprehensive about it BUT its so lovely!! I"m sorry you're family isn't as supportive as they can be! and should be BUT Glad you still have others to be supportive!!
@hottietoddy ewwww! I think the fact that you're sharing so much and they couldn't do the same and just be HONEST is probably what wouldve bothered me the most. You just feel like you've been living a lie. I"m glad after a while you were able to get your DH to understand! Its really not good for you and the baby be stressed so just put yourself first from now on!! They're not going anywhere (his family) and when you think you can deal with them you will! I dont know if you plan on breastfeeding but they say you dont want to be stressed as that could cause issues. Look some ladies carefree still dont produce milk but why have anything else play a factor. PLease be kind to yourself!
@laurad75 good luck with your move, how exciting! You've certainly got lots going on in 2018.
@coco305 thank you for making me LOL!! I agree with you...@businesswife you tell them to go eff themselves - brilliant!! As for family, WTH right!! Especially its so nice to open your home to them the least they can do is treat for dinner! You have more important things on your mind so glad you wont have any open house. I'm all night as it is I wouldn't want others around me...that I dont care for
Unexplained Infertility - but I am 40...Low AMH .30
7 - IUI (50mg-150mg Clomid) Feb - August 2016 all BFN
IVF#1 August 2016 (Antagonist protocol 4/5 eggs) Cancelled cycle
IVF#2 Sept 2016 (microdose luporn pro - disappearing follies, ONLY ONE, convert to IUI) BFN
IVF#3 November 2016 (4 ER, 3 F, 3DT)-BFP
IVF#4 March 2017 //EPP (10 ER (1 wonky so 9 ER) 7F, 3B (5AB, (2)5BB) PGS tested- ALL abnormal
IVF#5 April 2017 // EPP (7 ER, 7F yes! 6B) 2/5 day 4/6 day - 2 PGS normal! yes!!
IVF#6 May 2017 // Antagonist didn't have time for Estrogen Priming...(4 ER, 3 F, 3B) (5AB, (2) 5BB) 2 PGS normal, yes!!
IVF#7 June 2017 // EPP praying this is it and then on to an FET!
On the topic of yoga- I have a mat, bricks a strap and a few tapes at home. I love this method because it is much cheaper and no stress of trying to look cute or be around other people or go anywhere. I feel like I'm pinching every penny for the baby right now and yoga classes would mean more Appointments on top of all doctor appointments and work meetings. I like the flexibility of my living room workouts. I also have a recumbant bike. But, that being said, my brother and friends love yoga classes. Some love the social aspect. So to each their own.
Thank you all so much for the support. I'm happy to report therapy went well today and Husband and I are pretty on same page now. I'll update more prob next week but think we are going to be okay and much less stressed until then. Going to try and relax and enjoy rest of this week.
One way I have been relaxing is daydreaming about what our nursery will look like. I would love to see other nursery pics if anyone cares to share, even in progress.
I'm thinking of getting a grey trundle daybed now for babies room that looks kind of like a couch. It is upholstered and very cute and can order online. The crib we got is grey and plan on grey Ikea dresser and bookshelf. Thinking of painting a dusty light teal accent wall. ..and I love those flag drapey wall hangings and woodland creature art. Have teal and orange accent pillows already to use on day bed. I also got the cutest little fox head pillow at babies r us on clearance. Oh and got a few woodland creature accents like mobile and some silly stuffed animals for a shelf. PS I'm not crazy, I just got a few items on clearance early bc heard babies r us is closing. Wanted the saved money on deals.
Happy therapy was helpful.
@Holls214 wow!! The nursery is looking great! I need to start on mine.
How far along? 15+3
<span>Appts this coming week? Not this week, but moved my AS to the day prior so 4/23 will see a different midwife I haven't met yet, not the same one as last time - huge relief! And fetal echo is scheduled for 5/14, day after Mother's day! I plan to call and follow up tho to make sure I'm not missing any important bw if there's this whole gap from 14+5 to 20+1... </span> :#
@Holls214 What a cute nursery! Nice job.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
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I'm officially 3rd trimester as of yesterday! So surreal. I know on TB they consider 3rd trimester at 28 weeks, but all the apps and everything else says 27 so I'm going with 27
The worst of this cold has passed, just have a lingering cough at this point.
Anyone else getting another nor'easter today? This is our 4th nor'easter in 2 weeks, we're supposed to get another 10 inches, oy.
I have been extremely busy lately so do not get to post as often as I would like... I am a SAHM to a 2 and a half year old and work from home after she is asleep at night.. the exhaustion from this pregnancy has been overwhelming!
I do have good news though! Without going into huge details, about 2 years ago my husband had a falling out with his entire family. They were basically causing him a ton of stress and his way of handling it was to cut off all contact, so they were not allowed to contact us or see our kid. I have felt AWFUL about this. This was his parents only grandchild and I know it has hurt everyone a lot.... well, the other day we sat down and spoke about it and he agreed to let me start taking the kids to see his family from time to time, so long as I don't get in the middle or bring home any of their problems. Anyway, I feel like a weight has been lifted off of me and I feel so much better knowing she will get to know her grandparents and great grandparents now.
Regarding the nursery, I may move my toddler into the other bedroom and leave her current nursery for the new baby... but here ia the pic of the current nursery (well, a picture from before my first was born)
I’ve also finally started working on building a registry!
@lablover78 congrats fellow boy-mom-to-be! I felt like I was having a boy from the beginning and still felt so unprepared when it was confirmed!
@mtpbadger yes I also give a urine sample at each visit. I assume they are checking for protein in the urine which can be a sign of PE even though it’s kind of early for that.
@2MomsHoping just had to say your announcement is beautiful and heartwarming.
@coco305 I had the same issue with my brother and sister-in-law and I had to put my foot down. They were always coming over and would stay for days and just expect to be fed and entertained without helping with anything. If I were you the next time they want to come visit I would say you are feeling too tired or sick right now to entertain. You are pregnant so you have a good excuse lol.
@TravelingCouple so sorry you are still feeling sick. I hope you beat that cold soon. Congrats on third tri! I will be stalking you over there until I hopefully join you.
@laurad75 GL at your scan next week!
@Holls214 that is such a gorgeous nursery! I absolutely love it. I haven’t done anything yet for mine but we are thinking of navy blue and gold for our boy nursery!
@BusinessWife didn’t get to read your last post until way after but I’m glad you don’t have to deal with that ridiculous midwife again! For the appointments you are probably not missing anything. I had a big gap as well before my AS.
@cseley321 I’m really happy you will be reaching out to your in-laws. Hopefully it’s the start of mending the relationship between them and your H. I am pretty much estranged from my dad except for a few infrequent texts and even though it is mainly his fault it still hurts that my son won’t get to know his grandfather.
Oh almost forgot HDBD! This is yesterday. I’m wearing a top that I’ve had forever and only just now realized it’s a maternity top