New Mom check-in 3/16

DDRRT1982

How is everyone doing?

DDRRT1982

I am ok.  If my OB would have spontaneously called me this with week with an OR time to tie my tubes I might have actually concented. My transition from two to three little ones wasnt so hard, but the three to four might kill me. It's not Samantha, because she is so good.  It's my other kids, God bless them they don't mean to be such work, they are just use to a more involved parent. I have often wondered recently if women like Mrs. Duggar have help, because this is more insane than I thought and I don't have anywhere close to as many kids.  The diapers, the demands, the household obligations, it's all so much.  I love my babies, but I might have met my match. 

megpeg

@DDRRT1982 I am only at 3 and Declan is only a week old but I feel like this a little too. I haven’t had dinner done until almost 8pm every night this week because there is so much going on. My older 2 are used to me being more hands on too- my nine year old is and awesome help and loves to hold his brother while I make dinner but my 4 year old is testing every limit to see what she can get away with. 

mmom3

I’ve gone from 2-3 and it’s crazy here as well.  With recovering from a c-section and a husband that is gone 16-18 hours a day - I might finally lose my mind.  Charlie is pretty good, but my 3 year old is something else.  It doesn’t help we are at the tail end of winter and being cooped up since November basically hasn’t helped.  It’s still very cold here and no end in sight for a warm up.  But now on top of not being outside I still can’t drive.  I missed my 2 week follow up yesterday because I couldn’t get him out the door on time and my Dad, who was here here to take us, literally had to drag him down the stairs because he refused to get up and walk.  I was about 15 min late and they cancelled my appointment because the doctor was unavailable after 12.  My 7 y year old is a bit better and more helpful but the fighting between them when she’s home from school drives me nuts.  I think it’s been worse because I haven’t been able to give them the attention like they are used to because now I have to sit and feed/tend to the baby now.

And if I hear DH complain one more time how tired he is (who sleeps in a different room so he isn’t woken by the baby & me) today after currently sleeping 10 hours uninterrupted and counting might get a bag of dirty diapers thrown at him.  

And people wonder why I enjoyed my stay in the hopsital so much!!

megpeg

I am 35 today. Declan let me get 7.5 hours of sleep last night and I am feeling pretty great. DS(9) has a basketball game this morning and then I have 8-10 family members coming over for my birthday lunch and to meet Declan. I am a little worn out from cleaning and getting food ready yesterday(I know they won’t care if it’s clean but I hate having people come into a dirty house.)

maelily15

Happy Birthday @megpeg! 

bravoandprosecco

@megpeg happy birthday and 7.5 hours?! Tell me everything. 

DDRRT1982

@megpeg happy birthday!

StephBrim24

Happy birthday @megpeg!!

mmom3

@megpeg - Happy birthday and 7.5  hours of sleep is the best birthday gift ever!  Have a great day!!!

megpeg

@bravoandprosecco this baby is amazing! At a week old he is sleeping in 3-4 hour stretches at night, wakes up gets fed again and goes back to sleep(or has the last couple nights), for another 3-4 hours. He is the most content baby.
My other two were nothing like this and were up every hour and a half to two hours. And up in between  feedings for hours.
thanks everyone for the birthday wishes, it has been great so far!

amylonghorn

Happy birthday @megpeg! Hope you had a nice bday lunch!!

mdfarmchick

Happy Birthday, @megpeg!

crossfitbabybump

Happy birthday @megpeg !!! 

sassypants2010

So I discovered why I have been so sick and not recovering well, a small piece of placenta was left behind and I have endometritis! So I get to do antibiotics justs my husband goes back to work tomorrow! But at least I know now that I was not being a big wuss for being run down. 

megpeg

@sassypants2010 you poor thing! You have had enough happen already! Glad you found out what was going on though.

sassypants2010

@megpeg thanks. I am just thankful my son is now off the bili bed and that nothing more serious is going on with either of us.  I guess this is just the universe's way of making sure I am serious about no more babies!

mmom3

@sassypants2010. - glad they found out what was wrong & get medicine.  Hope you are able to recover quickly.  

bravoandprosecco

@megpeg that's awesome! This is my second, he's a week old and I can tell will be easier than my first. Hubby and I feel like we earned and easier baby! Funny how different they can be

slr1229

Anyone else’s babe have really bad dry skin?  They told us it was a result of going past due date (which DD1 was past and didn’t have dry skin so idk their theory).  Starting to put Cerave lotion on her.

DDRRT1982

@sassypants2010 that's awful!  Feel better soon.

mdfarmchick

@sassypants2010 I’m glad they figured it out and got you some meds but that sounds terrible. I hope the meds work fast. 

vflux33

@megpeg Happy belated birthday!

@sassypants2010 Oh no, that sucks! My endometritis during labor cleared up pretty fast with 5 different antibiotics + tylenol, but it was NOT fun. Hope you feel better soon!

I couldn't imagine having 4 kids. Holy shit, guys, I am drowning from just these 2, and I keep being told I'm not taking it easy enough post c section and delaying my healing, and that sleep deprivation is making it all worse, but what am I supposed to do? MH has been doing too much and he is starting a new work position that is going to be super intense and involved and will likely involve well over 60-80 hours per week. My mom was supposed to stay and help here for 2 months, but that plan completely failed and neither of us have family here.

I am starting to really get why people never move away from where they were raised. I love where I live, but I'm paying the price now. 

mdfarmchick

@vflux33 oh man. I’m sorry your mom isn’t able to stay and help. Huge hugs. The first 4-8 weeks is so hard and then you start to get bigger chunks of sleep. It’s still hard but you don’t feel like you are drowning without sleep. I will say that having more support this time around has been so much better for my recovery and mental health. Can you increase the postpartum doula visits at all?

DDRRT1982

@vflux33 I am sorry you don't have help either.  Once the newborb stage is over and everything revolves around eating things should get easier for both of us.

vflux33

@mdfarmchick @DDRRT1982 thanks, guys. I have to keep reminding myself this is temporary...

@mdfarmchick I think we’re going to have to, yeah. They do nights... we can’t really afford it, but looks like we are doing it anyway, for a little while at least. 

sassypants2010

@vflux33 I can't imagine having to recover from such a scary delivery and trying to adapt to twins. Hoping you start to feel better and that you can find someone close to come give you a hand with stuff that is hampering your recovery. 

chasingroygbiv

@sassypants2010 Here’s hoping you start feeling better ASAP!

I, too, went from 2-3 and it’s been interesting. Baby is great, DS (oldest) is taking everything like a champ, it’s DD that is truly struggling. She loves the baby, but she is not at all doing well sharing attention and mostly just hates DH and I. Seems we can’t do anything right. Anything we say or do seems to set her off and make her cry. She’s had potty accidents, she screams and yells, has started saying we don’t love her and that she doesn’t like us. It’s tough emotionally, I just hope it’ll get better as it gets nicer out and we are all able to get outside and be together (walks, sandbox, chalk, parks, picnics, etc). She’s really lacking one on one, but with nursing baby is mostly with me 24/7. 

megpeg

How long post partum did you have bleeding? I don’t remember it lasting this long with my other 2 but that was 9 and 5 years ago and I may have just forgotten.

DDRRT1982

I am still spotting at three weeks postpartum tomorrow.  This is pretty normal for me.

bravoandprosecco

Ugh I'm so sick of bleeding,  the pads irritate my skin so badly. Last time I bleed for 5/6 weeks and I really hope this time is better

mmom3

@megpeg. I bled with my daughter 8 weeks and 5-6 weeks with my son.  Both were vaginal births.  This time I had a c-section and I still have some light bleeding at 2.5 weeks.  

mdfarmchick

@megpeg I bled for three weeks and then spotted until just over a month. It was about a week longer than with my first. 

crossfitbabybump

@megpeg I’m 4 weeks postpartum and I’ve stopped bleeding. 

Last night was rough. Alice Grace was awake and cranky til about midnight and wouldn’t take the boob. Then she did all of a sudden and passed out. I woke up around 3 to change and feed her then passed back out til about 7:30. Not sure what that was all about. 

ashleyf911

@crossfitbabybump it might be purple crying. Ellie will be 4 weeks tomorrow and the past couple evenings have been rough for us, lots of crying unless she's actively being soothed. 

crossfitbabybump

@ashleyf911 what’s purple crying?? 

chasingroygbiv

I actively bled through 2 weeks, passed a couple random clots, spotted for another week, and now I hardly notice much of anything at 1 month pp. @megpeg

ashleyf911

crossfitbabybump said:

@ashleyf911 what’s purple crying?? 

It's basically a normal developmental period from 2 weeks to 3 or 4 months, peaks around 8 weeks. Babies are fussy in the evening time. A lot of people think they have a colicky baby when its actually really normal. Our hospital made us watch a little video about it that explained what it was and how to help baby (and yourself) through it. There's a good website about it:

https://purplecrying.info

DDRRT1982

I think I call purplr crying the witching hour.  Usually happens in the evening and they need lots of feeding and holding to calm crying.

crossfitbabybump

Thank you!! 

BrittnieMariee

Well, currently waiting for our ped to open so I can call them. Emma was struggling to breathe earlier this morning so I’m pretty sure she caught what DS has (so far it seems to be a mild cold. He’s only had a runny nose and sneezing).