@hfooter My regular car insurance will cover us for rental cars. If he’s refusing to give you insurance info, could you contact the police to help you out? They should be able to force him to turn over proof of insurance.
I contacted the officer that came to the wreck today and called enterprise yesterday and they have been trying to reach him. So I’ve done what I can.
luckily if he is uninsured, which it’s looking that way my deductible is only $200. But still if I have to pay that this guy needs to be charged or get in trouble some how. I’ll make sure of it lol.
FTM here so I would love to know if I am being overly cranky today! My EDD is 8/10. We are remodeling the house we just bought so living downstairs right now to avoid all the dust and everything. We were thinking about having an end of summer get together with friends and family say like, early September so people can come and meet the baby and see the progress we will hopefully have on the house by then. My husband just called me at work to see if it's cool if his friend from AZ stays with us for the week, bringing his wife and kid along as well. I just about started crying right there in the hallway at work just thinking about how overwhelming that sounded. I am not excited about the idea of visitors that I don't know super well coming to stay for a week when we just had a baby a few weeks before. Husband is annoyed with me that I'm not keen on the idea and doesn't think it will be a big deal. All I can think about is being exhausted, trying to breastfeed and take care of a newborn while playing host to his friends. Am I being unreasonable? Advice would be so appreciated!
@terradactyl89 I would not recommend having anyone other than family staying with you in the first couple months. You have no idea what you’re delivery/recovery is going to be like. Don’t put hat stress on yourself
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@terradactyl89 completely rational feelings! You will absolutely want time to figure out a routine and be walking around wearing a diaper or giant pad and possibly want to be completely topless while nursing (summer, hot and sore boobs) because you just never know how your body is going to feel postpartum. We had my BIL stay for a few days about a week after we brought baby home and even though he stayed on a completely different floor and was totally helpful, it still wasn't comfortable. Have them get an Airbnb, and come meet baby when you're ready. They'll be fine!
edit to add- some people are totally cool with lots of visitors but I think it should be completely your decision
@terradactyl89 not at all unreasonable. That sounds like a nightmare. Heck, I wouldn’t even want to do the party part, myself! Your husband has no clue.
This is a hill worth dying on, @terradactyl89 !! Tell your hubs no. The friend and his wife should understand, since they have a child. People can be so clueless. No. Just no.
@terradactyl89 - ditto what's been said above. I would be so uncomfortable having guests in my home right after having a baby. You'll still be healing at that point and (if you're planning to) learning all the ins and outs of breastfeeding. Just tell your husband that you're not comfortable having anyone around that you don't want to see you topless. That's my method for screening visitors at the hospital too, in case anyone needed an idea of a kind way to keep the flood of visitors away the first few days
@terradactyl89 agree with previous posters—this would be a hard no for me. They can get a hotel and come visit you or schedule dinners out, whatever you’re up for. Hopefully they’ll just push the visit out a few months. Parenting a newborn after childbirth is exhausting!
Thanks everyone! I didn't feel like I was being overly irrational. I will definitely be holding firm on this one and saying NO to overnight guests for the first several months. It sounds too exhausting!
@terradactyl89 good for you! I'd welcome my husband's best friend with open arms any time just because he's such a great, out-of-the-way, polite guest but there is no way in hell I'd let some guy I didn't know well plus his fam crash our house after birth. No way. Plus, that wife should know better. I'd be surprised if she thought it was a good idea. I'm sure she felt iffy about it.
Yeah totally agree with @Firemanswife11 I'm guessing that wife is probably relieved cause she probably knew it was a horrible idea and her husband probably wasn't listening either. Men!
Same here. DH’s best friends are great guys, no extra work for me, and would offer to help watch the kids. But people I didn’t know - nope, not happening.
My best friend in the entire world and her husband came in to town about 2 weeks after DS was born and stayed at a hotel. We offered our guest room but they politely declined and said that we had enough on our plates without having to worry about guests. They brought a ton of food and drinks with them when they visited and cleaned my kitchen before they left. Plus her DH was super nice about me attempting to breastfeed / pump because I was struggling with using a cover so he would just excuse himself subtlety and not make a big deal out of it.
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luckily if he is uninsured, which it’s looking that way my deductible is only $200. But still if I have to pay that this guy needs to be charged or get in trouble some how. I’ll make sure of it lol.
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edit to add- some people are totally cool with lots of visitors but I think it should be completely your decision
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