Woke up with the most horrible stomachache and gas just in time for my trip. Ugh. Guess I’ll be rushing to get som gas meds before we take off. I’m also trying to to cry about leaving DS since he now understands what going bye bye means. I know he’ll be ok but still I’ll miss him. Work trips are exhausting because everyone wants to stay up late and go to dinner when i just want to enjoy my hotel room lol.
@zande2016 good luck on your trip! It’s never easy leaving the little ones behind.
Eta, just noticed no gas meds are listed from the list my doctor gave me. Poo. Also anyone know if i can refuse payment for my scheduled Lyft that didn’t show up on time?
@wildtot no advice on the lift but TUMS, while not for gas, really really helped me the other day. Also if you pass a Panera or something they have Ginger Tea I think(I'm sure others do too, that's just one I Remember)....dunno the concentration of Ginger in it but might help your tummy too. Doublign up on those things these last two days made my gassy bloat feel way better.
I’m breaking down all over the airport. First what i thought was Lyft being stupid turned out to be my own stupidity who didn’t notice i put pm instead of am. So i rushed to the airport. My stupid company booked my flight with the wrong last name and even though i call the airline to fix, tsa held me up to check on me. Then because i didn’t want to go through the scanner i waited over 5 mins waiting for someone for a pat down. I finally gave in to the scan but right before i could get in they decided to pass a few people like nothing through the metal detector. After all that i barely made it to my gate. I started crying again because i didn’t have time to get breakfast or even water. Some lady was nice enough to give me some of her snacks. Ugh what crap show it’s been. Yay hormonal crying all over the airport. edited because hormones
Today I contribute to my co-worker's future obsession with peeing on sticks. She is going to start TTC soon and asked which ovulation kit I used and of course I have a ton leftover. Happy to provide her with some "goodies".
Yikes @wildtot I'm sorry for the crazy morning at the airport! I am flying tonight too and dreading it so much. I want to avoid the scanner too, but going through JFK security is such a shitshow as it is, I don't know if I want to add that on to it. I hope things get better once you land!
@wildtot that's a rough stressful morning, hang in there Hopefully you have some time to relax tonight. Safe travels.
I came in to work today. I wanted to skip out so bad but work stuff came up so calling in would not have been a responsible move. Maybe tomorrow, or Friday haha.
@wildtot I’m so sorry your morning has been rough! No gas meds were listed on my list either but when I called the doctor they said gas x is fine and I double checked with the pharmacist too. As long as it’s not extra strength. Hope that helps!
Flying is so stressful! I’m sorry @wildtot I hope that your trip ends up being easier than the travel.
I got an ambiguous letter in the mail from my insurance the other day so I called in to ask about it and it seems like there was a glitch in the system and currently the only person in my house who is covered is my son. I about cried on the phone. She’s going to try to fix it, but it’s just my luck to have the random “you’re no longer covered” glitch come to me.
@wildtot "love it" seems inappropriate - but sending support your way. Sounds like a really rough couple of days, I hope you get some down-time on the plane or in the hotel room.
I'm in the exhausted boat with the rest of you, and it's turned my hormonal rage that was giving me some energy into just tired and honestly a bit blue. Crap weekend that I'm trying to not let carry over into a crap week. I need to get out of this funk before this long mother/daughter weekend... at least I have a hair appointment Friday and SIL might come over to relieve me for a bit. Vent below in verbal diarrhea form.
DH f'd up majorly and thought the anatomy scan was on the 20th, so he's not flying back from his boy's Vegas weekend until 8 PM on Monday...well anatomy scan is 10 AM on Monday. He is really upset but had the nerve to get mad at me for not being more sympathetic and not reminding him when he was making the arrangements..um what now? I thought I handled it really well by only letting a "well that sucks for you" slip without any tears or yelling. He suggested I have them write down sex in envelope and open it together - yea we'll see how I am feeling when I'm there. I looked at flights to NC to see my best friend but they're over $400 and I just can't justify it to sit on her couch for a weekend, especially since it would be 1 of 3 free weekends between now and June and I still have a 30th birthday and a 2nd birthday to plan/throw, a kitchen to finish, a dinning room and sitting area to redo, a big girl room to decorate, an office to relocate, all before I get too pregnant to do it all.
We went back to IKEA without the kid to have adult non-distracted talk about the kitchen. He wants the black/brown ultra manly kitchen, I want the classic all white and "marble" kitchen - we walked in ready to compromise on the grey kitchen but after looking at it again DH decided it was "too shiny"... So I found this company that makes custom doors for IKEA boxes and the grey shaker is matte instead of high gloss and they also have black, navy, white, or unfinished and suggested to compromise by mixing dark/light colors island/main kitchen or uppers/lowers or paint them myself in a mutually agreeable color. He was skeptical about me painting an entire kitchen's worth of doors 6 months pregnant once they finally arrive, but I was willing to do it or ask the dads for help. The pre-finished would be like 2x the cost of the IKEA doors (but worth it to me if it meant neither of us HATED the kitchen) but unfinished would be same/less but obviously more work. After all that discussion...he told me to just do the white kitchen I want... which I think might have been him giving in first for once but I'm thinking I might just stop trying to compromise and take him at his word....
MIL is trying to talk me into letting her take DD some of this weekend to give me a "break"... she suggested her and FIL come pick up DD on Sunday and offered to drive her back on Monday some time (which was shocking, I expected to have to drive the hour south after work on Monday)...but that would require me uninstalling the car seat by myself from the SUV and installing it in their car and then putting it back in the SUV all over again...plus probably getting an extra key made... and that plus the spoiled brat you always get back from sleepovers at grandma's just doesn't seem worth it... I dunno maybe i'm just being moody... It'll be Thurs wake-up to Monday bedtime only adult on duty but with a break Friday and Monday while I'm at work...what could go wrong, right? I could only see this getting bad if I throw my back out, then i'll have to re-assess.
@zande2016 thank you! Go with time if you don’t want to do the scanner. Regardless of how many women tsa people there were they apparently had to wait for one specific person. Even then the guy was like “i don’t know what your deal is about the scanner but you’ll have to wait if you want a pat down”. Who cares what my deal is! It’s my decision. have a safe trip!
I won't because holy crap $$$ but I waaaaaaant it!
It's a new benefit in my husband's company, they are actually giving us one for free! I figured if the baby hates it I can always order the Halo from Amazon last minute. It's ours for 6 months, it's basically rented. But since it's a new program starting in June everyone between June and mid July gets a new one to start with! It's all handled through the company that makes the Snoo and we just put it back into the box and they'll come pick it up. A good surprise indeed!
@wildtot so sorry you had a rough start of this trip! I feel so frustrated when I don't have time to have food. And feeling rushed is never good. Hugs!
@gingerbride26 that all sounds so stressful. I agree with you you're not your husband's secretary, you told him when the scan was and he made arrangements. Not your problem. Regarding the kitchen, why do men love dark furniture? My DH also came in with a bunch of dark wood stuff when we moved in together and I am happy to report I slowly got rid of it. It seems like it was not worth the stress to go through all that and do half ikea half something else. I would say unless he hates it with a passion, go with what you like. I don't know about your DH but I'm usually the one cooking. My husband often takes over but in general he leaves me carte blanche when it's stuff I use more than him. For the in laws, can you just order a base? I don't know how much they are...but it may come in handy for them to just have one installed in their car. That's what we are doing with my in laws' car and our second car once we buy one.
I am so over my coworkers right now....I'm thinking a mental health day sounds fabulous. Perhaps you'll be my bad influence and I'll do the same tomorrow.
@foxbaby2016 nope, I was at the office before 7am Things came up and I had a lot to do at work so it wasn't a good day to skip out on work. I better get my chance later this week though. I am craving it!
@devilcat139, yes, my hubby does have a coat, but I've been avoiding it...we jokingly call it "big blue" since it is massive, even on him, and it is also the color of a smurf. I will likely swallow my pride tomorrow and wear it.
@zande2016, I would be sad and nervous too, given the situation, and I'm sorry your husband didn't follow you to bed. Since I'm fatigued lately and like to go to bed early, my DH has been "following me," but after we cuddle for a few minutes, he hops on his phone and I wear an eye mask so that I can sleep. Sorry to hear about leaving your son. A friend was in a similar situation, but was amazed at the resiliency of her toddler, and I hope it's the same for you.
@wildtot, ugh, what a way to start at the airport, I'd be a mess!
@zande2016 that is a bit sad considering you were leaving for work the next day. Usually unless I send obvious hints that I need some action, I'm ok with him not going to bed at the same time. Although sometimes he'll just get into bed at the same time as me and just play games on his tablet or read. With that said, I haven't had to go to bed at 8:30pm, I don't think my DH would follow me either. It will be a bit sad when the baby comes but I also try to think that he needs to enjoy his own time too and since he comes home at 7 from work bed at 8:30 may not be possible. With that said, pre work trip snuggles should always be an exception! Sending you hugs.
@kissableviv - thanks, glad i'm not crazy. I put it on his dang work calendar too! lol I really was trying to get on-board with the dark cabinets and make it work...but its a tiny kitchen and we just painted all the molding in the house white! I'm the chef - he's good a sandwiches and grilling, and is a decent sous chef but the kitchen is my domain. I think someone must have hit him over the head at work or he saw how much effort I put into trying to compromise and let me have it (plus he probably still feels guilty about missing the anatomy scan). My male coworker said "tell him if he wants you
to cook the kitchen needs to be how you want it" which cracked me up. FIL says he's going to buy their own (DD is almost 3 feet tall and over 25 lb so we're in a rear face-r and out of the baby carrier) and I gave him the info of a reasonably priced but safe one but even if he gets it by this weekend they have no idea how to install themselves and since DH will already be out of town I'll still have to do it. It'll be easier when they have their own, but I guess my early FFFC is I still don't always trust my in-laws to keep her safe and it's an anxiety trigger for me - I know they managed to raise DH and SIL but car seats are completely foreign to them and they never can figure out how to buckle her in without asking one of us to take over - despite many many many lessons over the last 2 years.
Two randoms-one, DS conquered peeing standing up BY A TREE OUTSIDE on a hike today! He was all weird about his balance at first and was using two hands to hold himself up so I held his penis away from his pants and he loudly yelled, "DONT TOUCH MY PENIS MOM!" **awkward** Then he did it himself.
Also @kissableviv did the ma yoga today for the first time and it was hard for me! I don't do yoga really so started with the beginner and was surprised how hard it is on my back muscles to sit up straight for long periods! I don't remember it being that bad in previous workouts! But I am looking foward to doing more!
There is a super random thread on the november bmb called neverending mastitis... the lady isnt pregnant and sharing this horror story with them... so random and scary
@SmashJam that is kind of hilarious, I'm looking forward to those awkward moments with my baby boy, lol.so glad you tried the yoga! Definitely take it day by day, as I mentioned before this is not just laying down and stretch, it will make you strong! I also get uncomfortable sitting like that for too long. I would say rolling a blanket under your sacrum could definitely help so you're not sitting on a completely flat surface.
@lindsayleigh1989 so many questions after reading that random november thread. Why post there? If they're not trying again yet why does she need to wait for her period to have an MRI? mastisis can migrate to your blood and kill you if left untreated (not trying to scare FTM, but it's a fact) so that risk is way greater than MRI pregnant - which i'm pretty sure is considered safe without contrast as it's not radiation based like XRays.
@runsomewhere just...why!? Why make another alias account to admit that you're posting as a regular under a different username?? I don't understand the world.
Random: My colleagues and I spent a significant amount of time this morning figuring out which staff members were most like each of the Winnie-the-Pooh characters. My confession: I GOT RABBIT...because apparently I'm always angry. I got angry about it. LOL.
Got to hear baby's heartbeat and got an order for the glucose test. No option for me other than the drink, so be it! I'm going at 25w and change because I'll be in Texas for 10 days after that to house sit my in laws' house while they go on a cruise and check on grandma too. Hoping the weather is beautiful by then so I can enjoy their pool daily!
@runsomewhere how do you not know about Pooh! That's so crazy. Also I thought you were laughing out loud and saying it was creepy about the specific part in that thread where the woman said she finished herself off, lol. And I was like, meh that's funny but not really creepy....then I scrolled down. Now I wonder who the regular is! I wonder if someone will sleuth and try and figure it out!
Just got home from work, sitting on the couch in the middle of my two bulldogs, and all 3 of us are taking turns farting. I feel like I really fit in with this group.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@runsomewhere what the heck?! so creepy!!! I hope it is just a troll! this is why we don't have a facebook group yet lol! also it makes me sad you don't know pooh!!
@kissableviv yay for hearing the heartbeat! I love that little woosh sound. Also I'm pretty jealous of you getting pool time for 10 days! hope you have amazing weather!
I am traveling for work next week to a pretty cool city that I've never been to before (alone) and I'm super excited to try the local food. However...I am sad to realize that many of the local cuisine that I would LOVE to try has lots of tomatoes in the base of the dishes and tomatoes hurt my stomach. It seems like I'll be eating a lot of specialty sandwiches and pastries instead. I joked to my husband that I should bring tupperware with me to bring home dishes I can't eat now and freeze them until August. I see some of your are traveling for work, too. This is my first work trip and I'm super excited.
It's 4am my time, 1am local time, and I've been up since 530am Tuesday. My coworker who I flew out with is waiting for her suitcase and the baggage claim belt is jammed. then we have to get our rental care and drive 100 miles to the hotel. All I can say is, I am not a fan of flying while pregnant and I am going to sleep for half the day when we finally get there.
@wildtot the TSA agent gave me major attitude about not wanting to go into the scanner. Also they had a regular metal detector that she had been letting some people go through, but she refused to let me go through, and insisted I had to wait for a pat down or go through the x ray scanner machine. Geeeesh.
@zande2016 I wish you lots of sleepy thoughts...although as I check the time I guess depending where you are you might not even be at your hotel yet! Ugh. Sorry for all of the hassle.
@zande2016 I wish you lots of sleepy thoughts...although as I check the time I guess depending where you are you might not even be at your hotel yet! Ugh. Sorry for all of the hassle.
We're here finally but can't go to bed yet bc uses the toilet won't flush and have to wait for them to come fix it! One of those days where all the things go wrong lol. I've officially been awake for 25 hours.
oh man @zande2016 that is horrible! I remember one time I traveled only from Vermont to Indiana for Xmas and we were so delayed that we didn't make it to the airport until 27 hours after we had left! Its only a 17 hour drive to Indiana. The airport closest to us is kind of a shitshow with cancelled flights, although I suppose its usually when I travel in the winter.
@runsomewhere Ugh, super creepy. Also, sad that someone has enough free time to do that. I can barely keep up with this community as much as I want to and I am ACTUALLY pregnant.
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@zande2016 good luck on your trip! It’s never easy leaving the little ones behind.
Eta, just noticed no gas meds are listed from the list my doctor gave me. Poo. Also anyone know if i can refuse payment for my scheduled Lyft that didn’t show up on time?
edited because hormones
I came in to work today. I wanted to skip out so bad but work stuff came up so calling in would not have been a responsible move. Maybe tomorrow, or Friday haha.
I got an ambiguous letter in the mail from my insurance the other day so I called in to ask about it and it seems like there was a glitch in the system and currently the only person in my house who is covered is my son. I about cried on the phone. She’s going to try to fix it, but it’s just my luck to have the random “you’re no longer covered” glitch come to me.
I'm in the exhausted boat with the rest of you, and it's turned my hormonal rage that was giving me some energy into just tired and honestly a bit blue. Crap weekend that I'm trying to not let carry over into a crap week. I need to get out of this funk before this long mother/daughter weekend... at least I have a hair appointment Friday and SIL might come over to relieve me for a bit. Vent below in verbal diarrhea form.
We went back to IKEA without the kid to have adult non-distracted talk about the kitchen. He wants the black/brown ultra manly kitchen, I want the classic all white and "marble" kitchen - we walked in ready to compromise on the grey kitchen but after looking at it again DH decided it was "too shiny"... So I found this company that makes custom doors for IKEA boxes and the grey shaker is matte instead of high gloss and they also have black, navy, white, or unfinished and suggested to compromise by mixing dark/light colors island/main kitchen or uppers/lowers or paint them myself in a mutually agreeable color. He was skeptical about me painting an entire kitchen's worth of doors 6 months pregnant once they finally arrive, but I was willing to do it or ask the dads for help. The pre-finished would be like 2x the cost of the IKEA doors (but worth it to me if it meant neither of us HATED the kitchen) but unfinished would be same/less but obviously more work. After all that discussion...he told me to just do the white kitchen I want... which I think might have been him giving in first for once but I'm thinking I might just stop trying to compromise and take him at his word....
MIL is trying to talk me into letting her take DD some of this weekend to give me a "break"... she suggested her and FIL come pick up DD on Sunday and offered to drive her back on Monday some time (which was shocking, I expected to have to drive the hour south after work on Monday)...but that would require me uninstalling the car seat by myself from the SUV and installing it in their car and then putting it back in the SUV all over again...plus probably getting an extra key made... and that plus the spoiled brat you always get back from sleepovers at grandma's just doesn't seem worth it... I dunno maybe i'm just being moody... It'll be Thurs wake-up to Monday bedtime only adult on duty but with a break Friday and Monday while I'm at work...what could go wrong, right? I could only see this getting bad if I throw my back out, then i'll have to re-assess.
I won't because holy crap $$$ but I waaaaaaant it!
have a safe trip!
@gingerbride26 that all sounds so stressful. I agree with you you're not your husband's secretary, you told him when the scan was and he made arrangements. Not your problem. Regarding the kitchen, why do men love dark furniture? My DH also came in with a bunch of dark wood stuff when we moved in together and I am happy to report I slowly got rid of it. It seems like it was not worth the stress to go through all that and do half ikea half something else. I would say unless he hates it with a passion, go with what you like. I don't know about your DH but I'm usually the one cooking. My husband often takes over but in general he leaves me carte blanche when it's stuff I use more than him.
For the in laws, can you just order a base? I don't know how much they are...but it may come in handy for them to just have one installed in their car. That's what we are doing with my in laws' car and our second car once we buy one.
I hope you took that sick day today.
I am so over my coworkers right now....I'm thinking a mental health day sounds fabulous. Perhaps you'll be my bad influence and I'll do the same tomorrow.
@zande2016, I would be sad and nervous too, given the situation, and I'm sorry your husband didn't follow you to bed. Since I'm fatigued lately and like to go to bed early, my DH has been "following me," but after we cuddle for a few minutes, he hops on his phone and I wear an eye mask so that I can sleep. Sorry to hear about leaving your son. A friend was in a similar situation, but was amazed at the resiliency of her toddler, and I hope it's the same for you.
@wildtot, ugh, what a way to start at the airport, I'd be a mess!
FIL says he's going to buy their own (DD is almost 3 feet tall and over 25 lb so we're in a rear face-r and out of the baby carrier) and I gave him the info of a reasonably priced but safe one but even if he gets it by this weekend they have no idea how to install themselves and since DH will already be out of town I'll still have to do it. It'll be easier when they have their own, but I guess my early FFFC is I still don't always trust my in-laws to keep her safe and it's an anxiety trigger for me - I know they managed to raise DH and SIL but car seats are completely foreign to them and they never can figure out how to buckle her in without asking one of us to take over - despite many many many lessons over the last 2 years.
Also @kissableviv did the ma yoga today for the first time and it was hard for me! I don't do yoga really so started with the beginner and was surprised how hard it is on my back muscles to sit up straight for long periods! I don't remember it being that bad in previous workouts! But I am looking foward to doing more!
DD was up about 6 times last night ugh what the heck... so trying to just get through today and go to bed early tonight
Random: My colleagues and I spent a significant amount of time this morning figuring out which staff members were most like each of the Winnie-the-Pooh characters. My confession: I GOT RABBIT...because apparently I'm always angry. I got angry about it. LOL.
Confession; I know nothing about Winnie the Pooh, just that there is the yellow bear and the donkey .
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@kissableviv yay for hearing the heartbeat! I love that little woosh sound. Also I'm pretty jealous of you getting pool time for 10 days! hope you have amazing weather!
I see some of your are traveling for work, too. This is my first work trip and I'm super excited.
coworker who I flew out with is waiting for her suitcase and the baggage claim belt is jammed. then we have to get our rental care and drive 100 miles to the hotel. All I can say is, I am not a fan of flying while pregnant and I am going to sleep for half the day when we finally get there.
@wildtot the TSA agent gave me major attitude about not wanting to go into the scanner. Also they had a regular metal detector that she had been letting some people go through, but she refused to let me go through, and insisted I had to wait for a pat down or go through the x ray scanner machine. Geeeesh.
@rachelsogo You just made my morning