@livinthesunnylife Ugh! Yes. My MIL would do the same thing. The woman can barely take care of herself and always manages to injure herself doing stupid things. Example: climbing up on the countertop at my BIL's house to get something down, losing her balance because she's half blind and quite overweight, falling, tearing something in her knee, and breaking her wrist. She didn't even go to the ER for it all until she was back at her sister's house (where she lives) and told her what happened. Stupid, stupid woman.
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29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
@livinthesunnylife she's the oldest. Which I think is the problem. When someone that's younger takes it away from her, she tells them to stop, but they don't, then she bites. I know that's it's all normal, and I have to remind myself of that. The problem is that one of the kids that she bit kind of gave us a hard time about it. I don't know what else to tell them other than we are trying to handle it.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 17 weeks, size of a pomegranate Age(s) of other kid(s)? DS is 3 and a half
How are you feeling? Still feeling so drained, definetly not got that ‘glowing’ feeling yet and wonder if I ever will with this pregnancy Rants/Raves? MIL... so many rants Questions?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
I agree with everyone who mentioned screentime and technology, like I would judge so much if I was in a restaurant and people would be ignoring their poor inquisitive children’s questions and passing them iPads instead... now that’s me, I don’t know why the sky is blue after I’ve tried to explain 20 times so leave me eat my garlic bread in peace!
@7425cait how old is she? My DS went through two phases of biting. It was, I believe, a combination of teething and frustration and the inability to express himself vocally. We bought a book called “ Teeth Are Not For Biting” and read it every morning and evening. It really did help!
How far along are you? Size of baby? 18w 6d. I think the bump said the size of an artichoke Age(s) of other kid(s)? DS will be 3 in June. How are you feeling? Okay. Just sore and tired. I’m okay in the mornings but by evening time, I’m shot.
Rants/Raves? None really
Questions? How is everyone preparing their older child for the baby? I’ve talked to him about it but feel like I should probably get some books about it. Any recommendations?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
Everything! Lol. My kid won’t eat sugar. My kid won’t watch TV. My kid won’t sleep in my bed. So many more.
Also, @calimom2524 I totally forgot to mention you earlier. Sorry you’re having a shitty time at home. I do hope as time passes it will get easier. Your dad has no excuse for acting like that, it’s a damn shame and I’m really sorry, you must feel so hurt. Anyway, big hugs to you!!!
Also, @calimom2524 I totally forgot to mention you earlier. Sorry you’re having a shitty time at home. I do hope as time passes it will get easier. Your dad has no excuse for acting like that, it’s a damn shame and I’m really sorry, you must feel so hurt. Anyway, big hugs to you!!!
Thank you that’s exactly what I feel. I’ve never heard him speak the way he has been to me and I didn’t realize he harbored so much anger and resentment towards me. It hurts and it sucks.
Also, @calimom2524 I totally forgot to mention you earlier. Sorry you’re having a shitty time at home. I do hope as time passes it will get easier. Your dad has no excuse for acting like that, it’s a damn shame and I’m really sorry, you must feel so hurt. Anyway, big hugs to you!!!
Thank you that’s exactly what I feel. I’ve never heard him speak the way he has been to me and I didn’t realize he harbored so much anger and resentment towards me. It hurts and it sucks.
I hope you guys can salvage some of the relationship, after he offers sincere apologies of course! I’m sure that once your due date is closer and once sweet little baby CFS is here that his tune will change. The only question will be whether or not you are willing to move on knowing how poorly he treated you. Again I’m so sorry. I’d be devastated if my dad spoke to me like that. So huge hugs and we are here for you xox
@ecwk she's 3 in June. The biting has been happening off and on for about a year. It's something she does out of frustration. It's exhausting. I will definitely look into that book.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 17w4... pomegranate or game controller
Age(s) of other kid(s)? Henry is almost 7, Isaac is 5, Rory 2.5
How are you feeling? Generally meh but not terrible anymore. Tired, always on the edge of a headache, crabby and emotional. Touchy in the mornings if I am not careful I get gaggy still
Rants/Raves? Second tri is dragging. It’s supposed to fly wtf?! My pgal brain is creeping in. Just want to get to August.
Questions? Nope
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do?? Hm. One thing was I wouldn’t live and die by the schedule. We don’t now as suits our family better but when my oldest was a toddler ohhhh myyyy godddd naptime was set in stone, or else we’d all suffer.
I used to roll my eyes at the anti screen time ppl. And now we do very very little tv. My oldest is strongly impacted by it, he’s high energy and it’s almost like it brings him too down - like a drug almost and then he crashes and is terrible. We do it occasionally on weekends and summer only after lots of outside time.
And i I didn’t plan to bedshare though I had no opinions otherwise, but it was happening so I researched safe practices, and all our kids did.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 16+6 Avocado Age(s) of other kid(s)? 22 months How are you feeling? So much better. My tailbone hurts, but that’s just life while pregnant (for me). I can deal. Rants/Raves? I really need to start planning DS’s birthday party. Questions? So we love the state fair. My mom told me she bought season tickets for the two of us (plus kiddos) to go as much as we want. She did this before knowing I was pregnant and was going to give it to me for my birthday. During the fair, DS2 will be 6-8 weeks old and DS will be 2.5. Those of you with two kids.... Do you think that’s something I’ll be able to handle? I feel like we could at least go twice, maybe more. It lasts for 3 weeks, 4 weekends. My mom was reminding me of all the things we did when DS1 was a newborn, but I didn’t have a toddler then! Anyways, just looking for opinions as to if that is realistic or not. GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do?? There really isn’t anything I made a absolute statement about, but I didn’t plan to bed share. I also didn’t want to have him watch much TV or eat in front of the TV so much. Hoping we can break some of those habits.
Depends on you, your toddler, and to a much lesser degree the baby (bc baby will be easy if you just wear him, stop to nurse or bottle). Rides would be tricky if it’s ride heavy. Would your dh go too then, no I assume?
i was at the playground 2 days P.P the last time because I felt better getting back to life, and hated sitting in the house. You should theoretically be feeling better by then, but you know yourself.
eta and your kid... my oldest was a runner (notice a theme? Love him but he’s a handful!!) and there was no way I’d do that without another adult. My middle and youngest though, sure!
@mrsbubbles-2 I’m so sorry about the stress. Money stress sucks. We have been feeling it the last year+ and it’s been really hard, and it isn’t as serious as your situation. I hope things improve soon!
@calimom2524 that sucks about your parents. I’ll bet when the baby comes they will soften - how could they not
@7425cait how old is she? My DS went through two phases of biting. It was, I believe, a combination of teething and frustration and the inability to express himself vocally. We bought a book called “ Teeth Are Not For Biting” and read it every morning and evening. It really did help!
Yesssss. We have hands are not for hitting because my oldest was a pusher. It’s so much worse being the mom of the aggressor than the mom of the victim. I’ve befn both, and it sucks when a child hurts your child, it’s wayyyy worse when your kid did it. I love this series, we read it so much and I used the language in it to talk to him.
With henry it was a language frustration thing, a frustration with other kids (not playing etc), and a boredom (bored in his surroundings - as -a 1st grader he still gets in trouble when bored). As a little kid for the 9m or so this lasted I was always hovering and watching to notice the signs so I could change things before he acted out, and if he did I picked him up immediately, said ‘we don’t hit our friends, hands are not for hitting, we are leaving because you weren’t gentle’
eventuakly, it got better. It sucks. I’m sorry you are dealing with it!!!!
@pghctwife I would be going with my mom! My recovery felt long last time. I tried to go on long walks at 4 weeks and it increased my bleeding, but this will be more leisurely walking, so I think I’ll be OK.
I’m totally that mom for the first year or so. SO’s family is a bit more HERE EVERYONE HOLD THE BABY and I’m like baby in the ergo around people. Don’t touch lol. This weekend at my DD’s bday. My SIL mentioned holding the baby and my sister said something like, good luck, you might get to when baby is 18 months. And I shrugged. Yup. My sister knows she’s the one odd ball. She’s my person. She’ll be the only person besides SO at the hospital for delivery. But I’m glad she said what she said so they get a hint of what is to come. Lol. People can hate. But I work my butt off being pregnant and thru long deliveries and nursing. And they are only little for a hot minute. And I get those cuddles. I keep telling SO, don’t rush those first few weeks or months. They are only so tiny for a second. It’s the best.
@pghctwife I would be going with my mom! My recovery felt long last time. I tried to go on long walks at 4 weeks and it increased my bleeding, but this will be more leisurely walking, so I think I’ll be OK.
OH DUH. Lol. If she’s helpful and spry do it! You can even take breaks and sit and she can do a quick thing with ds.
@mrsbubbles-2 That sounds so stressful, but it sounds like you are pretty close to something good happening. @calimom2524 I haven't said anything yet, because I know I'm not saying anything new, but I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. It sounds to me like you are making the best decisions for your family, and everyone will see that sooner or later. I agree, I think your parents will come around when the baby is actually here. We're here for you any time you need to talk about it all.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 16 and 3
Age(s) of other kid(s)? DS is two
How are you feeling? Physically, a lot better. But I have been on the verge of tears all day.
Rants/Raves? I was an hour late to work today because I couldn't get DS to get dressed. And he had a giant tantrum about it. I seriously almost just brought him in his pajamas. I did okay with everything in the moment, but then I got to daycare and saw all the other kids and just thought about how all of their parents were able to get them there dressed and in time for breakfast, and I just barely got him dressed and brought him in eating poptarts because he was an hour late and missed breakfast. I barely held myself together until I got into my car, then I had a whole meltdown over it. I'm pretty sure at least 60% of it was hormones, but I'm still feeling like I'm failing as a mom because of it. Which is silly, because I've had way bigger mom-fails than this. I also just realized that DS's extra crankiness combined with his sudden drooling probably means he's getting his two-year molars. So that's fun. But at least that means there's probably an end in sight.
Questions? Can someone just reassure me that all the other parents aren't as together as they seem?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do?? I tried so hard to never say never, but there were lots of things I intended to avoid. I planned to skip the pacifier, but DS had a lot of trouble latching, including trying to do it with his tongue on the roof of his mouth. At two weeks, the lactation consultant suggested a pacifier might help him figure it out. Two years later, it's still going strong. I also swore I would never give in to a tantrum. I can often hold strong, but sometimes I just don't have the strength to resist and he gets what he wants.
@Secretstapler Take him in pjs. If it’s gets him to breakfast, then it’s easier on you.
I can assure you, H and I aren’t even close to having it together. Today, going to practice, L had on zipped jammies, and a diaper he wouldn’t let me change all day. E had snow boots that were so big she couldn’t keep them on. I had only 1 of the 2 sippies with anything in it and forgot wipes.
90+% of the time L makes it to daycare with a blanket wrapped to cover he is just in his diaper. We can’t get him to bed before 10pm, so a 6:45 wake up call is miserable for everyone. He gets his clothes and ‘supplies’ in his angry birds backpack, and DC just laughs, as she sees him every time he wakes up early from his naps.
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Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 15w3d, an orange I think?
Age(s) of other kid(s)? DS1 is 21 months
How are you feeling? Intermittently fine and intermittently crappy. It's unpredictable. I've been having terrible headaches daily ever since I had the flu about 3 weeks ago. Now I'm suspicious they may be at least partially rebound headaches from taking so much Tylenol, so I am experimenting with no meds at all for a few days. Of course yesterday was an awfully stressful day at workand then DS wouldn't stop crying and wouldn't fall asleep. My DH was useless, so I brought DS into bed with me and we both fell asleep at 7:30. And I didn't eat dinner. This is why I'm now up at 4am eating toast and TB'ing.
Rants/Raves? Not really...
Questions? Help me plan for a 6 hour plane flight with a 22 month-old!!! Our last plane trip (only 3 hours) about a month ago was a shit show. I need to find a way to make this one better... Tips or tricks?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do?? Well in some ways I had very low expectations when I first became a parent - I guess that's what happens when you have your first kid at 38 and you've seen loads of family and friends go through it already. That being said, I didn't imagine myself letting my toddler eat cookies for breakfast (guilty), or go to bed without brushing his teeth (guilty), or not bathe him for 10 days straight because it was too much of a battle (guilty).
Me: 40 DH: 43 Married 5/30/15 TTC #1 June 2015 BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16! TTC #2 May 2017 BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
I'm playing a little catch-up. Busy thread already this week!
@lalala2004 I think you should be able to do the fair! Especially if your mom is there. I'd bring a carrier for baby, a stroller for the older kid. Be willing to take a lot of breaks. Also if you have tickets you can always go for short trips - just stay an hour or two each time. Sounds like fun!
@scottishlass1213 I had a K'tan in two sizes and never liked it - it just didn't feel secure enough. DS1 was really tiny (5lb) so that may have been part of it. I preferred a ring sling for the first month or two, then a soft structured carrier as soon as DS was big enough for it.
@mrsbubbles-2 I'm sorry for the financial stress. We went through it a few years ago when my DH had lost his job, so I know where you're at. We were fortunate that he found a new position in the nick of time, but had to compromise because it was in a different city so we had to be long-distance for a while when I was pregnant, which was awful. I really hope your DH finds something soon!
@calimom2524 Oh gosh, I'm sorry you had to hear that from your dad. Honestly, that's a shitty thing to say to your daughter, regardless of what your opinions or feelings are, and you certainly don't deserve it. I think talking to someone is a good idea. You have to put yourself first right now, and that means learning how to cope with whatever toxic messages you hear in your house. Good luck!
@ecwk I'm about 90% convinced I'm feeling real movement the past few days. I can feel it when I lie still, especially after I've eaten, just some very subtle flutters deep in my pelvis. It sort of freaked me out at first because I didn't feel anything until late (like 20 weeks) with my first pregnancy, but I had an anterior placenta then and not this time.
@livinthesunnylife Screen time does nothing for my kid either. If the TV is on it holds his attention for about 10 seconds. He's more interested in pretending that the remote is a phone and talking into it. I guess it's a good thing but I'm also kind of bummed...
@pghctwife I also did NOT appreciate the sanctity of a regular nap time until I became a mom!
@Secretstapler I promise you, you are not the only one who struggles to get a toddler dressed in the morning. If those other kids at daycare looked put-together then it was just a really good act. One was probably up screaming all night long. Another probably needed three clothing changes because he peed on himself and then spilled milk all over himself. Maybe one was still wearing yesterday's clothes because getting into PJs in the first place was too much work (yup, I've done that!). We all struggle. I 100% guarantee it.
Me: 40 DH: 43 Married 5/30/15 TTC #1 June 2015 BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16! TTC #2 May 2017 BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
@Secretstapler guaranteed your kid was not the only one to throw a fit or eat pop tarts. I think you’re pretty awesome for not being so frazzled that you forgot to grab the pop tarts! No Mom has it together! Not all the time anyway.
There was this one day that DS ran away from me in the grocery store and strangers were literally blocking him so I could catch him. Then when I grabbed him he started kicking and yelling, “No hold you.” And I had to pay because I needed the diapers we were in there for. I wanted to crawl in a hole and cry.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 17+5, no idea how big that makes baby. Age(s) of other kid(s)? 7yo How are you feeling? Still having ms on & off all day. Still exhausted. I went to bed Fri & Sat at 4:30pm and slept until the next morning. Rants/Raves? 1. I bitched out a fellow teacher yesterday for yelling at a kid whose parents “don’t do anything” according to the teacher. I know the kid and his parents, and they’re in the same boat as me, DH, & DS right now - trying to survive the day with a million things going on at any given time. 2. Will the ms & exhaustion ever end? I’m so sick & tired of literally being sick & tired. Questions? Nope GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do?? Not a lot - I’m pretty easy-going, and I don’t remember being extremely against anything. I just always said my kid would be disciplined for being an asshole, unlike a lot of kids I know, and we pretty much stick to that.
@Secretstapler My kid is 7yo, and there are still lots of mornings when I don’t have it together. If he couldn’t get breakfast & lunch at school I would be so screwed. Being a parent is literally a FT job that we juggle along with a hundred other FT jobs, and we do our best not to let everything come crashing down on us.
@calimom2524 That was shitty of your dad, and talking to someone would probably help you feel better.
Man you all are making me look at these ring slings now. Why are they so expensive or am I missing something?
A lot of them are handwoven, or an expensive fabric like silk. Not all of them are expensive, but you tend to get what you pay for as far as durability and comfort.
@Secretstapler I'm sorry for the rough day yesterday. I'm absolutely positive that those other kids have moms that have days just like you did. It's rough when the littles want to battle it out, and always at the most inopportune times. Hugs, girl. I hope today is better
@redheadbride15 - Does your kiddo like activity books? Before our last trip with E we got a bunch of books that do stuff - you know like the flaps that lift up or buttons that make noise (I make no apologies to other passengers for any noise my kid makes during a flight, kids are going to be kids and I don't think that's something we should feel like we have to hide just because it might inconvenience someone for the length of a flight. *hops off soapbox*) We brought 4-5 different activity books, an ipad with a coloring book app on it, and lots and lots of snacks. We also got to the airport super early and found a near-empty gate where he could just run around and burn some energy off. Good luck!
Being a parent is literally a FT job that we juggle along with a hundred other FT jobs, and we do our best not to let everything come crashing down on us.
1000000% this. I am so feeling this today. DS was a demon last night and we are all very stressed and tired in my home. I am trying to juggle everything and it's not working out too well for me today.
@melprop I am sorry you're stressed - if it helps at all, just know you are not alone. Hugs! And I really hope you feel better soon!!
Lol all those memes and videos? I’m 100% the hot mess mom. No. Doubt. Not exaggerating. Always late, always forgetting stuff. Worse since I’m pregnant too. There’s stuff im on top of too but it just physically can’t be everything. I’m scattered in general, so it’s someyhung I have to work for to be organized for the kids
I adore my ring sling, they are so easy esp with older kids to also deal with! And now you guys are making me want a fancy Tula.,. I’ve just done the standard issue ones in the past. I have oh my! From my youngest but I want to sell that to put towards a girlie one... but I doubt it’s value will be great.
I agree with @lalala2004 with carriers 90% of the time you get what you pay for, just don't get wrapped up (hehehe) in htf prints and things of that nature. When you start paying more than retail you're paying too much (imo)
@Secretstapler You are definitely not alone! DD is only 1 so we haven't quite hit the same stage as what you described, but every day when we try to get her in/out of her car seat at daycare and she's standing up and thrashing and screaming and our panic/embarrassment level is through the roof, I always wonder the same thing. FWIW, I think Pop-Tarts are absolutely an acceptable solution to the problem of missing breakfast. And actually, now I think I need some Pop-Tarts. Sorry you had such a shitty morning. I hope today is much better!
Thanks, everyone! On most days I'm able to laugh it off and know I'm doing my best. Somehow yesterday I couldn't even think about the stupid poptarts without crying at work. I am going to have to change my original estimate from 60% hormones to 95% hormones. I kept trying to talk down that voice in my head that was telling me that everyone was judging me, but it was really hard yesterday. You all really nice helped me out!
@Secretstapler my 5 year old pretty much eats breakfast in the van on the way to school every morning. She is so pokey sometimes and has to do everything herself. If I try to help she completely removes that thing and does it again. Mom's of strong willed kids unite!
@mrsbubbles-2 I am so sorry about the stress. We had the same thing happen when DD was 3 months old last time and his was our only income. Hopefully something comes around soon
@calimom2524 that is really something that no-one should ever say but especially now. I hope your family starts to come around for you.
How far along are you? Size of baby? 15 weeks 4 days size of an orange
Age(s) of other kid(s)? DD is 5
How are you feeling? Really sore and tired. Still have the morning sickness which really sucks.
Rants/Raves? DD is now telling us that she doesn't want a little sister and she wants to be the only one in the family. It is breaking my heart. I am hoping it is just a phase and that she will love her when she gets here.
Questions? How was your transition from one to two. There will be an almost 6 year difference between the two. DD is a S12 baby.
Also how was labour different between the two? Size, time, duration. DD was two weeks early and they will take this one at 39 weeks regardless but I would love for her to come on her own.
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
No fast food, and if it is you are getting chicken nuggets. Now it probably once a week when we are insanely busy and she can get whatever she wants, which is usually a cheeseburger.
@Secretstapler - I've been having those same feelings randomly and it's tough to get through! I bet no one was judging you, we've all been there.
Question - moving the kiddo from rear-facing to front facing. If it were up to me DS would be rear facing until he went to college lol! But at his 18 month appt we brought it up to the pediatrician. Dr said that we could flip him at any point now, he's in the 98th percentile for height and weight. In DH's car rear facing his legs are up on the back seat, so he's sitting in a V. DH is ready to flip, I'm not. When did you decide to move to front facing?
@redheadbride15 for our shorter flights (5 hrs) we've done light snacks, coloring books, those no mess markers, aqua doodle, play dough ( if they let you bring it on), magnet games, shows on the iPad. For our longer flights (8+ hrs) all of the above, plus she's taken naps and we walk the aisles. She's 2.5 now, so shows can hold her interest longer, but when she was an infant, we did a lot of change your in activities.
@mrsbubbles-2 DD is 2.5 but on the smaller side. She is still rear facing. She either crosses her legs or puts them up on the back of the seat. She doesn't complain about it, so we are keeping her rear facing until the new baby comes. Then we'll have to switch her because she'll go behind the driver and the seat won't fit. I would keep your son rear facing as long as possible. Better a broken leg, than a broken neck.
Yeah I think my goal would be 2.5-3ish for rear facing? But we'll see how he does with his leg space. I think our seat is made for extended rear facing because it has a ton of room. DH's truck might be an issue, but DS is rarely ever in there.
We kept DS2 rear facing until almost 3. He's tiny but does have long legs. He never complained, he either folded his legs or just put them straight out. I'd rather him have broken legs in an accident than a broken spine so I rear faced as long as I could. Plus, in California it's the law until 2 now anyways.
Ds rear faced until 3 and he's 90th percentile for height and weight. We switched him so he could watch movies on our very frequent long trips in the van
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About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
17 weeks, size of a pomegranate
Age(s) of other kid(s)?
DS is 3 and a half
How are you feeling?
Still feeling so drained, definetly not got that ‘glowing’ feeling yet and wonder if I ever will with this pregnancy
Rants/Raves?
MIL... so many rants
Questions?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
I agree with everyone who mentioned screentime and technology, like I would judge so much if I was in a restaurant and people would be ignoring their poor inquisitive children’s questions and passing them iPads instead... now that’s me, I don’t know why the sky is blue after I’ve tried to explain 20 times so leave me eat my garlic bread in peace!
https://www.amazon.com/Teeth-Biting-Board-Book-Behavior/dp/1575421283/ref=nodl_
18w 6d. I think the bump said the size of an artichoke
Age(s) of other kid(s)? DS will be 3 in June.
How are you feeling? Okay. Just sore and tired. I’m okay in the mornings but by evening time, I’m shot.
Rants/Raves? None really
Questions? How is everyone preparing their older child for the baby? I’ve talked to him about it but feel like I should probably get some books about it. Any recommendations?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
Everything! Lol. My kid won’t eat sugar. My kid won’t watch TV. My kid won’t sleep in my bed. So many more.
me and I didn’t realize he harbored so much anger and resentment towards me. It hurts and it sucks.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
17w4... pomegranate or game controller
Age(s) of other kid(s)? Henry is almost 7, Isaac is 5, Rory 2.5
How are you feeling? Generally meh but not terrible anymore. Tired, always on the edge of a headache, crabby and emotional. Touchy in the mornings if I am not careful I get gaggy still
Rants/Raves? Second tri is dragging. It’s supposed to fly wtf?! My pgal brain is creeping in. Just want to get to August.
Questions? Nope
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
Hm. One thing was I wouldn’t live and die by the schedule. We don’t now as suits our family better but when my oldest was a toddler ohhhh myyyy godddd naptime was set in stone, or else we’d all suffer.
I used to roll my eyes at the anti screen time ppl. And now we do very very little tv. My oldest is strongly impacted by it, he’s high energy and it’s almost like it brings him too down - like a drug almost and then he crashes and is terrible. We do it occasionally on weekends and summer only after lots of outside time.
And i I didn’t plan to bedshare though I had no opinions otherwise, but it was happening so I researched safe practices, and all our kids did.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
i was at the playground 2 days P.P the last time because I felt better getting back to life, and hated sitting in the house. You should theoretically be feeling better by then, but you know yourself.
eta and your kid... my oldest was a runner (notice a theme? Love him but he’s a handful!!) and there was no way I’d do that without another adult. My middle and youngest though, sure!
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
@mrsbubbles-2 I’m so sorry about the stress. Money stress sucks. We have been feeling it the last year+ and it’s been really hard, and it isn’t as serious as your situation. I hope things improve soon!
@calimom2524 that sucks about your parents. I’ll bet when the baby comes they will soften - how could they not
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
With henry it was a language frustration thing, a frustration with other kids (not playing etc), and a boredom (bored in his surroundings - as -a 1st grader he still gets in trouble when bored). As a little kid for the 9m or so this lasted I was always hovering and watching to notice the signs so I could change things before he acted out, and if he did I picked him up immediately, said ‘we don’t hit our friends, hands are not for hitting, we are leaving because you weren’t gentle’
eventuakly, it got better. It sucks. I’m sorry you are dealing with it!!!!
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
I’m totally that mom for the first year or so. SO’s family is a bit more HERE EVERYONE HOLD THE BABY and I’m like baby in the ergo around people. Don’t touch lol. This weekend at my DD’s bday. My SIL mentioned holding the baby and my sister said something like, good luck, you might get to when baby is 18 months. And I shrugged. Yup. My sister knows she’s the one odd ball. She’s my person. She’ll be the only person besides SO at the hospital for delivery. But I’m glad she said what she said so they get a hint of what is to come. Lol. People can hate. But I work my butt off being pregnant and thru long deliveries and nursing. And they are only little for a hot minute. And I get those cuddles. I keep telling SO, don’t rush those first few weeks or months. They are only so tiny for a second. It’s the best.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
@calimom2524 I haven't said anything yet, because I know I'm not saying anything new, but I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. It sounds to me like you are making the best decisions for your family, and everyone will see that sooner or later. I agree, I think your parents will come around when the baby is actually here. We're here for you any time you need to talk about it all.
How far along are you? Size of baby?
16 and 3
Age(s) of other kid(s)?
DS is two
How are you feeling?
Physically, a lot better. But I have been on the verge of tears all day.
Rants/Raves?
I was an hour late to work today because I couldn't get DS to get dressed. And he had a giant tantrum about it. I seriously almost just brought him in his pajamas. I did okay with everything in the moment, but then I got to daycare and saw all the other kids and just thought about how all of their parents were able to get them there dressed and in time for breakfast, and I just barely got him dressed and brought him in eating poptarts because he was an hour late and missed breakfast. I barely held myself together until I got into my car, then I had a whole meltdown over it. I'm pretty sure at least 60% of it was hormones, but I'm still feeling like I'm failing as a mom because of it. Which is silly, because I've had way bigger mom-fails than this.
I also just realized that DS's extra crankiness combined with his sudden drooling probably means he's getting his two-year molars. So that's fun. But at least that means there's probably an end in sight.
Questions?
Can someone just reassure me that all the other parents aren't as together as they seem?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
I tried so hard to never say never, but there were lots of things I intended to avoid. I planned to skip the pacifier, but DS had a lot of trouble latching, including trying to do it with his tongue on the roof of his mouth. At two weeks, the lactation consultant suggested a pacifier might help him figure it out. Two years later, it's still going strong. I also swore I would never give in to a tantrum. I can often hold strong, but sometimes I just don't have the strength to resist and he gets what he wants.
I can assure you, H and I aren’t even close to having it together. Today, going to practice, L had on zipped jammies, and a diaper he wouldn’t let me change all day. E had snow boots that were so big she couldn’t keep them on. I had only 1 of the 2 sippies with anything in it and forgot wipes.
90+% of the time L makes it to daycare with a blanket wrapped to cover he is just in his diaper. We can’t get him to bed before 10pm, so a 6:45 wake up call is miserable for everyone. He gets his clothes and ‘supplies’ in his angry birds backpack, and DC just laughs, as she sees him every time he wakes up early from his naps.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
15w3d, an orange I think?
Age(s) of other kid(s)?
DS1 is 21 months
How are you feeling?
Intermittently fine and intermittently crappy. It's unpredictable. I've been having terrible headaches daily ever since I had the flu about 3 weeks ago. Now I'm suspicious they may be at least partially rebound headaches from taking so much Tylenol, so I am experimenting with no meds at all for a few days. Of course yesterday was an awfully stressful day at work and then DS wouldn't stop crying and wouldn't fall asleep. My DH was useless, so I brought DS into bed with me and we both fell asleep at 7:30. And I didn't eat dinner. This is why I'm now up at 4am eating toast and TB'ing.
Rants/Raves?
Not really...
Questions?
Help me plan for a 6 hour plane flight with a 22 month-old!!! Our last plane trip (only 3 hours) about a month ago was a shit show. I need to find a way to make this one better... Tips or tricks?
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
Well in some ways I had very low expectations when I first became a parent - I guess that's what happens when you have your first kid at 38 and you've seen loads of family and friends go through it already. That being said, I didn't imagine myself letting my toddler eat cookies for breakfast (guilty), or go to bed without brushing his teeth (guilty), or not bathe him for 10 days straight because it was too much of a battle (guilty).
Married 5/30/15
TTC #1 June 2015
BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
TTC #2 May 2017
BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
@lalala2004 I think you should be able to do the fair! Especially if your mom is there. I'd bring a carrier for baby, a stroller for the older kid. Be willing to take a lot of breaks. Also if you have tickets you can always go for short trips - just stay an hour or two each time. Sounds like fun!
@scottishlass1213 I had a K'tan in two sizes and never liked it - it just didn't feel secure enough. DS1 was really tiny (5lb) so that may have been part of it. I preferred a ring sling for the first month or two, then a soft structured carrier as soon as DS was big enough for it.
@mrsbubbles-2 I'm sorry for the financial stress. We went through it a few years ago when my DH had lost his job, so I know where you're at. We were fortunate that he found a new position in the nick of time, but had to compromise because it was in a different city so we had to be long-distance for a while when I was pregnant, which was awful. I really hope your DH finds something soon!
@calimom2524 Oh gosh, I'm sorry you had to hear that from your dad. Honestly, that's a shitty thing to say to your daughter, regardless of what your opinions or feelings are, and you certainly don't deserve it. I think talking to someone is a good idea. You have to put yourself first right now, and that means learning how to cope with whatever toxic messages you hear in your house. Good luck!
@ecwk I'm about 90% convinced I'm feeling real movement the past few days. I can feel it when I lie still, especially after I've eaten, just some very subtle flutters deep in my pelvis. It sort of freaked me out at first because I didn't feel anything until late (like 20 weeks) with my first pregnancy, but I had an anterior placenta then and not this time.
@livinthesunnylife Screen time does nothing for my kid either. If the TV is on it holds his attention for about 10 seconds. He's more interested in pretending that the remote is a phone and talking into it. I guess it's a good thing but I'm also kind of bummed...
@pghctwife I also did NOT appreciate the sanctity of a regular nap time until I became a mom!
@Secretstapler I promise you, you are not the only one who struggles to get a toddler dressed in the morning. If those other kids at daycare looked put-together then it was just a really good act. One was probably up screaming all night long. Another probably needed three clothing changes because he peed on himself and then spilled milk all over himself. Maybe one was still wearing yesterday's clothes because getting into PJs in the first place was too much work (yup, I've done that!). We all struggle. I 100% guarantee it.
Married 5/30/15
TTC #1 June 2015
BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
TTC #2 May 2017
BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
There was this one day that DS ran away from me in the grocery store and strangers were literally blocking him so I could catch him. Then when I grabbed him he started kicking and yelling, “No hold you.” And I had to pay because I needed the diapers we were in there for. I wanted to crawl in a hole and cry.
17+5, no idea how big that makes baby.
Age(s) of other kid(s)?
7yo
How are you feeling?
Still having ms on & off all day. Still exhausted. I went to bed Fri & Sat at 4:30pm and slept until the next morning.
Rants/Raves?
1. I bitched out a fellow teacher yesterday for yelling at a kid whose parents “don’t do anything” according to the teacher. I know the kid and his parents, and they’re in the same boat as me, DH, & DS right now - trying to survive the day with a million things going on at any given time.
2. Will the ms & exhaustion ever end? I’m so sick & tired of literally being sick & tired.
Questions?
Nope
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
Not a lot - I’m pretty easy-going, and I don’t remember being extremely against anything. I just always said my kid would be disciplined for being an asshole, unlike a lot of kids I know, and we pretty much stick to that.
@calimom2524 That was shitty of your dad, and talking to someone would probably help you feel better.
@redheadbride15 - Does your kiddo like activity books? Before our last trip with E we got a bunch of books that do stuff - you know like the flaps that lift up or buttons that make noise (I make no apologies to other passengers for any noise my kid makes during a flight, kids are going to be kids and I don't think that's something we should feel like we have to hide just because it might inconvenience someone for the length of a flight. *hops off soapbox*)
We brought 4-5 different activity books, an ipad with a coloring book app on it, and lots and lots of snacks. We also got to the airport super early and found a near-empty gate where he could just run around and burn some energy off. Good luck!
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
@melprop
I am sorry you're stressed - if it helps at all, just know you are not alone. Hugs! And I really hope you feel better soon!!
Edit: DS not DH!!
on top of too but it just physically can’t be everything. I’m scattered in general, so it’s someyhung I have to work for to be organized for the kids
I adore my ring sling, they are so easy esp with older kids to also deal with! And now you guys are making me want a fancy Tula.,. I’ve just done the standard issue ones in the past. I have oh my! From my youngest but I want to sell that to put towards a girlie one... but I doubt it’s value will be great.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
@mrsbubbles-2 I am so sorry about the stress. We had the same thing happen when DD was 3 months old last time and his was our only income. Hopefully something comes around soon
@calimom2524 that is really something that no-one should ever say but especially now. I hope your family starts to come around for you.
How far along are you? Size of baby?
15 weeks 4 days size of an orange
Age(s) of other kid(s)?
DD is 5
How are you feeling?
Really sore and tired. Still have the morning sickness which really sucks.
Rants/Raves?
DD is now telling us that she doesn't want a little sister and she wants to be the only one in the family. It is breaking my heart. I am hoping it is just a phase and that she will love her when she gets here.
Questions?
How was your transition from one to two. There will be an almost 6 year difference between the two. DD is a S12 baby.
Also how was labour different between the two? Size, time, duration. DD was two weeks early and they will take this one at 39 weeks regardless but I would love for her to come on her own.
GTKY: What is something you said before you became a parent that you’d never do as a parent but now you actually do do??
No fast food, and if it is you are getting chicken nuggets. Now it probably once a week when we are insanely busy and she can get whatever she wants, which is usually a cheeseburger.
Question - moving the kiddo from rear-facing to front facing. If it were up to me DS would be rear facing until he went to college lol! But at his 18 month appt we brought it up to the pediatrician. Dr said that we could flip him at any point now, he's in the 98th percentile for height and weight. In DH's car rear facing his legs are up on the back seat, so he's sitting in a V. DH is ready to flip, I'm not. When did you decide to move to front facing?
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
@mrsbubbles-2 DD is 2.5 but on the smaller side. She is still rear facing. She either crosses her legs or puts them up on the back of the seat. She doesn't complain about it, so we are keeping her rear facing until the new baby comes. Then we'll have to switch her because she'll go behind the driver and the seat won't fit. I would keep your son rear facing as long as possible. Better a broken leg, than a broken neck.
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015