FTM check in week of 2/27-3/5

catftm2018

Started one because I forgot to yesterday!

How far along are you?

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 

Rants/raves? 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 

nimmle

How far along are you? 18w +4d

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Not much really. Although I'm starting to feel like my belly is not my own. It's a bit bizarre. I think it's also because I can't really feel my ab muscles anymore.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go?  Had an appointment last wednesday. Went well although I gained a decent amount since the last checkup so trying to be more mindful of what I'm eating. Had my blood test to screen for Spina Bifida and came back all clear.

Rants/raves? It's tech week for my show so I've been at rehearsals til 11pm every day since Sunday. Tonight is dress rehearsal and then I have a couple nights off til open on Saturday. It's a lot of fun and I'm sad that it's ending soon but I am straight up exhausted.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Nothing really...asked question in questions thread

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
I have a great relationship with my Mom. I'm not sure if it's really shaping how I'd be like as a Mom though. She's a bit of an over analyzer and I'm more relaxed in general. 

millpe

How far along are you? 20w 6d

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Cracked nipples - it's weird. Not painful just different. Not sure if I should be using nipple cream already? 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go?  I haven't checked in for awhile! But last week I had my anatomy scan! Everything is looking good! 

Rants/raves? I had energy for awhile, but now I'm back to being exhausted! My sister had her baby girl this weekend which made me both excited and terrified for our little boy- can't believe I'm next!

Questions for FTM, or STM+? Just if I should be using nipple cream? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
I have a good relationship with my mom. We aren't super close, but I know she's always there for me and always supportive. I was more of a daddy's girl growing up. 
I think how I want to be as a mom changes as the child grows- I don't want to be the "best friend". I want to be trusting and supportive and involved though - but also a voice of reason? 

morethanamama

I'm 21+4 today!
Only "new" thing is that I also feel like there is no denying this belly now. Other thing is that I stir a bit more at night so it may be time to try out the snoogle!

I'm going to rave about my in laws. We spent 3 days with them in Texas and they straight up spoiled us. They got us a baby monitor, a pack and play for their house, and MIL treated me to a HUGE shopping spree at destination maternity. We feel so blessed to have all our parents so involved despite the distance!

Anyone else experiencing restless leg syndrome? I literally only get it at night after dinner if I'm laying on the couch. A bit annoying.

I have no idea what kind of mom I'll be, I hope to be a fun one! I'm very sweet and affectionate, so there will be cuddles! My mom was and is great so I have someone to look up to for sure. She'll be staying with us for 6 weeks this summer.

bearmomma1

@kissableviv I've been getting it too in the evenings. By time I get into bed all is well, but sitting on the couch I find myself stretching my legs.

How far along are you?
21+2

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
Definitely feeling the baby fluttering and belly is getting bigger.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
Last week was anatomy scan. All is great!

Rants/raves? 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
I have some anxieties about what kind of mom I'm going to be. There's so much I hope I can be, but I'm afraid I won't be able to pull it off. My mom was pretty hands off when we were children, even though we have a pretty great relationship now. She wasn't very open about talking about things, so that's one thing I hope to be different. I want my kids to be able to talk to me about things, and visa versa

canucklehead123

How far along are you? 19+3

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? nope. 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? anatomy scan on Friday

Rants/raves? My mom is coming to visit tonight and today is my last day of work for the week - hurrah!! 

Questions for FTM, or STM+?  Not today

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different?  I can't really picture what type of mom I'll be - part of me just wants to let things unfold because I don't want to hold myself to my own unrealistic expectations and then feel like somehow I've failed.  I've been listening to the funniest podcast called Scummy Mummies and these hilarious ladies are teaching me that motherhood is messy and to be okay with that. I have a great relationship with my mother but she was (is still) quite an anxious person and I struggled a lot with her as a teenager as she was very ... hands on let's say.  I'll still sometimes get the odd text out of the blue that says "don't do drugs" or something weird, and I'll just be like "OMG I'm an adult woman!!!" lol! But, I guess being a mother never really stops. 

@MrsMiller8588 I'm having cracked nipples as well.. not painful just cracked!  I have no answers for you on the nipple cream though...sorry.  I notice mine will be cracked and then not cracked... they fluctuate.  It's so weird.  Congrats to your sister and you!! 
@kissableviv my yoga instructor told a woman in our class to Youtube "yoga for restless leg syndrome" apparently there are some good vids - I haven't tried any but this might help you find some relief.

zombiehoohaa

How far along are you? 19+ 3

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? I'm exhausted and have no drive to do anything. RLP is still alive and kicking. 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? I have my anatomy scan tomorrow. 

Rants/raves? Wanted to hear the baby, so I pulled out my doppler lastnight. I heard a lot of movement and a very faint heartbeat. The heartbeat sounded like it was far away and I only heard it for less than minute. I struggled to find it after that. I'm not sure if this is because baby was like Get the hell away from me or if something is wrong. I'm a bit on edge because of this. Hoping tomorrow's scan shows everything is okay. 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different?  Everyone tells me I am going to be a great mom. However, I can't help but feel like I'll be lost in the woods. I will learn as I go. Grow with the baby. My mom and I have a great relationship now. However, growing up she was not emotionally available to us kids. She was a single mom raising 4 kids, going to school and working 2 jobs. She then married a man who had 2 kids, so I fought for her affection even more after that. I know I will give my child the emotional support needed because I did not have that growing up. Hopefully my patience will get better. 

morethanamama

Sorry to bring up weight again and for the TMI. The 3 pounds were probably poop and bloat because today I'm back to last week's weight and I paid 3 visits to the bathroom in the past 24 hours. I guess traveling and eating out all the time really does a number on pregnancy weight! Today I'm teaching two classes, not sure why I committed to do that, so at least I will for sure stay active.

Pinky917

@MrsMiller8588 I can't weigh in on the nipple cream, but I have also has some cracked nipples, and like @canucklehead123 it seems to be kind of off and on. I have just been using my cocoa butter that I use for everything else. 

I hope all goes well tomorrow @zombiehoohaa. I don't know if this helps at all, but when they used the doppler at my last Dr appointment it sounded similar to what you described and they were not concerned by it. 

How far along are you? 20+3

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in? Not really, just feeling larger. 

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? Anatomy scan is tomorrow. Not going to lie, I am pretty effin nervous. 

Rants/raves? Just ready for it to be tomorrow already so I can get through this and hopefully finally relax a little bit. 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? I am a little nervous that I may end up be an overly paranoid mom ha ha. My mom and I have a good relationship, but I do feel like our parenting styles will end up being pretty different not because I don't agree with things but because we are going to be in very different situations. My mother raised me by herself when she was just out of high school, so while she did always try to do whatever she could to make sure I had a great childhood her situation did make it a little more difficult. 

samjjorgensen

@zombiehoohaa I definitely wouldn’t worry too much. At my last appointment it took my nurse FOREVER to find the heartbeat and I panicked. After like two minutes I looked down was like “IS EVERYTHING OKAY WHY ISNT HIS HEART BEATING?!”

And she very calmly explained to me that he’s just super active right now, and still has plenty of room to be evasive and was just avoiding the Doppler everytime she got close.

I’m sure yours is just being a little booger

zombiehoohaa

Thanks @pinky917! Definitely with you about the nervousness for the anatomy scan tomorrow! Good luck!!

zombiehoohaa

@samjjorgensen Thank you! That makes sense! I was hearing a lot of swooshing and thumps. So, baby is probably a stubborn little punk like dad. lol

supersara2

How far along are you? 
21 weeks today!

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
I've been having trouble sleeping lately. I think it's acid reflux, or it's been kind of warm lately.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
Anatomy scan on Monday. Everything looked good! I peed right before so she was upside down at the beginning, but we nudged her a little.

Rants/raves? 
My 2005 Honda Accord needs a new (used) engine, so it's time to start looking for a new car. At least I'll have a reliable car for when the baby comes. Guess I'll be checking out that car thread soon.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
None that I can think of.

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
I'm not sure if there's a specific type of mom I'd like to be. I know I want to be supportive, involved when I need to be, and help them grow into functional and good people. My mom and I have a good relationship now, but she was and is controlling. I know now it was all out of love, but it's really overbearing sometimes (and she can be as well). I'd like to avoid all of that because it makes it hard to talk to her. I want my kid to be able to come to me for things.

moguippy

@zombiehoohaa Everytime my OB tries to do the Doppler it takes awhile to find the HB and even then it’s always super faint and lasts like 5 seconds max before she loses it. So even my OB has trouble with it lol

babyrojas2018

How far along are you?
I'm 21+2!

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
Other than this awful YI, no.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
Not until the 16th for my 24 week check up!

Rants/raves? 
I feel like my boyfriend thinks I use this pregnancy as an excuse sometimes and it's quite annoying. Example: I say "Babe my back hurts/I feel really uncomfortable I just want to lie down" and he gets upset and says "you always feel that way now." Wish I had a way to show him how I'm feeling.

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
Do any of you have the feeling of needing to pee but then when you go, barely any comes out?? I was tested for uti and I don't have one. I guess normal?

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
I feel like I'm going to be the mom that watches baby sleep all night in fear of something happening, lol. I have a good relationship with my mom for the most part. I think some things she did will stick with me, but for the most part I think our parenting styles are very different!  

devilcat139

How far along are you?
22w
Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
Just continuing to deal with deathly SPD and heartburn every night. And constant burping no matter what I eat. It's so uncomfortable! 
Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
I had a fetal echo done on Tuesday and thankfully both hearts looked great! 
Rants/raves? 
Just love to feel them kick all the time. 
Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
I have a really good relationship with my mom. I'm really just terrified I won't be able to do as good of a job as she did (she's a much nicer and more nurturing person than I am generally) but I am so lucky to have someone like that to a. Be a grandma to these girls and b. Have as a role model for just outstanding parenting. I am an incredibly driven and ambitious person on my own-mom never pushed me-but I know I won't be able to help but place some high expectations on my kids. Like...me and my husband, and both sets of parents are all 2x Ivy League grads so I can't see myself being ok with kids who don't care about achievement but we will have to see what these girls are like when they come out

millpe

@zombiehoohaa and @Pinky917 Good luck today! Hoping everything goes perfectly for both of you and you report back with good news after getting to see your babies!!!

babygagnon2018

How far along are you?

19+3

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?

Nope, feeling good.  Just hate getting up at night to pee and waking up in the morning is torture.

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 

Nada until next Friday- anatomy scan, yay!

Rants/raves? 

- Excited the Nov board opened up- I get so excited because it actually feels like things are moving along and getting closer

- The Babies R Us near me is closing (there are two in my city/town so not a huge bummer) and I just got a bunch of stuff super cheap- I keep telling myself to stop buying stuff because there will be nothing left to buy for the shower…but I just cant help it!

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

None currently

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 

I was one of four kids so I wasn’t super close with my mom but we didn’t have a “bad” relationship- just kind of- “normal” I’m closer with her now but I want to be really close with my daughter.  

My mom isn’t a “girly girl” and I am- mani/pedi’s, shopping, spa days, tea time etc and my mom just isn’t into all that so we don’t have much to bond over.  I want to expose my little peanut to all the girly stuff early on- even though her dad wants her to be a tom boy haha.

 

MrsMiller8588 congrats on your niece!

kissableviv  that was so nice of your inlaws, mine went to St. Maarten for a month… so jealous and hating them right now.

Sorry if this is something you don’t want to share- but have you gained weight since being pregnant? I’ve been doing research online that says 1-2 lbs a week is normal but I’m 19 weeks and am at the same weight, just distributing differently.

babyrojas2018  my husband does the same thing except his response is; “you felt like that before you were pregnant” ugh MEN! I think I am going to make him wear one of those fake pregnancy tummy’s when I get further along.  That way he can feel the pain!

And yes, every morning I pee and then shower and get out and feel  like I need to pee again and can’t.  Maybe everything in our bodies is just as confused as us.

moguippy

@babyrojas2018 I often feel like my bladder doesn't empty all the way when I pee.. then I have to go again soon. It's annoying

@babygagnon2018 I am currenly 3lbs below my prepregnancy weight. I lost 6 lbs in the first tri, then gained a lb a week for a few weeks and then stopped. I started overweight so I'm not worried about it. Baby was measuring big (13oz) at the anatomy scan so its not affecting growth so I'm just going with it. None of my doctors seem worried so I'm not either

morethanamama

Regarding peeing, I have not woken up at night with the urge yet. I'd say I wake up every night once to maybe change position and sometimes I do feel a full bladder but it's not urging me to go so I just sleep! I don't know if this is good or bad so I'll bring it up to my doctor.
Regarding weight, I have gained roughly 13 pounds at almost 22 weeks. My doctor says roughly a pound per week in the second tri...I thought it was more 0.5 , then 1 per week in the third tri, I think as long as the babe is doing ok if you haven't gained anything yet that may be even better , hehe @babygagnon2018

moguippy

@kissableviv I think i've only woken up at night to pee like 1-2 times during this pregnancy. My mom said that she didn't start waking up until much later when the baby is bigger and pushing on your bladder. 

I've heard that it is 1-5 lbs in the first trimester, and starting in the second trimester it is 1/2 lb per week for overweight women and 1 lb per week for women with a healthy starting weight. But everyone is different. A lot of women lose weight in the first tri due to morning sickness. According to my mom she gained a ton of weight in the 7th month with both my brother and me, so that's just how her body worked.  As long as my OB hasn't said anything I think I'm good lol. I've known women who have gained as much as 60 lbs (granted it was twins) and as little as 10 lbs and both had healthy babies.

catftm2018

Sorry I started this thread then forgot to post! Mommy brain!! 

How far along are you?
21 weeks

Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
I’m feeling lots of baby movement! I’m so excited about it- it’s not all the time but man, this baby is so active sometimes!

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
No, none until the second week in March. 

Rants/raves? 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different? 
My mom and I have about arrest relationship, growing up that wasn’t always the case- we were all teenagers at some point! And now I am closer to her than my siblings I think. I picture myself being the fun mom, but not best friend, like more strict if that makes sense. Like @canucklehead123 I don’t want to put too much pressure on myself but I feel like I already am! 


Peeing at night-
I have been doing this once and sometimes twice a night since I was like 8 weeks lol. I drink a lot of water, especially at night. I know drinking less would help, but if I’m thirsty I just can’t rationalize not drinking it. 

Also add me to the pee a little club- sometimes I try and it’s such a tiny stream. Or I pee for like 3 mins straight lol 

samjjorgensen

@babygagnon2018--you're in NH, right? What did you get that was a good deal at BRU? I went on President's Day and was so disappointed!

babygagnon2018

Thanks moguippy and @kissableviv for the info!  I’ll ask my doctor next week at our anatomy scan but was just curious  

whiskeyandtrouble

How far along are you?
20 weeks and 5 days


Any new symptoms or changes since last check in?
Nope not that I can think of. Maybe worse sleep? The body pillow my husband got for me is a godsend but doesn’t help much with the vivid dreams ha ha ha!

Any appointments since last check in? How did it go? 
None since last check in. I have one this upcoming Monday though!

Rants/raves? 
Nah. 

Questions for FTM, or STM+? 
Not right now. 

GTKY:  What type of mom do you picture yourself being? Do/did you have a good relationship with your own mother that is shaping how you feel you’d like to be as a mother? Or did you have a bad relationship and are thinking of how you want to be different?
It is really difficult for me to say how I’ll be as a Mom. Motherhood is never something I really pictured for myself. I suppose I would be pretty laid back and fun, seeing as that is how I am approaching this pregnancy. But who knows, maybe once this guy is out and about I’ll be someone completely different than I am expecting. My relationship with my Mom is great. I’m very lucky I have her to turn to for support!