Weekend Randoms 2/17-2/18

ffw0617

Anything interesting happening this weekend?

ffw0617

 Im up and can’t go back to sleep. Among my valentine’s gifts was a card with $200 in which DH wrote “I know it’s been challenging carrying our baby, so use this money for a spa treatment of your choice.” I’m so amped about SOMETHING everytime i search prenatal massage I get taken to a booking site where prenatal isn’t even an option. I was really frustrated yesterday. I really want someone who knows what they’re doing and not some half ass massage. I feel like I’m over zealous trying to do it this weekend anyway when probably everyone has stuff already booked from valentine’s day. I also looked into the site where the massage comes to you but why are they more expensive? Has anyone used this? I’m not sure I could get the same level of relaxation at home, I’ll still hear barking dogs, cars driving by, etc.  It seems like it should be around the same price since they don’t have to overhead of a storefront. 

catlady1215

I feel like a bad bump friend and like i haven't been commenting as much. Yesterday was a bad day, DS and school wise. His ADHD is really giving him problems there and I'm kind of over certain things about the school. So I was in a huge funk. Pregnancy hormones had me crying the whole way home. 

but today we have our first play date with a friend from preschool. I'm ridiculously nervous. He's so hyperactive and I don't know if this mom knows what she's getting into. 

becca_123

@ffw0617 Maybe that's their plan.. that you get so frustrated with their scheduling that you enjoy the massage even more    

@catlady1215 I'm sorry you had a tough day, fx that the playdate goes well.

I also had a tough day yesterday, well mostly it was DH's tough day but he doesn't really show emotion for things like this so I was worried about him.  But his Grandma passed away in surgery yesterday morning and at the same time *TW* his best friend (and employee) was admitted to the emergency room and is on suicide watch *end TW*.  He finally admitted to me last night that he was sad and I was glad he was able to at least express that much.  

On another note, instead of just swiping away the Bump notification on my phone this morning I actually read it and I had a mini freak out when I saw it was only 15 weeks 5 days until my due date.  I mean, getting to the 15 weeks pregnant milestone flew by so it just seems so crazy to think that's all that's left!

doxiemoxie212

@becca_123 aw I’m sorry about your Hs grandma and friend. That’s so rough.

re: the countdown, it’s craxy. I think I’m 104 days from my due date at this point? I told DH that and he was like, wait, but when are we getting stuff for her?? 

@catlady1215 don’t feel bad. It’s ok to have some distance! And any mom at this point should be understanding of ADHD. It’s not exactly rare. Your son is not the only kid she’s going to encounter with it. 

@ffw0617 I think at home massages are great for some people but if you don’t think it will be for you then it probably won’t be. Oftentimes spas say they do prenatal but you have to call to book because only one staff member is certified/trained. Typically massage therapists won’t massage you if they’re not trained. You have to be on your side and it’s a little awkward if they aren’t really good at it. 

katelynrae86

@ffw0617 I hope you find someone great to do your massage. I agree, I'd rather go to the spa and have the experience.

@catlady1215 I'm sorry you and DS had a tough day. I have a nephew with ADHD who is in kindergarten. He struggles too and my sister gets calls from his teacher weekly, so I see how stressful it can be for everyone. Hope you guys have fun at your playdate. 

@becca_123 I'm so sorry about YH's grandma and friend. Hugs!

AFM: DS slept until 7:15 this morning!!! Yep, I'm now that person who feels like 7am is sleeping in. It was awesome.

catlady1215

@katelynrae86 I think what gets me upset is I have 3 therapists going into that school for him. One is there 2hrs a day (he's only there 3hrs a day!!). And they still questioned kicking him out yesterday cause the teacher is so frustrated. I just don't know wtf else they want me to do. We're doing everything we can. And that therapist is there to be one on one with him... so it's relieving the teacher of extra work! And they pretty much already said they won't accept him back next year (private school. So they can say that). I'm scared for kindergarten. 

catlady1215

@becca_123 I'm so sorry to hear about DH's day yesterday. Keeping his fam in my thoughts and hope his friend is ok.

katelynrae86

@catlady1215 That's crazy! How frustrating when you are clearly doing everything you can to advocate your son. That's a great deal of support, to have a 1 on 1 therapist 2 thirds of the day! I'm sorry Maybe a different school/teacher for kindergarten will be a good thing for him (my nephew was kicked out of one preschool and then did much better in a different environment)

pupsicle23

@catlady1215 I am sorry and so frustrated for you! I am a special education teacher at a public school and, if the school is trying to kick him out, maybe it’s better to find a different school. That mindset and the teacher feeling frustrated about it really irks me. Keep advocating for him like we know you will, and I hope he can end up with a better fit. 

llamamama14

@ffw0617 I've been holding onto a massage certificate for a year because the scheduling process is complicated and it's in this lady's basement which I feel a little uncomfortable about for some reason. Like it's too intimate/unprofessional for me to relax. I'd prefer a storefront.

@catlady1215 Sorry. I would be upset and cry about something like that involving my kid even without crazy pregnancy hormones.

AFM I'm taking a break from setting up DS 's big boy room to watch Lifetime and snack. Alternating between "Manny Dearest" and "Nanny Seduction." 

ffw0617

@Llamamama14 that’s why I stopped accepting groupon massages. It was normal for DH or friends (i love massages and being a pole instructor you need them) to just buy me one off Groupon/ living social as a gift and while Ive had some great experiences the last few were horrible. And living in Houston most of the time the place is an hour away from me. I can’t justify a gift someone spent $30 on thats gonna cost me a full tank of gas & 2 hours commuting. I much rather just spend $70 at the thai place I love thats 5 minutes away. But can’t have a thai message while pregnant. 

catlady1215

@katelynrae86 good to hear about your nephew! Cause thats what i'm hoping. plus this other school can take his IEP, so hopefully they'll do the work to get the exact support they need for him. he's so smart, i know in a few years when he can control himself, he's going to do amazing. 

@pupsicle23 he was accepted into a charter school (avoiding my public school system). and they do everything like a public school. so hoping its a better fit. I just feel at this point, he probably just has a 'name' for him with other teachers. Cause i'm sure they talk about their frustrating kids.

@llamamama14 i love lifetime movies so much. my favorite thing to do is put it on while i work, just to have in the background. i haven't had any good lifetime movie days in awhile. 

catlady1215

i'm irrationally annoyed by the graco newborn carseat selection at BRU. i wanted to keep the same stroller that came with our first travel system, but its brown. none of these newborn seats on the BRU website look like they'll match what so ever lol. 

lisa2589

August has really been getting hit with wierd drive-by’s lately. There’s a lady there today wanting to know her baby’s sex based on a profile u/s pic, but the most bizarre part is the her camera roll images at the bottom of the pic she posted. If anyone’s bored, go have a look! 

lisa2589

Also, every time I look at my numeric username, I feel kind of like a borg. So I found a couple GIFs to share if anyone else follows my sense of humor. 

becca_123

@2589 thanks, I got a real good chuckle out of that post.  

LaceyBee522

@catlady1215 I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that. It seems like you are doing everything right. 

@ffw0617 I want a massage sooo bad. We are in Toronto this weekend and the Shangri La hotel is across the street with a fancy shmancy spa....I’m thinking of splurging. 

We sre being so lazy on this mini vacay. We landed this morning, went out for ramen, then came back to the hotel room and napped. Sorry, not sorry. 

We are also also super bummed out. We got denied for what we thought was the perfect apartment. MH is especially upset because he feels like it is his fault re credit card debt. We, admittedly, both have more than we should. However, we pay on time, it isn’t an obscene amount and if the owner of the apartment checked our credit instead of just looking at our financials, he would know that. Trying not to be disappointed. I keep telling myself that this just means there is a better option out there. 

LaceyBee522

@2589 Yes!! That is why August is my favorite board. Lol! July has some good ones sometimes too. 

sabby2

Hi ladies.  We're having a low key Saturday. We had plans to go see some of DH's friends from college and their daughter but after we left it started snowing like crazy!  The roads got super slick and we could barely see a quarter mile in front of our car.  We ended up turning around.  There was a huge accident and pile up on the route we were taking so I feel like we made a good decision.

We shopped a bit and I tried on some maternity jeans I didn't hate but  they were about 2 sizes too big and of course Target didn't have my freaking size in stock. *sigh*

Picked up some diapers and got DS a little sloth lovey. ♡♡  DD was a little jealous but that girl has a billion stuffies anyway!

ffw0617

Just left my first wax since pregnancy. OMG! So painful. The combination of the hormones, the fact that its been so long and forgoing the typical pain killer beforehand. Ugh!!!! I haven’t seen it in months so all the pain and I don’t even get to see the results 

stephcat421

@becca_123 I'm so sorry to hear about YH(and your) loss! It's a good sign YH expressed his feelings and hopefully it helps him heal.

Re: The countdown- I remember when I was only 5 weeks along looking at BMB for where we are at now and feeling like it was so far away and when I get there it'll be so real! I feel like these next couple months will zoom by especially when spring comes! Remember day light savings is only 3 weeks away!

@catlady1215 I'm sorry you had a rough day, but hoping the play date was a success? Have you checked out Amazon for the car seats? I noticed they have a few older models still so maybe you'll find some with the brown trim to match your stroller?

AFM, one of DH sweet and generous co workers ordered our Graco car seat with an additional base from our registry! She's an amazing Indian woman and knows how much we love Indian food and is always getting us like$100 gift certificates and telling him to feed the baby Now, she buys $300 worth of car seats (2018 snugride snuglock-Holt ) because she says that in her culture they buy what baby comes home from the hospital in. I love the Holt model with the stripes...i think they will be highly stimulating to an infant! 

krash_

@catlady1215 that has got to be so frustrating! I hope you can find a solution that your son can thrive in. It makes me really disappointed in those teachers. 

@LaceyBee522 sorry you didn’t get the apartment. I’m sure something else will come along. It might not be perfect but getting more space will help with the stress of newborn twins. 

AFM...we painted the nursery today! 

Before

MH said “take a photo I’m doing dad things” 

After

Much lighter and brighter! 

doxiemoxie212

@krashke love the new color (what is it? sort of looks like grey owl by benjamin moore?), but also love your pristine snowy background in the window in the before picture! lol we never really get beautiful snow like that here in NYC; it turns to grey slush so quickly. 

stephcat421

@krashke love the color! Nothing better than a big accomplishment Saturday 

stephcat421

@LaceyBee522 so sorry the apartment fell through. It's annoying when your credit isn't taken into account.... Hello that's the whole point of building credit to indicate to a stranger how you manage. It's like a first impression for financial thing!

I had something happen similar this week trying to refinance my student loans. My company recently started working with commonbond so I participated in this webinar thinking it was worth a listen. When they said it was a soft pull and wouldn't affect my credit and took a minute I figured it was worth seeing if I could reduce my 6.75% interest rates. So....in the end I was denied unless I had a cosigner. The real kicker, the page read 812 credit score you need a cosigner. When I filled out the survey that followed the webinar I commented I'm not in the game of finding a cosigner with an 812 credit score. How insulting! I even played with the numbers like the whole loan amount (~45k so not life shattering down to ~5k ) and was still told I need a cosigner. I haven't needed a cosigner since I was like 20. Hello homeowner, new car, High open revolving credit, etc.  And now after unsubscribing to 4 emails in 2 days, they are still hounding me via email to find my cosigner and finish the process! 

So hang in there! I know that's probably hard to hear but I'm a big believer in fate so maybe a more perfect place will come along and it'll all be worth it in the end!

May14th2011

I made the 1.5 hour trek to Target today and got the cutest outfit for baby to come home in. Let's hope this baby is average size and not bigger than my last two. 

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 it’s Silver Bullet Behr from Home Depot. We have plenty of white snow. Were supposed to get another 4-5 in on Monday. 

Amphibious22

@LaceyBee522 I'm so sorry about the apartment! I know how stressful the approval process can be, but like others have said, another place will come along and maybe it will be even more perfect! FX

@krashke I love that color! All the walls in our rental are painted grey, which I really like compared to white walls, but it does lead me to a potential issue..

We were planning on getting grey furniture for the nursery, but the walls and floors of our new house are grey. We are doing an accent wall with a navy blue constellation wallpaper I found on etsy, but is grey furniture in a (mostly) grey room too much? I included a picture of the room and the wallpaper in the spoiler.

sabby2

@Amphibious22 I feel like it depends in the furniture and any accent pieces?

This baby will not stop kicking me in the cervix tonight. It is driving me crazy!!!

lisa2589

@Amphibious22 will you do any type of area rug on the floor? I think if you added some color with something like that + the wallpaper, like @sabby2 said some colorful odd & ends, you’d still be fine with grey furniture.

ffw0617

Just left my first wax since pregnancy. OMG! So painful. The combination of the hormones, the fact that its been so long and forgoing the typical pain killer beforehand. Ugh!!!! I haven’t seen it in 

krash_

@Amphibious22 I think if the grey furniture has enough contrast from the grey walls it will be fine. We have the dark grey Ikea Hemmnes dresser for the changing table. We’re going to get a natural wood crib and probably a cream colored glider. 

ffw0617

Not sure why that comment posted again 

@krashke i love the color

@Amphibious22 i think you’ll be fine just add color elsewhere

Amphibious22

@sabby2 @2589 @krashke thanks! yeah I really love a grey dresser from land of nod and it comes in white, but for some reason the white is double the price. I think if we maybe go with a cream glider and other colored accents it'll be okay. I love our theme of animal constellations, but since it's not super on trend, I've been really struggling to find good decor. 

catlady1215

@stephcat421 play date was good! And good call! I looked at BRU cause of the registry completion thing... forgot I opened an Amazon one also. 

@krashke love that color! And love what your Dh said

pupsicle23

@catlady1215 glad the play date was good! And, I’m going to harp on this because I’m so mad at your son’s school. I’ve worked at three schools (moved a lot) and have yet to meet teachers who whine about kids and give any child a bad name. In my office, we are really open about difficulties and talk about it in a solutions-oriented way. If not, someone will call you out and check your attitude. So sorry to be on a high horse, but it makes me so upset that you feel that way because the people at the school seem more bothered than supportive.  You’re not doing anything wrong and, if it doesn’t feel like a partnership with the school, then good riddance. Wishing you luck for next year

lisa2589

I’ve feel like I’ve spent all week reading about gestational diabetes. My 3 hour test is tomorrow. I know that even if I do have it, it won’t be the end of the world. I should probably eat healthier anyways. I think my biggest worry is the amount of time that will go into it and what I will do with DD if I need increased appointments, NSTs, amniotic fluid level checks. Wahh. Also, insurance has already let me know that GD isn’t “normal pregnancy” so there will be the issue of payment for all of the above. I know I can’t put a price on having a healthy baby and I feel so selfish. Of course I will do whatever I need to make sure she stays healthy, but I just can’t stop worrying and focusing on all the potential negatives. Sorry to carry on about it. Just needed to let it out a little bit. 

sabby2

Hugs and my fingers and toes are all crossed everything goes well for you tomorrow @2589

Amphibious22

@2589 I was the exact same way before my glucose test. Especially with everyone saying that since I'm overweight the chances of having it are way higher. FX that you pass the 3 hour!! Try not to stress about it unless you have to. I know that's easier said than done. 

doxiemoxie212

Saw Black Panther today. It was good. Not my absolute fav, but I don’t love origin stories. DH loved it. 

Having a difficult time deciding if I want to pull the trigger on the glider recliner from pb kids we want. 20% off this weekend... but ugh I haven’t 100% decided on fabric... but it says 8-12 weeks for delivery! So! Blargh. 

DH admitted I’ve been rocking a visible double chin for at least 3 weeks. Siiiigh. I knew it would come soon. First lower back, then armpit/side boob, next thing on the list is double chin. Probably unlikely I’m gonna get it to go away before baby is born right? Lol the only place I didn’t want to gain weight!