Poll: why/how did you decide you were ready?

ecoppins · February 2009

What made you ready ttc?

me: af was late, pos and was sad. Dh and talked about it and decide that perhaps we were ready for #2.?

sspyles · February 2009

We knew we wanted to start soon after marriage. DH is in the military, and the benefits are amazing. We knew it would help our children. Our SIL gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, and we knew it was our time to start trying. Just that feeling.

MSC03 · February 2009

We've checked everything off on our list that we wanted to accomplish before kids and we're both turning 30 this year.

coasties_girl · February 2009

Mine is pretty much the same as sspyles. Only no one in the family has given birth yet. My sister got pregnant (but had a m/c...but she's pregnant again..9 weeks!) and thats what started the conversation on kids.

deo · February 2009

We had talked about having kids in the near future but never had a firm date on when to start. Then one weekend, I forgot to take a couple of pills (we were camping, and I forgot to pack them), so I told DH that we needed to use extra protection. He said maybe I should stop taking them altogether. So then we started really talking about it, and that was the last month I was on BCP.

wlknsnlrn · February 2009

We were ready right after we got married.

Pamela05 · February 2009

We knew we wanted to start right away after getting married. DH has been ready for kids for years and then finally met me. We're 27&32 and are over being "young, wild and free."

The biggest question we had all along was how to handle work and childcare because myjob was very demanding and required me to be on-call constantly. And that was decided by where we decided to live. If we had stayed at my job in Louisiana, DH may have stayed home and home schooled. If we moved back to Texas, I would stay home as long as we felt necessary, but not home school.

bluejinn823 · February 2009

We want to have 4 kids and I want to be a relatively young mom and not be pregnant while I'm past 32. I'm 24 and DH 29, and we're just ready to start our tribe.

Jennicap · February 2009

We've been together nearly 10 years and have been talking about kids since like day 1. When we first got married, we weren't ready. Then I went to school and was too busy. Then we got lots of testing (genetic due to family conditions) and I graduate in May so the timing is now or never so we started!

justinlovesme · February 2009

DH graduates in June. We started 9 months before he would have his license to practice, and therefore make money to buy diapers!

hopingforababyin09 · February 2009

Before we got married we had decided that we were going to wait 5 years before we TTC, but we got a surprise a few months after we got married we were going to have of first child, and then all of that ended when I had a m/c soon after. So we decided that we were going to wait for a while before we tryed again. In the mean time we moved from Florida to Colorado and after I didn't get the job that I really wanted, we decided to TTC again.

Bcbscorp · February 2009

We decided we were ready for kids before we were engaged. It's partially what prompted marriage so soon! I wanted to wait until I was married so we started our wedding night!

sweet_niki · February 2009

When people would ask us (ie. family) when we were going to have a baby after getting married we would tell people not until we turn 30. Then sometime late last year I started really wanting a baby out of nowhere, I just couldn't ignore the feeling anymore. So we talked and talked and talked about it and decided that we were in a place in our lives where we were ready.?

TarheelsInNJ · February 2009

DH is in law school, and we have always discussed "maybe" trying to have kids during his 3rd year, if we felt ready. Over Christmas, we decided that it was time to start trying. We're in such a good place emotionally, and have strong support from our friends and family, so that really helped us get to a place where we felt comfortable.

Stephanie2167 · February 2009

Originally we said we'd wait 2 years after we got married. A few months before our 2nd anniversary we discussed the possibility of moving for the military and not wanting to move with a newborn or me being 9 months pregnant.

Once we decided to wait a little longer we started paying off all our CCs (done), paying off my 2008 Honda (almost done) and having a pretty padded savings account (done).

We should find out this month where we are getting stationed (for a move in July). So we are both ready to start next month.

Aivive · February 2009

I have always wanted to have a family, and I've been wanting to try for like two years now. DH and I talked a lot about when we would start, we finally bought a house and have stable jobs and agreed on this year, I am so excited!

kcjessieb · February 2009

We've been married for four years and feel very comfortable with each other. This year, we finished graduate school, bought a house, and moved closer to family. Once all that was done, we came up with some financial goals we wanted to achieve before TTC. We accomplished them at the end of 2008 and decided to start trying.

r_dillard · February 2009

DH and I have been together for over 10 years (only married 2 years). DH has always wanted kids so I promised him would could start trying in the fall of last year after we got a house. We are both done with grad school, have steady jobs and own our first house. I am big worrier and planner. Once I thought we were stable it was time to start. Also, all my friends have started having kids.

Nykki Thomaston · February 2009

TarheelsInNJ:
DH is in law school, and we have always discussed "maybe" trying to have kids during his 3rd year, if we felt ready. Over Christmas, we decided that it was time to start trying. We're in such a good place emotionally, and have strong support from our friends and family, so that really helped us get to a place where we felt comfortable.

same here!!

jmh7905 · February 2009

Definitely knew that we wanted to be married a few years before trying. And we had other concerns: being financially stable, having a house, waiting for my job to become permanent. Now that all of those things have fallen in to place we can TTC.

mrslauralynn · February 2009

We were waiting for DH to get a good job for while he's in school. After he graduates, he'll be a nurse, so he will be able to make a good amount of money... thankfully!

ZAngel · February 2009

Over the years, the baby topic came up quite a bit. The only thing we were waiting on was marriage so as soon as we left the reception... we both knew it was baby making time! We are older (me 28/ DH 34) and we have been together for 7 years before marriage. I have a 10 year old son so we started the relationship with a child and knew we wanted another. There really was no need to wait.

jshay778 · February 2009

It seemed like after we got married everywhere we looked were babies! I wanted to ttc right away but we knew it wasn't the right time yet. Well sure enough in november, DH sat ME down to talk to me about it. He decided he was ready! His main thing was he wanted me done with school.

Mrs_Carroll · February 2009

We arent TTC yet, but were not really trying not to conceive either. Officially we will start in July or august.

MissyC979 · February 2009

It took us almost 5 1/2 years to be ready for kids. We wanted to have a single family house and be financially stable.

maltwin1 · February 2009

We had originally said we wanted to be married for 3 or 4 years before we started TTC, but I really felt like I would be ready before that.

DH is in flight training in the Marine Corps right now, so he is non-deployable for about two years until he finishes training. That was a real deciding factor for me. I know plenty of people give birth to their children when their husbands can't be there, but it was important for me that DH be able to be a part of the entire pregnancy and birth for at least one of our children.

We are starting officially this summer! Big Smile

mmb522 · February 2009

We just kinda 'knew'. We were tired of going out all the time and had felt like we were fulfilled in all areas of newlywed/young people without kids.

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