@lindsayleigh1989 thank you! She use to always grab and pinch my arms and legs to see how “fat” i was. Glad to be miles away from that. You bet I’ll defend and protect my sons from that!
@wildtot I totally feel your pain on that one. My dad's mom has always been that way. She's a pretty large woman and she loves bringing other people down because she isn't happy with herself. After knowing I had struggled with anorexia, when I was finally back at a healthy weight she commented on how fat my knees looked. My KNEES of all things
@carsonraynee ugh that terrible! On of my cousins (also her grandchild) had an eating disorder (forgot which of the two) that landed her in the hospital. She was in her early teens! My grandma still hasn’t learned even after that. My mom doesn’t like to be around that either since she gets those comments too.
Edited to add that thyroid problems run in my moms family so we’re screwed there. Guess my grandma never gained weight with her 7 kids.
@wildtot ugh that’s so inappropriate! I don’t understand why people think it’s ok to comment on weight, especially a family member. A girl that I work with (my office bitch I posted about a while back - hate her) last week when I went to work yelled right when I walked in the door “WOW look how huge your belly got overnight!!!!” And pointed at me.... followed with “And your face is much fuller and rounder tooo!”. I felt like saying I’m pregnant what’s your excuse? I can tell I’m going to have to put a stop to that soon.... anyways I feel your pain, don’t let it bother you!
@rangey1234 ugh that’s horrible! Up until a few weeks ago i had only told some coworkers but it was pretty obvious to others, one of my old direct reports told me “wow why didn’t you tell us?” with this gesture to my belly. I told him ”wow i was waiting to see when someone would randomly say something like that”. He replied that “well i guess that wasn’t a great way to point it out”...uh yeah people can be so inappropriate.
@wildtot I guess it’s just going to happen everywhere! I’m glad you gave him that response though, good for you! I do know I’m going to lose my mind the first time someone tries to touch my belly. And yesss that photo! I wish I could tape it to myself at work.
@acunamatada haha i also said “no I’m just fat i had too many donuts”in a joking way after saying yes i was pregnant. Is it weird that sometimes i don’t even want DH touching my belly?
@acunamatada yup, me too. I'm carrying small so far so I've had the opposite, like "are you sure you're pregnant" idiot question, not sure why so many people just think it's ok to be inappropriate! @carsonraynee and @wildtot@rangey1234 I just wish people stopped commenting about weight in general, it's not what makes us a person you know?
I had the best Saturday yesterday! We went to check out cars since we will soon have to get a second one, and then DH took me to one of my favorite restaurant for a pre dinner pizza! We went to see Shape of Water (weird but cool) and then we went to get pie because HE was the one craving it! A pretty $$ afternoon in my books but i figured what the hell we are not getting many more of these opportunities.
Also funny despite losing 11 pounds he has not been able to kick his sweet tooth...I have not been craving sweet but then I find myself indulging him. Need to get some greens in this belly today, I feel the constipation coming, lol!
@kissableviv I hear you. Especially women to other women. I’ve never in my life pointed out someone’s weight!
I also get people (regulars) who come into work and stare at my belly for an inappropriate amount of time. Like they want to ask but aren’t sure. I would love to ask if I could help them with something. It’s like the entire world doesn’t have any common sense.
I’ve been eating horribly lately and I feel guilty. Im with you on the greens today! I literally have to force them down. All I want is crappy food.....mmm pizza.
I’m a little peeved today. So my BIL’s wife is pregnant, like 12 weeks now. I have my gender reveal today, and he just texted DH THIS MORNING saying they couldn’t come because “there might be sick people there and SIL can’t get sick or it could hurt the baby.” I’m not so upset they can’t come, they’re both weird people (made for eachother) but is that not a ridiculous excuse? Mind you there will be 2 other pregnant women there aside from her, and common sense says don’t go to a party if you’re sick... Does she plan on not leaving the house until summer??
@acunamatada that's so odd. She is probably thinking she can quarantine herself...plus if she is really that afraid she can just limit the physical contact and avoid eating - which is a bit extreme IMO but if that's what she is afraid of...it would be curteous to at least show up for a bit but sounds like it's not a big deal if they aren't there.
@kissableviv I thought they were being extreme... But they apparently ate at DH’s restaurant last night, so it sounds more like they’re just blowing us off. Oh well!
@JelloBean1 I am so incredibly sorry. I'm also close to where Newtown occurred and it is still very fresh and real to this day. This all must be so scary with it so close to home and those you love. Hang in there. I'll be sure to hug my littles even tighter.
So this is the first time I've logged onto the Bump through my computer in years, I typically just use the app. Now that I just posted I'm seeing my ticker has random images from my wedding five years ago. These don't show up in the app so I had no idea they were still there. Whoops.
This weekend has been crazy. Yesterday we had both girls swim lessons at 8 am and 9:15 (what was I thinking signing them up for something so early on a Saturday?!) and then I rushed over to do a newborn photo session for my friend. It took longer than expected and then it was cleaning, editing, etc. I also pulled out my back and got very little sleep the night before and right before bed DD#1 started saying she wasn't feeling well. She woke up this morning at 5 am with 103 fever. Then DH realized that we had a birthday party yesterday that we completely forgot about because it wasn't on the calendar. I feel so bad for flaking and I don't even know what to say other than we're disorganized fools right now. In positive news, I've been feeling the baby kicking the last few days and woke up to it again this morning. Super cute to be in that phase now.
@SmashJam That is SO awesome!! I've heard a lot of really great things about instant pots, but haven't really been interested in getting one (die-hard dutch oven fan here) until now. Yogurt is my freaking favorite. I eat plain, whole fat yogurt everyday, because I LOVE it. I've aways wanted to make it regularly, but, yeah, seems like a lot of trouble. I'm super into your instant pot version, though. Hmm.
@DynamiteTrujillo I dislike the "instant" part of the instant pot, and use the hell out of my dutch ovens. I use it for a crock pot a lot because you can saute in the pot which is awesome. And there is an actual YOGURT button on mine (the 8 in 1 I think) and all the instructions are in the manual! Otherwise making yogurt is kind of a pain, I only used to do it that way because I was milking 4 goats-both seasons while I was pregnant-and yogurt was one of the three things I could do with the 2 gallons of milk I was pulling in every week, so otherwise it would all go to waste!
@SmashJam I got an instant pot for Christmas but it’s still in the box because I am intimidated. Is the yogurt an easy place to start? I guess I should see if mine has a yogurt button.
DS is refusing to eat dinner (chicken and potatoes) i know that if i pull out the nuggets or pizza bites he’ll eat but I’m so tired of trying to please him with other food. Bed time is in about an hour and I’m torn with sending him to bed without eating his dinner. He’s at least drinking his milk. Any other mamas have advice?
@wildtot not sure how old your lo is, my daughter is just over 2. I try not to get into power struggles around food with her. If I were in your position I might offer a different easy healthy option or two (cheese, fruit, hummus, avocado etc) and if none of those take, then the kiddo must not be hungry. Good luck!
Within minutes of getting to my gender reveal, wearing a tight dress, showing off the bump, my MOM goes “look at that belly! You’ve got one of those ‘I’m not sure if she’s fat or pregnant’ stage bellies” THANKS. Mind you I was pretty thin before getting pregnant. Even my 11yo sister said “mom!” An 11yo has better manners than you. And then later my MIL asks how big the baby is, I say a banana and she goes “wow it looks bigger than a banana” thanks woman. I’ll just be wearing a paper bag for the rest of my pregnancy.
@emzie54 that you for the advice! He’s 22 months and we usually don’t have these struggles (unless it’s vegetables), but it’s been an off day. We got him a booster seat so he can eat with us and idk if that’s throwing him off since he’s clipped in vs is freedom with his own table and chair.
@wildtot daily struggle here. I tell myself if he’s starving, he’ll eat- he’s not even really a picky eater, I don’t get it. If he won’t eat dinner I’ll give him a snack before bed and try and push him to drink his milk. @emzie54 there’s lots of recipes on Pinterest! I’d suggest picking your favorite croc pot recipe and seeing if you can find an instant pot recipe to convert it to, as a start. Yogurt is easy too, but not all models have that function
@wildtot I'm a "this is what's for dinner eat it or don't" mom. DD is offered what we are eating, other than nights when it's something super spicy, something I know she doesn't like or not at all toddler friendly. I'm not a fan of the typical toddler foods so we try to limit them. She has gone to bed before after having just some watermelon and milk and I felt bad but she's healthy, growing nicely and usually eats well so I know she's ok.
@acunamatada@runsomewhere i grew up with the “either eat or go to bed hungry” mentality and all though i get the point it makes me feel bad. He’s healthy and is usually a great eater. Guess I’ll be saving it for tomorrow and he at least ate a banana with his milk.
Sorry I can't offer any advice on toddlers and food. I feel like I'd be like @runsomewhere but I know it can be difficult. @acunamatada super congrats on your little GIRL! also, people seem to forget it's not just a baby on there??? Like, it's a swollen uterus, a placenta, fluid...not just a banana in there. Ugh!!
@kissableviv thank you! Now to stalk the name thread! I’m still in shock, I was SOO sure it was a boy. DH and I agree on exactly 1 girl name and it isn’t even one of my favorites
@wildtot if my toddler refuses to eat what we make him for dinner, I don't stress over it or fight with him on it. At the same time though, I don't like to send him to bed without anything, so I will offer him things I know he'll eat - yogurt, a smoothie, a banana etc. I prefer he goes to bed with something in his tummy even if it's not the most nutritious or what I made. Maybe I'm wrong for that but I don't want to fight over food or make it into this huge issue/power struggle. We'll see if I change my mind once he gets older and probably pickier.
So there's a circus in town this weekend/holiday week (most kids have off this week around here), and I keep seeing moms recommend it as something to do with the kids over break and talking about how wonderful it is on the local mom Facebook group. I am trying so hard to bite my tongue but it is really driving me crazy. This circus is known to mistreat its animals, have been cited by the USDA for abuse, and it uses elephants, which I don't agree with no matter what, but in this case all of their elephants have tuberculosis and this is documented by the USDA. They've also had incidents where the animals have charged the crowds. Myself and some other members of this Facebook group have shared this information with people who have asked for opinions on the circus, and people refuse to believe it, or says it's just an opinion. I don't understand. There's literally written proof that these animals are sick, abused, and neglected, and people continue bringing their kids to see it - and I'm so torn between continuing to try to educate people, or just accepting that most don't want to hear it and will support it regardless. It just makes me sad. Sorry I had to vent and my H is sick of me talking about it lol.
@zande2016 that is so sad, I would not be able to bite my tongue. Animals being used and abused is heartbreaking and there is zero reason for supporting that type of thing. Props to you for trying to enlighten others.
@wildtot I feel bad too and I'm in no way mean or harsh with DD about it. I tell her this is what we have for dinner today because is is what mommy cooked for our family. If she doesn't eat it I try not to push it but encourage her to eat at least a little and offer fruit if she eats some. On a side note I do not believe in food pushing or forcing kids to clean their plates. Just like adults, sometimes a child is less hungry than other times. I do not want to push food when DD is not hungry as I think it's important for children to be aware of their bodies and their food needs.
@zande2016 I’m with you on this one. I absolutely hate it, and I hate that people refuse to acknowledge it because it’s entertaining. Those poor, poor animals. I don’t understand how they can still be run? A zoo in my home town just got shut down last year after being open for years and years because so many people rallied to have it closed. Poor conditions and small enclosures for the animals. As well the owner of the zoo had been recorded abusing the animals when they wouldn’t do the tricks they were supposed to for their stupid shows. Literally whipping a tiger because it wouldn’t jump up on the platform at his command. Human beings and they way they think they own everything truly makes me sick to my stomach.
anndddd I won’t say anything more as it can be considered a political/touchy topic to many with strong opinions but the point of my rant was that I am so with you and feel just as strongly!! Keep trying to educate girl!!
The circus is definitely not something I want to give my money too. At this point in time you would think we understood that animals need to be treated with respect, but I guess we have not learned! I cringe when I see a circus in town. I would not want my kids to see animals in such a setting, I have enough of a hard time with zoos (even though I know a few of them have good standards of care).
@zande2016 we actually know someone who owns a small circus, while I can understand some concerns. I have never met a man so loving and concerned for his animals he owns several big animal sanctuarys for his animals too. While I agree there some really bad eggs out there, there are a few good ones
I cannot sleep! We have our anatomy scan in the AM and I’m so excited to see our little girl!! We did the blood test at 10 weeks, but I’m curious to see if they’ll be able to confirm. & I’m just so thrilled to see how she’s coming along. The last time we saw her she still looked more Dino like than human baby!
Re: Weekend Randoms 2/16-2/18
Edited to add that thyroid problems run in my moms family so we’re screwed there. Guess my grandma never gained weight with her 7 kids.
I'm carrying small so far so I've had the opposite, like "are you sure you're pregnant" idiot question, not sure why so many people just think it's ok to be inappropriate! @carsonraynee and @wildtot @rangey1234 I just wish people stopped commenting about weight in general, it's not what makes us a person you know?
Also funny despite losing 11 pounds he has not been able to kick his sweet tooth...I have not been craving sweet but then I find myself indulging him. Need to get some greens in this belly today, I feel the constipation coming, lol!
I also get people (regulars) who come into work and stare at my belly for an inappropriate amount of time. Like they want to ask but aren’t sure. I would love to ask if I could help them with something. It’s like the entire world doesn’t have any common sense.
I’ve been eating horribly lately and I feel guilty. Im with you on the greens today! I literally have to force them down. All I want is crappy food.....mmm pizza.
This weekend has been crazy. Yesterday we had both girls swim lessons at 8 am and 9:15 (what was I thinking signing them up for something so early on a Saturday?!) and then I rushed over to do a newborn photo session for my friend. It took longer than expected and then it was cleaning, editing, etc. I also pulled out my back and got very little sleep the night before and right before bed DD#1 started saying she wasn't feeling well. She woke up this morning at 5 am with 103 fever.
Even my 11yo sister said “mom!” An 11yo has better manners than you.
And then later my MIL asks how big the baby is, I say a banana and she goes “wow it looks bigger than a banana” thanks woman.
I’ll just be wearing a paper bag for the rest of my pregnancy.
@emzie54 there’s lots of recipes on Pinterest! I’d suggest picking your favorite croc pot recipe and seeing if you can find an instant pot recipe to convert it to, as a start. Yogurt is easy too, but not all models have that function
@acunamatada super congrats on your little GIRL! also, people seem to forget it's not just a baby on there??? Like, it's a swollen uterus, a placenta, fluid...not just a banana in there. Ugh!!
so I will offer him things I know he'll eat - yogurt, a smoothie, a banana etc. I prefer he goes to bed with something in his tummy even if it's not the most nutritious or what I made. Maybe I'm wrong for that but I don't want to fight over food or make it into this huge issue/power struggle. We'll see if I change my mind once he gets older and probably pickier.
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@wildtot I feel bad too and I'm in no way mean or harsh with DD about it. I tell her this is what we have for dinner today because is is what mommy cooked for our family. If she doesn't eat it I try not to push it but encourage her to eat at least a little and offer fruit if she eats some. On a side note I do not believe in food pushing or forcing kids to clean their plates. Just like adults, sometimes a child is less hungry than other times. I do not want to push food when DD is not hungry as I think it's important for children to be aware of their bodies and their food needs.
sick to my stomach.
anndddd I won’t say anything more as it can be considered a political/touchy topic to many with strong opinions but the point of my rant was that I am so with you and feel just as strongly!! Keep trying to educate girl!!