UO Thursday

noideawhatshesdoing

Haven't seen it started yet today!

stlmegs

Okay, I have one.  I don't typically wash clothes before I wear them (new clothes, anyway.  Second hand items are different. Most of the time).  I also don't wash them before my son wears them (never have), and I'm debating if I need to for this new baby.  I suppose I could google this, but what is the big deal with babies wearing new clothes before they are washed?  Just that their skin is more sensitive?

noideawhatshesdoing

My UO today is I really hate cutesy baby things. Like pastels and little lambs and other sweet/precious things. I'm practicing my gracious smile for when people gift me things like this. But then again our nursery will have posters on the wall that most people probably won't think are "baby appropriate".

stlmegs

noideawhatshesdoing said:

My UO today is I really hate cutesy baby things. Like pastels and little lambs and other sweet/precious things. I'm practicing my gracious smile for when people gift me things like this. But then again our nursery will have posters on the wall that most people probably won't think are "baby appropriate".

Me too!  And now inquiring minds need to know what type of posters are going on your nursery wall....lol

morethanamama

I like cutesy things but I also like a different kind of decor that appeals more to the parents I guess.

I am not a fan of photoshoots. I know they are super popular here in the US  but I just have a hard time looking at these photos where babies are like dolls. Someone posted a Valentine's day photoshoot of her kids. It's really cute, but so staged. I just wonder why people need so many of these professional photos taken (save the date, engagement, wedding, baby announcements, maternity, newborn, 6-month, holiday...the list goes on!).

knottie9f2468e8835387e9

@stlmegs I think it's something to do with the chemicals used in shipping like flame retardants and what not but I could be way off. I'll be washing everything for him before hand only because I have horribly sensitive skin and my husband is prone to eczema so our poor child will most likely have sensitive skin of some sort. I know I get hives from just existing lol 

My UO is that I hate baby boy clothes with trucks/tractors/sports/etc. Neither myself or my husband is especially into anything listed and even though my husband is a musician I also hate all the "rocker" jokes on boy clothes too. Idk I just prefer the quirky animals and little bowtie/suspender spectrum of boy clothes more. But as @noideawhatshesdoing said I'm practicing my gracious smile for my shower 

noideawhatshesdoing

@stlmegs
My grandma isn't a fan of these, but she's not familiar with either Doctor Who or Firefly so they don't make sense to her. She doesn't like the "curse" on the Serenity one and the "don't blink" line on the TARDIS. And pretty sure she's never even heard of Schrodinger. Somewhere around here is a vintage Godzilla poster that will go up too, but I can't find it.

noideawhatshesdoing

@kissableviv I'm with you on the photoshoot. Maybe I'll feel differently later, but mostly I just don't get it. And sometimes I think they can even get a little creepy with the poses. I guess I think babies are cute enough on their own, I don't see the need to go out of the way to "make" them cute? Probably the same issue I have with the cutesy baby stuff, I think it's cute enough that everything is already miniature!

@carsonraynee totally agree with the trucks, etc on boys clothes. Same with all the fluffy princess stuff on girls things. I know some people love that stuff, but why aren't there just more options with cool patterns?

wildtot

@stlmegs i always wash new clothes especially if it’s not in a package (like plastic wrapping). Mainly because i imagine the many times it’s been tried on, stepped on, etc. my sister got ringworm like that. For babies mainly because of their sensitive skin.

i don’t like maternity photos. They look awkward especially those with the belly out. Maybe nice for my own memory but i wouldn’t want to be framing or passing around picks of my belly to friends and family. 

paytonpedro

My UO (or maybe not?) is that I quite enjoy the drive by posters sometimes. It lets me unleash my inner snark that I otherwise have to keep caged. 

Another, which has popped up on a stupid fb group, is that all births are “natural” and that people confuse “non medicated births” with “natural births”. Just because I had an epidural doesn’t mean that somehow pushing a kid out my vagina became unnatural. I’ve also seen “natural” used to describe a “vaginal” birth. Literally, when I think of “natural birth” having it’s own definition other than ALL BIRTHS I think of a lady by herself in a potato field having a baby. Sorry not sorry. 

morethanamama

@paytonpedro are you my yoga teacher in disguise?? Lol she mentioned the EXACT same thing in class on Monday. I think in my head I have that confusion sometimes because in my native language vaginal birth is called "natural birth" . But I completely understand the difference between natural and un-medicated so it is frustrating when people just use "natural". 

My doctor brought up a good point. He said if you wanna go unmedicated I'm happy to follow your wish but it's hard for a doctor who knows you to see you in so much pain sometimes. Clearly, he thinks that we have the tools to take some of the pain away so why shouldn't we. But again, we are all different and there should be no judging or shaming either way.

zg49

I wish the bump had more options than "love it", kind of like Facebook. Probably not a UO, more of a thought I just had and needed to share.  

noideawhatshesdoing

@zg49 I've thought that so many times too! I think this group really needs a laughing option, and maybe an Eye Roll and a Creepy Internet Hug option amongst some others.

paytonpedro

@kissableviv haha. Definitely not a yoga teacher- I wish! 

My kid got me going this morning- happy happy joy joy- so I’m all kinds of amped up, and the girl on fb really got me going. Lol

zg49

@noideawhatshesdoing YES! Exactly! I don't always have time to reply but I have time to drop a laugh or an eye roll.

moguippy

@stlmegs I wash everything before hand because I have terribly sensitive skin and it's just easier to wash it than risk a rash/massive itching.  I have to use unscented/undyed laundry detergent/softener/dryer sheets bc I'm usually allergic to regular detergents. DH complains that his laundry never smells like "fresh laundry" but his options are wash his own laundry or deal with unscented laundry... so he deals lol.  I'm just assuming this LO will have my skin (my mom has it too, but mine is worse). We have a lot of handmedown clothes that have been sitting in a spare bedroom for like a year that should get washed anyway so I will just do everything at once.

@carsonraynee I feel you on the hives from just existing.. I get the itchiest hives from the cold weather

@noideawhatshesdoing I also don't love the cutesy stuff. Our nursery will be grey (but not super light, like a decent medium grey) and be outer space themed. DH wants to add a tardis and Star Wars stuff to the decorations.

@kissableviv I actually do want a newborn photoshoot, but that will be it, definitely no maternity shoot, or one for every holiday etc.  But I also don't like when they dress them up as dolls (creepy?) or weird themes, I just want some decent photos of baby with a blanket or something. I'm also known for NEVER taking photos, so I feel like this is a good way to get it done with so I don't have to worry about getting a good photo while I am sleep deprived (since I can't get a good photo at any time lol)

stillcozy

@paytonpedro Yes! I hate the term of "naturl birth" when referring to nonmedicated vaginal. it makes me feel bad about my c section

elizabethrn87

Here is one possibly:

the while kylie Jenner pregnancy announcement thing. Everyone is praising how she pulled away from the public to protect her and the baby while she was pregnant. I call bullshit. I feel like they planned on getting way more attention by hiding it and then a big revel once the baby was here-
and the
majority of the. Social media world has fallen for it.  I mean bravo: the night of the super vowel my newsfeed was equal between JT and her

moguippy

Finally have an UO. I don't get the obsession with curling (the olympic sport). Like it is always on. I want to watch something else!

Lelo2006

This probably isn't a UO, but I hate it when people miscalculate the weeks to months in pregnancy. 16 weeks is not 4 months!!! 20 weeks is not 5 months!! There are not 4 weeks in a month. Well, except February. It just really annoys me. Ok, glad I got that off my chest!

Lelo2006

I don't wash new clothes...

Re: baby clothes, I would wait to wash the newborn stuff just in case it's wayyyy too small and you want to return it. I washed a lot of James's clothes but then by the end I got lazy. He never had issues but he doesn't have sensitive skin.

devilcat139

@kissableviv I’m totally with you. We didn’t do engagement photos and while we had a photographer at our wedding we did zero poses photos for it. Would never do maternity photos or newborn photos or anything beyond that. I’m team just let them live their lives and document life as it’s happening. I’m not worried about not having too many pictures and the staging of it all is just so wasteful and off putting to me 

flockofmoosen3

not that this group has really mentioned it, but i have seen this in past bmbs...but i think women who get mad or freak out about their OBs not being available for delivery need to chill the F out. Your OB is not your doula--you see him/her at the very end when you're at the point of not caring who the hell catches the baby as long as they don't drop him/her. If you could get to know and choose the nurses ahead of time, that would be more useful.

cseley321

@Lelo2006 this! I fell into the same trap. Washed a ton of her NB clothes then couldn't return the ones that never fit or that were not worn. This time I have hand me downs since I kept all of my oldest's clothes, so it won't be a problem 

ETA Am I the UO because I love the newborn photoshoots? Here's the thing, for me anyway. As a FTM (or even STM+) you have no idea what degree of tiredness and fog you will be dealing with. My confession? Between about 30 hours of active labor with a failed epidural and emergency C section. I do not even really remember the first day with my daughter. I stayed up 2 and a half days straight between labor, learning to BF, family visiting, etc. The only thing I have from the first day were 1 photo after the c section, and the photos that the hospital photographer took. My husband dropped the ball, and so did I, and while I regret it soooo much, I really cherish those photos that she took. I didn't really take hardly any pictures until about 3 months when she finally started sleeping in longer stretches.

If you are planning on just catching life as it happens, just take into account that life may (or may not be!) super tiring during that first stretch

noideawhatshesdoing

@flockofmoosen3 I'm a FTM and I totally agree! My clinic has 7 rotating midwives, so they want you to meet with all of them during your pregnancy because they cannot/will not promise a particular midwife will be on call when you go into labor. You spend more time with the nurses anyway! Three college friends of mine work in labor and delivery at the hospital we'll be delivering at, so that could be interesting. Although one is a dude,so even though when it all comes down to it, I probably really won't care, but at this point I'm hoping he's on vacation that day! Sort of weirds me out

SmashJam

@Lelo2006 I just did that today on TTGP. So in my mind, while you are right and my DH always yells at me for avg every month to 4 weeks (its usually 4 weeks and 2 or 3 days, so avg wise, its more accurate than going up to 5)  its not like its always 5 or 6 weeks. And also, its not women chosing to do that they say we are preggo for 10 months or 40 weeks. So by those numbers its  4 weeks to a month, and your month changes every 4 weeks. If you only changed your month every 31, 30, or 28 days you'd be off. So I am 16 weeks (and 4 months) into pregnancy according to how it appears to me we normally date pregnancy.

Apologies if someone already said this, I didn't refresh my feed! 

ETA: words

stillcozy

@flockofmoosen3 totally agree! I was way more comfortable having the ob's on a rotation that way I knew I was not getting and overly exhausted dr for my delivery considering she had me back in the OR and Lily out less than 5 minutes I am do grateful this was not an on call situation My OB did my daily check-ins after ny delivery though.

Lelo2006

SmashJam said:

@Lelo2006 I just did that today on TTGP. So in my mind, while you are right and my DH always yells at me for avg every month to 4 weeks (its usually 4 weeks and 2 or 3 days, so avg wise, its more accurate than going up to 5)  its not like its always 5 or 6 weeks. And also, its not women chosing to do that they say we are preggo for 10 months or 40 weeks. So by those numbers its  4 weeks to a month, and your month changes every 4 weeks. If you only changed your month every 31, 30, or 28 days you'd be off. So I am 16 weeks (and 4 months) into pregnancy according to how it appears to me we normally date pregnancy.

Apologies if someone already said this, I didn't refresh my feed! 

ETA: words

See I've always been told that pregnancy is 9 months, not 10 ... It's technically 9 months and 1 week if you go full term (40 weeks) but that's much closer to 9 than 10. 4 months is actually 18 weeks, which is quite a difference. On average, a month is 4.4 weeks. Doesn't really matter for 1 month but the left over days add up after a while!

It really doesn't matter, it just annoys me. Especially AFTER the baby is born and people say "oh you get 16 weeks off? Nice to get 4 months!" It's NOT 4 months!

Lelo2006

Part of me likes the drama of a random poster, but it's no fun when they don't come back to engage in the thread, haha. I roll my eyes a bit at the 20th person in the pile on... when the OP hasn't even come back. 

wildtot

@flockofmoosen3 I’m actually a bit anxious if having another OB do my c section. They are also in a rotation and i will eventually get to meet them all for a brief time but still this is major surgery! I was spoiled with my first pregnancy to have my doctor do all my appointments and scans. Maybe it’s no different to having an emergency surgery from a strange doctor but i have plans to snip up during my c section and i hope my plans carry on as planned. With DS i also had to be pulled back to the OR because i was bleeding out of my incision and they had to call my doc in the middle of the night for the procedure. The relationship with my OB means a lot to me. 

hillbillywife

@Lelo2006 I love how empassioned you are about this lol. Along the same lines I hate it when people say we’re pregnant for 10 months because it’s not 10 months because there’s more than 4 weeks in (most) months. 

Ill be real honest and say that thinking about it too much confuses the poop outa me, but I get where you’re coming from for. sure. 

I’m also one that really likes pictures. I don’t go crazy with the Valentine’s Day and Easter shoots but I like to get family pictures taken every year-ish. When my parents got divorced my mom accidentally left all of the pictures that we had and my (now) stepmom got rid of them all. SO I don’t have any pictures from my childhood or from the time my parents were together. So perhaps I have a weird thing with pictures. 

SmashJam

@Lelo2006 I think its 10 months counting the 1 month you don't know (or i guess, two weeks). Technically when you find out, you are already 4 ish weeks along (sometimes more or less, depending on ovulation) by the standard in which we typically calculate pregnancy length (from LMP). Technically yeah I guess its longer than 10 months/40 weeks, really like 11 months if you count the extra 2 or 3 days for 9 months and add them all up (it would be almost an extra month). My point was just its the way medical norms calculate so you shouldn't be annoyed when women do it, they are just doing what is standard and what the average would be if you divided 40 weeks by 10.  I do get your point though with maternity leave....16 weeks is not 4 months. In general, you are totally right. The medical community is just trying to make lives easier!

noideawhatshesdoing

@hillbillywife That's so sad about your childhood pictures! My mom lost a lot of ours in a flood in the house, but  we at least still have some. I can't imagine someone throwing them all away! That's just mean!

Lelo2006

SmashJam said:

@Lelo2006 I think its 10 months counting the 1 month you don't know (or i guess, two weeks). Technically when you find out, you are already 4 ish weeks along (sometimes more or less, depending on ovulation) by the standard in which we typically calculate pregnancy length (from LMP). Technically yeah I guess its longer than 10 months/40 weeks, really like 11 months if you count the extra 2 or 3 days for 9 months and add them all up (it would be almost an extra month). My point was just its the way medical norms calculate so you shouldn't be annoyed when women do it, they are just doing what is standard and what the average would be if you divided 40 weeks by 10.  I do get your point though with maternity leave....16 weeks is not 4 months. In general, you are totally right. The medical community is just trying to make lives easier!

It's 40 weeks to full term including the 1 month you don't know. You're already 4 weeks by the time you find out, but you don't have an extra 40 weeks after that, you have 36 weeks (to full term). So 40 weeks to months = ~9.2 months (9 months, 1 week). Now if you go 42 weeks, you're just over 9.5 months, but yikes who wants that!?

I feel dumb for arguing about this, hahaha! It's my hill to die on I guess. 

Lelo2006

hillbillywife said:

@Lelo2006 I love how empassioned you are about this lol. Along the same lines I hate it when people say we’re pregnant for 10 months because it’s not 10 months because there’s more than 4 weeks in (most) months. 

Ill be real honest and say that thinking about it too much confuses the poop outa me, but I get where you’re coming from for. sure. 

I’m also one that really likes pictures. I don’t go crazy with the Valentine’s Day and Easter shoots but I like to get family pictures taken every year-ish. When my parents got divorced my mom accidentally left all of the pictures that we had and my (now) stepmom got rid of them all. SO I don’t have any pictures from my childhood or from the time my parents were together. So perhaps I have a weird thing with pictures. 

For sure, I'm embarrassing myself by arguing about it! haha! But literally no one is pregnant for 10 months, unless you go for like almost 44 weeks, which no doctor would ever do that!!

paytonpedro

@Lelo2006 I’m with you on this one. I’ll argue it to the death. Haha. I even asked my ob when I was pregnant with DS and she said everything you said. 

SmashJam

@Lelo2006 haha I also feel silly for arguing. Like I said, you are technically right! 

gingerbride26

noideawhatshesdoing said:

My UO today is I really hate cutesy baby things. Like pastels and little lambs and other sweet/precious things. I'm practicing my gracious smile for when people gift me things like this. But then again our nursery will have posters on the wall that most people probably won't think are "baby appropriate".

HIGH FIVE. Practice hard, my friend. For DD I was anti-pink and had to smile through every pink blanket and "ironic" but really rude as crap graphic T.  The good news is, people get tired of buying baby things by a year and then YOU get to dress them yourself.  I LOVE THAT ART!! Also we have a print of Maleficent's revenge and a giant stuffed Maleficent dragon in DD room - you do you! If this one is a boy we'll do airplane theme because hubby designs planes and is obsessed.  No idea if it's another girl...i'm putting all my chips on blue.

@flockofmoosen3 My OB didn't make it to my delivery - as in the OB on call from my practice not my specific one I see.  The resident or something delivered because it all went down before my OB made it in from the parking lot....she arrived in time to do sutures.  Honestly - at that point you don't care/notice who's down there, instinct just takes over and there's no thinking.

UO - I can't stand Daniel Tiger...please bring Mr Roger's back in it's original form... WHY DOESN'T HE WEAR ANY PANTS!? Mama Tiger has to wear pants...but none of the male tigers do...

wildtot

I saw a kid who looked about 4 yrs old with a pacifier. Made me cringe a bit. Don’t get me wrong DS had one till about 15 months but i thought the recommended age around 2 yrs? 

Edited because i put DH instead of DS, but let’s face it he’s like another child sometimes

pretzellover

@Lelo2006 only bc you started it...
4 months is closer to 17w than 18w.
4m = 17.33 weeks = 17w 2 days and change
All the standard mapping’s for 4m use 17w I’m pretty sure, with start of week 18 being start of pregnancy month 5.

zande2016

@wildtot I agree, I always cringe when I see a really older kid with a pacifier. I try not to judge too hard because my kid never took one so I don't know how hard it is to break the habit, but it's sooo bad for the teeth, I think I would put my foot down at that point and take it away. 

My UO is I am not really excited for the Olympics.