@hayhay93 +1 to waiting it out and maybe even calling after you leave. Good for you for doing this! And how awesome that your mom could up the timeline!
I haven’t found one yet, I’m still searching. Luckily I wasn’t supposed to have my anatomy scan until the 6th, so I feel like I have a couple weeks of wiggle room to find a good doctor so I can still get that scan. I just picked up all of my prescriptions yesterday too, so I’m good on meds for a month. @wildtot
@hayhay93 so glad you decided to make the move sooner, but sorry you are going through this!! Stay safe! Keep us posted
@wildtot oh Panera. I don't eat there often but was super disappointed last time I went. I started an order at the kiosk for breakfast sandwiches, but they wouldn't let me complete the order because it turned 11 while l was doing it. Come onnn
@hayhay93 glad things are lining up for you! Please keep us posted.
@AlyLynn07 oh come on! I seriously think they should go by the time you enter the restaurant. It’s not fair if the line is long. I once got rejected by chick fil a in a drive through for being stuck behind someone taking forever and i was just one minute late.
To end my list of TW. It was DHs turn to put DS to bed. Yes i knew DS would put up a struggle and i would have to jump in at one point. DH doesn’t hesitate to say that he’ll put him to order but i should help him like he help me yesterday. What?!?! What happened to the past nights i needed his help and got nada? So after he put him down i took over. I finally just stocked DS by sitting in the rocking chair and watched him for over 30 mins. He finally got tired and fell asleep. I hope being the creepy stocker in the corner chair pays up tonight. Plus i got my pillow back.
@hayhay93 please don’t think you have been complaining. You are asking advice from ladies who support you and want to see you be well. Personally, I am sooo proud of you (sorry being for the creepy internet wierdo). I have known a lot of women of women to stay in bad situations, and a few who were strong enough to leave, and it wasn’t easy for them. Im so happy for you and your son.
@hayhay93 I’m so glad you’re getting out of there. I’ve been nervous for you. It’s such a hard thing to do, but you’re doing the right think! Hugs!
@wildtot what a day! Fart stink would push me over the edge lol.
I dont remember if I had a TW earlier today but I definitely have one now. DH is super sick again. His fever was scary high (over 104) and won’t go into the ER. So now I’m keeping vigil to make sure his temp comes down some. The stress of taking care of sick people is not my favorite.
Thank you! Just to let everyone know. I won’t have internet access very much at first, so I’ll be checking in less but at I’ll at least try to pop in and let everyone know I’m alive! The support of the women on here is what pushed me to leave. So thankful. @moguippy@hillbillywife@AlyLynn07@wildtot
@hayhay93 I am glad you are taking control of the situation. Good luck with everything. Definitely do whatever you need to do to feel safe. If you at all worried about him getting violet, I am pretty sure you can have a police escort there with you whenever you leave. You can call your local department to talk about your options. I’ll be thinking of you!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Nominating my "DH" for last night. My toddler's sleep regression is out of hand. I have not had 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep for almost 2 weeks. The longest stretches I have gotten were when I fell asleep on the floor next to her bed.
Last night my husband started throwing a fit to me about how he can't work on such little sleep since she is crying while I try and get her back to sleep at 2 am. He needs his 8 hours, but he can only get 7 now! Nevermind the fact he stayed up until 2 playing video games, and sleeps in until 10 or later every day. Meanwhile I get up with the kid around 7 or earlier every day, take care of her all day with very little support, and wake up 3x a night with her since all this garbage started. I am at my wits end and I can't get my kid to sleep at all.
My confession: if this sleep garbage had started earlier, I would probably have held held off on IVF to have a second. I am too old for this and feel so defeated.
@cseley321 ugh i feel you on the sleep and have similar issues with DH sometimes. How old is your LO again? I read that the 2 yr regression is the last- gosh i hope so! I am hoping my stocking trick from last night works again. DS woke up at 4 rather than midnight - I’ll take it! Hope this regression is over soon! DHs just need to suck it up!
But then this was us after 4 am. Got kicked and punched in the face multiple times.
@cseley321 pretty much i sat in the rocking chair in the dark so that DS can see he us ok and i am around. I didn’t talk or anything (partially closed my eyes) and he just stayed in his bed. If he tried to get out i told him to get back in and once he started to whimper i told him he was ok and to lay down. After about 30 mins he fell asleep on his own. I didn’t verbally or physically soothe.
@hayhay93 lots of thoughts and prayers as you go through this transition, and I agree, it may be best to wait until your mom is there. I don't know the details of the issues, but if you're leaving and afraid of telling him, I'm assuming you're scared for your well-being. I'm glad your mom is able to come to your rescue.
@wildtot oh, and she is 2 and a half. I tried what you mentioned as well but haven't had any luck until I go sit next to her. I am trying to transition from that to being more removed, but it's a slow process!
@cseley321 and @wildtot remind me-you both have kids in a toddler bed right? Mine is in a crib so I just peace out and let him babble, but I'm guessing your tactics will come in handy in a month when I move him to a toddler bed, lol.
@SmashJam yes we transitioned after Christmas because he was halfway over the rail. Good thing i was watch through the camera. He was 20 months. I miss the crib!
A quick update for everyone before I lose WiFi in a few hours. My friend came by last night and we made a plan for me to go to her house to wait for my mom. Luckily my bf was at his friend’s. I debated about telling him in person but ended up leaving a letter. He messaged me on FB because he doesn’t have a phone and we have discussed things quite a bit. He was really hurt but I told him if he works on changing and getting help for his anger and mental illness, that I will be willing to work on things, but he still won’t get help at this point. I feel confident in my decision. My mom is only 4 hours away and is picking me up soon from my friend’s. Thank you all for your support.
@hayhay93 SO proud of you for taking this step. Sending you all the positive vibes and hugs. Please keep us posted and let us know you got to your moms okay.
Thank you! I will update everyone when I get back! @zombiehoohaa
It’s a long drive and I’ve been having some cramping on my lower left side, if everyone can keep me in their thoughts through this last stretch of my journey it would be much appreciated!
@hayhay93 I am so incredibly proud of you!!! you are amazing and this baby is so so lucky to have you for mama. so much love to you!! always here if you need anythijng!
I finally made it Friday around 3 AM. I've been trying to rest and recuperate the last two days. Spending lots of time with my 5 year old sister. It's been much more calming here. Thank you all for your support.
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday
Keep us posted
@wildtot oh Panera. I don't eat there often but was super disappointed last time I went. I started an order at the kiosk for breakfast sandwiches, but they wouldn't let me complete the order because it turned 11 while l was doing it. Come onnn
@AlyLynn07 oh come on! I seriously think they should go by the time you enter the restaurant. It’s not fair if the line is long. I once got rejected by chick fil a in a drive through for being stuck behind someone taking forever and i was just one minute late.
To end my list of TW. It was DHs turn to put DS to bed. Yes i knew DS would put up a struggle and i would have to jump in at one point. DH doesn’t hesitate to say that he’ll put him to order but i should help him like he help me yesterday. What?!?! What happened to the past nights i needed his help and got nada? So after he put him down i took over. I finally just stocked DS by sitting in the rocking chair and watched him for over 30 mins. He finally got tired and fell asleep. I hope being the creepy stocker in the corner chair pays up tonight. Plus i got my pillow back.
@wildtot what a day! Fart stink would push me over the edge lol.
I dont remember if I had a TW earlier today but I definitely have one now. DH is super sick again. His fever was scary high (over 104) and won’t go into the ER. So now I’m keeping vigil to make sure his temp comes down some. The stress of taking care of sick people is not my favorite.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Last night my husband started throwing a fit to me about how he can't work on such little sleep since she is crying while I try and get her back to sleep at 2 am. He needs his 8 hours, but he can only get 7 now! Nevermind the fact he stayed up until 2 playing video games, and sleeps in until 10 or later every day. Meanwhile I get up with the kid around 7 or earlier every day, take care of her all day with very little support, and wake up 3x a night with her since all this garbage started. I am at my wits end and I can't get my kid to sleep at all.
My confession: if this sleep garbage had started earlier, I would probably have held held off on IVF to have a second. I am too old for this and feel so defeated.
But then this was us after 4 am. Got kicked and punched in the face multiple times.
I read this explaining why they go through this and it kinda makes sense.
https://www.babysleepsite.com/sleep-regression-2/2-year-old-sleep-regression/
@wildtot sounds like a bad day overall LOL!
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
It’s a long drive and I’ve been having some cramping on my lower left side, if everyone can keep me in their thoughts through this last stretch of my journey it would be much appreciated!