It's so me. I'm such a lazy indulgent POS recently.
I've been driving to work and parking in the nice super pricy parking lot because I don't feel like dealing with public transportation, I'm on the Bump staring at that gif when I should be working and prepping for a presentation I have in 2 hours, I know DH is focused on putting aside money for when I'm on leave for 6+ months so I asked my parents to buy me a nice diaper bag (they did) and I'm just all around kinda lazy and spending too much on myself.
I promise I'm not a spoiled brat, I'm just busted this week.
1. DS took over one hour to go to sleep last night and it was way past his bedtime. I sacrificed my pillow for him. 2. Between the hours of 9pm and 1am i tried 3 pillows to try to sleep. Only to end up with neck and back pain. Again my sacrifice... 3. DS woke up 3 times between 1-3 every hour! Finally broke down and brought him to our bed. Of course still no sleeping. Plus he punched me in they eye pretty hard. 4. Got to the dentist to find out i had a different insurance. Glad i was there 30 mins early. 5. Dentist won’t do my fillings unless they have a letter from my OB. Now I’m waiting for that... 6. Again i got here 30 mins early and everyone that arrived after me was taken in first. They don’t need the letter for my cleaning.
My husband. We've been having problems that stem from an issue he is dealing with, and he was supposed to commit to doing something to work on that issue, but apparently he is incapable of following through with his commitment and blows it off hoping I somehow won't notice. Sorry for being vague but don't want to get into details on a public forum. Basically I am just really hurt that he won't do what he needs to do to fix this, and questioning if he will ever grow up and SHOW me he can/will change instead of just saying it and never following through. It's not fun feeling this way, especially when I'm pregnant. Blah.
Yikes @wildtot hopefully your day gets better! New pillows are the worst.
my DD is being a TW today. I wanted to go to the grocery store this morning earlyish so I could be done with it and she HAD to watch trolls before we go. So now it’s almost 11 and we’re still at home.
@wildtot that is super frustrating. Hopefully they get you taken care of soon.
@zande2016 I am so sorry you are in this situation. It's so hard when you are counting on the person you love to do something, and they are not following through on it. My college boyfriend was always doing this to me. It made me feel like I wasn't important enough to him.
@hillbillywife I hate those mornings! Hopefully she will at least be good for you when you do finally go!
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
@wildtot solidarity on the sleep troubles, DS has taken over an hour to get to sleep for the past week, I’ve been thinking about pushing his bed time routine earlier- I need mommy time after he goes to sleep!
My TW is DS today who decided to pretend to be a dinosaur for over half an hour instead of working with his EI teacher this morning. Money well spent!
Oldest bro who lives a thousand miles away is heading to Seattle in August for a concert. He asked if I'd come up (3 hour drive), I reminded him I'm having a baby in July and probably not good timing. Asked him if he'd take the train to day trip down here so I could see him and he can meet his new niece or nephew, and also see his teenage daughter who lives here. But no, that wouldn't be convenient for him, and he had a fit that I won't come up to Seattle.
Middle bro, who lives here in the same freaking town as I do, forgot my birthday. I'm the only sibling in town, and his only sister and we're closest in age. Lame. Also, when he got divorced, 5 years ago, I let him store a bunch of his stuff at my house while he figured out where he was going to live. He is now remarried, has a storage unit, and doesn't understand why I'm telling him to get his crap out of my house because it's all in the room we're going to use for the baby. Told him to come get his stuff this weekend or I'm selling it, I don't have room to store his guitars, amp, bike, carboys and bunch of other big stuff anymore.
Youngest bro, passed away June 2016, miss and love him dearly. When he passed, I was the only one with a house and garage, so all his stuff came to my house. I've not had the heart to go through it to see what was worth keeping and what really wasn't. But again, with LO coming, we needed room. So my mom came over and we sorted through things together. Well apparently the guy didn't know you need a trusted friend that knows where you keep your personal/vice items to come and dispose of it should anything happen to you. You know what I mean, the things you'd really rather your mom and grandma not come across. Mom and I were not thrilled when we came across little bro's porn. Yuck. Again, I miss him and love him, but seriously dude?! His friends even helped us clean out his apartment and I'm still annoyed that none of them knew to toss that stuff.
Have I mentioned before that each of my brothers is actually a genus? So they aren't dumb people, but seriously the three of them don't have common sense!
@zande2016 I am so sorry you are dealing with that. I know that I take it especially hard when my DH is being a twat about doing something to fix a thing in his life...i always feel like he doesn't care enough, but its probably just so hard to make the change. In my DH's case, it usually means admitting he is doing somethign wrong and making a change that will result in less sitting on his ass time, lol.
My twat is the rain and ice outside. We can't go to the library because I don't want to go down our driveway.
Another twat: I am getting sick. I was at the hospital yesterday for my appts and there were so many sick people, I think I caught something!
Mine is to the lunch lady who always comments that I’m starving my baby by getting a taco salad everyday. It has meat- it had calories- I am bigger- it’s not starving, not any of your business
my schedule today and clients not canceling even though majority of state is on snow day and I just know half if not more are going to no show because of it
I’m the TW today. Spilled olive oil on my brand new shirt today. I did a soak with stain remover and detergent, then a soak with dish soap. Just threw it in the washing machine, and I’m hoping the stain comes out!
Mine is to the lunch lady who always comments that I’m starving my baby by getting a taco salad everyday. It has meat- it had calories- I am bigger- it’s not starving, not any of your business
umm... taco salad sounds delicious. she is crazy. Enjoy that taco salad, I'm jealous!
Going to keep it vague, but someone at my office is sending me multiple passive-aggressive emails about an issue that 1) is not my fault, and 2) I can do nothing about. But somehow she thinks it's MY fault and that bad, inefficient company practices have NOTHING to do with it. Much easier to blame beanship. Total TW.
@noideawhatshesdoing I am so sorry your having to go through that right now. I can't imagine how tough that must be.
Finally made it out of the dentist after 3 hours! But have another one for Panera - how dare you tell a pregnant woman that breakfast ended 10 mins ago when all I wanted was a freaking egg sandwich with delicious toppings!! I had to step aside to let others order so I can figure out plan B.
@beanship those are the worst! And I hate passive aggressive comments+ behavior.
@wildtot, what a day! You need a break. WTF to Panera. In my books, restaurants who offer breakfast options need to offer it ALL DAY (I even have a kitchen rug that says "breakfast served all day)
@noideawhatshesdoing sorry for your loss. I hear you about the porn stuff...same thing happened to me when I helped a friend clean out his dad's apartment...not fun.
@elizabethrn87 clearly other people are better than us at carrying a baby, given all the wonderful comments we've heard about these days!
I don't have a clear TW yet, aside from the usual spreadsheets I'll be working on for the rest of the month. But just give it time...
@elizabethrn87 I don't get why people think things are suddenly their business just because we're pregnant. In my mind, I imagine myself saying some clever, snappy comeback to comments like that. But I always end up just blinking a couple of times, mumbling something, and retreating.
My TW today is the rain. Normally I don't care, but I bought "team he/team she" stickers for our family gender reveal on Saturday and they got delivered today. And sat outside in the rain all day. Normally DH can stop home if we get something but he was working an hour away today. I don't wanna see what they look like when I get home. And I won't be able to order more to be delivered in time for our party. Hopefully they survived
@noideawhatshesdoing DH just got home and said they aren't wet bc the delivery person folded them in half and jammed them in the mailbox (we have a vertical type mailbox attached to the house, not the normal kind on a post). So I guess that will do lol
@noideawhatshesdoing I’m very sorry for your loss and that your other brothers aren’t there for you like you need them to be.
My Twatwaffle is always my bf. After another huge fight last night, I got in contact with my mom and due to some financial help from someone that I never would have thought to ask, a family friend, my mom is leaving tonight to pick me up and I’ll be going back to California with her tomorrow. The reason it’s a Twatwaffle is because I am genuinely scared of my bf’s reaction. I haven’t told him yet and I’m waiting to tell him. Not sure if I should spring it on him when she’s here or let him know a few hours in advance so he has time to freak out and mentally prepare.
ETA: I’m sorry I have been MIA the last week or so. I’ve been lurking and trying to keep up with how everyone’s doing but with all of the drama at home, I just haven’t really had the time to make very many posts. I hope everyone is doing great and hoping once I get settled in California that I can join in again and be a part of the group! (Sad I missed the recent scandal post of, what I think I read, someone asking for money?! Like really? Everyone here is trying to save for their own children, ask your family... lol)
@hayhay93 so sorry for the drama but hopefully your just one day away from a bit more peace.
Got another one to add...TW to the girl next to me in the train that smells like fart. She also took over the three seater for a while. Can this day be over?!
@hayhay93 goodness, I hope things get better very quickly. Sounds like a very stressful situation. Glad to hear you've got some people in your corner to help you out.
@wildtot No! Just no! Ugh! Eww! Yes, today can be over for you, you've suffered more than enough for a week! Wishing you all the best for whatever remains of your frazzled patience today, hope you can get some sleep tonight and tomorrow will be better!
@noideawhatshesdoing I’m starting to think maybe I’m just to sensitive today lol. My DH was so worried he would have to be waiting for me at the train station but it’s actually the reverse. I’ve been waiting for him for 30 mins in the old weather for 30 mins. Now this random guy decides to stand literally next to me with loud ass music as if there was nowhere else to stand. I’m just here for the sun...uh please go away it’s kinda creeping me out. DH should be here in like 10-15 mins. I might just suffer in the shade to get away from this creep.
Thanks for the kind words @stlmegs@hillbillywife@lindsayleigh1989@SmashJam. It's so hard because I won't talk about my marital problems with any friends or anyone I know in real life, so I end up feeling very alone and isolated. I wish therapy wasn't so dam expensive!
@hayhay93 it sounds like you're doing the right thing by leaving, and maybe it's best to wait for your mom to get there to tell him for satefy's sake, just in case? Sorry you're going through such a tough thing.
@wildtot If I knew you IRL, I'd totally loan you the shirt I wear on public transit days. Works like a charm.
To be honest, I'm thinking of getting a second one the next size up to ward off annoying strangers that think it's ok to touch a pregnant lady's belly.
@hayhay93 I’m so sorry that it was sprung on you, but I’m glad you’ll be in a safer and healthier space soon. I’m by no means an expert on this, but I would suggest waiting until your mom is there for safety. Or better yet, leave when he’s out of the house and tell him after by phone. I can’t remember all the details of what you’ve shared, but I seem to recall that he’s been violent or threatening before. You need to protect yourself. Praying for you!
ETA: I should have said “You need to protect yourself, plus your baby and your mom too.”
Thank you for the advice, that seems to be the consensus among the few I’ve told. So I’ll be waiting until she gets here or just before she gets here. I feel bad springing the news on him, but I don’t feel bad for leaving. It’s going to hurt whether he heard it hours in advance or just before I leave. I’ve managed to pack my bags today while he’s been gone and have them in the closet just as they were before, so he won’t know they’re full unless he pulls one out. @tarheelgirl8
@zande2016 I must have missed your post earlier. I’m so sorry you’re husband is putting you through that, it’s such a helpless feeling waiting on someone to fix things for themselves. Been there, it’s so hard. Keep your head up!
@zande2016 I hope DH decides to act on the situation and follow through. Sorry you're going through this!
@hayhay93 I agree with everyone else on the timing, I can't wait until you're on this side of the nation! What an ordeal, I'm so proud of you and what you had to endure. Puts things in perspective when I start complaining too much...
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday
I've been driving to work and parking in the nice super pricy parking lot because I don't feel like dealing with public transportation, I'm on the Bump staring at that gif when I should be working and prepping for a presentation I have in 2 hours, I know DH is focused on putting aside money for when I'm on leave for 6+ months so I asked my parents to buy me a nice diaper bag (they did) and I'm just all around kinda lazy and spending too much on myself.
I promise I'm not a spoiled brat, I'm just busted this week.
1. DS took over one hour to go to sleep last night and it was way past his bedtime. I sacrificed my pillow for him.
2. Between the hours of 9pm and 1am i tried 3 pillows to try to sleep. Only to end up with neck and back pain. Again my sacrifice...
3. DS woke up 3 times between 1-3 every hour! Finally broke down and brought him to our bed. Of course still no sleeping. Plus he punched me in they eye pretty hard.
4. Got to the dentist to find out i had a different insurance. Glad i was there 30 mins early.
5. Dentist won’t do my fillings unless they have a letter from my OB. Now I’m waiting for that...
6. Again i got here 30 mins early and everyone that arrived after me was taken in first. They don’t need the letter for my cleaning.
hope that’s the last of TWs but it’s still early.
my DD is being a TW today. I wanted to go to the grocery store this morning earlyish so I could be done with it and she HAD to watch trolls before we go. So now it’s almost 11 and we’re still at home.
@zande2016 I am so sorry you are in this situation. It's so hard when you are counting on the person you love to do something, and they are not following through on it. My college boyfriend was always doing this to me. It made me feel like I wasn't important enough to him.
@hillbillywife I hate those mornings! Hopefully she will at least be good for you when you do finally go!
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
My TW is DS today who decided to pretend to be a dinosaur for over half an hour instead of working with his EI teacher this morning. Money well spent!
I’m sure I’ll have more as the day goes on.
Oldest bro who lives a thousand miles away is heading to Seattle in August for a concert. He asked if I'd come up (3 hour drive), I reminded him I'm having a baby in July and probably not good timing. Asked him if he'd take the train to day trip down here so I could see him and he can meet his new niece or nephew, and also see his teenage daughter who lives here. But no, that wouldn't be convenient for him, and he had a fit that I won't come up to Seattle.
Middle bro, who lives here in the same freaking town as I do, forgot my birthday. I'm the only sibling in town, and his only sister and we're closest in age. Lame. Also, when he got divorced, 5 years ago, I let him store a bunch of his stuff at my house while he figured out where he was going to live. He is now remarried, has a storage unit, and doesn't understand why I'm telling him to get his crap out of my house because it's all in the room we're going to use for the baby. Told him to come get his stuff this weekend or I'm selling it, I don't have room to store his guitars, amp, bike, carboys and bunch of other big stuff anymore.
Youngest bro, passed away June 2016, miss and love him dearly. When he passed, I was the only one with a house and garage, so all his stuff came to my house. I've not had the heart to go through it to see what was worth keeping and what really wasn't. But again, with LO coming, we needed room. So my mom came over and we sorted through things together. Well apparently the guy didn't know you need a trusted friend that knows where you keep your personal/vice items to come and dispose of it should anything happen to you. You know what I mean, the things you'd really rather your mom and grandma not come across. Mom and I were not thrilled when we came across little bro's porn. Yuck. Again, I miss him and love him, but seriously dude?! His friends even helped us clean out his apartment and I'm still annoyed that none of them knew to toss that stuff.
Have I mentioned before that each of my brothers is actually a genus? So they aren't dumb people, but seriously the three of them don't have common sense!
Wow, sorry, that was a novel!
My twat is the rain and ice outside. We can't go to the library because I don't want to go down our driveway.
Another twat: I am getting sick. I was at the hospital yesterday for my appts and there were so many sick people, I think I caught something!
canceling even though majority of state is on snow day and I just know half if not more are going to no show because of it
Finally made it out of the dentist after 3 hours! But have another one for Panera - how dare you tell a pregnant woman that breakfast ended 10 mins ago when all I wanted was a freaking egg sandwich with delicious toppings!! I had to step aside to let others order so I can figure out plan B.
@wildtot, what a day! You need a break. WTF to Panera. In my books, restaurants who offer breakfast options need to offer it ALL DAY (I even have a kitchen rug that says "breakfast served all day)
@noideawhatshesdoing sorry for your loss. I hear you about the porn stuff...same thing happened to me when I helped a friend clean out his dad's apartment...not fun.
@elizabethrn87 clearly other people are better than us at carrying a baby, given all the wonderful comments we've heard about these days!
I don't have a clear TW yet, aside from the usual spreadsheets I'll be working on for the rest of the month. But just give it time...
My Twatwaffle is always my bf. After another huge fight last night, I got in contact with my mom and due to some financial help from someone that I never would have thought to ask, a family friend, my mom is leaving tonight to pick me up and I’ll be going back to California with her tomorrow. The reason it’s a Twatwaffle is because I am genuinely scared of my bf’s reaction. I haven’t told him yet and I’m waiting to tell him. Not sure if I should spring it on him when she’s here or let him know a few hours in advance so he has time to freak out and mentally prepare.
ETA: I’m sorry I have been MIA the last week or so. I’ve been lurking and trying to keep up with how everyone’s doing but with all of the drama at home, I just haven’t really had the time to make very many posts. I hope everyone is doing great and hoping once I get settled in California that I can join in again and be a part of the group! (Sad I missed the recent scandal post of, what I think I read, someone asking for money?! Like really? Everyone here is trying to save for their own children, ask your family... lol)
Got another one to add...TW to the girl next to me in the train that smells like fart. She also took over the three seater for a while. Can this day be over?!
@wildtot No! Just no! Ugh! Eww! Yes, today can be over for you, you've suffered more than enough for a week! Wishing you all the best for whatever remains of your frazzled patience today, hope you can get some sleep tonight and tomorrow will be better!
@hayhay93 it sounds like you're doing the right thing by leaving, and maybe it's best to wait for your mom to get there to tell him for satefy's sake, just in case? Sorry you're going through such a tough thing.
To be honest, I'm thinking of getting a second one the next size up to ward off annoying strangers that think it's ok to touch a pregnant lady's belly.
Sorry if it's huge, I'm on mobile.
ETA: I should have said “You need to protect yourself, plus your baby and your mom too.”
Thank you for well wishes @zande2016 @wildtot @noideawhatshesdoing
@hayhay93 I agree with everyone else on the timing, I can't wait until you're on this side of the nation! What an ordeal, I'm so proud of you and what you had to endure. Puts things in perspective when I start complaining too much...
Thank you to everyone that has supported me so far and sorry that I’ve been complaining so much! It will all be over soon!