Weekly Questions [1/22]

doxiemoxie212

@krashke ah, I see, neither DH nor I enjoy reading directions, which doesn't go super well when assembling furniture, and also DH is the least handy human on the planet, so I usually have to do most of it myself while yelling periodically, "THAT THING, BRING ME THAT THING, AND HOLD THE THING HERE IN THIS PLACE!" 

amys614

@doxiemoxie212 I always, always get homicidal when I build Ikea furniture. I tend to build it alone for this reason  I end up hot and crabby, although always get it done. 

becca_123

@doxiemoxie212 I definitely forgot about the can't ride rides being pregnant thing.  I mean.... it is a lot of money and since you can't ride anything I'm bound to bet that you'll walk out of there with a bunch of goodies (gotta get a wand from Ollivander's!) to add to the expense.  It is sooo fun though.  I wouldn't be sad about going on you're own but I would be sad that you can't do the whole experience.  It would be cool if you splurged to do the park to park so you wouldn't have to choose which HP world you want to go to, plus you get to ride the Hogwart's Express.  It's costly but would make the venture into the park worth it.  Decisions!

doxiemoxie212

@becca_123 indeed! I haven't been to an amusement park since I was like 10, so part of me keeps thinking, "By myself?? What if I get lost??" And then I remember that I'm an adult and cell phones exist now, and it will be fine. 

doxiemoxie212

In other news, my bikini tops apparently no longer fit my enormous pregnancy boobs. Where do people buy cheap bathing suits now that Victoria's Secret doesn't sell any anymore?? I have black bottoms, so I literally just want a new top that fits my boobs properly (which is difficult... so I guess I probably have to go back to string bikini tops since they're more adjustable...?).

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 Target or Amazon would be my first places to check

ETA: super jelly that you get to go somewhere that requires a swim suit

catlady1215

@doxiemoxie212 I wouldn't be surprised if target starts switching out winter stuff for suits soon for spring breaks. or definitely amazon.

LaceyBee522

@doxiemoxie212 if you want to try in person/not online, Lord & Taylor always has a good selection. I think they're shutting down that store, though, so not sure if that is going to be the case this year. Maybe Century 21? 

doxiemoxie212

Def only online.... not about to venture to a store to try on bathing suits in this weather lol. Need something that would fit 30DDD/32DDD+ so probably just a triangle bikini top, right? No one can think of a brand that accommodates those sizes for bathing suits, right? 

I'm mostly pissed because all my bathing suit tops at VS were like $12

elsie42

Update on the dentist, no x-rays today, they said they'd just do them next time since I'm pregnant. Also it felt crazy to say "Can you schedule my next one later in the day so my husband can be home with the baby?" ...baby will be here before I know it!

@doxiemoxie212 we have the Hemnes dressers in our bedroom and while we didn't try to kill eachother while building them we did almost kill our cats haha. They kept wanting to sit right on top of the pieces or the directions. 

MissKittyDanger

Bare with me, as I feel this may have been asked before {note: I will be asking OB about this as well}

I've recently heard things about delayed cord clamping.
Anyone done this or heard more about it?
Benefits? Pros vs cons?

katelynrae86

@doxiemoxie212 DH is solely responsible for furniture assembly, and I'm very grateful for that. Although he's an engineer so he spends half the time critiquing the instructions, which is almost as annoying as me trying to figure it out myself. 

elsie42

@MissKittyDanger ACOG recommends delaying cord clamping for 30-60 seconds. The benefits are greatest for pre-term babies but there are also benefits for full-term too. I do not believe there is any evidence that shows delaying any longer than 30-60 seconds is any more beneficial. https://m.acog.org/About-ACOG/News-Room/News-Releases/2016/Delayed-Umbilical-Cord-Clamping-for-All-Healthy-Infants?IsMobileSet=true

katie121209

I could be wrong but I’m assuming delayed cord clamping isn’t an option for us c-section peeps...

so rant/question but my last appointment I had to meet the newly hired OB and in a fairly poor bedside manner after reading through my chart she goes “so are we doing a tubal” and I was a little taken aback. For all you STM are your OBs asking you this also? 

jsl82

@doxiemoxie212 for DDD bathing suit tops I've had luck with ASOS.

For IKEA DH wants to murder me whenever I even just suggest it.  For DDs dresser I had my brother help him get it from ikea and put it together.  I made sandwiches- it was better for all involved that I stayed away.  Eventually my dad came over and joined them for an assembly line of building the 8 drawers.  The dresser has worked out well for DD with plenty of space and we use it as a changing table still at almost 13 months.  Probably getting the smaller one for DS though as his room is much smaller.

lisa2589

@katie121209   I feel like that’s fairly inappropriate without you previously giving any indication... 

LaceyBee522

@katie121209 Forgive my ignorance, but what does that mean?? 

lisa2589

@LaceyBee522 Tubal ligation or getting your tubes tied. 

lisa2589

To be fair, it is commonly done during c-sections if a person is sure they don’t want more babies, but I don’t think it’s really something to bring up off handedly without the patient mentioning it first. Or implying that you think they should, without prior discussion of a major medical issue. 

LaceyBee522

@lisa2589 OMG! That is super inappropriate, especially at a first meeting. What did you say to her? 

catlady1215

@katie121209 my dr asked me. But she made it sound like a routine question, not sure though. Cause I'm 'only' 35. And this is only our 2nd. shes been with me through my tough couple years though. and I've said to her I don't know if i could do this again for a third. So maybe that's why?
but as soon as i didn't sound confident, she said 'ok nope. No. Then we won't do it. Any doubt means no' and subject was changed.

katie121209

I said we would have to talk about it. I understand it’s an easy procedure to do when you’re having a c section but since it was our first time meeting I was taken aback. I can’t imagine having a 3rd but I don’t think I can make that decision until the 2nd one is here. 

llamamama14

@katie1212 I was never asked about a tubal during my 2nd pregnancy. This time around (3rd pregnancy at age 31) I brought it up myself during my 1st appointment and asked questions but said not to put it in my chart yet because I wasn't positive. Then at my last appointment a different doc. from the same practice who I've seen before brought it up at the end and said something like "so I don't see anything in your charts about a tubal- not done having kids after this?" or something like that. She has a warm personality and she said it in a friendly, casual way. It felt routine like @catlady1215 's experience and the way she asked me didn't bother me. I can see how the way your doctor brought it up abrubtly was offensive but I don't think bringing it up in general is necessarily inappropriate. Maybe I'm just also more comfortable with the idea of a tubal now since I've thought about it and discussed with friends. 

catlady1215

@katie121209 that's pretty much how I feel. I can't imagine having a 3rd. Especially in this house with no ideas when we can actually move + me getting older. But I don't know how I could say 'yes. I'm done' Till he's here. If we really really decide it's done, I'm going to convince DH for a snip. My body has done enough! Lol.

Austenista

I wish they just wouldn’t ask about BC and just let you tell them if you need it. For some reason that’s probably just me, I feel uncomfortable discussing my plans unless I specifically want to. 

ramennoodlegif

I was never asked by my OB if I wanted a tubal and I never asked about it, even though I had always imagined myself as a mother of two. I had DS at 34 and until right after he was born, I was sure I was done. Afterwards, though, I just didn't feel done, which was weird to me. I'm now AMA, our house is only 2 bedroom, and we have a few costly things that need attention, but I think we made the right decision, in terms of having #3. 

marcus7676

@krashke DS has the three drawer hemnes.  For the first year, we were able to keep things on top of the dresser with him (wipes, diaper cream, etc.).  Then he realized he could kick / fight us during diaper changes and all that stuff went flying.