@delujm0 OMG THANK YOU FOR SAYING THAT!! I HATE cutesy spellings for normal names. I have had to spell and pronounce my normal name (Elyse) my whole life and now I have to spell my last name, too, since I got married. It sucks. If you (general you) are giving your kid a normal name, do them the lifelong favor of spelling it the regular way. UGH.
As far as gender reveals, to each their own, I guess. We basically did PG and gender announcements over the phone for DS and will likely do the same for this one. Although I’ve been trying to tell people in person about being pregnant since I missed out last time and that’s been fun. I do like an excuse to eat cake, so maybe a little gender reveal for family only would be fun.
My UO, and I always get flamed for this one: I don’t like dogs. I know, that basically makes me a terrorist. But I don’t like them and no, I don’t want to pet your dog or be around it.
My UO: gender vs. sex is a very important distinction. I HATE the term 'gender reveal' - you won't know your kid's gender until they're old enough to tell you. I get that gender reveal is the common term for these announcements, but it is so cringey. Flame away y'all.
Me: 28, DH: 40 Married 9/28/13 DS born 11/12/15 EDD 8/13/18
I don't expect other people to like being around our dog. When I have people over or have an event, she is locked away. It drives me nuts when people don't control their animals at a party. We're going to a 3 year old's bday party next weekend and last year they had their 4 HUGE dogs running all over the party knocking the tiny kids down. Put the dogs outside for 2 hours, they'll enjoy it.
@lakesideknitter I feel silly saying "gender reveal," too, but "sex reveal" is also cringey so I just stick with the relative norm. And God forbid you try to talk to older generations about why you say "our baby's sex is _____," because they totally haven't gotten on board with sex does not = gender.
Gender reveal parties I feel very "meh" about. They are not for me - we did not do one with DS and we will not for this one. You do you though, if you want to throw a party, go for it, but I probably would not attend one unless it was a family member.
Screen time is a life saver. We do not have cable, so we stream everything through Netflix, Hulu and Amazon (along with a few apps we break into via my parent's cable log in!). My 2.5yo can't navigate the tablet very well, so we are able to monitor anything he watches. We try to limit it, but it is amazing during long car rides and the past month with these below freezing temps where we are all going stir crazy in the house! We are currently obsessed with Paw Patrol and PJ Masks in our house.
@lakesideknitter I feel silly saying "gender reveal," too, but "sex reveal" is also cringey so I just stick with the relative norm. And God forbid you try to talk to older generations about why you say "our baby's sex is _____," because they totally haven't gotten on board with sex does not = gender.
Not to laugh at a serious discussion but if someone invited me to a sex reveal party I'd politely decline lol
@lakesideknitter I feel silly saying "gender reveal," too, but "sex reveal" is also cringey so I just stick with the relative norm. And God forbid you try to talk to older generations about why you say "our baby's sex is _____," because they totally haven't gotten on board with sex does not = gender.
This is my take too. I try to be careful to say sex in most other contexts, but "sex reveal" sounds so awkward.
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Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
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@lakesideknitter I feel silly saying "gender reveal," too, but "sex reveal" is also cringey so I just stick with the relative norm. And God forbid you try to talk to older generations about why you say "our baby's sex is _____," because they totally haven't gotten on board with sex does not = gender.
Not to laugh at a serious discussion but if someone invited me to a sex reveal party I'd politely decline lol
I probably should have led this off by saying I think they are stupid in general. I'd politely decline either way. I don't care at all how your kid's gonna pee, and I will never understand why it's such a huge deal to some parents.
Me: 28, DH: 40 Married 9/28/13 DS born 11/12/15 EDD 8/13/18
We actually had 2 dogs before DS was born and we rehomed the younger, more energetic one to a family that could give her more time than we can right now (no kids, they both work from home). I got flamed by my entire neighborhood for "getting rid of a family member". But judge away, I know we did the best thing for her and she is happier in her new home.
@lakesideknitter you’re right, that does make sense. Thanks for the reminder to be cognizant of terminology.
@livinthesunnylife Thank you for being a mindful dog owner. Those of us who prefer not to be around dogs thank you.
@calimom2524 I can’t believe you are with me!! Haha, usually people call me a heartless bitch, but that was in the old Bump days, lol.
Haha I know what you mean, everyone I tell is like what?! how can you not like dogs?! and I'm like well...I just don't? But here's my guinea pig, isn't he cute?
I think I'm in the minority but if someone invited me to a sex reveal party I think I'd go just to see what is going to happen... But I'd have my car keys in hand in case it got weird.
All of you who hate dogs, I should show you the picture of my dog on her own, $95 pillow, in the middle of our king bed. I know it's ridiculous but...............SHE'S MY OTHER KID. Is that my UO? Maybe.
@ladygali I will join you in your UO! I don't like dogs either. They smell, they shed, they're loud, they're a ton of work. Just nope.
I know I'm not going to change your mind, but if you have certain breeds/personalities you don't have any of the bolded. My Kelpi-minpin mix never smelled unless wet and was super quiet. He was a hyper house dog, so we just let him out into the yard for several hours every day. Our Pom-Chi mix, never shed, always was washing like a cat does, and didn't bark unless you stepped on her.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@princesslockness I LOVE MY LAB, don't get me wrong, but ohmygod, the shedding. It is unreal. I frequently comment that I am sweeping/vacuuming up puppies. I just can't get past how much hair there is! She's our first lab after we've only had pit bulls in the past. I just. Wow.
We actually had 2 dogs before DS was born and we rehomed the younger, more energetic one to a family that could give her more time than we can right now (no kids, they both work from home). I got flamed by my entire neighborhood for "getting rid of a family member". But judge away, I know we did the best thing for her and she is happier in her new home.
This was going to be my UO today. I think it’s okay to rehome a pet to a family you know will care for it better. I mean I wouldn’t just sell a pet to a rando, but if you can’t give your animal what it needs I think it’s a disservice to that family member and unfair to that pet. It’s your responsibility to care for it as best you can and sometimes that’s finding it a better Home.
Edit: stupid autocorrect
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
I generally find any way I can to get out of ladies-only showers. My shower was a mixed sex boozy brunch with some baby presents thrown in.
Never been invited to a gender reveal. It has never occurred to me to have one. Now our nanny wants us to do one so I think I might get a cake for a gender reveal party of 4 (me, hubs, nanny and ds.) Well, five. My dog counts too, of course!!
I ended up rehoming my dog before DD was born too. It truly was the best decision for everyone involved.
I like cats at a distance, in moderation, and well-behaved dogs are great if you have the space and time. Really though, I'm a ferret person at heart. They sleep, they snuggle, they go apeshit for a few minutes and hilarity ensues. Then back to nap time.
As a bonus; baby toys and ferret toys are essentially the same thing.
I HATE unique spellings, but I do like unique and/or gender neutral names, so longies as they aren't "Apple" or "North."
I totally hate the term gender reveal, I'm totally going to any sex reveal party I get invited to, and I'm warning people that any shenanigans are going on you tube.
I do think the parties are silly and would never have one. If a close friend invited me and there was cake, food, and booze with no dumb games though, I'm all about attending-but no gifts. Unless you never had a baby shower. I'm only cool with one gift.
Dogs rule, but you don't have to love my dogs, I'll do my best to give you your space without them. And I love cats-at someone else's house. Cats got into too much ish at my house and I won't have them there ever again.
Oh, and @lakesideknitter my shower with #1 was coed, with booze and no games. So pretty awesome really.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I absolutely love dogs hence my profile pic (it's our basset hound). I did have a bad encounter with a stray dog when I was 8 months pregnant with DD. It almost attacked me as I was trying to get into my house. If my DH hadn't of been there, I would have been taken down. So now I have a hesitant response to dogs I don't know (even if the owner says they are good).
ETA: My UO is that I wish it would snow! I haven't seen snow in years, and I would LOVE for DD to be able to see and enjoy it.
I'm actually really frigging excited about my shower. I eloped and didn't have a wedding, bridal shower, or real bachelorette. There's also a long history of my 'moments' (birthdays, graduations, school acceptances, leads in plays) getting overshadowed by my brothers/other people's BS, and that has led to a serious set of self-worth issues. I'm excited to be getting a party that's celebrating me for once! And my BFF and my cousin are planning it, so it's guaranteed to be a good time for everyone- those girls know how to throw a party.
We're doing a 'dad' shower for my husband during my shower, where all the husbands and boyfriends can go to my house and drink beer, eat pizza and snacks, and play video games. Price of admission is a small pack of baby wipes or a small pack of diapers. Everyone knows that I put out a hell of a spread for a party (I did smoked salmon with creme fraiche and dill on potato chips for my housewarming two years ago and people still talk about it), so I'm sure people will be excited for the food.
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Team dog all the way. And no, I will not put my dog away during parties. She is part of the family. I would totally understand if someone didn't want to come over because of that, but it is what it is.
I actually really like going to all kinds of baby parties. I think gender reveals are cute as long as the parents don't know before hand. And I don't know what kind of no booze parties others are going to, but all I've been to have been open bar. Mine was at a steak house. However, I totally judge those who have a second, large baby shower for any child but their first. Unless their first is massively older than their current pregnancy. My friend just had a baby shower for her new pregnancy and it was just as large as the first. I thought that was really in bad taste.
And I HATE it when people substitute a "Y" for what should be and "I" in a name.
I'm actually really frigging excited about my shower. I eloped and didn't have a wedding, bridal shower, or real bachelorette. There's also a long history of my 'moments' (birthdays, graduations, school acceptances, leads in plays) getting overshadowed by my brothers/other people's BS, and that has led to a serious set of self-worth issues. I'm excited to be getting a party that's celebrating me for once! And my BFF and my cousin are planning it, so it's guaranteed to be a good time for everyone- those girls know how to throw a party.
We're doing a 'dad' shower for my husband during my shower, where all the husbands and boyfriends can go to my house and drink beer, eat pizza and snacks, and play video games. Price of admission is a small pack of baby wipes or a small pack of diapers. Everyone knows that I put out a hell of a spread for a party (I did smoked salmon with creme fraiche and dill on potato chips for my housewarming two years ago and people still talk about it), so I'm sure people will be excited for the food.
I didn't elope and had a great wedding, but no shower or bachelorette. And I also relate to the siblings overshadowing me, mostly because they did everything first, despite being younger. I was the third to get married, so it was definitely not the GIANT BIG DEAL that was the wedding for my sister who was the first to get married. Anyhow, I loved my shower! But I did make it like a party, so it wasn't ladies only. Plus my bestie is a gay man and I have a couple other gay male friends and I wanted them to be there, too. It was a lot of fun and if you are into having a shower, I say go for it! It will be a memory you'll have for the rest of your life. But make it fun the way you think fun is (whatever that is). Also: I remember on my last BMB people were complaining about the stuff they got and I just thought that was tacky through the roof.
Late to the game but add me to the following clubs:
No baby showers after the first kid. I think it's fine to want to have a get together before the baby comes but to have another shower/sprinkle is tacky.
No weird name spellings and I don't understand how 'y' in a name makes it more feminine. Addysyn/Emersyn/Pyper just look absolutely ridiculous. Spell it the way it's supposed to be spelled. If you're worried about people thinking your girl is a boy based on the spelling of the name, perhaps pick a more feminine name altogether.
My UO is that I don't care for all the special, trendy parties that people are coming up with these days. Diaper and beer parties/nursery reveals/gender reveals are all a bit overkill. I get it, you're excited about your new arrival. Does it really require as much attention as you're seeking? Are we going to have conception parties or name the baby parties next? Where does it end?
On rehoming dogs, unless it's an issue of safety or allergies, I don't get why you would rehome. If you knew you would eventually have kids, why get a dog in the first place?
I absolutely love dogs hence my profile pic (it's our basset hound). I did have a bad encounter with a stray dog when I was 8 months pregnant with DD. It almost attacked me as I was trying to get into my house. If my DH hadn't of been there, I would have been taken down. So now I have a hesitant response to dogs I don't know (even if the owner says they are good).
ETA: My UO is that I wish it would snow! I haven't seen snow in years, and I would LOVE for DD to be able to see and enjoy it.
I’m with you on the snow thing! I live in WI and we hardly got any snow last year. We currently have no snow and it’s raining. If it’s going to be cold we might as well have a bunch of snow so I can take the kids sledding and build snowmen!! Oh and a school snow day here and there for my oldest would be nice!
ETA: Purposely misspelling names drives me nuts too. I have a Chloe and an Aubrey. People ask me “is it Chloe with a C or a K” and “Is Aubrey with an ey or ee” I just want to respond, we spell it the correct way. Duh.
@ladygali I will join you in your UO! I don't like dogs either. They smell, they shed, they're loud, they're a ton of work. Just nope.
I know I'm not going to change your mind, but if you have certain breeds/personalities you don't have any of the bolded. My Kelpi-minpin mix never smelled unless wet and was super quiet. He was a hyper house dog, so we just let him out into the yard for several hours every day. Our Pom-Chi mix, never shed, always was washing like a cat does, and didn't bark unless you stepped on her.
I'm loling at didn't bark unless you stepped on her. It's not necessarily that I hate all dogs, I actually used to have two dogs. We used to have a chiweenie and a Pomeranian but I learned that I'm just not a dog person. They annoyed me and I never loved them like I think most people love their dogs. To me they were never part of the family and after we had kids they were just annoying like two more things to take care of. Plus, when I got the dogs I was super pressured by an ex boyfriend and at that point in my life I had zero intention of ever having kids. To be fair though, when we rehomed them they went to my husband's uncle so they stayed in the family.
I saw the name Lincoln the other day spelled Lynkin. Dafuq.
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As far as gender reveals, to each their own, I guess. We basically did PG and gender announcements over the phone for DS and will likely do the same for this one. Although I’ve been trying to tell people in person about being pregnant since I missed out last time and that’s been fun. I do like an excuse to eat cake, so maybe a little gender reveal for family only would be fun.
My UO, and I always get flamed for this one: I don’t like dogs. I know, that basically makes me a terrorist. But I don’t like them and no, I don’t want to pet your dog or be around it.
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Flame away y'all.
Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
Screen time is a life saver. We do not have cable, so we stream everything through Netflix, Hulu and Amazon (along with a few apps we break into via my parent's cable log in!). My 2.5yo can't navigate the tablet very well, so we are able to monitor anything he watches. We try to limit it, but it is amazing during long car rides and the past month with these below freezing temps where we are all going stir crazy in the house! We are currently obsessed with Paw Patrol and PJ Masks in our house.
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Married 9/28/13
DS born 11/12/15
EDD 8/13/18
@livinthesunnylife Thank you for being a mindful dog owner. Those of us who prefer not to be around dogs thank you.
@calimom2524 I can’t believe you are with me!! Haha, usually people call me a heartless bitch, but that was in the old Bump days, lol.
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DS: Born 5-17-16
But I'd have my car keys in hand in case it got weird.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Is that my UO? Maybe.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
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But I love all cats. Especially my boys.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
Edit: stupid autocorrect
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
I generally find any way I can to get out of ladies-only showers. My shower was a mixed sex boozy brunch with some baby presents thrown in.
Never been invited to a gender reveal. It has never occurred to me to have one. Now our nanny wants us to do one so I think I might get a cake for a gender reveal party of 4 (me, hubs, nanny and ds.) Well, five. My dog counts too, of course!!
DS: Born 5-17-16
I like cats at a distance, in moderation, and well-behaved dogs are great if you have the space and time.
Really though, I'm a ferret person at heart. They sleep, they snuggle, they go apeshit for a few minutes and hilarity ensues. Then back to nap time.
As a bonus; baby toys and ferret toys are essentially the same thing.
I totally hate the term gender reveal, I'm totally going to any sex reveal party I get invited to, and I'm warning people that any shenanigans are going on you tube.
I do think the parties are silly and would never have one. If a close friend invited me and there was cake, food, and booze with no dumb games though, I'm all about attending-but no gifts. Unless you never had a baby shower. I'm only cool with one gift.
Dogs rule, but you don't have to love my dogs, I'll do my best to give you your space without them. And I love cats-at someone else's house. Cats got into too much ish at my house and I won't have them there ever again.
Oh, and @lakesideknitter my shower with #1 was coed, with booze and no games. So pretty awesome really.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
ETA: My UO is that I wish it would snow! I haven't seen snow in years, and I would LOVE for DD to be able to see and enjoy it.
We're doing a 'dad' shower for my husband during my shower, where all the husbands and boyfriends can go to my house and drink beer, eat pizza and snacks, and play video games. Price of admission is a small pack of baby wipes or a small pack of diapers. Everyone knows that I put out a hell of a spread for a party (I did smoked salmon with creme fraiche and dill on potato chips for my housewarming two years ago and people still talk about it), so I'm sure people will be excited for the food.
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
I actually really like going to all kinds of baby parties. I think gender reveals are cute as long as the parents don't know before hand. And I don't know what kind of no booze parties others are going to, but all I've been to have been open bar. Mine was at a steak house. However, I totally judge those who have a second, large baby shower for any child but their first. Unless their first is massively older than their current pregnancy. My friend just had a baby shower for her new pregnancy and it was just as large as the first. I thought that was really in bad taste.
And I HATE it when people substitute a "Y" for what should be and "I" in a name.
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS: Born 5-17-16
No baby showers after the first kid. I think it's fine to want to have a get together before the baby comes but to have another shower/sprinkle is tacky.
No weird name spellings and I don't understand how 'y' in a name makes it more feminine. Addysyn/Emersyn/Pyper just look absolutely ridiculous. Spell it the way it's supposed to be spelled. If you're worried about people thinking your girl is a boy based on the spelling of the name, perhaps pick a more feminine name altogether.
My UO is that I don't care for all the special, trendy parties that people are coming up with these days. Diaper and beer parties/nursery reveals/gender reveals are all a bit overkill. I get it, you're excited about your new arrival. Does it really require as much attention as you're seeking? Are we going to have conception parties or name the baby parties next? Where does it end?
ETA: Purposely misspelling names drives me nuts too. I have a Chloe and an Aubrey. People ask me “is it Chloe with a C or a K” and “Is Aubrey with an ey or ee” I just want to respond, we spell it the correct way. Duh.
I saw the name Lincoln the other day spelled Lynkin. Dafuq.
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