I am also expecting to get hit by it where I'm at in Canada. Unfortunately I have an appointment for my son tomorrow at a children's hospital 2.5 hour drive away in it. Canadian healthcare means that I've waited a month and a half for this appointment so I can't cancel or I'll be starting from scratch again and they don't typically cancel because of weather there. Not looking forward to this drive in the morning/afternoon at all. I'm hoping to get back before things get really bad
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
I am also expecting to get hit by it where I'm at in Canada. Unfortunately I have an appointment for my son tomorrow at a children's hospital 2.5 hour drive away in it. Canadian healthcare means that I've waited a month and a half for this appointment so I can't cancel or I'll be starting from scratch again and they don't typically cancel because of weather there. Not looking forward to this drive in the morning/afternoon at all. I'm hoping to get back before things get really bad
Good luck today! Finally the American healthcare system wins! (Just kidding, I just feel like I am always jealous of Canada) I had 2 appointments scheduled for today that I was able to cancel and reschedule for within the week.
I am also expecting to get hit by it where I'm at in Canada. Unfortunately I have an appointment for my son tomorrow at a children's hospital 2.5 hour drive away in it. Canadian healthcare means that I've waited a month and a half for this appointment so I can't cancel or I'll be starting from scratch again and they don't typically cancel because of weather there. Not looking forward to this drive in the morning/afternoon at all. I'm hoping to get back before things get really bad
Good luck at the appointment today! You’ll get there safe and sound!
@mamaof5already Did you have a talk with your mom about the issues you've noticed?
Yeah, i talked to her the day she left.
The good points: She agreed to talk to her Dr. About getting a referral to a Dr. That specializes in geriatrics (her current Dr. Is a family practice that specializes in pediatrics and adolescence) and to take her assistant with her to an appointment to tell the Dr. What is going on.
The mid points: She refused to write herself a note to remind herself to do this and said she is not having memory problems, but just slowing down. She also said repeatedly she doesn't want to decline, but just to drop dead somewhere, and that if she does decline someone will have to just write a check. And that there is a nice home in Jacksonville MS. (I live in NY, she lives in CA, Jacksonville would be a weird place to put her in care).
The bad points (so far): she is now using the fact I spoke with her about this as a justification to talk about whatever she wants, and be super passive aggressive starting all her texts with "since you talked to me about my memory I can talk to you about xyz."
When she was visiting dh, and my oldest 3 (all teenagers) and I took to pretending she was 4 in what our Expectations were of her, and how much she could do or handle. And that helped immensely! She never drove alone or went shopping without one of us, she wasn't left in charge of the younger kids, she was told when to eat, shower, sleep and what the plans were in a very simple form, my fil took her for a little bit 2 days as well. It seems crazy and very restrictive, but it was the least stressful, argumentative trip ever I think, and she said that she enjoyed her trip very much and the kids were the most respectful / nice to her they had ever been. When we went to l&d Christmas eve, we didn't even tell her at the time, we told our 16 y.o.
When I spoke with her i didn't use the word dementia as she has a fear of mental illness, I just said memory problems. I also said repeatedly We were all concerned because we love her and know that her wishes are to continue working, to live on her own, and to go do whatever she wants when she wants to, and if she doesn't get help she won't be able to do each specific thing with examples.
While visiting many of the behaviors her assistant and i had spoke about were very apparent. She is not washing herself adequately or her clothes and feels that done baths with just water are sufficient and that its her lotions that smell not her. One day it was so bad, I had to make her shower by threatening to wash her myself of she didn't and give me all her clothes to wash... She refused to eat breakfast one day until someone went out to breakfast with her, everyone had already eaten 2 hours earlier. Finally a group of the kids agreed to go and eat lunch while she ate breakfast, she was just sitting on the sofa for 2 hours waiting. And an hour before she left, she asked me what the babies mane was and when he was due, although she's known the mane since thanksgiving and due fate since before then, and everyone talks about him using his name the whole time she was here.
I'm really hoping her Dr. Gives her a referral quickly and that they can do something to slow the progressing if not reverse it.
I am to far inland to miss this storm luckily, and just far enough east to miss the lake effect storm that supposed to hit the great lakes. But should hit -20 tomorrow i think is what is predicted?
Stay safe and warm guys, esp with your drive @sabriel1! We got a dusting, and it's still lightly snowing, but don't expect much (I'm west of DC). It's just cold so I'm staying inside today.
Anyone else impacted by this massive storm tomorrow having anxiety about going into labor? Just me?
Yes! I am nervous too! I am in the 12-18” range. I have had anxiety the whole time about giving birth on the side of the road in a blizzard. I think this one is still too early for me, but you never know.
Fellow 12-18”er right here! Grateful it happens to be my regularly scheduled day off and that DH can work from home. I live about 20 minutes from the hospital where I’m delivering but maybe 5 from another one if I had an emergency, thankfully.
@mamaof5already Your plan sounds like it worked really well! It's a tough transition to go from being the "child" to the "parent" of a parent. I hope you're able to manage expectations of her prying into your life now!
AFM the Pack N Play we "lost" was in the storage unit! Huzzah! H called to tell me he found it and I said "Oh thank god, we're not losing our minds."
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I'm home safe and sound. The drive was only bad for the last half hour on the way home so that was good. DS's appointment went well and we heard the news I wanted to hear from the doctor so that was good too.
@mamaof5already that sounds like a lot to deal with but it sounds like your strategy worked well. How did the instrument thing work out?
DD born Oct 2011 - DS#1 born Jan 2014 - DS#2 born Apr 2015 - DS#3 born Sept 2016 - LO#5 due Feb 7, 2018
@mamaof5already Glad there were some high points even if it wasn't all perfect. I can't believe she's using your convo as an excuse to bring up things though - that's a bit sad. You can't have an honest conversation with good intentions without her coming back at you...
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
I can't remember who it was but what ever happened with the mom who was insisting on buying unwanted instruments for all the kids for Christmas???
That was also me! 2 days before she did try to tell my 8 year old dd she wasn't participating, but got cut off. And by Christmas eve decided to participate under protest. She ended up getting most of the kids a travel blanket, and one kid a tool of his choice, and that was that, and She gracefully opened her gifts.
@mamaof5already Glad there were some high points even if it wasn't all perfect. I can't believe she's using your convo as an excuse to bring up things though - that's a bit sad. You can't have an honest conversation with good intentions without her coming back at you...
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
If a Dr. Says its Dementia I think she's more likely to listen, or at least get a 2nd opinion, where if I had said dementia she would have shut down completely and not agreed to see a Dr. at all.
I’m in NY and enjoying the storm from my comfy couch. Although every 10 min I’m thinking “was that a contraction” “am I peeing or did my water break??”. We’re expected to get about foot. To everyone else who’s in it, be safe and hopefully you all are home too!
I’m in NY and enjoying the storm from my comfy couch. Although every 10 min I’m thinking “was that a contraction” “am I peeing or did my water break??”. We’re expected to get about foot. To everyone else who’s in it, be safe and hopefully you all are home too!
When I was pregnant with DD my doctor sent me to L&D because I significantly wet two pairs of underwear back to back and we though my water had a leak or something. Yeah I was just peeing my pants during contractions and didn’t know it. So that was fun
I’m in NY and enjoying the storm from my comfy couch. Although every 10 min I’m thinking “was that a contraction” “am I peeing or did my water break??”. We’re expected to get about foot. To everyone else who’s in it, be safe and hopefully you all are home too!
When I was pregnant with DD my doctor sent me to L&D because I significantly wet two pairs of underwear back to back and we though my water had a leak or something. Yeah I was just peeing my pants during contractions and didn’t know it. So that was fun
Dying laughing right now. Omg it hurts to laugh this much
@mamaof5already Glad there were some high points even if it wasn't all perfect. I can't believe she's using your convo as an excuse to bring up things though - that's a bit sad. You can't have an honest conversation with good intentions without her coming back at you...
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
If a Dr. Says its Dementia I think she's more likely to listen, or at least get a 2nd opinion, where if I had said dementia she would have shut down completely and not agreed to see a Dr. at all.
So apparently she went to see her Dr. today (because she felt she got pnemonia from my house ) with out her assistant and is saying the following. " The Dr. says shaking is normal, everyone does it even the Dr. just have a shot of whiskey, that her memory is fine, no need for a referral to a geriatric specialist, that she doesn't have pnemonia just a common cold, and she doesn't need to be worried about eating more often or more proteins/ fats, but if she wants to she can have 1 egg yolk with 3 egg whites, and she doesn't need to take vitamins". Her assistant and I are both calling bs, but as far as she is concerned it is now a closed matter and I am the bad guy for trying to put her in an early grave.
Oh, and she never drinks, so the whiskey thing is very odd.
@mamaof5already Glad there were some high points even if it wasn't all perfect. I can't believe she's using your convo as an excuse to bring up things though - that's a bit sad. You can't have an honest conversation with good intentions without her coming back at you...
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
If a Dr. Says its Dementia I think she's more likely to listen, or at least get a 2nd opinion, where if I had said dementia she would have shut down completely and not agreed to see a Dr. at all.
So apparently she went to see her Dr. today (because she felt she got pnemonia from my house ) with out her assistant and is saying the following. " The Dr. says shaking is normal, everyone does it even the Dr. just have a shot of whiskey, that her memory is fine, no need for a referral to a geriatric specialist, that she doesn't have pnemonia just a common cold, and she doesn't need to be worried about eating more often or more proteins/ fats, but if she wants to she can have 1 egg yolk with 3 egg whites, and she doesn't need to take vitamins". Her assistant and I are both calling bs, but as far as she is concerned it is now a closed matter and I am the bad guy for trying to put her in an early grave.
Oh, and she never drinks, so the whiskey thing is very odd.
Weird. Sounds like someone needs to be going to dr appointments with her. I hope things get better.
@mamaof5already Glad there were some high points even if it wasn't all perfect. I can't believe she's using your convo as an excuse to bring up things though - that's a bit sad. You can't have an honest conversation with good intentions without her coming back at you...
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
If a Dr. Says its Dementia I think she's more likely to listen, or at least get a 2nd opinion, where if I had said dementia she would have shut down completely and not agreed to see a Dr. at all.
So apparently she went to see her Dr. today (because she felt she got pnemonia from my house ) with out her assistant and is saying the following. " The Dr. says shaking is normal, everyone does it even the Dr. just have a shot of whiskey, that her memory is fine, no need for a referral to a geriatric specialist, that she doesn't have pnemonia just a common cold, and she doesn't need to be worried about eating more often or more proteins/ fats, but if she wants to she can have 1 egg yolk with 3 egg whites, and she doesn't need to take vitamins". Her assistant and I are both calling bs, but as far as she is concerned it is now a closed matter and I am the bad guy for trying to put her in an early grave.
Oh, and she never drinks, so the whiskey thing is very odd.
Weird. Sounds like someone needs to be going to dr appointments with her. I hope things get better.
She agreed to take het assistant, but didn't. I don't think there is anything else I can do at this point that isn't going to cause major conflict.
@mamaof5already Glad there were some high points even if it wasn't all perfect. I can't believe she's using your convo as an excuse to bring up things though - that's a bit sad. You can't have an honest conversation with good intentions without her coming back at you...
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
If a Dr. Says its Dementia I think she's more likely to listen, or at least get a 2nd opinion, where if I had said dementia she would have shut down completely and not agreed to see a Dr. at all.
So apparently she went to see her Dr. today (because she felt she got pnemonia from my house ) with out her assistant and is saying the following. " The Dr. says shaking is normal, everyone does it even the Dr. just have a shot of whiskey, that her memory is fine, no need for a referral to a geriatric specialist, that she doesn't have pnemonia just a common cold, and she doesn't need to be worried about eating more often or more proteins/ fats, but if she wants to she can have 1 egg yolk with 3 egg whites, and she doesn't need to take vitamins". Her assistant and I are both calling bs, but as far as she is concerned it is now a closed matter and I am the bad guy for trying to put her in an early grave.
Oh, and she never drinks, so the whiskey thing is very odd.
Weird. Sounds like someone needs to be going to dr appointments with her. I hope things get better.
She agreed to take het assistant, but didn't. I don't think there is anything else I can do at this point that isn't going to cause major conflict.
Not sure if this helps...if she does have dementors, there’s not much any doctor can do for it. There are a few meds out there, but they’re minimally effective at slowing the rate of cognitive decline. One reason why I strongly dislike working in geriatrics . Also pretty sure I have never recommended a shot of whiskey or an egg yolk to a patient...
So apparently she went to see her Dr. today (because she felt she got pnemonia from my house ) with out her assistant and is saying the following. " The Dr. says shaking is normal, everyone does it even the Dr. just have a shot of whiskey, that her memory is fine, no need for a referral to a geriatric specialist, that she doesn't have pnemonia just a common cold, and she doesn't need to be worried about eating more often or more proteins/ fats, but if she wants to she can have 1 egg yolk with 3 egg whites, and she doesn't need to take vitamins". Her assistant and I are both calling bs, but as far as she is concerned it is now a closed matter and I am the bad guy for trying to put her in an early grave.
Oh, and she never drinks, so the whiskey thing is very odd.
I'm so sorry that the appointment didn't go as you had hoped. I've been following the story/your predicament and it definitely sounds like Dementia and you are doing all the right things to get your mom the help she needs. Unfortunately, like many patients with Dementia and other memory related conditions...you're mom is probably feeling like she is losing control and wants to hang on to ANY level of control/normalcy/ability to be her own person that she can even if it's dangerous for her and not a feasible option.
I don't know if this helps any...but maybe you can talk through this with her assistant and one of you can be granted Power of Attorney and obtain a Health Care Proxy so that you can be present or the assistant can be present for appointments in the future and then you'll know exactly what the doctor is saying about your mother's medical care.
**TW** Scary Medical Stuff
I suggest this because my Godmother suffered a brain aneurysm a few years back and she was lucid for a very short period of time while they tried to figure out the anticoagulant situation...the clot she had never broke up and the medication ended up giving her both clots and bleeds. At that point, there wasn't anything doctors could do for her. Both her son and my mom tried to get a health care proxy and Power of Attorney in place to make financial and medical. She signed the health care proxy one day and when they went back the next day with someone from the hospital to do consent for power of attorney...she wasn't mentally capable of making decisions any longer. She was in palliative care for over a month and nobody could do anything to pay her rent, her bills etc. so my cousin ended up having to scramble to take care of those things after she passed. It wasn't an easy situation and he ended up being evicted from their apartment while she was hospitalized and nobody could do anything about it.
**END TW**
My sister is a nurse so she is constantly advocating for people to set up Health Care Proxy and Power of Attorney to cover themselves in the event of an emergency. I know it'd be helpful just to know exactly what the doctor was saying to her because someone else is in the room. It does sound bizarre to me that her doctor would suggest taking a shot of whiskey to stop shaking but years and years ago this was the recommendation my grandfather received from his doctor when he complained he was jittery and not sleeping. So maybe there is something to it? Still, that's probably not a great thing to say to the patient if that is indeed what was discussed and I would certainly look into trying to persuade her to get a new PCP or see an internist who specializes in Geriatric care. It doesn't sound like she is the easiest patient so I don't know if that is just more work for you than it's worth. Again, I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this, especially now. I hope that perhaps your mom will eventually change her mind about getting the help she needs.
I’m in NY and enjoying the storm from my comfy couch. Although every 10 min I’m thinking “was that a contraction” “am I peeing or did my water break??”. We’re expected to get about foot. To everyone else who’s in it, be safe and hopefully you all are home too!
When I was pregnant with DD my doctor sent me to L&D because I significantly wet two pairs of underwear back to back and we though my water had a leak or something. Yeah I was just peeing my pants during contractions and didn’t know it. So that was fun
Dying laughing right now. Omg it hurts to laugh this much
I mean they were concerned enough about my contractions to give me a shot to stop them (34 weeks) so it’s a good thing I went but there’s nothing like thinking you’re having a baby but you really just pissed your pants.
August18 has more drama. AW thread turns into bully accusations and then *twist* the OP seems to have made an AE who is WK'ng herself! I love it when they do that.
ETA I'm almost certain it's an AE. OP for this thread WK'd on another thread about braxton hicks, and that thread's OP also appears to have an AE because she "replied" to herself on their symptoms thread. Clearly I'm just done with work today and prefer to play detective on the TB.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
August18 has more drama. AW thread turns into bully accusations and then *twist* the OP seems to have made an AE who is WK'ng herself! I love it when they do that.
ETA I'm almost certain it's an AE. OP for this thread WK'd on another thread about braxton hicks, and that thread's OP also appears to have an AE because she "replied" to herself on their symptoms thread. Clearly I'm just done with work today and prefer to play detective on the TB.
Who does that?! Thanks for the entertainment! (I too am totally done with work, so I appreciate your detective skills!)
The butt plug comment immediately made me picture Aunt Marge from Harry Potter who blows up like a balloon, because that's what I see happening if I try to hold in my gas!
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Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
The butt plug comment immediately made me picture Aunt Marge from Harry Potter who blows up like a balloon, because that's what I see happening if I try to hold in my gas!
Finally getting a new bed was the best gift I could’ve ever given my pregnant self. Our crappy pillow top with the awful indentations of our bodies, along with the associated back pain, is GONE.
On a a separate note, I hope that these boards will still be relatively active even though people are making the switch over to FB! Some of these threads have kept me sane during this pregnancy and I would hate to lose that so close to the end! Even though using this app definitely sucks...
@kristinl492 Yay for a new mattress! I bet that’s the best feeling in the world! I’m glad your back pain has gone away! I’ve noticed things have died down a bit on TB too.
Re: Weekly randoms | Jan. 1-10
I am also expecting to get hit by it where I'm at in Canada. Unfortunately I have an appointment for my son tomorrow at a children's hospital 2.5 hour drive away in it. Canadian healthcare means that I've waited a month and a half for this appointment so I can't cancel or I'll be starting from scratch again and they don't typically cancel because of weather there. Not looking forward to this drive in the morning/afternoon at all. I'm hoping to get back before things get really bad
The good points: She agreed to talk to her Dr. About getting a referral to a Dr. That specializes in geriatrics (her current Dr. Is a family practice that specializes in pediatrics and adolescence) and to take her assistant with her to an appointment to tell the Dr. What is going on.
The mid points: She refused to write herself a note to remind herself to do this and said she is not having memory problems, but just slowing down. She also said repeatedly she doesn't want to decline, but just to drop dead somewhere, and that if she does decline someone will have to just write a check. And that there is a nice home in Jacksonville MS. (I live in NY, she lives in CA, Jacksonville would be a weird place to put her in care).
The bad points (so far): she is now using the fact I spoke with her about this as a justification to talk about whatever she wants, and be super passive aggressive starting all her texts with "since you talked to me about my memory I can talk to you about xyz."
When she was visiting dh, and my oldest 3 (all teenagers) and I took to pretending she was 4 in what our Expectations were of her, and how much she could do or handle. And that helped immensely! She never drove alone or went shopping without one of us, she wasn't left in charge of the younger kids, she was told when to eat, shower, sleep and what the plans were in a very simple form, my fil took her for a little bit 2 days as well. It seems crazy and very restrictive, but it was the least stressful, argumentative trip ever I think, and she said that she enjoyed her trip very much and the kids were the most respectful / nice to her they had ever been. When we went to l&d Christmas eve, we didn't even tell her at the time, we told our 16 y.o.
When I spoke with her i didn't use the word dementia as she has a fear of mental illness, I just said memory problems. I also
said repeatedly We were all concerned because we love her and know that her wishes are to continue working, to live on her own, and to go do whatever she wants when she wants to, and if she doesn't get help she won't be able to do each specific thing with examples.
While visiting many of the behaviors her assistant and i had spoke about were very apparent. She is not washing herself adequately or her clothes and feels that done baths with just water are sufficient and that its her lotions that smell not her. One day it was so bad, I had to make her shower by threatening to wash her myself of she didn't and give me all her clothes to wash... She refused to eat breakfast one day until someone went out to breakfast with her, everyone had already eaten 2 hours earlier. Finally a group of the kids agreed to go and eat lunch while she ate breakfast, she was just sitting on the sofa for 2 hours waiting. And an hour before she left, she asked me what the babies mane was and when he was due, although she's known the mane since thanksgiving and due fate since before then, and everyone talks about him using his name the whole time she was here.
I'm really hoping her Dr. Gives her a referral quickly and that they can do something to slow the progressing if not reverse it.
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
I am to far inland to miss this storm luckily, and just far enough east to miss the lake effect storm that supposed to hit the great lakes. But should hit -20 tomorrow i think is what is predicted?
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
@mamaof5already that's a tough situation. I hope she gets the appointment with the doctor. Sorry you are going through this.
AFM the Pack N Play we "lost" was in the storage unit! Huzzah! H called to tell me he found it and I said "Oh thank god, we're not losing our minds."
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
@mamaof5already that sounds like a lot to deal with but it sounds like your strategy worked well. How did the instrument thing work out?
Hopefully she will listen to a doctor. Do you think she'll be able to handle it if the word "dementia" is used by a professional or will she still not take that well?
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
@sabriel1 Glad you made it home safely! I’m sure that drive was scary. I make DH drive me to work if I don’t feel comfortable.
Oh, and she never drinks, so the whiskey thing is very odd.
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
sure I have never recommended a shot of whiskey or an egg yolk to a patient...
I don't know if this helps any...but maybe you can talk through this with her assistant and one of you can be granted Power of Attorney and obtain a Health Care Proxy so that you can be present or the assistant can be present for appointments in the future and then you'll know exactly what the doctor is saying about your mother's medical care.
**TW** Scary Medical Stuff
I suggest this because my Godmother suffered a brain aneurysm a few years back and she was lucid for a very short period of time while they tried to figure out the anticoagulant situation...the clot she had never broke up and the medication ended up giving her both clots and bleeds. At that point, there wasn't anything doctors could do for her. Both her son and my mom tried to get a health care proxy and Power of Attorney in place to make financial and medical. She signed the health care proxy one day and when they went back the next day with someone from the hospital to do consent for power of attorney...she wasn't mentally capable of making decisions any longer. She was in palliative care for over a month and nobody could do anything to pay her rent, her bills etc. so my cousin ended up having to scramble to take care of those things after she passed. It wasn't an easy situation and he ended up being evicted from their apartment while she was hospitalized and nobody could do anything about it.
**END TW**
My sister is a nurse so she is constantly advocating for people to set up Health Care Proxy and Power of Attorney to cover themselves in the event of an emergency. I know it'd be helpful just to know exactly what the doctor was saying to her because someone else is in the room. It does sound bizarre to me that her doctor would suggest taking a shot of whiskey to stop shaking but years and years ago this was the recommendation my grandfather received from his doctor when he complained he was jittery and not sleeping. So maybe there is something to it? Still, that's probably not a great thing to say to the patient if that is indeed what was discussed and I would certainly look into trying to persuade her to get a new PCP or see an internist who specializes in Geriatric care. It doesn't sound like she is the easiest patient so I don't know if that is just more work for you than it's worth. Again, I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this, especially now. I hope that perhaps your mom will eventually change her mind about getting the help she needs.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12722610/how-to-handle-visitors-and-unsolicited-advice-when-baby-comes
ETA I'm almost certain it's an AE. OP for this thread WK'd on another thread about braxton hicks, and that thread's OP also appears to have an AE because she "replied" to herself on their symptoms thread. Clearly I'm just done with work today and prefer to play detective on the TB.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12722567/my-pregnancy-hacks#latest
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
I laughed so hard I had to read the life hacks to DH and I’m pretty sure I’m getting a “push present” this time around: Preggy pops and a butt plug.
ETA gif
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
Finally getting a new bed was the best gift I could’ve ever given my pregnant self. Our crappy pillow top with the awful indentations of our bodies, along with the associated back pain, is GONE.
On a a separate note, I hope that these boards will still be relatively active even though people are making the switch over to FB! Some of these threads have kept me sane during this pregnancy and I would hate to lose that so close to the end! Even though using this app definitely sucks...