@mileswithmyles DD loves the bed so that’s not as big of an issue so don’t be too scared. She’s just been cosleeping for 6 weeks and that’s the hard part to break. She freaks out if she wakes up alone. She woke up twice the first night. Last night she woke up at 2am and I brought her into my room and she wouldn’t go back to sleep until 5am.
DH is also out of town so I don’t have anyone to tag team this with.
@Poppy0419 so sorry you're having a rough transition period! Have you tried the ok to wake clock? we just transitioned my son and he is getting the hang of it. However, I haven't completely figured out the clock myself... It doesn't seem to stay green (ok to get out of bed) for too long, so if my son sleeps in, he misses the ok to get up.
@Poppy0419 I just saw your second post when I wrote that so maybe the clock won't even help... Does she sleep with a stuffed animal to keep her company? I tell my son they are his "friends"
@mileswithmyles fingers crossed for your transition! Ours hasn't been bad - going on two weeks now. Although, one morning my son came into our room with his milk which meant he went downstairs in the dark and got it out of the fridge by himself which scares me (my husband forgot to shut the gate at the top of our stairs.)
@heelsidehero I think she’s too young to get it. She stays in the bed and cries when she wakes up. She actually hasn’t tried to get out of the bed. Even after naps she just cries until I go in there.
@heelsidehero I totally didn’t explain it well. It’s been a weird transition home. She’s been with my mom and stepdad for 6 weeks. So we’re doing that + big girl bed + breaking the cosleeping. I think me and her are just overwhelmed.
if it make you feel better though, when we were in Nashville we stayed in a 3 story townhome. I was sitting at the kitchen table and DD was watching tv. Somehow, while i was eating, she snuck away (LITERALLY IN PLAIN SIGHT) and made it down 4 flights of hardwood stairs. Totally scared the crap out of me.
@Poppy0419 just brainstorming - maybe try sleeping in her bed after she falls asleep? Maybe a couple of nights of staying in the bed and having you close will help. You are both definitely going through a lot. I still can't believe you are on your own right now.
DH has strep throat and he's congested. Her is snoring so loudly there's no way i can sleep. My best friend is staying over tonight so they only other place to sleep is with one of the kids. Or i guess the basement (which is also my office). I feel bad waking him and trying to get him to turn over, but really so loud.
@nanifrog im curled at the end of her bed now. Thanking myself to splurging a bit on her new mattress cause this is not a comfortable position. I’ve send DH a billion texts about this chaos tonight and he’s too busy out. I swear the man isn’t gonna make it through this pregnancy.
@ivyvines6 DH and I bought a car a few years ago at one of those dealerships that advertise their rock bottom price. It was the best buying experience we’ve had! The only “problem” we had was the after market lady was REALLY pushy. We just declined everything.
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
@nanifrog wake him up. A lot. Is it better if he's on his side? Maybe prop a pillow under his back so he can't sleep all on the back.
We have Christmas 4 of 5 tonight and I'm worried about the amount of things that will be coming home with us. Mil loves Christmas and loves to spoil her kids and grandkids. It was nicer when it was just the 2 of us because finding room for new things were easy! Although, she may have bought dh a boxing bag so that'll be interesting to transport back with everything else. I do feel bad. One of the sister's families can't make it because they all got the stomach bug this week. I did the math like 5 times and know they couldn't have gotten it from us, but still, it really stinks they'll miss out on another Christmas. Luckily their 2 kids are still young enough to not fully grasp that they're missing out.
I know I'm one to talk (I rarely post anymore due to time constraints), but is she really considered a drive by? She's been posting here for months and I definitely recognized her. (That was an insensitive/strange post though). Unless we're talking about different posts
I wish we could buy a new car!! You guys are making me jealous!
I know I'm one to talk (I rarely post anymore due to time constraints), but is she really considered a drive by? She's been posting here for months and I definitely recognized her. (That was an insensitive/strange post though). Unless we're talking about different posts
I wish we could buy a new car!! You guys are making me jealous!
Personally I think there's a difference between posting semi regularly, but only about yourself, and posting semi regularly, but responding and interacting with others as well. The former I still consider a driveby because they driveby, throw away their trash, and keep on driving. The latter driveby when they can, throw away their trash, try to help others throw away theirs, and then keep driving.
Not sure if that makes a lot of sense. I just woke up, so no mocking whatever it is I wrote above, ha.
Eta- I don't really recognize her name much so I'm not sure which camp she lands in.
To me a drive by is someone who never interacts outside their own issues. For example the thread I recently posted in about the gestational carrier. She had made like 3 of her own threads to ask questions but never contributed. Major drive by in my opinion. Someone who contributes even small amounts is not as drive by to me.
@ivyvines6 DH and I bought a car a few years ago at one of those dealerships that advertise their rock bottom price. It was the best buying experience we’ve had! The only “problem” we had was the after market lady was REALLY pushy. We just declined everything.
Yeah that’s what my husband does now It’s not a best price store though.
The last few weeks I’ve felt like I haven’t contributed and been all about me. Norco had my brain all swamped and I couldn’t think straight to interact so I feel like I’m still playing catch up.
But I have serious anxiety IRL too and always think if i talk about myself at all it’s too much.
We survived night 3 with only one weird wake up. DD coming in my room this morning with her bunnies and saying HEY MAMA! warmed my tired little heart.
The last few weeks I’ve felt like I haven’t contributed and been all about me. Norco had my brain all swamped and I couldn’t think straight to interact so I feel like I’m still playing catch up.
But I have serious anxiety IRL too and always think if i talk about myself at all it’s too much.
We survived night 3 with only one weird wake up. DD coming in my room this morning with her bunnies and saying HEY MAMA! warmed my tired little heart.
I don’t think anyone feels that way about you posting. I for one am certainly glad you’re starting to feel human again, and that your DD is home with you.
@ivyvines6 I hope not because I really am invested in y’all and truly care! I definitely kept up in the hospital but mY brain was super muddled. I read an entire book and have zero recollection of it. Anxiety is a crazy black hole sometimes!!
@Poppy0419 I'm not on here as regularly but I would certainly not say you've been all about yourself! You had a serious health concern and reading back through the posts is helpful information for any of us that might have similar symptoms. You had a tough go. I sure hope you're feeling better!!!
I'll be in the car buying market soon but we are hoping to wait until next summer when they lower old model prices and release new models. We will see how that goes with the baby, car seat and stroller though!
@babys_2018 I certainly hope that no one EVER gets what I had but knowing we’re more succeptible while pregnant is important. Also, if you’re on meds for a UTI and pregnant, you’re even more at risk! But I am feeling a LOT better, thank you
@Poppy0419 the first night we transitioned my son to the toddler bed he came in at 3am with his blanket and stuffed animals and said “hi momma, I get up now”
Posted in the nesting thread (and accidently last week's randoms thread). Finally posting here as it may be the best spot and in case and of you ladies are interested:
I have the book and did it last year (it was super helpful) but there are also free printables available on Jan.1st if you don't have/want the book. The challenge begins Jan. 6th and you have an entire week get through the listed room/space, then the next week it moves on to a new space until you're through everything. It walks you through steps on how to organize everything including tips, tricks etc.
If anyone wants to do it with me, let me know and I can create a seperate thread!
@poppy0419 I am glad we aren't the only crazies who decided to switch to big kid bed while pregnant and over the holidays. Seems like a bad idea when I say it out loud but I dunno when else we would've done it and I'm not buying another crib or dealing with a newborn sleep schedule and a toddler learning he has freedom.
I dont want a new car. I think I might be able to pull off three across in my CRV. DH has a 7 seater and I really don't want another giant gas hog.
@Poppy0419@molly1108-2@heelsidehero. We are planning on switching the toddler on our spring break because baby will need the crib and he will be 3 and I'm a masochist, but not bad enough to do this after baby comes. I'M DREADING IT. WHY AREN'T THERE TWIN SIZE CRIBS????
@cups4, my first took to the big kid bed with no problem. It's almost like it took him six months to realize he could get out and do whatever he wanted. Some kids actually sleep better once they switch. Obviously not my second because he just does things his own way...
@Poppy0419, I don't think anyone thinks your posts have been all about you! I think anyone having an especially hard time deserves a little AWing anyway. You were a contributing member before that so we all wanted updates! Anyone who disagrees can get out of our BMB!
I literally loled at your responses to your toddlers! I tell DS he's lucky he's cute or I'd send him to the moon. Is it in toddler DNA to push parents to their breaking point but then be just the cutest little thing you've ever seen? DS will say "I love you", "I had a fun day with you", or today's new one was "You're beautiful, Mommy". Little stinker!
@cups4 it will be fine! DD1 isn’t even 2 yet and she’s getting it. The only reason I did it now instead of waiting was 1. I got a pottery barn bed on Facebook marketplace for $200 STEALLLLLL. & 2. She’s been sleeping in a bed for 6 weeks so what’s the point of regressing? The cosleeping is what we’re struggling with. Just don’t do it when DH is out of town like I did.
And for real y’all, your support and love and thoughts mean the world to me. It’s nice to have people who get it. Creepy internet hugs everyone.
I just wanted to share my AW story of the most ridiculous thing I've done while pregnant. DH and I were driving to dinner and I was driving. We got in a small argument over my driving which led to me crying. This is pretty typical however this time it was completely uncontrollable with like gasping and odd noises and I sounded like an animal. Then I start laughing and crying at the same time and I can't stop. I start choking and these weird noises are still happening and then of course my coughing and choking leads to peeing my pants. I finally get to an exit and get off at a gas station and have to calm down. Well I've thoroughly peed my pants so I put my coat down in the seat and go to just go home but miss the exit to go home so damn it, we're going to eat I guess. We get to the restaurant and I go in the bathroom, take my underwear off and shove toilet paper in my pants. We start eating and I just say I'm a mess and he says I love you and that's that. He drove home and I took my pants off in the car.
Re: Weekly Randoms 12/25 (a bit late)
DH is also out of town so I don’t have anyone to tag team this with.
@mileswithmyles fingers crossed for your transition! Ours hasn't been bad - going on two weeks now. Although, one morning my son came into our room with his milk which meant he went downstairs in the dark and got it out of the fridge by himself which scares me (my husband forgot to shut the gate at the top of our stairs.)
if it make you feel better though, when we were in Nashville we stayed in a 3 story townhome. I was sitting at the kitchen table and DD was watching tv. Somehow, while i was eating, she snuck away (LITERALLY IN PLAIN SIGHT) and made it down 4 flights of hardwood stairs. Totally scared the crap out of me.
DH has strep throat and he's congested. Her is snoring so loudly there's no way i can sleep. My best friend is staying over tonight so they only other place to sleep is with one of the kids. Or i guess the basement (which is also my office). I feel bad waking him and trying to get him to turn over, but really so loud.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
We have Christmas 4 of 5 tonight and I'm worried about the amount of things that will be coming home with us. Mil loves Christmas and loves to spoil her kids and grandkids. It was nicer when it was just the 2 of us because finding room for new things were easy! Although, she may have bought dh a boxing bag so that'll be interesting to transport back with everything else.
I do feel bad. One of the sister's families can't make it because they all got the stomach bug this week. I did the math like 5 times and know they couldn't have gotten it from us, but still, it really stinks they'll miss out on another Christmas. Luckily their 2 kids are still young enough to not fully grasp that they're missing out.
I wish we could buy a new car!! You guys are making me jealous!
TTC #1 since September 2015
*TW*
BFP #1: CP, April 2016
BFP #2: 10/5/16, MMC 11/3/16 at 7w5d (embryo stopped @ ~6 weeks), misoprostol 11/11/16 (EDD 6/16/17)
Dx: Luteal phase defect, uterine polyps, stage 2 endometriosis, low morphology
Uterine polyp removal (laparoscopy) 3/28/17
BFP #3: 6/19/17, MMC 7/11/17 at 6w3d, misoprostol 7/17/17 (EDD 3/1/18)
BFP #4: 8/25/17 EDD 5/4/18
Personally I think there's a difference between posting semi regularly, but only about yourself, and posting semi regularly, but responding and interacting with others as well. The former I still consider a driveby because they driveby, throw away their trash, and keep on driving. The latter driveby when they can, throw away their trash, try to help others throw away theirs, and then keep driving.
Not sure if that makes a lot of sense. I just woke up, so no mocking whatever it is I wrote above, ha.
Eta- I don't really recognize her name much so I'm not sure which camp she lands in.
TTC #1 since September 2015
*TW*
BFP #1: CP, April 2016
BFP #2: 10/5/16, MMC 11/3/16 at 7w5d (embryo stopped @ ~6 weeks), misoprostol 11/11/16 (EDD 6/16/17)
Dx: Luteal phase defect, uterine polyps, stage 2 endometriosis, low morphology
Uterine polyp removal (laparoscopy) 3/28/17
BFP #3: 6/19/17, MMC 7/11/17 at 6w3d, misoprostol 7/17/17 (EDD 3/1/18)
BFP #4: 8/25/17 EDD 5/4/18
Not everyone has loads of down time like I do to come check in a couple times a day.
But I have serious anxiety IRL too and always think if i talk about myself at all it’s too much.
We survived night 3 with only one weird wake up. DD coming in my room this morning with her bunnies and saying HEY MAMA! warmed my tired little heart.
ETA- plus you’re the only one of us with a nickname from a troll so far, so that means you’re in.
I'll be in the car buying market soon but we are hoping to wait until next summer when they lower old model prices and release new models. We will see how that goes with the baby, car seat and stroller though!
I tell the twins weekly "you're lucky you're cute or you would be out on the steps of the firehouse right now!"
For those of you that are looking to organize your house, I am planning to do the same as we recently moved and everything is a disaster.
I'll be doing this awesome challenge to help get me purging, cleaning and organizing one room a week:
https://www.abowlfulloflemons.net/2017/12/coming-soon-the-2018-home-organization-challenge.html
I have the book and did it last year (it was super helpful) but there are also free printables available on Jan.1st if you don't have/want the book.
The challenge begins Jan. 6th and you have an entire week get through the listed room/space, then the next week it moves on to a new space until you're through everything. It walks you through steps on how to organize everything including tips, tricks etc.
If anyone wants to do it with me, let me know and I can create a seperate thread!
I dont want a new car. I think I might be able to pull off three across in my CRV. DH has a 7 seater and I really don't want another giant gas hog.
I literally loled at your responses to your toddlers! I tell DS he's lucky he's cute or I'd send him to the moon. Is it in toddler DNA to push parents to their breaking point but then be just the cutest little thing you've ever seen? DS will say "I love you", "I had a fun day with you", or today's new one was "You're beautiful, Mommy". Little stinker!
And for real y’all, your support and love and thoughts mean the world to me. It’s nice to have people who get it. Creepy internet hugs everyone.
I just had to leave the room from family movie night. I started crying during Star Wars phantom menace when Anakin says goodbye to his mom.