Personally, Facebook would be MUCH easier for me to post on. The Bump app is so hard to get into sometimes and I want so bad to be a part of y'all more however i honestly just forget about the app. having a facebook group for me is much easier to access and works better. I don't utilize a computer at home and can rarely get online at work like i am now so for me, i feel like i'm missing out so much on this amazing group of ladies! waahhh. If you would allow me, as long as it's not going to be clicky and drama filled, i would love to join in more and get to know yall better! Just let me know what i need to do!
ETA - I'll send a picture w/ SN as soon as i can figure out how to do that on my phone.
Also, why are there two groups and why are we so Leary of people in the other group? Sorry, just nosey me doesn't understand why we can't all get along haha.
I know I don't post daily, but I try to post weekly so I hope I'm active enough to tag along. I'm also not the biggest fan of the bump, it always seems to have problems.
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https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/683816 BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16 BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed. BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18 BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
Personally, Facebook would be MUCH easier for me to post on. The Bump app is so hard to get into sometimes and I want so bad to be a part of y'all more however i honestly just forget about the app. having a facebook group for me is much easier to access and works better. I don't utilize a computer at home and can rarely get online at work like i am now so for me, i feel like i'm missing out so much on this amazing group of ladies! waahhh. If you would allow me, as long as it's not going to be clicky and drama filled, i would love to join in more and get to know yall better! Just let me know what i need to do!
ETA - I'll send a picture w/ SN as soon as i can figure out how to do that on my phone.
Also, why are there two groups and why are we so Leary of people in the other group? Sorry, just nosey me doesn't understand why we can't all get along haha.
I just want to say: no one is leary of the other group. These are not dueling groups and there is no feud! The group we have started is going to be limited to people who have regularly posted here over the months and gotten to know each other.
The other FB group has an open-door policy to anyone who wants to join. Some people like that, and, frankly, it is probably the better group for you to join, @kelsajo, given your limited posts. You can contact @notthefather to get you going over there!
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Just jumped on here to say I'm currently deactivated from FB. Kind of a self inflicted thing comparable to what @ShawnnaO I said earlier about becoming toxic to myself. But when the baby comes I might log back in as I REALLY hope to not have time to compare myself with anyone lol. But when I'm ready I hope that y'all will have me
@cford08, I can fully understand knowing your own limits and boundaries, but I will say I'm disappointed, and you will be missed over there! Same goes for you, @vflux33 and @DDRRT1982.
If there is anything that can be done on my part or the part of the FB group to make things more comfortable for you, let me know!
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@ShawnnaO@cford08 just for the record in my other BMB for DS, we really only have one weekly photo thread. It’s LO Wednesday instead of HDBD. That’s not to say there aren’t one off posts at the holidays of threads like showing off Christmas photos/cards but there is no comparing. LO Pictures May or May not have other people in them. But it’s not a bunch of pictures of each other. I hope that those are the kinds of posts our little group would like to do and that it would help limit anyone feeling the need to compare.
I would also like to see us come up with some sort of document for rules for the new FB. Some of them are so obvious that it almost seems to go without saying, but having it there in bold would just reassure me.
Things like no sharing pictures, stories, etc and claiming them as yours when they are not (catfishing).
No stealing other users pictures/stories.
No trolling profiles for mudslinging (using someone's personal life against them in a disagreement).
What happens in the FB group stays in the FB group. It doesn't get shared here, or anywhere else in your life.
No private messaging to talk crap about other users. If you have an issue you bring it to the group or the mods.
As others have mentioned no unprompted advertising for selling MLM type products.
That kind of stuff?
ETA - and maybe a specific consequence for breaking the rules. I would say automatic dismissal from the group or at least a group vote?
@cford08 Yeah I'm right there with you in the FB and I are a toxic combination camp, except I'm fairly certain I won't reactivate PP (my issue was less of a comparison thing and more compulsively checking it and FB stalking ppl from my past sort of thing, + privacy issues, + getting sucked into drama a lot). As I've said elsewhere I'll be sticking around here and if anyone would be interested in starting a private group here instead of migrating to Facebook I'm totally down with that.
@bettyvonsomethingstein Even though I don't think anything can be done to a FB group to address my FB issues, I do appreciate the offer, and I hope you and others have a good time over there but that some folks choose to stick around here too!
What we've been telling people as they join is that if they are a member of the other FB page, several people are uncomfortable with people that want to be in both groups, but asking people to leave that group feels too controlling. We would just ask that there be no cross-talk, talking about the who/what/when/where/why of one group in the other group, and that also you let us know if you see that happen. so far everyone has agreed to that.
So along similar lines to your concerns, but obviously yours address more than just the other FB group.
I'm down.
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@antoto, is your wanting to join conditional upon nailing down these details first? I think we are all on the same page, but maybe it's best to see who joins and then hammer that all out together over there. I do think we will end up being a fairly small group, so I don't think finding common ground on what it is we want will be difficult.
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@bettyvonsomethingstein As long as people are cool with having rules like that generally speaking I'm down for joining. I'm just nervous to join a group which strictly has no rules against creepers. When everyone is settled we could come up with an official list o rules.
I am just going to try and be so cool that you guys want to say hi and interact with us on TB occasionally. We can lure them in with our obsessive talk about toxic chemicals, @vflux33. Lol!
FWIW, I am happy you guys want to start a FB group. I always found them fun and really helpful. You guys seem to be a great group and I think you will all have fun. Edit...I think you all can have the best of both worlds if you want. We can try to keep it active here and those that choose can go between the FB group and TB.
I’m down with still checking in here if no one minds because I will miss some of you. ((I’m looking at you @cford08@vflux33@DDRRT1982)), but then again, I’m a SAHM so I have more time to deal with TB’s quirks than some others.
@antoto I have no issues with the rules you mentioned and nailing those down as a group, but I also must admit to being a little sad that we fell the need for those. ((Shrugs))
@mdfarmchick I'm not a regular poster on here, so I'm not going to attempt to join any FB groups. But I will say with the way my old BMB to FB group imploded, you definitely want rules. One of the most popular and "solid" posters on my BMB started threatening to report a mom to CPS in the FB group, and it was nutso. It's mostly why I've just lurked after a month or so on this board. I just realized I didn't have it in me again to be a regular and then have it all implode on FB. Which is sad, because honestly, while TB helped to waste time at work while waiting to have a baby, it wasn't until after we all had our babies where the real support kicked in.
Personally, Facebook would be MUCH easier for me to post on. The Bump app is so hard to get into sometimes and I want so bad to be a part of y'all more however i honestly just forget about the app. having a facebook group for me is much easier to access and works better. I don't utilize a computer at home and can rarely get online at work like i am now so for me, i feel like i'm missing out so much on this amazing group of ladies! waahhh. If you would allow me, as long as it's not going to be clicky and drama filled, i would love to join in more and get to know yall better! Just let me know what i need to do!
ETA - I'll send a picture w/ SN as soon as i can figure out how to do that on my phone.
Also, why are there two groups and why are we so Leary of people in the other group? Sorry, just nosey me doesn't understand why we can't all get along haha.
I just want to say: no one is leary of the other group. These are not dueling groups and there is no feud! The group we have started is going to be limited to people who have regularly posted here over the months and gotten to know each other.
The other FB group has an open-door policy to anyone who wants to join. Some people like that, and, frankly, it is probably the better group for you to join, @kelsajo, given your limited posts. You can contact @notthefather to get you going over there!
I apologize if i mistook the posts, that's what i was getting from them but clearly i was wrong. I think you're also missing why i have had limited posts on TB and why I haven't been as active as apparently you would like me to be in your special facebook group, I can completely understand that. I would like to be a part of a group that will allow me to utilize better than TB app will allow me to and get to know everyone better; since i clearly stated that i don't have a computer at home and forums like TB app are pretty darn difficult on a mobile phone and not on a computer.
@notthefather how would you like me to contact you to see about being accepted to the open facebook group!?
Personally, Facebook would be MUCH easier for me to post on. The Bump app is so hard to get into sometimes and I want so bad to be a part of y'all more however i honestly just forget about the app. having a facebook group for me is much easier to access and works better. I don't utilize a computer at home and can rarely get online at work like i am now so for me, i feel like i'm missing out so much on this amazing group of ladies! waahhh. If you would allow me, as long as it's not going to be clicky and drama filled, i would love to join in more and get to know yall better! Just let me know what i need to do!
ETA - I'll send a picture w/ SN as soon as i can figure out how to do that on my phone.
Also, why are there two groups and why are we so Leary of people in the other group? Sorry, just nosey me doesn't understand why we can't all get along haha.
I just want to say: no one is leary of the other group. These are not dueling groups and there is no feud! The group we have started is going to be limited to people who have regularly posted here over the months and gotten to know each other.
The other FB group has an open-door policy to anyone who wants to join. Some people like that, and, frankly, it is probably the better group for you to join, @kelsajo, given your limited posts. You can contact @notthefather to get you going over there!
I apologize if i mistook the posts, that's what i was getting from them but clearly i was wrong. I think you're also missing why i have had limited posts on TB and why I haven't been as active as apparently you would like me to be in your special facebook group, I can completely understand that. I would like to be a part of a group that will allow me to utilize better than TB app will allow me to and get to know everyone better; since i clearly stated that i don't have a computer at home and forums like TB app are pretty darn difficult on a mobile phone and not on a computer.
@notthefather how would you like me to contact you to see about being accepted to the open facebook group!?
No, I think I completely understand why you don't post. I think a lot of people feel that way, and that's why they lurk. But lurkers should understand, while you feel you may have gotten to know people here by reading their posts, that hasn't been reciprocated, and we have no idea who you are. It's not personal. It's just how it is. Luckily there is another great FB option that has an open door policy. Like I said, neither is better or worse. They are just different groups.
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@mdfarmchick Yeah I would be totally shocked if we ever actually needed rules like the ones I mentioned, but they just make me feel more secure. There are COUNTLESS stories of long established communities having a regular be caught with catfishing or causing drama in a psychotic sort of way. Do I suspect anyone here of doing that? Nope. But also you just never know and it's nice to have a plan for if it does. It's like having the life preservers on an airplane. I do not want to use it, but also I'm gonna need them to be on that damn plane.
@bettyvonsomethingstein I just realized I posted on your wall instead of sending you a PM.....fail
It's okay! I saw it! If you can, try to delete it though. I think the wall is public, so you probably don't want your email on there. I did send the invite!
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I think it's great that you all have thought this out so much, but I'm also sad to see you go. I almost never use FB because I just don't like being so available and the pressure to constantly post stuff. I doubt I would participate enough to be part of your group.
I have very much enjoyed sharing this journey and getting to know you all here though!
@mdfarmchick please do! You guys can't leave us!!! Plus, if you migrate and stay too early you are going to miss all the crazy drive-by posters that usually happen towards the end of the pregnancy. Some of them are a great laugh.
@heatherdubrow I am in for the group but probably won't get to the picture part until Monday! How many people do you have already? I just don't want it to be too large and stranger dangerish!
Re: Let’s talk Facebook...
ETA - I'll send a picture w/ SN as soon as i can figure out how to do that on my phone.
Also, why are there two groups and why are we so Leary of people in the other group? Sorry, just nosey me doesn't understand why we can't all get along haha.
**TW in Spoiler**
BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.
BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
know each other.
The other FB group has an open-door policy to anyone who wants to join. Some people like that, and, frankly, it is probably the better group for you to join, @kelsajo, given your limited posts. You can contact @notthefather to get you going over there!
If there is anything that can be done on my part or the part of the FB group to make things more comfortable for you, let me know!
Things like no sharing pictures, stories, etc and claiming them as yours when they are not (catfishing).
No stealing other users pictures/stories.
No trolling profiles for mudslinging (using someone's personal life against them in a disagreement).
What happens in the FB group stays in the FB group. It doesn't get shared here, or anywhere else in your life.
No private messaging to talk crap about other users. If you have an issue you bring it to the group or the mods.
As others have mentioned no unprompted advertising for selling MLM type products.
That kind of stuff?
ETA - and maybe a specific consequence for breaking the rules. I would say automatic dismissal from the group or at least a group vote?
@bettyvonsomethingstein Even though I don't think anything can be done to a FB group to address my FB issues, I do appreciate the offer, and I hope you and others have a good time over there but that some folks choose to stick around here too!
What we've been telling people as they join is that if they are a member of the other FB page, several people are uncomfortable with people that want to be in both groups, but asking people to leave that group feels too controlling. We would just ask that there be no cross-talk, talking about the who/what/when/where/why of one group in the other group, and that also you let us know if you see that happen. so far everyone has agreed to that.
So along similar lines to your concerns, but obviously yours address more than just the other FB group.
I'm down.
FWIW, I am happy you guys want to start a FB group. I always found them fun and really helpful. You guys seem to be a great group and I think you will all have fun. Edit...I think you all can have the best of both worlds if you want. We can try to keep it active here and those that choose can go between the FB group and TB.
@antoto I have no issues with the rules you mentioned and nailing those down as a group, but I also must admit to being a little sad that we fell the need for those. ((Shrugs))
@notthefather
how would you like me to contact you to see about being accepted to the open facebook group!?
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I have very much enjoyed sharing this journey and getting to know you all here though!