March 2018 Moms

PGAL Check In ((6 December))

This is a safe space for those who are pregnant after a loss. General TW for this thread.


How far along are you?

Any appointments coming up?

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

GTKY: What are your best and favorite coping mechanisms for when you feel anxiety about your pregnancy creeping in?
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Re: PGAL Check In ((6 December))

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  • @mdfarmchick, I am so with you on the preterm labour fear! My Braxton hicks contractions have been intense the last couple of weeks and I definitely found myself googling preterm labour symptoms. Obviously all is well, but I did not expect to have these fears now!!
    mdfarmchickleilaquinn
  • @justkeeptrying no worries—I forget what day of the week it is most of the time. Lol! Glad you had a good appointment. I completely forgot the “today I am pregnant” mantra. That’s a good one. 
    justkeeptryingkalawa
  • @senora76 I love that praying and talking to Mars helps when you are anxious. Glad that YH is home and that you have some time to figure out what time zone you are in. The fires aren’t close to you, right?

    @SoraLk do you know anyone that has one? I think the newest version is much better, but I know two years ago, the moms that had this or the Angelcare monitor said they had a lot of false alarms—which can be stressful too. GL on the glucose test. 
    SoraLksenora76leilaquinn
  • @mdfarmchick Thank you! One of my sister's friends had the previous version, so I'm trying to get a hold of her to see what she says.
    BabyFruit Ticker
    **TW in Spoiler**
    https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/683816

    BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
    BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.

    BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18  -  Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
    BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20

    mdfarmchick
  • How far along are you? 27 weeks today!

    Any appointments coming up?  My next ob appointment is the week before Christmas, and from there, I move on to every-two-week appointments.

    How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) This has been a good week!  My energy has been much better this week than it has been previously, and I will never get enough of baby kicks.  I was finally able to get a video of her kicking, where you can see my stomach moving, and it was so cool to share that with my family. 

    GTKY: What are your best and favorite coping mechanisms for when you feel anxiety about your pregnancy creeping in?  Since she's been moving consistently, my anxiety has been surprisingly under wraps (knock on wood).  If it did set in, I would try to trigger her movement with the whole cold-water-and-lay-on-left-side combination, and I'd bust out the home doppler I got.  In truth, I am wallower: if anxiety is creeping in, I need to let myself feel it in full force before I can get over it.  There have been many a night where I irrationally fear I'm going to lose her and just sob in the shower for a full 45 minutes.  But once the feeling is out there, I'm able to think more logically and move forward.
    justkeeptryingmdfarmchickSoraLkleilaquinn
  • @mdfarmchick the creek fire is close to my boys' dad -he is under voluntary evacuation right now... but i think they are out of danger.

    @SoraLk re: monitors. I had the c2003 angelcare monitor with my teenager Zane and really only used it for naps as we co-slept at night... Vance was also in our bed so we didn't use a monitor for him - this was back in the OLD DAYS tho... Ironically, we purchased a snuza for Mars. I learned quickly it wouldn't work with co-sleeping so we never used it. 

    We did NOT lose Mars co-sleeping with us. He took a nap at daycare and never woke up. He was in a crib on his back with no blankets, no toys, no pillows, in a non-smoking house. Foul play has been completely ruled out. Although we still have pending genetic tests, the official cause of death of right now is SIDS, so this is a hot topic for us. We plan on co-sleeping with Nova and we WILL be using an owlet. Yes, they are expensive, but I do hear they work well. Another mom who lost her son to SIDS at daycare, no less, reached out to me over babycenter when we lost Mars, and we have become very good friends - she used the owlet with her rainbow baby and said it worked great... she only got false alarms for not enough information, not distress alarms.
    Mama to:
    Zane William 9/17/03
    Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
    Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
    Nova Marsela 3/14/18
    mdfarmchickSoraLkSoFlaMommie1128
  • @SoraLk let me know what she says... I’m not sure I want one or not, but I’m interested in more info from someone who has one. 

    @chasingroygbiv I do kick counts so many times a day just because it is so reassuring to me. 

    @ashtuesday I love that you thought to capture a video. I may steal that. So fun!

    @senora76 I’m glad that you guys are safe and hope that everyone stays safe. I’m ready for a big rain. 
    senora76SoraLkashtuesday
  • @senora76 <3 Thank you. I'm trying to convince my fiance that we should get the monitor since we've experienced two losses, but he's being stubborn. He thinks we'll be fine, but honestly I'd love the peace of mind - especially it works as well as I'm hearing.

    @mdfarmchick I didn't get much out of my sister, her reply was simple: "She (her friend) recommends it. She got it because her daughter would stop breathing while she slept." I tried to ask for more detail, but my sister doesn't like to respond to me, and I don't have her friend's number.  :'(
    BabyFruit Ticker
    **TW in Spoiler**
    https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/683816

    BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
    BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.

    BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18  -  Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
    BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20

    mdfarmchicksenora76
  • mdfarmchickmdfarmchick member
    edited December 2017
    @BrittnieMariee Congratulations on the third trimester! I hit it today. 

    @kalawa I’m glad that you haven’t had any more changes to your cervix. I cry so much this pregnancy. But it does make me feel better. 

    Edit: sorry kalawa have NOT had any more. I need caffeine 
    BrittnieMariee
  • @senora76 Absolutely would rather be monitored than not. Glad yours is staying put!
     
    senora76
  • Congrats to all the girls in their third trimester! I still have another month to go!
    Mama to:
    Zane William 9/17/03
    Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
    Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
    Nova Marsela 3/14/18
    mdfarmchickchasingroygbivBrittnieMariee
  • @senora76 it goes by so fast 
    senora76
  • @mdfarmchick thank you and congrats to you too!! It’s so exciting that we’re all getting so close!!
    mdfarmchick
  • @mommytron I’m so glad you got some good sleep. Are you feeling better this week?
    mommytron
  • All the congrats to the third trimester ladies!! But does it start at 27 weeks or 28? Please say 27. I keep saying I'm starting 3rd trimester on Christmas, which is cool. Don't take this away from me lol
    JBcakes08mommytron
  • @mdfarmchick, noooooooo!!!! Everything I've read said 27 and then I came on here and everyone's talking 28. Grrrr!
    mdfarmchick
  • i think it's 28... so maybe not Christmas. But you could say New Years @justkeeptrying
    mdfarmchick
  • @bb3vj3n, true. Ugh. It's a dumb thing to be upset about really lol I just had it in my head of Christmas! haha
    mdfarmchick
  • @justkeeptrying if it makes you feel any better, im still behind you LOL What freaks me out is that im feeling that late pregnancy discomfort and im really only just past the halfway mark!!!

    I thought it was because I am 41, but I met up with a girlfriend of mine who is 42 and 36 weeks with her first baby... she is enormous in the belly and also only 5 feet tall like me... we took a walk across work and after 5 minutes shes like are you okay??  you are so out of breath!  i am huffing and puffing already and have a loooooong way to go still!!! 
    Mama to:
    Zane William 9/17/03
    Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
    Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
    Nova Marsela 3/14/18
    mdfarmchickjustkeeptryingleilaquinn
  • @mdfarmchick Yes I am. Thank you very much! 
    mdfarmchick
  • @senora76 I think it’s because you’ve had more than one pregnancy. It feels about 10 weeks further along for me than it did with my first. You have more relaxin, earlier which keeps everything all loose—and uncomfortable. Lol. :smile:
    senora76justkeeptrying
  • @mdfarmchick totally right... also these last two pregnancies were back to back... loosey goosey haha
    Mama to:
    Zane William 9/17/03
    Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
    Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
    Nova Marsela 3/14/18
    mdfarmchick
  • @senora76, I totally agree with @mdfarmchick. I feel like I went into this pregnancy thinking "My body knows what to do, so this pregnancy will be a breeze" HAHAHAHA!!!!! Boy was I wrong...This is my 4th pregnancy (1 DS, and my 2 angel babies), and my body definitely knows what it's doing. But it's also like "You weigh more, you've been through a lot of stress, you're older now, so you're going to fall apart a lot faster". I definitely feel like I did at 8 months pregnant with DS. And I keep looking in the mirror and wondering HOW am I going to get any bigger than I already am????
    mdfarmchickchasingroygbivsenora76leilaquinn
  • @justkeeptrying omg yesss. I think all of my cramping and uncomfortable and lower back ache last week was for a bump stretch because I definitely feel like my bump just got bigger and rounder all of a sudden.

    @senora76 @justkeeptrying I know this sounds really crunchy, but I pulled up spinning babies this week to see if there was anything I could do about how uncomfortable I was, and stumbled across the daily exercises I can do to help with the pain and that help strengthen things for labor. I dunno if you guys are interested or familiar with spinning babies, but even just sitting on the yoga ball instead of the couch the past few days has really helped me. 
    senora76
  • @mdfarmchick thanks for the tip :) i do labor squats but thats about it... i see the MFM tomorrow and have so many ailments and aches and pains i plan on addressing everything... i think maybe shes in a weird position... hence the labor squats... I should just invest in a yoga ball we just dont have any space!!!  id love to get one for work!
    Mama to:
    Zane William 9/17/03
    Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
    Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
    Nova Marsela 3/14/18
    mdfarmchick
  • @mdfarmchick, I need to look at spinning babies again. I tried when pregnant with DS and honestly I found the whole thing super confusing. My doula keeps telling me to go on there to start getting this baby in a good position (DS got stuck and resulted in a really hard labour) but I don't understand it all!! Lol

    @senora76, what are labour squats??
    mdfarmchickJBcakes08
  • @justkeeptrying it’s actually not hard... like the daily activities are squats, lunges, cat/cow, child pose, and using a yoga ball to sit on, as well as moving your hips. I remember feeling overwhelmed with it with DS because he was sunny side up and I was trying to get him to turn and drop so it was confusing. At this point in our pregnancies, we are just trying to get baby in a good position and strengthen everything for labor. Send me a message on Facebook if you want some help. :smile:
  • @leilaquinn I’m sorry that you are having such a rough pregnancy. Sending hugs and love your way. I always distract myself when I start to stress about something. <3
    leilaquinn
  • @leilaquinn hugs <3

    Speaking of spinning babies...  my kid flipped and for the first time in 4 babies - I have a breech!  And she flipped me off. LOL I know she has time to turn... Vance was transverse the entire pregnancy until I went into labor with him at 35 weeks when he miraculously cooperated... but I've never had a full breech...  Both Zane and Mars were head down since the level II ultrasound and stayed that way...  Nova was at the level II but is doing her own thing now...  Time to start hanging upside down LOL
    Mama to:
    Zane William 9/17/03
    Vance Xenophon 5/17/06
    Mars Florencio 11/15/16 - 3/6/17
    Nova Marsela 3/14/18
    mdfarmchickleilaquinn
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