Weekly Randoms- 11/27

sparklingdiamond

I think we finally decided on a name for the baby!  I had a dream that we named her a name we hadn't even been discussing and told DH about it and he liked it.  Plus, he told me he likes it because the baby will have the same initials as him mom (who passed away when he was young).  And our consultation in FL is on her birthday!  I take these all as good signs.

I am so tired today because DS woke up at 4:30 last night.  Then he took a while to go back to sleep.

bwow615

@sparklingdiamond i would take those all as good signs too!! I keep pressing SO to give me some name suggestions so I know where his head is, but nothing, all he keeps saying is we have time.  Yes, I know we do, but I want to start using her name when talking about her   We picked DS's name sometime after the AS, but this time we found out this babe is a girl so much earlier.  

sparklingdiamond

@bwow615 I felt more pressure to get her named sooner since we have the large medical hurdle with her.  And the doctor there likes to refer to them by name.  And yea, we definitely found out the sex this time way sooner than with DS!

suchaglencoco

@sparklingdiamond, that's amazing!!! I believe in big signs like that as well!!

My twins turn 2 on Saturday. It's their golden birthday and it is wrecking me. I legit cried in Party City yesterday. This seems like a much harder birthday than their 1st. Maybe because they're independent and don't sleep in a crib and haven't use bottles in 11 months so they don't seem like babies anymore?
It's hard. I'm glad we chose to have their party the day after so I an be a mess in private on their actual birthday.

bwow615

@sparklingdiamond I hope you guys have a great consultation, sending positive thoughts your way!
Also my DS woke up at 4:30 this morning too.... and didn't go back to sleep   I feel ya there today. 

ivyvines6

I went to bed around 4:30 because insomnia and anxiety are how I pregnant. 

fraufarbissina

@sparklingdiamond those are definitely all good signs!  You must be feeling really good that things are aligning!!

@suchaglencoco ah god I'm sorry you're so emotional about the birthday!  I always tell people that I wasn't prepared for how heartbreaking and bittersweet being a mom is.  We took our daughter to take pictures with Santa yesterday and I was legit blubbering while waiting in line.  I was just filled with so much emotion I couldn't hold it in.  And then she cried hysterically on his lap and I cried even more.  I never used to be like this!!!

jessnoel89

@suchaglencoco I think it's ok to be a wreck! With every milestone in so proud of my son but I also realize how quickly time goes by. Hang in there momma! 

My random thought is I have to do early preeclampsia testing this week since I had it with my last pregnancy but I have no idea how I'm going to fit my "collection" in the fridge with all the Thanksgiving leftovers (all of which I have strong aversions to. Blech) 

suchaglencoco

@fraufarbissina, I've always been a crier. Motherhood made it worse. Being pregnant while being a mother is just awful. I legit cry at commercials. DH thinks I'm broken at times. 

sparklingdiamond

Oh yea I cried at that Macy's commercial where the little girl buys the cologne as a Christmas present for her mom.  Have you guys seen that one?

jessnoel89

@sparklingdiamond YES!!!

fraufarbissina

@suchaglencoco there was a time when I was concerned about myself because I seriously never cried. Now it's a daily occurrence.  

@sparklingdiamond I haven't seen it and hope I never do lol

curleemama32

Hi ladies! Sorry I haven't been around....I'm doing a craft show this weekend so I've been super busy!!
 
@ivyvines6  I hear you with the insomnia and pregnancy. On top of that we recently had some sort of critter (98% sure it's a bat or two) move into the crawl space directly above our bed. It's been so loud and annoying that even my sleep-through-screaming-child husband couldn't ignore it. Needless to say,  DH and I slept on an air mattress last night in the playroom. Worst. Sleep. Ever.

@sparklingdiamond  Those are great signs!!! I love that the name came in a dream. What a story to tell your LO someday!!

@jessnoel89 It took me a second to figure out what you meant by "collection"...lol...I feel like such an idiot lately!! But yah, I'd have a hard time keeping that with my food too!! I don't even like it when my husband puts live fishing bait in my fridge!

my randoms: my doctor changed my due date from May 6 to May 18, the day after my sons birthday!! I'm not cool with going BACK  almost two whole weeks, but I'll survive. 

Also, Id kill for a chili cheese dog right now.

mileswithmyles

@sparklingdiamond those are all great signs!  I love everything is aligning for you.

@suchaglencoco I am with you on the crying.  We stupidly watched Boss Baby with DS last night thinking it was going to be funny.  Umm, I was crying almost right away because it is about the older son getting a baby brother and how the baby is taking away all the special things he has with his mom and day.  Cue the waterworks!!!!

sparklingdiamond

@mileswithmyles I am glad you said that.  I was considering watching that movie, but now I don't think I will!

mileswithmyles

@sparklingdiamond DON'T DO IT!  I mean, unless you need a good cry.

bwow615

@mileswithmyles @sparklingdiamond i must be cold, zero tears... but actually maybe it's because i saw it before i became pregnant this go around.  

cups4

I had a pretty easy day doing curriculum at work. It's gorgeous outside and the toddler is going to be so excited to play in the backyard after daycare.  

lincbeesmom

Ugh so I’m super embarrassed but I was that lady that cried when they told me I was having two boys today. I think it’s less about the fact that it’s two more boys, because boys are fun! But the finality of knowing I’ll never have a girl because we’re done having kids (i think). I’m over it now because my babies are healthy and there are women who would chop their left leg off to have ONE healthy baby. anyway, i know I was dumb and now that the initial shock has worn off, I’m super excited for the relationship my three boys will have!!!

pandakov

@lincbeesmom don’t be embarrassed!! It is true that you are lucky to have two healthy babies and that there are women who would give their left leg yada yada yada... BUT you are totally entitled to your feelings. It’s a hard thing to let go of the thought of a daughter (or son if the situation were reversed) You definitely have the right to mourn that. I’m glass you’re feeling better. Im
sure you’re going to have so much fun chasing three little boys around!

mileswithmyles

@cups4 There's a 0% chance I would have cried if I wasn't pregnant with our second child.  It was totally situational and as soon as it started, DH was like, "Ummm, I don't think we should watch this."  The older brother in it was a lot like DS, especially with his bedtime routine, so it was just a little too close to home.

@lincbeesmom awwww!  I get what you mean.  I think I would have had a similar reaction if we were having another boy.  I think it has a lot to do with the fact that we are daughters and we have that as a frame of reference with our relationship with our parents, so we just have it in our head that we will have that happen with us as well.  But 3 boys will be so fun!  Two of the women in my office have three boys and their relationship with their kids and between the siblings are adorable. 

glitzandglitter

@curleemama32 - What kind of crafts are you making for the craft show?

@lincbeesmom - I felt the same way. This is our last (I will be getting my tubes tied during my CS) while I was happy to be having a healthy boy and I feel like a pro after already having 3 lol I was sad that I will never experience having a mother-daughter relationship. I can also tell you that having 3 boys is fun and I really enjoy being a boy mom.

lincbeesmom

@pandakov @mileswithmyles @glitzandglitter thanks for the reassurance! I just felt like I wasn’t expressing the kind of Love that my boys deserve. I feel so much better about it now and I’m really excited to see them all together. 

tincupchalice

If this one is a third boy, I will definitely have a moment of sadness.  But then I will love on all of my boys. 

suchaglencoco

I think a few moments of sadness are definitely acceptable. Especially if you thought it was the opposite sex and had built up their life in your head. You need a chance to readjust your expectations.
When it becomes a drawn out, week, 2 week, 4 week long thing, that's different. 

You are ALWAYS giving your boys the love they deserve.

heelsidehero

@glitzandglitter  I scheduled my repeat CS today.  I now have to decide if I want my tubes tied at the same time.  I KNOW I am done going through pregnancy (IF we were to have a third, we will adopt), but I am still hesitant about it for some reason.  Doc says it won't change hormones or anything.  Did you have a hard time deciding to do it or did you just know you are ready?  Also, have you considered a VBAC at all?  I was considering, but docs kind of made me think otherwise.  Just curious on others thoughts about the two. 

curleemama32

@glitzandglitter I paint night sky landscapes on slices of wood. I do canvases too, but the wood slices are kind of "in" right now. My sister does wooden signs, with quotes and verses etc. 

suchaglencoco

@heelsidehero, I've discussed vbac with 2 of the OBs in my office and they were both confident and said I'm a great candidate. 
I don't really know what makes me a good candidate over someone else. Maybe because ours wasn't an emergency? 
We discovered I had pre-e a month before my due date and needed to deliver straight away. They offered to induce, but warned DD was in an odd position and the OBs and to the mfm agreed she would likely go into distress once I started to push. They allowed me to make the decision and supported either one, but I immediately chose c section because it wasn't worth the risk. Plus, even if DD came out fine, DS wasn't in the right position to go vaginally. So I may have needed one anyway.
We/I decided it at 8 am and they were born at 3 pm. So very planned and calm.

heelsidehero

@suchaglencoco they said i'm a good candidate too.  I had a c-section with the first because he was breech so I wasn't really "given a fair shot."  An example they gave me of someone that wasn't as good of a candidate was someone who tried pushing for a long time and ended in c-section for various reasons, etc.  Also, they require 1 yr between pregnancies, which I also qualify.  I had planned on vbac until I actually got pregnant and now I am second guessing.  I didn't realize if there is a rupture you could affect the other organs around the uterus as well. The chances of rupturing were like 2% I think they said?  But during my last pregnancy, I had a baby that was frank breech which is like a 4% occurrence and an issue in the groin area that was a small percentage, so I feel like my luck isn't that great when it comes to playing the odds.

jessnoel89

@lincbeesmom I totally know the feeling. We just found out we're having a girl (our last most likely) and I was thrilled. I would've been fine with another boy but was really hoping for a girl. My husband in the other hand is still not over it. He really wanted all boys. Your boys will feel so much love I'm sure

ivyvines6

@lincbeesmom I had pretty severe gender disappointment when I found out J was a boy. I probably cried about it for a fortnight. I was still upset until he was here, in my arms, and the most perfect little doodle in the whole wide world for me. I’m not letting me get hung up on a specific gender this go around, so I don’t set myself up for being caught up in things that don’t matter later on. I’m currently hoping this will be a girl though because DH wants to try for a third if it’s a boy and pregnancy is just so much fun -.-

molly1108-2

I'm glad I'm not the only one who did/will cry if it's another of the same sex. I will get over it, but not knowing if we will have more after this, I would like a girl. My only reason to not want a boy is the names. The names are just killing me this time around. I'm almost considering not finding out the sex because I feel like I'm stressing too much about this and maybe if I miss my chance to do so I will just be at peace with whatever it is. OR...I will be upset for 20 weeks that I didn't find out.

suchaglencoco

@heelsidehero gotcha.

I totally understand the "it's a small percentage, but we somehow always end up as the small percentage" feeling. We had unexplained infertility, got pregnant with twins that didn't split correctly, heard hbs, then didn't.  Then we got pregnant again, with twins, and our re's mind was blown. There were things during the fertility process that delayed things because I was part of the small percentage  (weird blood mutation, needing a new mmr vaccine). Then the pregnancy we had weird issues. I even needed to be hospitalized due to our dog jumping on my belly by accident while chasing my husband. Super weird stuff just seems to happen.

And now, we're pregnant by surprise after struggling for so long to have our twins. I'm just trying to be super easy going this pregnancy and not stress out about things.  Last pregnancy, the one thing I didn't worry about was vaginal vs c section because we always knew c section was possible. So when it came time to decide, I wasn't upset or depressed I didn't get to try vaginal. I was just happy all 3 of us were healthy. And that's what I am doing this time. If we can, I'd love to do it vaginally. If not, a c section is just fine to me.

Do whats best for you physically and emotionally.
This is my mantra for vaginal this time. 

sandbar517

Hi everyone, I'm back!  Awesome 5 day weekend, and now I've got a ton to catch up with on here...
I've been thinking long and hard about if this baby is another girl, and while I'm okay with either, there will definitely be a small amount of disappointment if it's not a boy.  This will definitely be our last, so I think it would be fun to get to experience both, but I think I'm still flying high on the fact that it's not twins again 

Pearlvirus

I will definately be disappointed if this is a third girl. Especially since sneak peak saying boy has got my hopes all up. I don’t know if I could handle four kids, so this is probably the last either way.

lincbeesmom

Welcome back @sandbar517!

sandbar517

Thanks @lincbeesmom, I've missed being on here every day (but have NOT missed being at work...) 

We should start the voting for the best November siggy and voting for the new December siggy.  I don't want to start them, I feel like I'm overwhelming the board with posts now that I've been gone "for so long".  Anyone want to jump in? 

sparklingdiamond

Just got back from my u/s and they said from what they can see at 18 weeks, the heart looks normal!  This is such a relief!

mileswithmyles

@sparklingdiamond One more item going in the right direction for you!  Yay!

bwow615

@sparklingdiamond what great news!

suchaglencoco

@sparklingdiamond, that gave me goosebumps!!!!