I've been hearing the statement "your body will gain as much as it needs during pregnancy" a lot recently. It's often said in support of a woman who is upset over pregnancy weight gain. I really dislike the sentiment and think it's damaging to women. Of course our bodies change during pregnancy but we have a lot more control over weight gain than we think. Sure dismissing a large weight gain as "just your body doing its thing" may seem like the kind thing to say but it's inaccurate and not a healthy attitude. As we become new moms we need all the strength, energy, health and self confidence we can get.
@runsomewhere I totally agree! When I was pregnant with my son I started using my pregnancy immediately to eat whatever I wanted. I ended up gaining close to 60 lbs and was miserable after he was born. I have worked hard to get it all off, and I am determined to not do that again.
Meagan Married 6.12.10 DS 11.8.12 Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
I've been hearing the statement "your body will gain as much as it needs during pregnancy" a lot recently. It's often said in support of a woman who is upset over pregnancy weight gain. I really dislike the sentiment and think it's damaging to women. Of course our bodies change during pregnancy but we have a lot more control over weight gain than we think. Sure dismissing a large weight gain as "just your body doing its thing" may seem like the kind thing to say but it's inaccurate and not a healthy attitude. As we become new moms we need all the strength, energy, health and self confidence we can get.
Meh. I go both ways on this. Yes you’re right. We do have control over excessive weight gain in some cases. However I don’t think it’s damaging to lift other women up and make them feel better. Some women gain a lot of weight from swelling, some just have different body shapes and will gain more than others. The reason statements like that exist in the first place is because of blanket expectations such as a healthy pregnancy weight gain is “25-35lbs”. That’s stupid. On so many levels. I’m 5’7”. I gained 50lbs with each of my pregnancies. All healthy babies. Lost the weight after each one. I didn’t over indulge. I was very active. I felt like a failure and had guilt for gaining so much during my first two. I was younger and just went by what the books and doctors said. Looking back now, this being my 4th pregnancy, I absolutely know better than to buy into that crap. I know my body will gain what it needs. And if that’s 50lbs again, I don’t give a shit. Just sayin
I love reality shows like Real housewive, kkk and vanderpump because it is such a trainwreck and it makes me feel like I have my ish together haha also they seriously make the best gifs
I'm going to geek out for a sec and say that my UO is that Jack Sparrow is the LAST person I'd cast as Gridelwald (Fantastic Beasts). Oh, I'm sorry, Johnny Depp. Idk why I said Jack Sparrow... OH YEAH, BECAUSE THAT'S ALL HE CAN ACT AS ANYMORE! My respect for the film franchise has slipped just a little tint bit. All the films have had impeccable casting... and then there's Gridelwald, and I'm terrified for the second installment.
I do not understand or like the elf on a shelf phenomenon. Great, yet another thing to put pressure on moms to be Pinterest perfect. I struggle just to make my kid a sandwich for daycare the night before, there is zero chance I'm going to set up elf scenes around the house after he goes to bed every night.
@zande2016 100% agree. I hate that elf with the fire of 1000 subs. But we do santa as "the spirit of Christmas" rather than a real person to believe in, so maybe I'm a Grinch about the whole "be good, Santa'a watching!" thing.
My UO: I hate the word Meh, and it automatically pits me against posts that start with them. (Sorry @4deep your post reminded me! Nothing personal meant! I agree with what you wrote though, so I got past the Meh! )
@zande2016 ME TOO! Hate it. Hate it. HATE IT. Christmas is already stressful and expensive enough, and my kid really does NOT need a new gift or treat every day. I'd rather wrap 25 of his books and have him open one each day to read that night. Or actually teach him what the season of giving is about and go through his toys to bring some to a charity or shelter. Ugh. Sorry. I hate stupid elf and find so many things wrong about it.
My unpopular opinion is everyone shouldn't be talking about This is Us all week.... I haven't watched it and it's on my list, so I keep having to scroll really fast so I don't get any spoilers...
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
@zande2016 ME TOO! Hate it. Hate it. HATE IT. Christmas is already stressful and expensive enough, and my kid really does NOT need a new gift or treat every day. I'd rather wrap 25 of his books and have him open one each day to read that night. Or actually teach him what the season of giving is about and go through his toys to bring some to a charity or shelter. Ugh. Sorry. I hate stupid elf and find so many things wrong about it.
Is elf on the shelf supposed to bring gifts or treats every day? I must have missed that memo. That's a hard pass.
@amylu914 I know a ton of people who use it as, "if you're good, the elf leaves a toy or treat, if you don't listen or don't do your chores, you don't get anything." That's probably why I'm so not into it, because that's what I've known from it, which is just not my way of doing things, personally.
My unpopular opinion is everyone shouldn't be talking about This is Us all week.... I haven't watched it and it's on my list, so I keep having to scroll really fast so I don't get any spoilers...
I made DH watch the two episodes were behind yesterday morning just so it wouldn't get spoiled, I kept doing the same thing
Another (regional) UO: Californians are NOT bad drivers. I know we get a bad rap, and can be aggressive behind the wheel, but we obey traffic laws, dammit! In California I expect to be begrudgingly allowed to merge, and I can reasonably expect people to stay in their lanes. Maybe because we have such a glut of cars we have to be on point when it comes to safety? IDK but i know I have become the most DEFENSIVE driver ever since I moved to CO! No one stays in their lanes! No one obeys stop signs! Everyone runs red lights! NO ONE lets you merge! And all the new Californians get blamed. NOPE! Californians are the GOOD drivers!
My UO --> every fight is "worth the fight" when it comes to learning toddlers. Im a nanny, and you wouldn't believe how many parents have said this to me when their child is throwing a tantrum over something. "Oh it's just not worth the fight." This is the time when they are pushing boundaries to learn what is and isnt permissible and how much they can get away with. Tantrums are so normal, but that's why it's so important to say "no. This isn't good behavior. It's not ok. Go take a break in the other room til you calm down." If that doesn't work, ignore them and let them cry it out! I literally had a client text me and ask me to ask her 4yr old son if he wanted her to bring home pizza or have the delivery guy bring it, because and i quote, "it will ruin our night, if we get it wrong" !!!
My UO is that we aren’t doing Santa. However, I do want to do pictures with Santa and for DS (and this kiddo) to realize it’s a fun story that people tell and pretend is real haha. Same goes for the Elf—a fun story, I’ll maybe hide him around the house, but not pretend he’s real. Now to break it to the ILs...
@bdesterhouse I'm sorry! definitely guilty of that. I couldn't wait... but I did put ***Possible spoiler*** which I thought was a fair trade. hahahaha. I'm ready to talk about it after you watch it
UO: We love our Elf on a Shelf. I would NEVER give a gift a day. That is ridiculous. I will also never be the one who sets elaborate scenes for our elf, but I will do something easy and fun. Our elf brings a Christmas book the first day he is here and leaves Christmas pj’s on Christmas Eve with a note about how good she’s been. K
@MyBell524 Totally get what you're saying, and yes, when it comes to tantrums, I always win. Sometimes, though, I give into something my kid wants because I know it will turn into a fight and it's just not worth it to me. Example: kiddo asked to wear a thin t-shirt today instead of the sweatshirt I'd picked out. It's cold out and I wanted her to be warm. I knew if I pushed it we would fight, and I'd have to win, so I just said "ok," packed a warmer jacket for school, and called it a day. (Oh, I also told her she'd likely be cold in the car, which she was, so she could be responsible for her choices and draw correlation.) I try not to make things that really don't matter a fight, because it's not worth it to me a lot of the time, and I like teaching her that her voice is valued, and to express herself respectfully. But I get you, I always say "That tone is ALWAYS a no" and we never give in to crying or tantrums. Talk about asking for them to recur!
UO: We love our Elf on a Shelf. I would NEVER give a gift a day. That is ridiculous. I will also never be the one who sets elaborate scenes for our elf, but I will do something easy and fun. Our elf brings a Christmas book the first day he is here and leaves Christmas pj’s on Christmas Eve with a note about how good she’s been. K
Our elf is showing up for the first time next week right before thanksgiving to bring a gift basket full of big sister books and a tshirt for DD (2.5yr). That's how we are telling her about our LO!
My UO --> every fight is "worth the fight" when it comes to learning toddlers. Im a nanny, and you wouldn't believe how many parents have said this to me when their child is throwing a tantrum over something. "Oh it's just not worth the fight." This is the time when they are pushing boundaries to learn what is and isnt permissible and how much they can get away with. Tantrums are so normal, but that's why it's so important to say "no. This isn't good behavior. It's not ok. Go take a break in the other room til you calm down." If that doesn't work, ignore them and let them cry it out! I literally had a client text me and ask me to ask her 4yr old son if he wanted her to bring home pizza or have the delivery guy bring it, because and i quote, "it will ruin our night, if we get it wrong" !!!
I work at a daycare so I definitely understand!! The kids aren't supposed to bring in outside food or drinks(or toys) where I work& sometimes a parent will let them bring it in anyway& just tell me to take it away after they leave and things like that!
Lol. Yeah, it's so hard working in childcare bc the lines are so blurred and you never know where that line is. Like i dont want to tell them how to parent bc everyone's style is so different and i dont want to offend anyone, but also Im like, "i care about you and your sanity and i care for your kids! Please please step up and take charge, so they can someday cope with life and authority and hardship." Gah!
Yup! I know exactly what you mean @MyBell524 .. And there's also that getting to the know the parents because some parents you can have honest conversations with about behavioral problems and others you can't(not and have it go over well anyway.lol).. I have had kids bite/punch/spit at me& some parents don't seem too concerned about it.. Or just too tired to deal with it! So anyway most of the time I love my job& I always love my (daycare) kids, but it definetly has its challenges!
@christycalifornia. Sorry i just noticed your post. I completely agree with the way you handled that situation. You were still teaching her cause n effect and allowing her some independence. Or at least you bent it to your will. Lol. I guess I should have specified. I think too many parents cave into their kids too easily because they just dont want to deal with the tantrum. Instead of using it as a learning opportunity. Drives me crazy, especially bc I feel close to them, like friends, but also work FOR them so its completely not my place to correct.
@christycalifornia. Sorry i just noticed your post. I completely agree with the way you handled that situation. You were still teaching her cause n effect and allowing her some independence. Or at least you bent it to your will. Lol. I guess I should have specified. I think too many parents cave into their kids too easily because they just dont want to deal with the tantrum. Instead of using it as a learning opportunity. Drives me crazy, especially bc I feel close to them, like friends, but also work FOR them so its completely not my place to correct.
This is one thing I've learned in the past couple years of parenting [my eldest is almost 9] is it is OKAY to say "no". It's good for them to hear it, and I can't feel guilty for it. My personality is to want to please and make people happy and that doesn't go well with parenting some [uhm, most] days. So I'm learning to say no completely guilt free! Parenting is a journey.
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DD: 07/19/18
EDD: 06/22/22
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Sorry, rant over now.
@zande2016 100% agree. I hate that elf with the fire of 1000 subs. But we do santa as "the spirit of Christmas" rather than a real person to believe in, so maybe I'm a Grinch about the whole "be good, Santa'a watching!" thing.
My UO: I hate the word Meh, and it automatically pits me against posts that start with them. (Sorry @4deep your post reminded me! Nothing personal meant! I agree with what you wrote though, so I got past the Meh!
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
@4deep well played.
Our elf brings a Christmas book the first day he is here and leaves Christmas pj’s on Christmas Eve with a note about how good she’s been. K