TTCAL Week of 11/13

honeybeebub

1. Introduce yourself (if new)
2. Status?
3. Rants/Raves:
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? 

honeybeebub

1. Introduce yourself - Not new, been around since May. 3 repeat losses. First cycle off the bench.  
2. Status? WTO, CD19. Not sure why it's so late without O. Not feeling great about this cycle. Thinking I should contact the RE to ask about how late O impacts things.  
3. Rants/Raves: Raves: Starting a new "diet" today, basically making good choices. The choices I know how to make but just don't want to when I'm feeling down (RIP Pizza). I know if I have to go back to the RE while we are trying, the first thing out of their mouth will be that I need to lose weight. So might as well kickstart that effort. 
Rants: I need to stop peeing on OPKs like it's going to change the result. Glad to be back at work so I'm away from them today. 
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? Definitely biting my nails. 

vlagrl29

If you have a later O @honeybeebub your LP will be longer resulting in a longer cycle.  At least that was my experience with later O days.

1 - Not New - WTO

R/R - Going to the lady gaga concert this wens and looking forward to it.  Rant is I'm glad to be busy but dang these last 2 weeks have been exhausting.  2 gigs plus teaching last week. This weekend is busy with my dads bday dinner friday and then turkey day early with my MIL on Saturday.

Mack2342

2. Status?  TWW 10 DPO
3. Rants/Raves: great weekend with my mom and sister.  My 2nd EDD was yesterday and not that bad I had a brief moment of sadness but basically filled day with loving on my family 
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? I leave the mail stacked on kitchen table for the week and then go through it in wkd.  It drives me nuts lol and every time I attempt to change I’m good for about a week and then go right back to it 

honeybeebub

@vlagrl29 Lady Gaga on Wednesday! Wow I definitely couldn't swing a Wednesday concert, but have a blast! 
@Mack2342 So glad that you had a great weekend. I do something similar, where I scan for anything important, and the rest just gets pushed into a pile that gets moved all over depending if I need to use the counter or table lol. You are testing tomorrow at 11DPO, right? 

eranvo27

Intro: Been here for a few weeks. Dumb noob question... What is WTO?

Status: Unknown. Temping doesn't seem to work at all for me because of my PCOS. Still on 2000mg of Metformin and still trying to figure out if we want to spend the money on a specialist because insurance doesn't cover anything infertility related. 

R/R: Two of my cousins posted their sonogram photos this weekend. I'm so tired of feeling angry and jealous. I feel like I am just beating a dead horse and people get tired of listening. I'm not sure how to deal with these feelings because I really don't  want to have them. On the up side this is our first Christmas in our new house and I am so excited about decorating!!! I've already got tons of plans thanks to Pinterest! Ive2been gathering supplies and getting started lol!

Worst habit: I'm honestly not sure... Probably that I constantly pick at the skin arpund my fingernails and cause hangnails. I try so hard not to but most of the time I dont relize I'm doing it until it is too late lol!

40momma

1. Not new, been here since the Spring. 3 consecutive losses.
2. Benched, last MC was 2 weeks ago. Hysteroscopy tomorrow. Hoping for answers but preparing myself for none. 
3. Rave - leave for Portugal on the weekend. Really looking forward to it. Rant - I feel like my 3 recent mc's have really messed with my weight and I'm feeling blah. On my last pg, as soon as I found out I scaled back on exercise, scared on getting my hb too high, then started spotting so cut out exercise altogether, then mc so curled up on the couch for a week and ate away my sorrow. 
4. I feel like I have a ton of bad habits. Probably my worst one is procrastinating but I also love the rush of having to power through something last minute because I've put it off until the 11th hour.

@eranvo27 WTO is waiting to ovulate. And congrats on your new home. We started listening to christmas music yesterday already

@Mack2342 hugs for you EDD, my first one is coming up on Dec 5th and luckily I'll be in Portugal so hoping to keep busy

@vlagrl29 have fun at Lady Gaga, what a great concert that should be 

@honeybeebub I hear ya on the pizza, hope you stay strong. 

pumpkinpancake

1. Introduce yourself (if new) not new anymore. 

2. Status? TWW, 12 dpo today. 

3. Rants/Raves: All BFNs for me so far, because obviously I have no self control
and have been POAS daily. I’m not surprised though, because I’ve never been able to turn a test early. The earliest I’ve ever had BFPs has been 13 and 15 dpo, so I’m still being optimistic! I’m also just happy that it seems my LP is back to normal, after having 7-8 day luteal phases the last two cycles. 

4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? I’m really bad about picking at my cuticles, and often do it without realizing when I’m watching tv or otherwise not paying attention. My husband hates it and is constantly hitting my hands to stop me when we’re sitting on the couch and he notices me doing it. 

@honeybeebub all three of my cycles so far after my loss have had late O, but each one has gotten slightly earlier and more “normal”. Hopefully your body just needs a little more time to adjust and will get there soon. 

@vlagrl29 have fun at lady Gaga!!

@Mack2342 glad you had a nice weekend with your family. My mom and sister were visiting this weekend too and it’s great how family can be a distraction sometimes. Also, unfortunately I’m the same way with the mail, and it gets to be ridiculous sometimes. 

@eranvo27  sorry about the sonograms. It’s ok to feel upset seeing them, don’t be too hard on yourself. 

@40momma so jealous of your trip to Portugal! Have an amazing time!!

vlagrl29

@honeybeebub - Oh I am aware I'm going to have a hard time teaching on Thurs morn after the concert lol.  DD is coming too and I'm thinking Dh can just take her into school a bit late cause I don't think I want to get up until about 8:30 on Thurs.  I've been to all her concerts thus far.  Her first concert I was in my first trimester with DD.  I was craving milk so bad I wanted to cry.  They went backstage to get me some milk because no where in the stadium did they sell milk and security didn't let me bring it in.  Last concert we bought ridic high bad seats and moved down - I'm  hoping for the same this one too.  I'm ready!

jchpg

1. Not new. I’ve been here since April.

2. WTO- cd 17. I thought I was going to get a Smiley face tonight - but nothing. Last month I Od late on cd 18... hoping for tomorrow. 

3. Some good friends told us this weekend that they are expecting in May. This is both a rant and a rave.... I am very excited for them-  but also very sad I am not pregnant yet. We saw them soon after our loss and talked about getting pregnant, timing, and uncertainty. They are also expats like us- which adds an extra level of uncertainty in when and WHERE to get pregnant. When they told us the news they also told us that thier choice to TTC was due to our conversation. While I’m sad that we are not PG yet- DH and I are trying to be very positive and know that we helped good friends realize they wanted a family soon and to get to this point. We’re all celebrating thanksgiving together next week... so I’ll be doing my best to keep my shit together.

4. I think my worst habit is using the kitchen table as a landing strip. I leave everything on the table when I get home and then it builds up all week until we are fed up and clean on the weekends... needless to say we eat dinner on the couch 

Mack2342

@honeybeebub I plan to test tomorrow but have to get more tests 

ELeighMay

Not new,  been here since July

CD 14 and got my solid smiley this morning. 
 
Rant: Workplace drama sucks. It makes it really hard to want to go to work. Because of it we had our internet mostly blocked off. This makes my job extremely difficult due to a large portion ou'd it being research. 

Rave: My solid smile is rock solid consistent at cd14. Now if i could just get the little swimmers to cooperate.  We have next month left of our TTC journey (if Nov is a bust) so I'm really hoping for the best, but am preparing for the worst to be safe. 

Bad Habit: I have several,  but I pick my cuticals until they bleed.

I'll have to comment and tag on everyone else later.  I loathe TB mobile.

fishee333

1. Introduce yourself (if new)  I've been here since August
2. Status? WTO. Still on the fence about trying this month due to insurance reasons. DH and I need to have a good talk about it all ASAP.
3. Rants/Raves: I am still really annoyed at health insurance in the US. Rave: I'm really looking forward to taking next week off and visiting family in Oregon for the whole week. DD is going to be in heaven hanging out with her cousins.
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? I have plenty. I also use my dining room table to put everything on, including all the mail that takes forever for me to look through. My habit that bugs me the most personally is I put everything off to "tonight" and then when "tonight" comes around, I get too tired to do anything. I used to be a night person so this used to work out for me, but not anymore. 

eranvo27

@40momma thank you for helping me get clued in!

@pumpkinpancake and @ELeighMay I'm glad I'm not alone on the cuticle thing...

@jchpg my kitchen table is the same way and we do the same thing lol! We got a shredder and put it next to the shelf in our front hall hoping it would help us shred the junk mail as soon as we came in the door... So far we only use it on weekends when we clear the table...

leahcimmichael

@honeybeebub Weird about the delayed O. What is your usual O day? Good luck with the eating changes. It’s so hard to do! Especially with the stress of TTC. 

@vlagrl29 Lady Gaga is amazing! I’m glad her tour is on. She had to cancel some of it due to fibromyalgia, right? Enjoy the show! 

@Mack2342 Sorry about the milestone. Those days are never fun. *hugs*

@eranvo27 The jealousy is the worst, isn’t it? Turns me into a completely different person. I try to give myself time and a place to let the ugliness out, so that I can put on a good face in front of people. It’s hard, though. And certain times in my cycle are worse than others. Have fun pinteresting! I’ve decided I’m making my Christmas cards this year, so I should prolly get started on that soon...

@40momma  Enjoy your trip to Portugal! I hope it’s fun and rejuvenating. You deserve good things! 

@pumpkinpancake  FX that you get a BFP soon! 

@jchpg  Hopefully you’ll get a solid smiley soon. Good perspective on your friend’s announcement. It is so hard to balance the happiness for others and sadness for yourself. When DH and I go visit babies or pregnant friends, I make sure we discuss an “escape plan” for if I feel overwhelmed. 

@ELeighMay Get it on, girl! Good luck to you this month! 

@fishee333 I think I do the same thing! In my 20s I was a complete night owl and would get home from work and still have 2-3 hours of productive energy before I started to wind down for the night. Now if something isn’t done by 2pm, it ain’t getting done! 

1. Not new. 
2. TWW. Had a weird cycle. OPK was positive Friday, but my temps didn’t increase until this morning. So sometime over the last 72 hours I ovulated... hopefully timing was ok. *shrug*
3. R/R. The 1 year anniversary of my 1st MC is tomorrow. I noticed I haven’t been crying as much as I used to, but I still get overwhelmed sometimes with how unfair this whole situation is. My neice’s 2nd Birthday was on Saturday and my sister announced to everyone her new pregnancy (she’d told me awhile ago so I wasn’t blindsided) and what I get to celebrate is the milestone of losing my first pregnancy and a diagnosis of unexplained infertility. It just sucks and I haven’t been able to find any way to make it not suck. 
4. My bad habit is weird. I obsessively comb my fingers through my hair and rub my scalp. I guess it’s self-soothing behavior, but I don’t even recognize I’m doing it most of the time. 

vlagrl29

@leahcimmichael - I think its different when they can't explain infertility.  I don't think you're infertile - you just aren't pregnant yet.  I'd recommend a full blood panel - if nothing else vit D and thyroid.

Kath525

1. 3rd cycle here. TTC since 1/17. CP 3/17. NMC 9/17.
2. WTO.
3. Rave: Had an amazing time in San Diego last week. Got back last night, so nice to be home though!
Rave??: we have a dr apt Wednesday to start discussing our next steps in our TTC journey... I'm a little nervous.
Rant: ***TW living children mentioned. 2 dr apts tomorrow for the kids because i think they BOTH have ear infections. This will be my son's 4th this year.... Ughhhhhh. End TW*
4. Worst habit is POAS. For sure.

@honeybeebub long WTO really suck. I've had a few. Makes for a loooong cycle. hope O pops up soon!
@Mack2342 Sorry about the EDD but glad you were surrounded by loved ones ❤
@40momma Have a blast in Portugal! Hope you get a chance to really relax and enjoy yourself.
@pumpkinpancake FX for you!

zamoraspin

@40momma  I similarly cut workouts out completely during this last pregnancy and am trying to get back on the healthy train. It’s an uphill struggle once I get out of the habit. Hope you have an amazing time in Portugal!
Will have to come back for more tags.

1. Introduce yourself (if new) Not new but haven’t been around a lot lately. 35, 3 mc’s, no living children.
2. Status? Benched
3. Rants/Raves: My RE called me on Friday with the results of the testing we did on the tissue from my d&c. She said they have not been able to amplify the embryo’s DNA and it lllks like the tests will be inconclusive which really was crushing. We are leaning towards trying for one more spontaneous pregnancy and if that doesn’t work out aim to try IVF with PGS February/March. I wish we had gotten answers because we are less sure about IVF not knowing for sure why the losses are happening.
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? Procrastination.

leahcimmichael

So hyped right now! I called my RE’s office to ask about starting medication next cycle as my CD1 is predicted to fall over the Thanksgiving holiday. Nurse was giving me basic info about the Clomid protocol (100mg, take CD3-7, etc). Then she said “call us when you get a positive OPK to come in for IUI.” OMG!!!! I was thinking we’d do 3 months of Clomid before moving on to IUI, but I gotta say I like this plan better! This doc is not pussyfooting around! 

vlagrl29

That's cool @leahcimmichael - is that also done with clomid?

zamoraspin

@leahcimmichael Awesome! Fx for your IUI!

fishee333

@leahcimmichael Yay that's great!!!

staylor3

1. Introduce yourself: I'm new. I had a D&C on 11/7
2. Status? Right now, just waiting for things to regulate. I think I'm about done bleeding and my temps dripped back below my old coverline for the last 2 days. 
3. Rants/Raves: Rant, the new nurse at my doctor's office. I was having a pretty good day at work and then I get a call from her to tell me the pathology from the tissue from my D&C showed "products of conception". I know they probably call everyone with path results but it hit me hard for some reason. The rest of the day at work I was fighting off tears.
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? I am terrible at finishing projects. I get so excited to start a project but now I have so many partially finished in the basement.

40momma

So incredibly frustrated right now. My hysteroscopy was scheduled this afternoon. I couldn't eat anything after midnight. Went into the hospital at 12:30 and sat in the waiting room until 2pm. Finally the nurse called me in to get changed and ready and then after that another nurse came in to tell me we had to cancel the procedure today as the doctor got held up. Which of course I totally understand but it's just all so frustrating. I know there's a good chance I wouldn't have gotten any answers today anyway but it's still such a roller coaster of a ride. They said they would reschedule but I leave on Sunday for 2.5 weeks and this just pushes everything further back. 

pumpkinpancake

Ugh @40momma that really sucks. I know those things happen with doctors getting held up, but I’d definitely be frustrated too. Hope you can still enjoy your trip and just get this rescheduled without too much delay. 

leahcimmichael

@staylor3 That’s all the information she had? They ruined your day for that? I’m so sorry. Everything feels so raw early on. 

@40momma That is so frustrating! I know things happen, but going through all the waiting and prep just to get sent home sucks!

@vlagrl29 Did some research and IUI can be done with Clomid. Success rate is lower than with gonadotropins, but Clomid is more affordable so we’ll give it a couple rounds! If it works, awesome. If not, it means less time until we do IVF. 

vlagrl29

@leahcimmichael well I wish you lots of luck with this route!

Sorry for for having to delay the procedure @40momma how annoying!

fishee333

@staylor3 I'm so sorry.

@40momma Ugh how frustrating. I'm sorry

whit789

1. Introduce yourself: Hi I’m new to the board, although I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks. I had a natural miscarriage about 3 weeks ago and am cautiously optimistic about TTC soon. Just working on healing at the moment.
2. Status?: waiting for first AF since loss.
3. Rants/Raves: Feeling distrustful of my body and unclear of its signals kinda sucks. Trying to get back to a regular yoga practice to help.  Rave about season 8 of the great British Bake Off, such a feel good show

vlagrl29

Sorry for your loss @oldestberry I love yoga! Been doing it for 4 years. 

Mack2342

Sorry for your loss @oldestberry but welcome 

honeybeebub

Just catching up …

 @vlagrl29 Have fun at Gaga tonight  

@oldestberry Sorry for your loss and welcome to the group.

@40momma Ugh, that is super frustrating. You are more understanding than I am for sure. Hopefully they will put you in as top priority so you can be scheduled before your trip.

@staylor3 I’m sorry that the nurse was not helpful. Why would they even call you to tell you that? Obviously that’s why you were there. I remember they billed my D&C as an abortion, like I chose to lose my child – healthcare needs some more sensitivity built into it.

@leahcimmichael Wow that is awesome! What’s the name of your doctor, because I need to get my uterus there ASAP!

@zamora_spin So sorry, I know you had mentioned this being the worst case scenario. FX that you will get your BFP before moving to IVF w/PGS.

@kath525 Hope everyone is feeling better and that you had a great time! Unfortunately no sign of O at CD21 for me, and stark white OPKs… so I’m guessing I either didn’t O or I missed the surge while testing. There were a few days that were close to positive, but nothing glaring.

@fishee333 When do you need to decide by? I share your annoyance at health insurance. The bills keep coming in

@eleighmay Wow they blocked your internet? Must have been pretty juicy drama to go that far. 

Kath525

@oldestberry So sorry for your loss. I hope your stay here is short. In the meantime, welcome.
@honeybeebub that's so frustrating. I'm sorry. Strange it would start get dark and then got lighter. Do you check twice a day?

dpjennifer

2. Status? CD 21, WTO

3. Rants/Raves:
Rant: Stupid 50 day cycle pushed this cycle back so I'll ovulate with 10 DPO (date progesterone biopsy is supposed to be) falling over Thanksgiving weekend. And office is an hour or so away from my house, so hugely inconvenient. Stupid body. 
Rave: This weekend I have a Civil War event in Gettysburg, where I'm planning a dinner and am super excited about it. 

4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? Ugh. I procrastinate!!!!

40momma  Enjoy your trip to Portugal! I hope you have an awesome time! Also, I definitely feel like my 4 MCs have affected my weight like you wouldn’t believe. I feel like I’m in a constant state of trying to lose weight and be healthy, I get PG, I’m not allowed to skate and spending so much time going for betas I don’t have time to exercise, I get the early bloat from PG, then I end up having a MC and I’m depressed on the couch for weeks. Ugh! Also, sorry about the rescheduled test. Super frustrating!

zamora_spin Sorry about the inconclusive results. That’s crushing. 

fishee333

@honeybeebub Well we have to decide ASAP since today is CD10 and I'll be ovulating soon. Leaning towards yes... I have some tricks up my sleeve with how to deal with the insurance issue. 

@oldestberry Sorry for your loss, and welcome. 

@dpjennifer The civil war event sounds awesome. Have fun!

zamoraspin

@dpjennifer Thanks, yes, crushing is a good word. Also, "spend so much time going in for betas I don't have time to exercise." Ummh, yes, it is amazing how beta hell takes over your life when you have RPL. 

staylor3

@honeybeebub
I completely agree about healthcare being more sensitive. I'm a nurse and work in the OR so I understand "products of conception".  I think just hearing it in reference to me was way harder than I expected.  The nurse easily could have said the results were as expected or something like that.  I know I am hypersensitive right but I think most everyone in this position is.  

majormayhem210

1. Hi, I’m Laura
2. Just had my first mc. 
3. Just ready to get past this and try again. Although Facebooks targeted ads are pretty insensitive! My husband even removed the feature and I’m still getting pregnancy ads. My bestie just went through ivf and only got on good embryo. I really want to talk to her about my mc but she didn’t even know I was pregnant and I can’t burden her when she’s got enough on her plate right now. Still need someone who’s not my DH to talk to so here I am!
4. I twirl my hair constantly. It’s very calming and I don’t do it consciously but it’s also like a compulsion when I do realize I’m doing it.

vlagrl29

The gaga concert was amazing! We had great seats and I stood up and danced most of the night. That lady knows how to put on a great show. This is my 3rd time seeing her.

robyn2201

1. Introduce yourself (if new) not new, m/c in July
2. Status? TWW, 4DPO
3. Rants/Raves: I ovulated way earlier this cycle, only CD 18 this time! Way better than CD31 last cycle! I semi stepped away from the board these past two weeks. I think my over analyzing my cycle caused my late ovulation last month. 
4. GTKY: What's your worst habit? I am a major procrastinator. I put stuff off until the very last moment. 

Mack2342

Welcome @majormayhem210 and so sorry for your loss