@Crystal321 I just started potty training my LO too... so far it has consisted of him screaming bloody murder to get off and clawing at me to pick him up. He's even picked out one of his stuffed animals to use as a "potty buddy" that I make speak silly... nada. He can point to the potty and understand that it's the "potty," but he is HELL BEST against using it. I am impressed by, and extremely jealous of, your progress. You got this!
@d_marie_23 it will happen! My son HATED the potty at first, so I gave up trying and a few months later he got interested in it on his own, I just had to keep offering it.
@acunamatada Thanks, that's awesome to hear! *sigh* I'm yeah not overly concerned cause it's not like he'll go to college not being able to "use the big boy potty," Lol. I'm just hoping to be out of diapers before this next one. But yeah, knowing his personality I'm probably just going to have to wait until it's HIS idea to it. Where the hell did all his stubbornness and sass come from?!?... oh yeah, that's right, his father, lol.
@d_marie_23 that is my goal as well, to have her out of diapers before the 9 months are up. I was hoping to wait until she was acting ready as well, but she doesn't seem to care at all if her diaper is wet or dirty.
this my current happening. laying on the bathroom floor feeling like general death while my toddler brings me random things from my make up bag and hands them to me. Dont worry nothing toxic she can get into. I am not sure if I have the most thoughtul daughter trying to bring me things to be nice or if these are offerings and I am a sacrifice she is about to make haha
My bitchfest - the "Old White Man Syndrome" that infects my school >:(
I teach in a rural Native Alaskan Subsistence village. Imagine an inner city "ghetto" school combined with a Reservation school, combined with lack of resources and services because we are literally in the middle of Western Alaska in a village of under 400 with roads or medical services or stores or anything else. Basic necessities require a plane ride or boat ride to get to the nearest "city" of about 6,000 with actual services.
We are trying to work with a population that in large part does not want us here. The regional school board president "envisions a school system with Native teachers that do not need to be certified and students that do not need to take tests" direct quote.
That makes our jobs hard enough, but OMG! The bulk of the teachers here are OLD and WHITE (I'm white too, but damn these people!). I mean 60+ years old with few exceptions. They don't really believe or support Special Ed (my job) or hands on learning, or project based learning (shown to be most effective with populations like this) and do nothing but WHINE about the kids and the principal (who is an old white man, but embraces new ideas and projects and community learning, I love my principal, best one I have ever worked for). They keep saying "if it ain't broke don't fix it" except it IS broke! Seriously broke! What has been done traditionally DOESN'T work and hasn't worked for years, so why not try something fucking new and see if that works!!!!!!!
Sorry, this subject brings out my pregnancy rage in a big way.
@AKFarmerBecky first of all thank you thank you thank you for the job you do! we need caring and awesome people like you in schools. 2nd I hate people who dont understand and dont try to understand and are just so stuck in there ways.
My bitchfest - the "Old White Man Syndrome" that infects my school >:(
I teach in a rural Native Alaskan Subsistence village. Imagine an inner city "ghetto" school combined with a Reservation school, combined with lack of resources and services because we are literally in the middle of Western Alaska in a village of under 400 with roads or medical services or stores or anything else. Basic necessities require a plane ride or boat ride to get to the nearest "city" of about 6,000 with actual services.
We are trying to work with a population that in large part does not want us here. The regional school board president "envisions a school system with Native teachers that do not need to be certified and students that do not need to take tests" direct quote.
That makes our jobs hard enough, but OMG! The bulk of the teachers here are OLD and WHITE (I'm white too, but damn these people!). I mean 60+ years old with few exceptions. They don't really believe or support Special Ed (my job) or hands on learning, or project based learning (shown to be most effective with populations like this) and do nothing but WHINE about the kids and the principal (who is an old white man, but embraces new ideas and projects and community learning, I love my principal, best one I have ever worked for). They keep saying "if it ain't broke don't fix it" except it IS broke! Seriously broke! What has been done traditionally DOESN'T work and hasn't worked for years, so why not try something fucking new and see if that works!!!!!!!
Sorry, this subject brings out my pregnancy rage in a big way.
Oh this makes me angry. My son is in a special education program where we live. He has short term memory issues and speech issues. He learns hands on, I did as well and I have been out of school for ten years. It's the reason I graduated on time. I love my special education teachers. People who cannot see progress need to retire. They clearly aren't teaching to help children anymore and are only teaching to get a paycheck. Ugh makes my blood boil.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
bdesterhouse for real. These people are way past retirement and are here because the money is really good. Better than most of the lower 48. It is the first time I have been able to pay my bills AND pay student loans, buy stuff my kids need, not beg my dad for money. It's pretty awesome.
My oldest is SPED for EBD. An Autism Spectrum Disorder that means he has issues with regulating and handling his emotions. This is a kid at extremes most of the time. He has little to no middle with emotional stuff. With coping skills, meeting with the counselor, meeting with a therapist when we lived in the lower 48 he has made a LOT of progress. Up here, he gets almost no help, and I am not allowed to be his SPED teacher. The teacher who is his case manager has only meet with him a handful of times. And has him on a "behavioral reward system" with our 2 extreme intensive needs kids (should be in a self contained SCHOOL not here, but that is another issue). My kid is leading the pack and getting all the rewards, mainly because he does not NEED behavioral intervention, he needs coping and social emotional help. He needs a way to control/tamp down the rage or recognize when it starts. When he KNOWS he is getting angry he can deal with it. That is what is in his IEP.
Ok, I have a bunch of issues here, sorry. This does not matter to anyone but me, I know. I thank anyone who read this! Obviously I needed to get it off my chest today.
@AKFarmerBecky that sounds so frustrating - both the people at the school you work at, and your son not getting what he needs. I work in the special ed field, advocating for kids to get the services they need. Is there anything like that available near you? Attorneys or special ed advocates? I am guessing maybe not because of how rural you are, but it's still America and your son is still entitled to an appropriate education and all the protections of the IDEA. Sorry you're going through that.
We’re trying to wean DS(23mo) off the pacifier. It’s terrible. DD was weaned when she was 15mo and I feel like it was SO much easier. He cries for it and my newly pregnant overly emotional self can’t handle it.
@AKFarmerBecky you totally should. If the school where you live can't provide what his IEP clearly says he needs, it's on them to bring someone in and make a program to properly educate him.
I can't life today. Having only two kids at this point is tempting... I want to have a third bec it looks fun... but man this shit is hard! I asked DH this morning why making a baby needs to be so hard!? and he just laughed at me. I think he enjoys seeing me go through pregnancy... what an ass.
We’re trying to wean DS(23mo) off the pacifier. It’s terrible. DD was weaned when she was 15mo and I feel like it was SO much easier. He cries for it and my newly pregnant overly emotional self can’t handle it.
Also, I want fruity pebbles.
I need to wean DD (18 months) from her paci too. My thought was to cut it down to just sleep and naps. This morning I tried telling her to leave it in the crib and say bye bye. Meltdown ensued. I am going to have a battle on my hands but I for sure what her to kick the paci before this baby comes.
@junabugtunabug the struggle is real. I had no issue that was even a part of pregnancy until it hit me, and it was brutal. I had to take colace daily, or bad things happened.
THIS KID!!! DS locked me out of the house today while I was letting the dog out.. With the stove on. Cue me freaking out and calling DH to come home from work and unlock the door. As I'm on the phone, DS figures out how to unlock the door, lets me in, and says "oh hi mama!" like nothing happened.
@acunamatada Hahaha! I'm sorry, but I am laughing so hard. I no EXACTLY how you feel. My son does the same thing. My son full on says "bye bye mama!" and shuts and locks the door and just busts a gut laughing hysterically when I knock on the door and asking him to please open it. Breaking into our apartment is way too common an occurrence.
@d_marie_23 yeah he's closed the door behind me sooo many times and said "bye mama!" but he's never figured out the lock! We've got one window that's really easy to break into if you climb a tree but I wouldn't have been able to open the window from the outside. I'll be making a spare key for our breezeway in the near future
@bdesterhouse you are so sweet; I feel so loved. I had a bad mommy morning and spent the rest of the day trying to make up for it. My kid's a sweetie, and I'm trying not to drown in Mom Guilt (tm). It was no big deal, didn't mean to make any of you worry. Guess it shows how chatty I am on here!
I had a rough day at work. It started with my boss chain emailing me saying, "WHAT THE (blepp) HAPPENED?" Work ended with my condescending prick of a night-shift team lead asking me why I was leaving early (you know, I only left thirty minutes after my shift instead of two hours), only to come home with my DS - who has been an angel by the way - and work. SO drank a few too many and fell asleep early. I just finished everything for work and as I'm putting my angel to bed I get a text from my boss demanding I come in early.
Today was not a great day at work. We were way busier than expected and understaffed. There is a teenage hostess with the biggest attitude problem and today she made one of my new hires, a really sweet girl in her mid-twenties, cry. Her attitude doesn’t get to me that much because I have other shit to worry about, but it’s another thing to mess with my staff. So we had a talk and I made her cry (not on purpose) but I just don’t have time to deal with the drama anymore. Of course I can’t fire her because she’s a relative of the owner... what’s the point of being a manager if I can’t manage how I see fit? I’ve been in the restaurant industry for too long...
Re: Monday B*tchfest 11/13
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Rainbow Baby! BFP 02/20/2018 EDD 11/01/2018
BFP 10/31/2017 EDD 07/09/2018 Miscarriage 11/28/2017
DD # 1: BFP 5/22/2014 EDD 1/30/2015 Born 02/06/2015
Best of luck to you!
DD: 07/19/18
EDD: 06/22/22
I teach in a rural Native Alaskan Subsistence village. Imagine an inner city "ghetto" school combined with a Reservation school, combined with lack of resources and services because we are literally in the middle of Western Alaska in a village of under 400 with roads or medical services or stores or anything else. Basic necessities require a plane ride or boat ride to get to the nearest "city" of about 6,000 with actual services.
We are trying to work with a population that in large part does not want us here. The regional school board president "envisions a school system with Native teachers that do not need to be certified and students that do not need to take tests" direct quote.
That makes our jobs hard enough, but OMG! The bulk of the teachers here are OLD and WHITE (I'm white too, but damn these people!). I mean 60+ years old with few exceptions. They don't really believe or support Special Ed (my job) or hands on learning, or project based learning (shown to be most effective with populations like this) and do nothing but WHINE about the kids and the principal (who is an old white man, but embraces new ideas and projects and community learning, I love my principal, best one I have ever worked for). They keep saying "if it ain't broke don't fix it" except it IS broke! Seriously broke! What has been done traditionally DOESN'T work and hasn't worked for years, so why not try something fucking new and see if that works!!!!!!!
Sorry, this subject brings out my pregnancy rage in a big way.
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
My oldest is SPED for EBD. An Autism Spectrum Disorder that means he has issues with regulating and handling his emotions. This is a kid at extremes most of the time. He has little to no middle with emotional stuff. With coping skills, meeting with the counselor, meeting with a therapist when we lived in the lower 48 he has made a LOT of progress. Up here, he gets almost no help, and I am not allowed to be his SPED teacher. The teacher who is his case manager has only meet with him a handful of times. And has him on a "behavioral reward system" with our 2 extreme intensive needs kids (should be in a self contained SCHOOL not here, but that is another issue). My kid is leading the pack and getting all the rewards, mainly because he does not NEED behavioral intervention, he needs coping and social emotional help. He needs a way to control/tamp down the rage or recognize when it starts. When he KNOWS he is getting angry he can deal with it. That is what is in his IEP.
Ok, I have a bunch of issues here, sorry. This does not matter to anyone but me, I know. I thank anyone who read this! Obviously I needed to get it off my chest today.
Also, I want fruity pebbles.
Now if someone else can carry my boob until like.... 2019, that'd be great.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
We've got one window that's really easy to break into if you climb a tree but I wouldn't have been able to open the window from the outside. I'll be making a spare key for our breezeway in the near future
Edit: nevermind. I read and caught up. READ, Christy, READ!
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
So. Done.
There is a teenage hostess with the biggest attitude problem and today she made one of my new hires, a really sweet girl in her mid-twenties, cry. Her attitude doesn’t get to me that much because I have other shit to worry about, but it’s another thing to mess with my staff.
So we had a talk and I made her cry (not on purpose) but I just don’t have time to deal with the drama anymore. Of course I can’t fire her because she’s a relative of the owner... what’s the point of being a manager if I can’t manage how I see fit? I’ve been in the restaurant industry for too long...