@ashleyf911 I feel you. I'm a FTM (and MoM), and I tend to agree with you on the planned CS preference, and have experienced some side eye for that ... *TW my grandmother had a stillborn that should have been a CS and so we are kind of a pro CS family... this was a long time ago and obviously monitoring is totally different now but it's hard to not think about stuff like that. *End TW I know it's major surgery and nothing in life is predictable, but the number of things that can happen in a vaginal delivery especially for twins really freaks me out and I like to have a sense of control (even if it's totally false!) over these sorts of things.
What worries me (*besides the potential for complications that can effect the babies longterm, such as being very preterm, which is obviously a bigger concern I try reallllly hard not to think about daily), is the possibility of having both a vaginal delivery and an emergency CS and thus having to deal with the complications and recovery processes for BOTH. I keep hearing completely contradictory statistics about the possibility of this, as well as the likelihood of planning a CS for MoMs. Obviously I want everything to go smoothly and not to have a reason for a CS at the same, but I have really mixed feelings about it and am mostly terrified of both types of delivery. My OB seems to be discouraging a CS at this point, but with twins, that could definitely change.
@cford08 My nurse was so rude. She kept saying, “I’m pretty sure you just need to drink water, or maybe you have a migraine, you get those, right?” Yeah lady, I do, been getting them since I was 9 and this is NOT one. The minute I would sit or stand up the pressure would rush through my neck to the top of my skull. It honestly felt like the top of my head was going to blow off. For 10. Days. I tried to shower at the hospital and thought I was going to pass out from all of the pressure so I got out and they finally called in my doctor who called anesthesia. Had to wait to attempt the spinal block the next day due to just having a dose of lovenox for FVL. Did that and it took the edge off for about half of a day before the pressure and misery came back with a vengeance. They offered to attempt another patch, but there were too many dangers involved with the first one much less attempting a second so I pushed through for the next week. Fortunately DH was able to take the rest of that time off to help me and bring her to me every time she needed to nurse, changed all of her diapers, dressed her, etc during that time. I just don’t know if I want to risk that again, but realistically don’t know what I will think mid labor pains...
Yeah those were my exact symptoms... I've been trying to watch natural labor video to see what I'm in for. But you never knew what could happen....
Re: Fears surrounding giving birth
What worries me (*besides the potential for complications that can effect the babies longterm, such as being very preterm, which is obviously a bigger concern I try reallllly hard not to think about daily), is the possibility of having both a vaginal delivery and an emergency CS and thus having to deal with the complications and recovery processes for BOTH. I keep hearing completely contradictory statistics about the possibility of this, as well as the likelihood of planning a CS for MoMs. Obviously I want everything to go smoothly and not to have a reason for a CS at the same, but I have really mixed feelings about it and am mostly terrified of both types of delivery. My OB seems to be discouraging a CS at this point, but with twins, that could definitely change.