We have always asked DS who is 3 if he wanted to be a big brother his answer was always "no". So we have been trying to talk to him about it. He tells is he wants a baby sister and he will help change poopy diapers. He hasn't told anyone at preschool yet. which is lucky, im hoping he wont spill the beans just yet.
@celainev All my ideas involve screens. No, I just try to keep around lots of paper and markers and Play-Doh type stuff. And take her to the park so she can play and I can be a lump on a bench if I need to.
So DS is 12 months in a week, will be 20 months when #2 arrives. Is there going to be any point in this timeframe that he will semi understand what is happening? Any advice on how to “prepare” him? I don’t know if it’s even possible at this age so...
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014 Married: August 2015 DS: Nov 2016 (36w) Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
@djh513 DS is 28 months now and if a baby came tomorrow I don't think he would fully "understand." My younger sister gave him a couple of her baby dolls when we started TTC to get him interested and I think that has helped. He puts his babies down to sleep when he goes to bed among other adorable things that make my ovaries weep. He's been very into babies lately, he saw one at my doctors appointment and just went "oh wow". I think by the time his brother/sister is here he will have a better understanding but he's also not very verbal right now so it's difficult to tell.
Has anyone looked into baby classes yet? I was trying to find a delivery doctor or CNM, and I found a great birthing center nearby that offers classes and one is for kids! To help older siblings to know what to expect when the baby comes! It made me super happy and I've never heard of this before, but it made me wonder if anyone else has some nearby. I think it'll be so helpful for The Bean closer to my due date, and I'm going to sign her up for sure.
@bdesterhouse regarding creepy kids, I posted this on another thread, but it's in that same category.
this is an IVF (fet actually) pregnancy. I had already decided to start testing early to help with my anxiety after the previous two failed. On day 3 after transfer I tested and it was blank. On day 4 I decided not to test, but the weirdest thing happened, my 2 year old came up to me, put her hand on my belly, smiled, and said Baby. She isn't around pregnant people or shouldn't really have any concept of it, so it really weirded me out. I tested day 5 and saw the second line.
She hasn't done it again, so it was probably a fluke, just really strange.
@Crystal321 man, kids know stuff! My friend went on a vacation with her husband and when her dad asked her daughter (whom he was watching) what she thought mom and dad would bring her back from vacation, she said "a baby brother!" They got pregnant while on the trip and had a boy. My DD knew I was pregnant with my last, she told her babysitter and the next day I got a bfp. They got a connection with something bigger than us, man.
@lindsayleigh1989 I don't know! I'd never heard of it, but that's why I mentioned it because I think it's such a good idea, and thought others might want to check. The class description said for any older sibling to learn in a fun, interactive environment what to expect with a baby in the house. I wouldn't think for kids under one, but older I'd assume would benefit.
I think classes are a good idea but my 19 month old I think is too young but may closer to EDD. I pointed at my tummy and said baby and kisses- he just shook his head no and got mad lol. His sitter take care of a little girl that is 9 months younger and he loves her so I think he’ll be ok - I hope lol
I already fully expect my daughter to be insanely jealous. She is 2 now and craves my attention at all times. I am sure though that after the baby is a bit older she will come around. She is a very sweet kid, just greedy for my attention
Yeah, I'm not even thinking of taking my kid until about a month before. Her memory is impressive, but I really want it to stick. She's super ready for a sibling and loves kids, but I know it'll be different when it's a baby in our house who's never going to go away lol. And I think it'll be fun for her, she loves classes and learning, and since it's free I'm like, why not?
First post here. My 20 month old DD has been loving babies lately. We took her to a pumpkin patch where she yelled BABY and ran up to every stroller there. LOL
So I'm guessing she'll be excited! I'm nervous though - should get the results of my first beta on Monday and my ultrasound isn't scheduled until 12/1. Sigh. Hopefully the beta looks good!
So DS decided to tell everyone at dinner last night that he is getting a little brother or sister possibly even both. We haven’t told him yet. We are telling him Thursday night if the ultrasound goes well. I told my husband we will need to tell family on thanksgiving so I can tell my aunt in person. No one seemed to be listening or took him seriously at dinner last night so I’m hoping it’s still a surprise.oh and I accidentally told my brother my betas via text. I thought I was texting a friend who has gone through fertility stuff too. Luckily I was able to play it off and say it was fertility numbers and he goes I have no clue what even if that means, but I’m super hopeful. So I know he’ll be excited for us.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
Hello! I’m a third time mom. The gap between my 1st and 2nd is 14 years so introducing a little one to a 2.5 (will be 3.5 by the time baby comes) is new to me. How can I go about doing so? I don’t want her to feel like she’s losing her “baby” spot. Because she really isn’t. She’ll always be my baby.
Haaay there. Mom of 3 boys here. Ages 9, 6, 3. We haven’t told them yet and won’t until after the holidays, probably beginning of the year before they go back to school. No clue how I’m going to handle four kids but I felt the same way with number 3 and number 2.
So, I am a STM due on July 13th! My first son was born in December 2015 so he is about to turn two. We have wanted to have number two for a while now but my husband was deployed so we weren't able to start trying until recently. Surprisingly enough, I got pregnant two weeks after he got home! (This was after my doctor told me my thyroid levels were way to high to conceive. Shows how much he knows )
Anyway, I am super nervous about having two littles.. My almost two year old has started being super clingy lately. We just moved him to his own bed because he pretty much stopped sleeping in our bed for some reason (he was waking up multiple times per night to play/cry). Since moving him he sleeps a lot better which is awesome, but I am also a little sad because it means he's practically a grown up
Heeeeey y’all. I’ve got #3 on the way. There was a five year difference between DD and DS so I felt like that was a little easier since DD could help me out a little bit and also do some things on her own. DS will be 2.5 when this one gets here so I’m kind of nervous to how that transition will work.
This baby is the first for my husband so I’m really excited for him. He does great with the older two so I know he’ll be a champ.
@christycalifornia I took DD to a siblings class about a month before DS was born. She was almost 5 at the time.
Definetely do it it if you can! They had kids of all ages in there. Some of it was about how to help mommy and a lot of times mommy will be busy with the new baby and that’s it’s ok and mommy still loves you. I was nervous about DD being jealous because she’s only had me all five years of her life. After the class though, she started putting her babies in the swing and being all lovey to the new baby things in the house.
STM and I honestly cannot remember being this nervous with my first pregnancy. The doctors around here don't do blood work, and my lines are so light compared to last time.
My daughter turned in September, and i can't wait to tell her she's gonna be a big sister.
@ramfam2507 Thats awesome! I'm definitely signing up my daughter! I don't worry about her because she's extremely excited about the baby and good at sharing in general, but I know it's different when it's in your house, and a baby that will never go away. And she always does best when she has a clear idea of what's coming and what she can expect.
My DD is 2.5yrs and has also been praying for baby sister. Haha. Dont know how shell take it if its a boy. We haven't told her yet. She would tell everyone for sure, so we're waiting til this monday and telling family on thanksgiving. Im so excited, but have all the anxieties you have all mentioned about having another babe. Evalee was the sweetest, best baby and is still a wonderful toddler. She sleeps well and eats anything you give her. Way ahead of the game socially and physically. I blame it on being "overcooked" cuz we had to be induced at 42weeks. Haha. So im so anxious about possibly having a normal child or even a hellion Lol.
Also, today DD finally put on and kept on her Elsa costume she got last year for christmas and it was the cutest thing ever!! Her and Daddy danced around the play room to Let it Go and I bawled like a baby trying to secretly video tape them from the other room.
@junabugtunabug I'm also finding myself way more anxious this time. I'm driving myself crazy. Today has been the worst of it. I keep comparing symptoms and they are different and it's freaking me out. Which, I know logically they say every pregnancy is different. I have my first Dr's appointment Thursday and can barely wait. I know I'm not going to feel better until I get u/s done at the following appointment.
I’m feeling super anxious and stressed, not about the baby but just in general! Anyone else?
Yes. It’s terrible. I normally never feel this way.
I’m right there with y’all. Just found out yesterday that we are moving soon. We are military overseas in the U.K. and moving here is a freaking nightmare. Pray for me lol
Hi all - I thought I had posted here and didn't! I've got 2 and 4 years olds and am (obvi) pregnant again. We had actually decided our family felt complete when bam BFP... So we were happily surprised! Tw* I had a loss between our two boys and then a rough go with my second pregnancy as I had a velamentous cord and was convinced the baby wouldn't survive so I'm just a giant bundle of nerves right now* got the bfp a week ago today and it has been the longest week of my life!
I can totally relate with the anxiety! I gotta admit- I have a love/hate relationship with TB. Don’t get me wrong, I love the support from everyone (which is why I’m a part of it) but it also makes me a little obsessive about my pregnancy and a little more anxious. I actually had to drop out from the TTGP group because I felt like I was getting a little too obsessed with the whole process and TB wasn’t helping me think about something else. It’s like I can sense everyone else’s anxiety! That being said, I love my April 16 group on Facebook since we all “graduated” from TB after we had the kiddos!
I can totally relate with the anxiety! I gotta admit- I have a love/hate relationship with TB. Don’t get me wrong, I love the support from everyone (which is why I’m a part of it) but it also makes me a little obsessive about my pregnancy and a little more anxious. I actually had to drop out from the TTGP group because I felt like I was getting a little too obsessed with the whole process and TB wasn’t helping me think about something else. It’s like I can sense everyone else’s anxiety! That being said, I love my April 16 group on Facebook since we all “graduated” from TB after we had the kiddos!
I had same experience with my TTGP app "Glow" loved the support but stressed me out so much. This past month I deleted it off my phone and with our move to the new house, I barely thought about TTC at all. Crazy that this was the month we concieved too! Think there's something to that ;b
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Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014
Married: August 2015
DS: Nov 2016 (36w)
Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
I think by the time his brother/sister is here he will have a better understanding but he's also not very verbal right now so it's difficult to tell.
this is an IVF (fet actually) pregnancy. I had already decided to start testing early to help with my anxiety after the previous two failed. On day 3 after transfer I tested and it was blank. On day 4 I decided not to test, but the weirdest thing happened, my 2 year old came up to me, put her hand on my belly, smiled, and said Baby. She isn't around pregnant people or shouldn't really have any concept of it, so it really weirded me out. I tested day 5 and saw the second line.
She hasn't done it again, so it was probably a fluke, just really strange.
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014
Married: August 2015
DS: Nov 2016 (36w)
Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
So I'm guessing she'll be excited! I'm nervous though - should get the results of my first beta on Monday and my ultrasound isn't scheduled until 12/1. Sigh. Hopefully the beta looks good!
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Rainbow Baby! BFP 02/20/2018 EDD 11/01/2018
BFP 10/31/2017 EDD 07/09/2018 Miscarriage 11/28/2017
DD # 1: BFP 5/22/2014 EDD 1/30/2015 Born 02/06/2015
Any tips would be great.
Rainbow Baby! BFP 02/20/2018 EDD 11/01/2018
BFP 10/31/2017 EDD 07/09/2018 Miscarriage 11/28/2017
DD # 1: BFP 5/22/2014 EDD 1/30/2015 Born 02/06/2015
So, I am a STM due on July 13th! My first son was born in December 2015 so he is about to turn two. We have wanted to have number two for a while now but my husband was deployed so we weren't able to start trying until recently. Surprisingly enough, I got pregnant two weeks after he got home! (This was after my doctor told me my thyroid levels were way to high to conceive. Shows how much he knows
Anyway, I am super nervous about having two littles.. My almost two year old has started being super clingy lately. We just moved him to his own bed because he pretty much stopped sleeping in our bed for some reason (he was waking up multiple times per night to play/cry). Since moving him he sleeps a lot better which is awesome, but I am also a little sad because it means he's practically a grown up
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
This baby is the first for my husband so I’m really excited for him. He does great with the older two so I know he’ll be a champ.
Definetely do it it if you can! They had kids of all ages in there. Some of it was about how to help mommy and a lot of times mommy will be busy with the new baby and that’s it’s ok and mommy still loves you. I was nervous about DD being jealous because she’s only had me all five years of her life. After the class though, she started putting her babies in the swing and being all lovey to the new baby things in the house.
My daughter turned in September, and i can't wait to tell her she's gonna be a big sister.
Im so excited, but have all the anxieties you have all mentioned about having another babe. Evalee was the sweetest, best baby and is still a wonderful toddler. She sleeps well and eats anything you give her. Way ahead of the game socially and physically. I blame it on being "overcooked" cuz we had to be induced at 42weeks. Haha. So im so anxious about possibly having a normal child or even a hellion Lol.
Also, today DD finally put on and kept on her Elsa costume she got last year for christmas and it was the cutest thing ever!! Her and Daddy danced around the play room to Let it Go and I bawled like a baby trying to secretly video tape them from the other room.
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014
Married: August 2015
DS: Nov 2016 (36w)
Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018