December 2017 Moms

Guests refuse to use registry


Re: Guests refuse to use registry

  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    edited November 2017
    I actually got only one swaddle (plus one Halo swaddle sleep sack that I registered for) and no bath sets as gifts. I'd heard people buy you that stuff whether you're registered for them or not. It works for me because we already do have various swaddles and I have sample bath stuff and it's not like it's super expensive for me to buy bath stuff.

    I got at least three of the toys with the ring on them that you hook to the stroller handle (that I didn't register for) and of course, clothes. Buuut I got zero newborn clothes. I got a few 0-3 months, but I think a lot of people also assumed everyone else would buy the newborn/0-3 month sizes and tried to buy bigger to help us out.

    We also have a million pacifier clips.

    I just thought it was interesting that my experience differed quite a bit from what I'd heard!
    Me: 29 || DH: 29
    TTC #1 4/2016 || dx NIR PCOS 7/2016 || BFP 4/2017
    DD - 12/28/17 <3

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  • This all makes me want to design a survey about registries and showers.  B)  I was looking at our invitation today and noticed again that my MIL included the registry info on the invite. For folks with lots of guests that ignored the registry, was that information on the invite? On an insert? Or not sent unless requested by the guests? So many variables in play.
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  • +1 to the no diapers, but we did get a bazillion blankets. 
    For my completion coupons I checked the prices at Target and Amazon and just moved things from one registry to the other depending on the price.  Also target has a 90-day return window. or is it a year? Whatever it is, it was more than amazon's. Buybuybaby was consistently more $ than the others.
  • @MJDsquared we got 2 bath sets with DD1. She's 18 months and we've just now gone through 1.5 of the sets. It's insane how long they last, so not a bad thing to have to buy yourself!
  • @Amber_Waves
    Our registry info was on the insert.  Well, specifically it was a registry info insert lol; it had our babylist link.  I used babylist as the central link site, that had our 3 (BBB, BRU, Amazon) on it, and at the top of the babylist page I put a note with pertinent info like welcome, nursery theme, and colors.

    In hindsight I wish I had registered somewhere like Target, because I didn't realize that back home we dont have a BBB or BRU very close to where my invitees live.  Ah well, 95% of what we got was from the registry.
    Just one random teddy bear from H's grandma, a plush fox from my sister, and my SIL gave us a bath book and some plush blocks.  I'm not real crazy about them but the baby has 0 toys yet besides a playmat so we'll probably keep them.

    @djd0404 I'm so with you!  I tallied up everything we still need to get and felt like I needed to butter up H before I broke the news of the total.  If I honestly look over the list a lot of it could be considered "extras" (like if I lived out in a hut in the woods), but it's our first baby and I was really excited to get some of this stuff so we will.  It's just still a lot, even though the generosity of our friends and family has been amazing.
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  • MJDsquaredMJDsquared member
    edited November 2017
    @Amber_Waves One of our shower invites was an evite and had no registry info, the other was mailed and said where we were registered. I guess for us we just didn't have a lot of very expensive stuff on the registry because we got a lot of hand me downs/bought big items used. But I was very pleasantly surprised that both the infant and convertible car seat were purchased for us from our registry! The evite shower was out of state, but I think three people bought us items from the registry and shipped them straight to our house (which is good, because those were all big items minus one wubbanub). Otherwise, we got a ton of Target gift cards at the evite shower.

    We only got three boxes of diapers. I just put 1 box each of NB & size 1 diapers on each registry. DH's mom bought us one of the Amazon boxes early on, DH's cousin bought the other and had it shipped to our house, and a guest at the local shower brought one package of diapers from the Target registry. (We didn't have a diaper raffle or anything.) Oh, I guess we did get another box of diapers. We registered for Pampers Swaddlers and a guest bought us a box of Huggies for the out of state shower. I obviously don't have a brand preference at this point because this is my first baby, but we ended up having MIL return those diapers and put the money into our account just because we would've had to check them to fly home.

    Also, my mom and MIL are eager beavers and bought us stuff off our registry early, like the box of diapers I mentioned, baby monitor, cube unit and bins for it, and my mom at one point bought every remaining book on our registry (like 10 books or so). Lol.

    ETA: Oh, and no one touched any of the breastfeeding supplies I put on our registry--big surprise there! lol.
    Me: 29 || DH: 29
    TTC #1 4/2016 || dx NIR PCOS 7/2016 || BFP 4/2017
    DD - 12/28/17 <3

    TTC #2 3/2019
    BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
    BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
  • My shower invitation just said I was registered at Target and Amazon- no direct links. I didn't receive any diapers or bath products, which surprised me. I also received minimal clothing (and only one sleeper in newborn size). Overall, most people ordered off the registry, which I was so thankful for! The few that branched out and bought off-registry gifted me with really sweet and personalized items that I really liked!
  • @MJDsquared no such thing as too many pacifier clips! They are also helpful to clip toys/snacks to baby/toddler while riding in the stroller or carseat so you dont have to (or have an easier time with) fetch them off the floor/ground for them as often.
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  • I completed all of my registries yesterday and HOLY SHIT, my husband almost has a heart attack. I just want to stop spending money!  Let the madness end!!
    We did get a ton of help from our registry, though, so I’m grateful for ANY help we can get. First time parents with twins means we need so much crap. 
  • @breezybee Ack! I can only imagine. We had so many hand-me-downs + most guests bought from the registry + we bought some stuff over the last 6 months + only one baby + we're not going overboard on contraptions or furniture = $400 to buy remaining essentials 

    And I still need to get a bunch of baby first-aid stuff, a few reference books, and I really want to frame some of baby's nursery decor.  :#
  • Omg @amber_waves, if it could have stopped at $400, that would have been amazing. Nope nope nope nope. I’m ALMOST done. ALMOST. 
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