TTGP Grad Check In 9/21

breezybee

What's up you guys?  Anything new and exciting happening?  How are those babies?

breezybee

What's going on with me?  What's going on with me?  
Packing up my house, which is turning out to be waaaaaay easier than expected. Moving day is next Friday and I'm so excited!!  We got a new contractor to do our kitchen remodel and I'm totally confident that he and his crew will kick ass!  My baby shower is now rescheduled to be at my new house Oct 28th, so hopefully everything will be done by then!  I'm not hosting it, but my house is in a central location for everyone and I'll be super preg by then, so it's easier for me.  Everything else is going great!  Babies are kicking me like crazy, I've started shopping for their newborn photo outfits and I'm just sooooooooooo excited!
Update on my friend: we went to dinner and talked it out. I was able to tell her why I was feeling weird around her and she told me her reasons. Basically, when we're out together, all of our friends want to talk about the babies with me and are all excited, and then someone inevitably pulls her aside and says something like "this must be so hard for you."  What kind of an idiot says that?!  So now she wants to hang out with me one on one and not in social settings. That makes me feel a little wierd, but it's not like I have the energy to go out to shows with her or anything now anyway.  I'm just going to adjust to this new normal with her and take it day by day. I'm glad I was able to tell her what I needed to say.  I have so many other close friends to lean on for support, that it's ok I can't have this one right now. 
Anyway, just wanted to give you guys an update from my last update . Hopefully this will be the last time this is discussed!

I hope you guys are doing well!

failuretofly

@breezybee
I'm glad you got to talk it out with your friend, even though it's weird at least you both know where each other is at. 

AFM
Doing well. 3rd tri seemed to sneak up on me and I am definitely feeling it. Getting up and down is harder, carrying my 20mo is harder (also, when did he get 20mo?????) and I feel like I am perpetually starving lol. I feel like baby has repositioned herself nicely, so that makes me happy. I hope she stays that way! DH has started taking name picking *slightly* more seriously, and I actually just stumbled upon a beautiful name of a 90yo patient and I really hope he likes it! I picked my last day at work, so that makes things REAL. I booked my last 4 shifts off for vacation, making my last day Nov 26th!! 2 months to go! And DH's parents are coming to visit at the end of Oct for ~1 week, so I am planning on getting most of my Christmas prep done then, because they will be able to manage DS for me while I do baking and such. It's all starting to come together!

wabash15

@breezybee I'm glad the packing is going well. We moved across the country when I was 10 weeks with the twins... moving sucked between the fatigue and morning sickness. You'll have to show pics of the kitchen when its done. I'm glad you were able to work things out with your friend. 
@failuretofly Oh my gosh its getting so hard to pick the twins up... especially DS because he is 35+lbs, I try to have them come and sit in my lap or next to me instead. Fx DH likes the name you found. I have to say your ticker makes me want to vomit a little... 83 days to go... nope, not ready.... it feels WAY to close. 

AFM: hanging in there. I have a work conference that I leave for tomorrow and I'll be gone for a week. I've only ever been away from the twins for one overnight. I'm not sure if this is going to be harder for me or them (or DH who is a a blessed saint for being willing to solo with them for a whole week! (I am prepping some back-up help for him).  We got our van over the weekend. DH is in love. There is So.Much.Room I think it will be really nice when this kiddo comes. I do have to gripe a bit. I am starting to get the looks of "whoa your pregnant, or you still have till christmas?!?" I have 2 freinds who are due this week and I am as large or larger than both of them. Sigh... its just going to be a long 3 months if folks keep commenting on how big I am. 

failuretofly

@wabash15
Nope, he didnt like it. It was Aurelia for the record, which i think is beautiful! 
AAaaaannnd omg I didn't even notice that! When did we get below 100??!?!?!?!??!?!?!?! 

wabash15

@failuretofly sorry DH didn't like it. I'm glad being less than 100 days away freaks someone else out also!
    I think I might have finally converted DH on my current top girl name choice (ruth) we went through baby names the other night and every other time he has outright vetoed it and this time he said he would be OK with it. So we still have a ways to go before we finally pick but this is progress!

breezybee

@wabash15 YOU GOT YOUR VAAAAANNNNN!!!!!!  I'm so happy for you!  One thing to check off the list
I hope you and your husband make it through you being gone for a week. That's a long time, but you can do it!
@failuretofly sorey your hubs didn't like that name. I think it's really cool, if that's any consolation
You guys, we are SOCLOSE to the end of this thing and it's terrifying. 

failuretofly

@breezybee
I know... it feels like last week I was doing ALL THE THINGS to get KU... meanwhile I am third tri already!!! WTF?

MJDsquared

@breezybee Ahhh yay for move-in day! I'm so glad you got to fire your crappy contractor. And I'm glad your friendship isn't totally doomed to fail. I can see why it would be hard for her to get those sympathetic comments every time you guys hang out in a group.
@failuretofly I love that name! So exciting that you got your leave all straightened out!
@wabash15 Hopefully your week away goes smoothly (I mean, as smoothly as it can!). Sorry you're dealing with those annoying comments. People need to shut up. Also, I think Ruth is adorable!

AFM, I don't have much to add. I've said how "huge" I am multiple times but realistically I know I'm not that big yet and that I'll get sooo much bigger by the end. But the discomfort is starting. It's not constant, but sometimes when I'm sitting or I'm in bed I just can't find any position that's comfortable at all. Also the shortness of breath and even muscle tiredness are awful. I need to take more walks, I think.

Tennis11785

@breezybee I'm so glad the move to going well.  I can't wait for you to be in your new home and can get settled!  Also - I'm glad you were able to talk to your friend.  I can see how she wouldn't like that, but I'm glad that she still wants to hang out with you.  
@failuretofly Ugh, I need to get my leave figured out.  I don't even know where to begin.  I want as long as possible.....
@wabash15 So glad you're enjoying the new van! Try not to punch the people who are making the comments about how big you are.  
@MJDsquared Yes to the discomfort.  For me, laying down usually helps and sitting for long periods of time usually don't.  I'm hoping to up the amount of yoga I do and that it helps.  

Marley629

@wabash15 yayy for a new van!! I know how excited you were for that.  Enjoy your work conference! 

@breezybee I feel your moving pain but I'm glad it's been easier than expected for you! And glad You found a new contractor so quickly - FX they get it done asap! I can't imagine the stress of a renovation right now 

@failuretofly aww I'm sorry he didn't like it. I love the name Aurelia!!  Love your countdown as well. I started one this week and every time anyone asks me how I'm feeling I just respond with "77 days to go..." etc lol 

@MJDsquared +1 for uncomfortable. Sometimes I find a pillow between my legs helps a little bit when laying down but not much else. Constantly rotating sides too 

AFM, it's been a rough week on the sickness front and my sciatica pain is pretty bad. We are moving stuff to the new house tomorrow but it still needs a really good deep cleaning before unpacking anything and I honestly don't have it in me so I've been looking for a company to come and do it but haven't been successful yet. I bartend for a 2nd job (just 1 or 2 nights a week) and this week was the first week I honestly wasn't sure if I was gonna make it through the shift.  I was going to try to do it through October but I'm going to give it one more week and if it's still really rough, I'll tell them I'll see them in February. My glucose test was yesterday and I should get my results tomorrow but everything else looked good at my last appt - except she said I'm measuring 33 weeks and I'm only 28 - I have a growth scan next week which will be more accurate; I've always felt like he was big but he might be a monster lol 

MJDsquared

@Marley629 I'm sorry you're still dealing with the sickness and sciatica too. FX for good results on your glucose test!

alysapuggles

@breezybee Glad to hear packing is going better than expected! One of my most dreaded jobs. Looks like we are putting all that on the shelf for now. I don't know what is going on around here, but we could find nothing and have been looking since April? It's ridiculous. Glad you also made some progress with your friend. I hope things can return to somewhat normal (a new normal) for you both eventually.

@wabash15 Your leaving will definitely be harder on you than them! Kids are fine with that, but we are the ones who get all the guilt and tears! lol They will be with someone who loves them and takes wonderful care of them. We did our first vacation away from DS last year, and while I was nervous/guilty, he was with my mom and they had great fun. Enjoy your quiet moments during the trip   And yay to a new van!!

@failuretofly FWIW I love that name and had it on my "someday" list. However, it doesn't really go with our last name, and I fear it would be butchered to death around here so we won't be using it. But it is beautiful.

@MJDsquared The soreness is hitting me too. I've given up in bed in the morning because no matter how I move, my hips are just sore. I remember that being my big discomfort issue last time too. That plus tailbone, ugh.

@Marley629 So sorry you haven't been feeling well. I hope you can find some good cleaners soon. I would so do the exact same thing. FX for a good scan and no monster size babies! lol

AFM I kind of updated a little in the old thread, but things are moving. Still no new info from my work, so I'm just waiting and going to take some classes in the meantime. We have pretty much put finding a house on the back burner at this point. There is just nothing. It's been insane this year. I should say there have been houses, but nothing that we are remotely interested in. So frustrating.

Currently DH and I are at a standstill on names. We are down to 2, one that I have wanted to use for ages (and he was on board with previously, had DS been a girl) and one that he suggested this time around.  I do like both names and would consider his name, but the irrational part of me is kind of annoyed that I have given thought to baby names for years, have recently scanned thousands of names, made lots of suggestions, lists, etc., only for him to basically veto them all and come to the table with only one alternative. He says he likes both names, but he has said negative things about "my" name and hasn't really given the go ahead or given me any preference which I think I stupidly expected being the one carrying and giving birth to this baby lol. The petty, irrational side of me says if I go with his name then I feel like I didn't get to "pick" myself, and it oddly annoys me that he can stroll in with one name and no effort and get to use it. Total FWP, I know. I just want us to both be happy with it!

wabash15

@Marley629 damn I'm sorry you feel like crap. Sciatica sucks! I hurt my back as a teenager and had a lot of sciatica issues. Take it easy if you can. I got a cleaning service to clean our apartment when we bought our house because we had 24 hours from when we signed on the house to when we had to be out of our apartment. it was AMAZING. there was no way I was getting all that cleaning done on my own. I hope your able to find a company to work with you.
@alysapuggles sorry no word on the work front. I get that frustration too... DH does not contribute to the name list but is also super picky. 

failuretofly

@alysapuggles that is exactly how I feel about picking names with my DH! He puts zero effort in, just vetoes everything I pick. He has yet to offer a serious suggestion. It's so frustrating!

MJDsquared

@alysapuggles Ugh, I hope you get the name situation sorted out. Actually, I hope you end up going with the name you want, since you put in a lot more effort!

breezybee

@Marley629 I'm so sorry you're still feeling awful. I feel like this pregnancy has been so hard on you.  We're almost done!  You are such a trooper. 
@alysapuggles its hard to find somewhere new!  We were just sort of looking nice and or offer got accepted on t his place. I've been looking since, and haven't seen ANYTHING on the market that I would even consider moving in to.  And my husband is the same way about names. He doesn't contribute any, but hates all the ones I tell him. We finally came to the girls names because those were the only ones he liked!  You'll find something. Whether it's before the baby comes is TBD lol