I was solid on our position as Team Green, but DH has wanted to know the sex since day 1. I at least wanted to wait until our a/s in two weeks, but DH has been having dreams about it and got some disappointing news at work yesterday. Since we did IVF and had genetic screening done, we could find out any time. So....we callled the clinic this morning and found out it's a boy. @smorzandoj I'm right there with you trying to wrap my head around the news. I was convinced it was a girl and was so excited to use the name we'd picked for a girl. I don't know if I'd say I'm disappointed, but I'm feeling a little heaviness right now. DH, on the other hand, is lying on the floor with the dog saying, "You have to be a goooood boyyyy, because now there's going to be another good boy, so you have to be a gooooood boyyyy." I think he's happy...
Give yourself some time to get used to the news. On the bright side that story about your DH is super cute!
Agreed. Just a little adjustment period. I had similar feelings when we found out we're having a boy. DH was ELATED and I was just shocked. Sometimes I still get sad when I see tu-tus and hair bows, but I'm coming around to the idea of being a boy mom. They say little boys really love their mommas.
Thanks, @chucksmom15 I'm getting there, but I still cried. My family is all boys. I was the only girl until I was 11 and I was always left out of things. DH's family is mostly boys, too (1 girl cousin), and I think I'm afraid of being left out again.
@babybro218 I will also be surrounded by boys. Boy dogs, boy baby, boy husband, boy brother, H has all brothers. I'm godmother to my best friend's baby girl and will shower her with all my girliness!
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Thanks, @chucksmom15 I'm getting there, but I still cried. My family is all boys. I was the only girl until I was 11 and I was always left out of things. DH's family is mostly boys, too (1 girl cousin), and I think I'm afraid of being left out again.
I am totally with you. I am the only girl of 5 and even all of our dogs are boys. I still look at girl stuff with hope I'll have one in the future. DH said he was sad for me when we found out it was a boy bc he wanted to have someone on my team lol. I would love to have a girl if we are blessed to get get pregnant again but I have plenty of friends that are boy moms. Some of them were sad at first but now they say they wouldn't have it any other way.
I never put a memory or photo album together for DD1, who is now 2yr. I feel like I nees to do something before #2 gets here or I never will. Do you guys still print photos to put in album? What about those picture books you can make online and have printed? Tell me Im not the only one!!
@mayapple44 I've used MyPublisher (now owned by Shutterfly, I think) to make picture books for my wedding and my friend's baby shower. They're fantastic! They look professional and you can customize them fully. The only drawback is you can't replace the pictures, but how often do you really need to do that if it's meant to hold memories? With MyPublisher they would have massive sales, so I'd make the book and save it in my account then when the good coupon code came out I'd place the order. I don't know if Shutterfly will do something similar. They can get expensive real fast!
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I never put a memory or photo album together for DD1, who is now 2yr. I feel like I nees to do something before #2 gets here or I never will. Do you guys still print photos to put in album? What about those picture books you can make online and have printed? Tell me Im not the only one!!
I just discovered the other day that my 7 old daughter doesn't have a baby book. I don't know if I never made ones, or its been lost. I'm not sure what to do at this point. All her siblings have a book, and the new baby will be getting one as well.
I know I haven't been as active lately, but I also think a FB group after all the babies are born is the best idea. We had a vetting process and even after that had to kick out two members less than a year in.
@TattoosandLace What a bummer that you found out beforehand about the sex. I can't wait to find out what you are having though! Let us know how it goes.
@eggplantface I am so excited to be team boy too! congrats!
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DS1's bus forgot about him. It came 10 mins after school started. I would have just taken him myself but the whole point was to have him try the bus while I was home and could go to him if he needs me. There was also supposed to be a monitor on the bus that I fought to have because DS1 has mild autism. Welp. There was no monitor. The transportation lady was yelling into the radio that this was a last minute thing.
No lady I've had this planned for two weeks now. I have everything in my kids life planned because he has meltdowns if things don't go a certain way. I'm waiting to calm down before I call to speak with this lady because I'm so mad!
in the end DS1 did great getting on the bus. At least that was success!
I'm so pissed for you. I'm sorry that happened! Hopefully they get their ish together soon!
I noticed on the March board a bunch of the regs are going to flock to FB. For the love of God can we please agree to do this closer to due date time. It seems like we're just now getting to the point of starting to get to know each other and establish the reg crowd. I'd hate to split it up. (Plus could still be weirdos out here frontin')
@TattoosandLace did I miss your announcement of what you're having?? Curiosity is killing me haha.
I am totally fine holding off a little longer. We migrated to FB during third tri, but our group was small.
Thanks for thinking of us!! Squish is a healthy baby girl! Which makes three girls for us! DH had a bit of shock
@SarahFoley725 me too except I still haven't had my first legal drink. I won't have my first legal drink until I'm 24... everyone's posting about how they will miss Oktoberfest beer and I haven't even gotten to try it
DS1's bus forgot about him. It came 10 mins after school started. I would have just taken him myself but the whole point was to have him try the bus while I was home and could go to him if he needs me. There was also supposed to be a monitor on the bus that I fought to have because DS1 has mild autism. Welp. There was no monitor. The transportation lady was yelling into the radio that this was a last minute thing.
No lady I've had this planned for two weeks now. I have everything in my kids life planned because he has meltdowns if things don't go a certain way. I'm waiting to calm down before I call to speak with this lady because I'm so mad!
in the end DS1 did great getting on the bus. At least that was success!
I'm so pissed for you. I'm sorry that happened! Hopefully they get their ish together soon!
They almost forgot about him Friday. I wasn't so calm and told her that the bus better be on time Monday or I'm coming down to the office myself. DS loves the bus though. He had a meltdown trying it at the beginning of summer but his teacher is such a sweetheart and took a bunch of pictures of him on the bus so she reminds him through out the day that he's going on the bus and he does great!
Dh and i travel 1 weekend a year for work, and he likes to stay at the same little country inn everytime. NABD , except being 21 weeks pregnant and having to sleep on literally a squeaky rock last night I am so not looking forward to a long day of work and staying again tonight. I have trouble sleeping on our nice tempurperic bed now, and this bed was ridiculous! I'm thinking of putting spare blankets on it tonight to try and make it more comfortable...
Also he casually mentioned that next year he'll bring one of the teenagers and leave me and baby boy at home! I told him no, baby and I will both come next year, and the following year it will be back to me and him. This is literally our only "vacation" some years, and only kid free adult weekend.
DH and I are going on a date to a country fair. I wait for this fair all year. All I've wanted was to be pregnant during the fair so I can eat without judgment. All my dreams are coming true today hahahaha
DH and I are going on a date to a country fair. I wait for this fair all year. All I've wanted was to be pregnant during the fair so I can eat without judgment. All my dreams are coming true today hahahaha
It's officially fall and it's 90 degrees outside already. My mom, grandma and I are going to a fall festival and I'm going to swear my ass off. I demand my cold weather.
DH and I are doing a mini babymoon overnight next week. We are staying in a room with a whirlpool tub and access to an indoor water park! It is the first time I have been away overnight from DD. So I'm anxious about it, but it is definitely needed. Once the twins are here, it won't be as easy to slip away for a night out. Anyone else doing a babymoon?
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@meatballs37 I have no idea. We were supposed to go on a cruise a month ago but weren't able to because of Zika. Part of me wants to do something but part of me would rather save the money. We love drinking (not excessively) but we enjoy craft beer and local wine so it would be a bummer to go somewhere and not be able to do those things together.
Also theres a pretty good zombie thread on first tri board.
@meatballs37, my in laws just offered this morning that they would watch my son over Columbus Day weekend. Now we have to plan something! I hope places still have availability.
@mamaof5already oh no! Does your 7yr old already know? If so maybe you two could do one together before this baby arrives? @SunflowerMama428 thats hilarious! Have a great time!
No babymoon planned for us. DD is 2 and has never stayed overnight anywhere. I know it sounds crazy, but my husband and I aren't ready for her to yet. We should probably work on that!
No baby moon for us. We just have too much going on in the fall due to winery harvest/crush and I have to train people on my job for when I leave mid January.
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No babymoon planned for us. DD is 2 and has never stayed overnight anywhere. I know it sounds crazy, but my husband and I aren't ready for her to yet. We should probably work on that!
Yeah... DD is 2 and hasn't spent the night anywhere either. And DS is 4 and only spent the night once at my moms house. And that was only bc I was in labor at the hospital with DD. I'm bad... but we do get lots of date nights. We are just not ready for sleepovers yet.
@mayapple44, my son is 5 and has only ever had one overnight before. I get it. I think he is just ready for it now that he is 5. Our family all live far away (2 hours is the closest), so our overnight chances are few and far between. We are jumping on this opportunity.
Yeah DD has never stayed anywhere overnight either. For our babymoon, my mom is staying at our place. Mostly because she doesn't have a crib/anything kid friendly at her house. She doesn't mind. I think she is excited she is the first that gets DD overnight.
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T-3 weeks until our pseudo-babymoon. DH had an international business trip for his MBA program and they are going to Vienna and Prague. I had planned to go before getting pregnant, but this will be nice. Only thing I do worry about is being away from DD. I have never been away from her over night. My parents are coming to live in our home so she doesn't have to sleep in a PnP for 10 nights, but I'm pretty nervous on how she's going to handle it. She's a straight up momma's girl. FaceTiming might be a bad idea, but I'm sure we will try it once or twice. DD is familiar with my parents, so she shouldn't be too bad. I hope.
@meatballs37 thats great that your mom will be staying at your house!! I would definitely consider option if we had anyone willing to do that.
Im glad im not the only over protective one! My friend IRL has had her daughter stay overnight for days with her mom since she was 6 months old! Im not judging her, im slightly jealous but I just cant!!!
@mayapple44, @Starynightsky24@lainikins and @meatballs37 - I'm glad I'm not alone! DD is 2 and has never been away from us overnight. We joke 1st time will probably be when this LO arrives and either my sister or Mom will come and stay at our home with her.
FFFC I guess we have left DD over night twice. The first time she was only 5 months old and she stayed at my parents. They live 20 minutes away. We had a night in for our anniversary. The second time was this past August for a wedding we went to out of town. I am completely comfortable with her being with my parents but I always miss her
No overnights yet for us either and DS is 15 months. I'm anxious just thinking about it, though he'd be just fine at his grandparents' house. Still not ready, probably will be out of necessity when this baby is born but it freaks me out.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
@mayapple44, @Starynightsky24@lainikins and @meatballs37 - I'm glad I'm not alone! DD is 2 and has never been away from us overnight. We joke 1st time will probably be when this LO arrives and either my sister or Mom will come and stay at our home with her.
Lol and I was just telling DH the other day I hope this LO is born at a time when we won't have to leave DD overnight with anyone! A quick labor early in the morning... here's hoping. Haha!
My 2.5 yr old hasn't spent away from us (well I work nights sometimes but DH is home) ever either. And not because I feel protective, but because no one has offered and we haven't been comfortable to ask. Especially since I would want whoever is watching her to stay here
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Parents to fur babies Tiki and Gizzmo and 2yr old Georgia IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI EDD: Feb 5, 2018
The first time any of my kids spent a night away from me is when I was in the hospital giving birth, and then they stayed at home and someone came to stay with them. Other than that the kids did sleepovers with friends starting around 6? except my youngest who had to start visiting her farther for weekends at around 15 months (he was escorted out of our house by the sheriff's before she was 1). Her big sister took care of her when she was there and became her 2nd mommy.
I guess I am the odd one out here. My DS has stayed the night with me parents for 2 weeks. 1 week we were in Jamaica for a wedding and my parents told us they are keeping him (he was 8 months) I will admit it was nice not to have to be in the room at 7 for him to be in bed or at nap time. And he was crawling which would have been a hassle with the sand and water. We were also both ready to get back to him before the trip was over. The second week was a last minute thing. We had a family emergency and I live 28 hours away. So my DS and I flew home a week before we were supposed to drive home for summer holidays to be with our family for the weekend. And my mom told me she would keep my DS for the last week of school and then DH and I could drive the 28 hours without DS. I know I could have said no, but when you don't have to drive across the country with an 18 month old it is amazing! We were so excited to see him at the end of the week, and to be honest I don't think he even noticed we were gone for a week. Other than that none of our family lives near us so we don't have anyone who would take him overnight anyways.
@kbrinks2 you are not alone! With my first he was ten days old when I was readmitted to the hospital bc of an infection. He couldn't be with me. I can't remember when the firs time was with my second but it was def before one year.
My mom watches DS one day a week--and stays at her house the night before. He's had several overnights with family members as well. We had a ton of close family, though!
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TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
@TattoosandLace
What a bummer that you found out beforehand about the sex.
@eggplantface
I am so excited to be team boy too! congrats!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Thanks for thinking of us!! Squish is a healthy baby girl! Which makes three girls for us! DH had a bit of shock
They almost forgot about him Friday. I wasn't so calm and told her that the bus better be on time Monday or I'm coming down to the office myself. DS loves the bus though. He had a meltdown trying it at the beginning of summer but his teacher is such a sweetheart and took a bunch of pictures of him on the bus so she reminds him through out the day that he's going on the bus and he does great!
Also he casually mentioned that next year he'll bring one of the teenagers and leave me and baby boy at home! I told him no, baby and I will both come next year, and the following year it will be back to me and him. This is literally our only "vacation" some years, and only kid free adult weekend.
In feeling very annoyed and tired
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Also theres a pretty good zombie thread on first tri board.
@SunflowerMama428 thats hilarious! Have a great time!
No babymoon planned for us. DD is 2 and has never stayed overnight anywhere. I know it sounds crazy, but my husband and I aren't ready for her to yet. We should probably work on that!
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Im glad im not the only over protective one! My friend IRL has had her daughter stay overnight for days with her mom since she was 6 months old! Im not judging her, im slightly jealous but I just cant!!!
IF veterans; #1 conceived on second clomid+HCG+IUI, #2 conceived on 1st Letrozole+HCG+IUI
EDD: Feb 5, 2018
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
We were also both ready to get back to him before the trip was over.
The second week was a last minute thing. We had a family emergency and I live 28 hours away. So my DS and I flew home a week before we were supposed to drive home for summer holidays to
be with our family for the weekend. And my mom told me she would keep my DS for the last week of school and then DH and I could drive the 28 hours without DS.
I know I could have said no, but when you don't have to drive across the country with an 18 month old it is amazing! We were so excited to see him at the end of the week, and to be honest I don't think he even noticed we were gone for a week.
Other than that none of our family lives near us so we don't have anyone who would take him overnight anyways.