How did you tell the father?

psgoulet

Tomorrow I'll be 4 weeks, and I just found out for sure yesterday! I was kind of enjoying being the only person in the world who knew about this whole other person's existence lol. But the secret is hard to keep. I had to join the Bump community to keep myself in line so I don't just burst out in mid conversation "Hey, I'm PREGNANT!" Talking with you all is a big help, since I plan on keeping the secret a little longer.

I kind of want to surprise my husband. I'm thinking of doing a whole "special delivery" sort of theme, decorating the inside of the mailbox and having him get the mail. The mailman's going to be super surprised if I don't time it right and he's the one who opens the mailbox...

But anywho, how did you all tell your partners? Were they there from the first pee-on-stick moment, did you find out together or did you surprise him?

charlestonchew

My DH was there while I took the test. We get ready together in the morning and we were both naked and just hugged and kissed lol.

ivyvines6

My first pregnancy I wrapped the pee stick up like a present and gave it to him with a beer when he got home. This time I just called him at work freaking out and crying my eyes out. (It's all good now, I swear)

createmagic14

With our first,  I told him as soon as the stick showed two lines.   This time,  I bought a shirt that says "World's Greatest Brother" for our son and had him wear it to announce it to hubby. 

char245

I gave him a birthday card from "the both of us" and signed it DD and baby to be coming soon April/May 2018 

TeacherMom2015

I shoved the pee stick in his face and said "we're having another baby."

SLC1102

I texted him to pick up a test on the way home from golfing....he forgot.  I said, well, no big deal, I already peed on 2 cheapies and they were both positive.

Heh, first time around I did something cute....

We're telling family this weekend because they're coming in from out of town- got my daughter a shirt that says Only Child expiring 2018.

yesthisiskim0401

This is how I shared the news. 
I present to you, my sperm cake. 

mrsbacz

Omg @yesthisiskim0401 that is fantastic!

psgoulet

@yesthisiskim0401 That's hilarious!!!

justsuzie

@yesthisiskim0401thats awesome!

millette2015

My husband was out of town for work when I found out, so when we picked him up from the airport I had my son wear a shirt that said "brother saurus " on it (with a little dinosaur on it). It's all on video and his face is completely priceless. Such a great moment. I'm so glad I recorded it. 

tincupchalice

I took the test our last day of vacation with our friends.  I told my friend that I wanted her to take a family photo of us, and when we lined up, I pulled out a onesie and held it over my belly.  DH didn't even notice, but after the picture my friend was like "Omg was that an announcement?!"

agrhicks

My pregnancy announcement

momo214

This is our second... I bought a bib at hobby lobby and used fabric markers to write, "Shit just got real."

dinonugget

@yesthisiskim0401 I love the cake!

 I told DH when we went out to lunch the next day. This baby was a surprise so I didn't have anything planned. For DS1 I gave him onesies for our favorite baseball team and for DS2 I put DS1 in a big brother shirt.

Cerisrichard

createmagic14 said:

With our first,  I told him as soon as the stick showed two lines.   This time,  I bought a shirt that says "World's Greatest Brother" for our son and had him wear it to announce it to hubby. 

Was just thinking, I'm not sure DH would notice if I did this! Lol

Cerisrichard

This was a surprise for us too. I woke up at about 5am and just had this thought I was pregnant. Took 2 tests, both faint positives? Then was too excited to sleep. Managed not to wake DH, but told him as soon as he woke up. He was all sort of bleary eyed and half asleep and just said: oh. He's excited now though! Lol

justsuzie

I said, "does this look like a line?"

Jlr025

With our first he was there when I took the test. This time I took the test while he was sleeping
and told him I was pregnant when he woke up! We just told my parents and had our son wear a "promoted to big brother" shirt and it took them like 5 minutes to notice haha 

sandbar517

I had taken a bunch of internet cheapie tests over the weekend without him knowing and swore I saw the faintest lines on them.  Took pictures and kept them in my phone.  Finally Saturday night I said, "Ok, don't think I'm crazy, but does this look like a line to you?" and showed him one of the pictures.  He insisted he didn't see anything.  Sunday I did another one and showed him in person.  He said "maybe" he saw "something".  I made him do one to compare.  He finally admitted that mine looked "different", but still wouldn't admit it was positive.  When I did a FRER on Monday morning with a very visible line, I left it on the bathroom counter and wrote "Told you I'm not crazy" on the mirror.  

rosemaryandthyme

I just told him that I took a test and it was positive because he already knew that I would be testing that morning.  Something cute would be a bit wasted on him...he likes facts, spoken directly, haha.  He works nights and sleeps days, though, so I had to hold in the news for 7 whole hours until he woke up!   

createmagic14

Cerisrichard said:

createmagic14 said:

With our first,  I told him as soon as the stick showed two lines.   This time,  I bought a shirt that says "World's Greatest Brother" for our son and had him wear it to announce it to hubby. 

Was just thinking, I'm not sure DH would notice if I did this! Lol

 Oh, he didn't really get it at first.  I was like,  "show Daddy your new shirt"....like 4 times.   Then he read it and said "but you're not a brother".  And STILL didn't get it. It took like two solid minutes before it finally clicked. 

rachelg777

I got a super super faint line early and was like well I should wait because nobody but a crazy person could even see this and I could be making this up. But I couldn't keep it in. I had bought a shirt TW* in a hopeful moment after our loss End TW* that was a maternity shirt that says "Colorado Rockies Fans" on it. He is a huge baseball fan. Anyway the game was just starting when he got home that night so we sat down to watch it. I asked if he liked my shirt. I had to repeat fanS, lol. It was pretty cute. Of course he couldn't see any of the lines and then I was skeptical because I didn't get a real one for another couple days.

lincbeesmom

We were in the bathroom and I said "can I waste 5 dollars?" (Meaning can I take a digital pregnancy test? I went through 25 wondfos two months ago so that's why I said "waste"). I didn't actually think it'd be positive because my period tracker said I was supposed to be getting my period yesterday. I set myself up with "it's not gonna be positive but Let me just see for shits and giggles". It said pregnant so I just started laughing and showed him. 

artlea2013

@yesthisiskim0401 That is hilarious and looks pretty tasty too.

I went out to the book store during my lunch break at work after I had gotten my FRER positive. I purchased a couple of books, including one for a birthday part on that weekend to use as cover for going to the store. At DS's bedtime that night I drug the shopping bag out and let DH know that I had bought a book for the party, but I couldn't resist getting DS a couple too. Showed him the present book, then the spare book, then handed DS a 'Big Brothers are the Best' book and told him to take it to Daddy. It took a minute, a couple of questions, and presenting the digital positive before he was fully aware lol

labgrand2012

I had kept that I was testing a secret from DH, because I didnt want to tell him if it was negative. But I decided to do a wondfo, and it was super faint, so I did a FRER and it was light but definitely there. I hid it for a few hours from DH even though we were both home. So my DH really wants one of those new Super Nintendo classic systems and has been trying to get a preorder for a few weeks. We both tried and missed on one of the stockings so I got the test and said "while you didn't get ones of the SNES classics I did get you this", and showed him the test. He was shocked, and asked if it was positive since it was faint, and then was excited. 

trauen812

@justsuzie lmao! I did the same thing, lol 

kpc914

I went out that afternoon and bought two cards (one that said on the front "Great things are happening" and another with sushi on the front). In the first card I just wrote a note about how happy I am to have him as my partner, etc. with a "P.S. I'm pregnant." Once he read it he was in shock and said "really? you are?!" He cried, I cried, we hugged for a bit. Then he read the sushi card that read "goodbye sushi...hello pregnancy! now I finally have a use for those Solly wraps"....yup....I already have four solly wraps because I never wanted to miss out on a limited run of a color I liked.....did I mention I'm an intense "planner"?

mileswithmyles

I bought DS a shirt that said "Number One Big Brother."  I changed him into it when we all got home and had him walk out to DH and say, "Daddy, look at my shirt!"
 DH was really excited and said "no way! Seriously?!"  

ccvslp

I got a faint BFP Tuesday during the day while DH was at work.  I ran to target and got two mugs - one that says mama needs coffee and one that says best dad ever.  I put them on the kitchen counter straight ahead from where you come into the house and was sitting there "texting" (filming.) He saw my extreme lack of poker face and asked what was up so I pointed to the mugs and said I got him a present.  He immediately picked up the stick (I put it inside one mug) and looked and said "not pregnant?"  I stared at him for a minute and then told him to look again for the faint second line.  He said "Really?!" and broke out in the hugest smile.  I stopped filming when he came over to hug me but it would have been hilarious to keep going.. he kept looking at it again and going "really?  Seriously? Wow! Are you sure?  Oh boy!" LOL

justsuzie

@trauen812  The most terrible part is I am super creative being an artist and I was just too excited. 

Jennifer102011

DH was in the car with me when the nurse practitioner at my RE's office called. It took me a second to tell him because I was totally not expecting her to call with that news

TheSouffleGirl

Called him while he was on the shuttle to the airport to come home from a work trip.  I said, "Do you want something to think about on the plane on the way home?" because I figured it was better than hitting him up with it after 11 pm.

I learned not to be dramatic after the first time around when I asked him (when we were about ot go to sleep) to guess how many people were in the room, and when I said "Three!" he freaked out because he thought someone was hiding under the bed.  

viviannahelwig

Before we found out I was pregnant, I asked him if he would like to find out with me or if I can surprise him somehow. He said he would like to find out with me..this is why. Back in March we found out we were pregnant and were super excited about it. We actually went to a local grocery store and they didn't have any PT, so we hit up Dollar General. Bought the PTs from them and that night, in March, we found out. The next month in April I miscarried and like everyone else, it devastated us. So he said it's kind of fun just finding out together. Nothing much to it.

heelsidehero

So many cute stories!  I just handed him the stick with a big grin on my face lol

sparkymcgeee

I'm kind of a mess right now so I used a dollar store cheapie and just showed it to him. It was pretty faint. He saw it right away and then I cried because I was terrified. He was way happier initially than me. Of course I was happy. It's just with my loss history I was more scared of having another loss than having a baby. 

courtinthewebb

He was in bed as I was taking the test with the door open (because what are boundaries) and I was convinced it was going to be negative so I didn't mention I was testing, but when I checked and there were two lines I kind of ruined the whole suprise with the constant "WHAT! WAIT, WHAT... wait... WHAT!" He's not super thrilled about the whole thing so I don't think he would appreciate a nicely planned suprise anyway. 

BertieMeetsGertie

He didn't realize I was testing that morning, so when I pulled myself up off the floor after seeing two lines, I ambushed him when he was in the closet trying to pick out a shirt!  with teary eyes and trembling hands I told him it was positive! It took him a second or two to realize what I just told him. We hugged and kissed in our closet! 

Poppy0419

I literally was shaking in shock and running around the house with the test in my hand trying to find my husband! This was our first cycle trying so I mentally prepared myself to get lots of negatives and it take at least a few months. I had all these cute plans and I couldn't even think straight to use them. 

ashley22pa

I took a test the morning of our pigroast just to make sure I could drink convinced it would be negative (we "tried" one time the day I wouldn't stop talking about having a third). I literally almost passed out when i saw it was positive. I called him from outside and told him he better come talk to me and showed him lol. Not a cute way but when it's the third surprise baby that's what you get!