Hello! I originally started on the April board when I got my BFP 8/19. Estimated due date was 4/22 but had my first OB appt this morning and baby measured 7 weeks exactly! So that puts me with the May group! Due date May 3rd. I'm a Neonatal nurse and DH is finishing school next spring!
So I'm kind of introducing myself. Kind of. I don't know if I'm truly joining but I just want to vent because it's inappropriate on TTGP for me to discuss this (which is where I've usually been hanging out).
Hello. I'm a veteran from TTGP from 13-15 and was active on the March 15 BMB (I have a 2.5 year old son who will be 3 in February but his EDD was 03/07/15. Little bugger couldn't wait so he arrived 5 weeks early, an extra large preemie at 6 pounds 5 ounces). I'm gay. Not that it matters but it'll explain why I keep talking about my wife, who is now in the hot seat of TTC now that my turn is done.
She had an IUI on 09/03. For the past few days she says she's been feeling nauseous so we've been taking HPTs. Yesterday she had what appeared to be a darker Walmart cheapie test so we got excited but it was still one of those stupid gray lines that's indeterminate. She took a FRER and this ensued:
Me: There's a line! There's a line, and it's PINK!!! DW: Where? Me: THERE! (pointing at said tiny, barely-visible pink line) Next to the smudge! DW: *stares for five seconds* Oh, yeah, I see it. ME: YAY!!!!
Now this is one of those things where you look at it and it's only visible if you really stare. I don't like thinking we have a BFP until you can look straight at the test and not have to twist it and turn it in a bright light to see anything.
This morning I was all excited for her to take a cheapie again in the hopes that it would be darker and a clear, visible line as opposed to the gray smudge we usually see. She took the test and... nothing just the same kind of indentish-gray line that she got yesterday.
FRER is usually more reliable so she took the digital to be safe but that was negative, too. But the digital ones don't really pick it up until the line is fairly visible, right?
I don't know... I guess we just have to wait but my hopes were super high last night and now they're kind of crushed today. Like it was my imagination. Such a mind-fucker. I hate it. She's going to keep testing but I'm not very hopeful because really, the line should be getting darker if it's a true BFP.
Don't know what I'm looking for here... just a place to express my frustrations with the process I guess. Having access to early HPTs is a double-edged sword. It's cool to find out if you're pregnant several days before you're missed period, but it turns those of us who are TTC into nutty people.
Well I hope it works out for you! TTC is a very nerve wracking process from what I've gathered. You and your wife are a welcome addition if this is a positive
Hi! It's great to hear everyone's stories! I'm an STM--I already have a four-year-old daughter--and my due date based on LMP is 5/12/18. I'm a writer and college English instructor, and my husband is a computer programmer. I'm excited about this new baby, but this pregnancy has been weirder and less joyous than my first--since our daughter was born my husband has had to deal with scary health problems; and in general our lives feel more stressful and less hopeful than they did then. But I guess pregnancy is always going to be different when you already have one kid--you can't focus as much on the wonders of creating life while you're chasing your existing kid around!
@wishiwaspreggo - were you on BOTB too with a different screen name and a Princess Leia picture? Anyhow, I hope the lines get darker for your DW. For what it's worth my first line was soooo faint I thought I was seeing things - it wasn't until a day or so later that I actually believed it was a BFP
@wishiwaspreggo - were you on BOTB too with a different screen name and a Princess Leia picture? Anyhow, I hope the lines get darker for your DW. For what it's worth my first line was soooo faint I thought I was seeing things - it wasn't until a day or so later that I actually believed it was a BFP
No, I didn't go there much. My SN has been the same the whole time but my previous picture was a jar of Prego sauce with what I believe had a pregnant Snookie on the label. I thought it was quite funny
I'm a STM and am so excited to join you all for this journey. I have a 14 month old daughter and I mainly lurked in the July 2016 board, but am hoping to have time to do more than that this time.
My estimated due date is May 17th and I just got a positive test yesterday. I work in clinical trials and my husband is a teacher.
Also fun note, I don't live in Florida but was visiting family there this past week so this midwestern gal can say she lived through a hurricane. Would not recommend
@wishiwaspreggo I had a similar situation a few weeks ago when I found out. My FRER was so faint I could only see it in an edited photo (yeah nuts I know). Then I had one rando dark ish (that's a generous way of putting it) wondfo. I got excited and told DH. We tested again in the morn with a wondfo and it was pretty much negative. I tested later in the day with my wondfo and it was definitely a faint positive (I had just left my workout class so I am guessing because I drink over a gallon of water a day, the only time I'm dehydrated enough to turn an early test is after a workout) so I kept testing every day after I would do my workout class and it was getting darker. Finally after a week I turned a digital. Also I had Walmart cheap ones and never turned one. I'm actually considering buying more of them now to see if I could turn it lol. Everyone seems to have different degrees of luck with different tests. I'm not saying to necessarily bank on this but I had a few days of limbo and it workout out for me. Not sure if your wife likes to/can workout but if she went for a jog and then tested with FRER, that might give you a better picture. Hope this helps!
Thanks, @bjkay22, that actually helps If there's a crazy thing you can do with a HPT, I've done it, so feel no shame sharing stories with me. I think the nuttiest thing I did was take 3-4 Walmart tests a day and line them up to check the color progression. I did that with my last IUI that resulted in DS.
DW did an IUI last month and she took Ovidrel. She tested out the trigger in 4 days. I'm wondering if HCG is more diluted for her in general. When I took HCG (be it Ovidrel or the powder you mix in the vial) it took 8-10 days before I could test mine out. My Walmart cheapies were faint pink but my FRERs were clear positives. I think the Walmart tests just kind of suck lol
Anyhoo... I know yesterday's was indeed positive. FRER doesn't turn pink without HCG. It's just a matter of waiting to see if the tests get dark enough to warrant calling the RE. What we're *supposed* to do is wait to take a HPT on Sunday, call on Monday if it's positive, and go in for blood work.
@wishiwaspreggo welcome!! So excited to see you here. I actually took some internet cheapies starting at 9DPO and insisted to MH that they were positive, he said I was crazy, and I actually posted about it on the "You're not pregnant. Calm down." thread on TTGP. Then I finally had a good, dark, clearly positive FRER at 13DPO, and felt like an ass for writing that on TTGP cuz it turned out I wasn't crazy, I was just KU. Best of luck to you and your wife. And welcome to everyone else, too! @emelri I also work in clinical trials, what do you do?
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
Hello Everyone!!!!! I just found out a week ago that I am pregnant with baby number 2. My oldest will be 5 in October and my husband and I have been trying for a few months so we are very thankful to be pregnant so quickly! A little background, my husband and I have been together since I was pregnant with my son, were legally married in a December and just had our ceremony in August. We are unsure of the due date but I know it's between May 15th and 23rd. Our first appointment isn't until October 4th and I am very anxious!!! I'm so glad to join in with this group! I joined a BM group on here back in 2012 when I was pregnant with my son and have still kept in touch with a large number of the women from then. Congratulations to everyone!!!!!
Hello! I originally started on the April board when I got my BFP 8/19. Estimated due date was 4/22 but had my first OB appt this morning and baby measured 7 weeks exactly! So that puts me with the May group! Due date May 3rd. I'm a Neonatal nurse and DH is finishing school next spring!
2/12: 100 mg Clomid + Bravelle last minute+ back to back IUI. BFN 3/12 150mg Clomid + B2B IUI =BFP!! TWINS! Vanishing twin at week 6 Tater-tot born January 3rd 2013
2 IUI's in 2016- BFN 3 IUI's in 2017- BFN 8/17 IUI BFP!!!!!!!!
@sandbar517 and @wishiwaspreggo same! I took 2 tests a day for like a week, they were all negative and whined about it on TTGP. Feel bad now that I ended up being KTFU, but it happens. Here's to hoping that your wife gets a clear BFP soon!
@jessnoel89 it really sucks when you don't get the experience you were hoping for! Are you going to take baby aspirin this time? 36 weeks it's pretty good--my OB said it usually hits later and less severe in future pregnancies.
Hi everyone! FTM. BFP date was Sep 9. My EDD is May 21 which is pretty sure thanks to this being an IUI baby (round 3). I live in Florida and I'm a physician which adds to my level of nerves since I've seen all sorts of different pregnancy outcomes. Excited to share this journey with you all!
@wishiwaspreggo I had that gray line too and was doubting myself. I even had my sister and mom look at it and they were like, if you say its there I'm sure it is! Lol. I took it later in the day after work instead of FMU and it looked much pinker than the morning! I didn't turn a digital until a few days later. Hope you're here to stay!
@sandbar517 my company does a lot of lab testing for different pharmaceutical companies. I mainly review protocols and set up our database on the front end so things go smoothly when we receive samples to test. How about you?
You aren't alone!! I was also on the nutty train a few days ago. Anxiously staring at the faded, barely visible line on the test. Wondering if I was just seeing things from staring so hard
hi all. i just got my BFP on monday afternoon at 11DPO, a faint one. but 7 tests (all BFP) later and finlly a blue dye HPT and digital HPT that turned positive under a minute, i think it finlly sunk in! this will make me a STM. my DD just turned 2 in August. And EDD is probably around may 23rd ish.
Can finally post an intro so here I am!! I am a ftm, SO and I have been together for 5 years, trying for 6 months. I wasn't expecting my bfp when it happened and I'm still kinda in shock. So far I've got a dd of 05/23 but my first apt isn't untul 10/25. I'll be 10 weeks!! I'm so excited to have other pregnant women to interact with. I'm really ahead of my friends with the stage of life I'm in so it's nice this forum exists! Can't wait to interact with everyone.❤️
DW took another FRER this morning. No real line. Just the same imaginary bullshit I think I'm conjuring up in my head. She took a Walmart cheapie last night, too, and it was completely blank. The first "line" we got from the FRER was 10 DP IUI so if HCG really doubles in 48 hours certainly the line would've been at least dark enough to see without shining a bright light on it at 12 DP IUI, right?
Anyway, I do not have much hope now. Really bummed out. We've maxed out our health savings account for the year so we can't afford to try again until January. The RE wants to do an HSG on DW because we've had 2 failed cycles and she's healthy otherwise as far as we know but DW (understandably) does not want to do it. It's $1000 out of pocket and that just seems like throwing money away because, really, she's never had any pelvic/reproductive issues so how could her tubes be blocked? I had the HSG done after 3 Clomid cycles but it wasn't my tubes - it was the medication.
Not sure what we're going to do from here. I thought about doing another Follistim cycle myself but... last time I did this I was 32. I'm 35 now, and I'm just not confident that it'll be the magic bullet. I hate tanking so much money into something that's so uncertain.
We do have one other option I'm contemplating now and that's embryo adoption. We (obviously) used a sperm donor to conceive DS and we found other women who used our donor and have kids so the siblings can know each other growing up. A few of the women used IVF to get pregnant and are done having kids. They have embryos in storage and one is definitely ready to donate and the other is still waiting to see if she wants one more baby but she's fairly certain she's done, too. It would at least be a half-sibling for Graham and FET is much more likely to succeed than IUI. But then I worry about the child's mental health growing up knowing their bio mom created them and essentially discarded them. I don't know if I want to do that. I feel like the child would blame DW and I and feel bitter about not being able to grow up wealthy in California.
It's so hard. Anyway... time for some soul searching. Maybe a second baby isn't in the cards for us at all. And that would be okay. DS is plenty to fill our hearts but I wanted a sibling for him, you know? Bah, I'm tearing up now.
Thanks for having me, ladies. I truly wish you all the best. I'll be lurking and love-titting periodically
@wishiwaspreggo Boo!! I'm so sad to hear this news. I truly hope you and your wife are able to make a decision that you both feel at peace with. And keep testing, you know the mantra. You're not out til you're out!
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@wishiwaspreggo Oh no, I'm so sorry. Bleeding is the only way to ever count yourself, or your DW, out. Give it time, I don't want to give you false hope, but things can always change.
As for the FET possibility, there are definitely ways to speak to a child that you have from donated embryo, if you go that route and it is successful, that can hopefully lessen any blow about being someone else's biological kid. Plus, that kid would have two awesome moms and a brother, what more can you ask for! I hope you find the right thing for you
Me: 32 DH: 31 *The old lady by 5 whole weeks* Married: 11/2013 M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
Hello ladies! I got a bfp last week and basede on LMP I suspect I am due sometime in late May. I won't have an u/s until Oct 9. This will be my 4th baby! I have a 7yo son, 5yo daughter and my baby boy turns 2 today. Congrats to you all and best wishes for healthy pregnancies.
@wishiwaspreggo sorry to hear about the BFN, hopefully you are still in it! That stinks about the HSG being so much out of pocket. But they do say that cycles after one have higher pregnancies rates! I had one after 8 months of trying and then got pg that cycle. Is that why, who knows, but both my OB and the Dr. performing the HSG told me the same thing. if you are going to go for it, maybe wait a bit until you are closer to doing another IUI.
BFP #1 1/4/14 | Diagnosed with Trisomy 13 at 12 weeks 3/6/14 | MMC 3/21/14 | D&C 3/24/14
BFP #2 7/1/14 | DS born March 2015 BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
Hey gals. Im a STM with a 14 month old. BFP 10DPO on 9/9/17, due May 23. I am an emergency physician and hubs is a pastor. Im so excited despite being so early. I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks w my 1st pregnancy back in 2015, so im trying to be patient as the days tick by, willing this baby to grow and thrive. Heres to all the May babes.
Hi all! I feel late in the discussion, hope I catch up in the next 9 months.
I am 4 weeks along tomorrow, my EDD is 25 May, Memorial Day weekend...better have a good Dr on call. I am a STM with an August 2015 daughter. We are lucky to get pregnant on the first time everytime. I hope everything goes well with this pregnancy. Edit to add: I'm AMA, will be 39 next May.
I am a pharmacist as is my DH. We have a live-in Au Pair from Paraguay and if you don't know about this childcare option I would love to talk about my experiences (this is our 2nd Au Pair), it is the best care possible in my opinion.
Hello all! I am so excited to join this group. I am still in regular contact with my Aug 2015 Bump group (although we've moved to FB). I have a 2 year old son. I had severe preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome (anyone else?), so this is going to be a high risk pregnancy. I am being watched very carefully, but it is still scary considering how sick I was last time. I am a criminal defense attorney.
Re: *Introductions*
Anyhow, I hope the lines get darker for your DW. For what it's worth my first line was soooo faint I thought I was seeing things - it wasn't until a day or so later that I actually believed it was a BFP
I'm a STM and am so excited to join you all for this journey. I have a 14 month old daughter and I mainly lurked in the July 2016 board, but am hoping to have time to do more than that this time.
My estimated due date is May 17th and I just got a positive test yesterday. I work in clinical trials and my husband is a teacher.
Also fun note, I don't live in Florida but was visiting family there this past week so this midwestern gal can say she lived through a hurricane. Would not recommend
DW did an IUI last month and she took Ovidrel. She tested out the trigger in 4 days. I'm wondering if HCG is more diluted for her in general. When I took HCG (be it Ovidrel or the powder you mix in the vial) it took 8-10 days before I could test mine out. My Walmart cheapies were faint pink but my FRERs were clear positives. I think the Walmart tests just kind of suck lol
Anyhoo... I know yesterday's was indeed positive. FRER doesn't turn pink without HCG. It's just a matter of waiting to see if the tests get dark enough to warrant calling the RE. What we're *supposed* to do is wait to take a HPT on Sunday, call on Monday if it's positive, and go in for blood work.
@emelri I also work in clinical trials, what do you do?
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
A little background, my husband and I have been together since I was pregnant with my son, were legally married in a December and just had our ceremony in August.
We are unsure of the due date but I know it's between May 15th and 23rd. Our first appointment isn't until October 4th and I am very anxious!!!
I'm so glad to join in with this group! I joined a BM group on here back in 2012 when I was pregnant with my son and have still kept in touch with a large number of the women from then.
Congratulations to everyone!!!!!
Sassy, opinionated, but lots of fun!
3/12 150mg Clomid + B2B IUI =BFP!! TWINS!
Vanishing twin at week 6
Tater-tot born January 3rd 2013
2 IUI's in 2016- BFN
3 IUI's in 2017- BFN
8/17 IUI BFP!!!!!!!!
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
DW took another FRER this morning. No real line. Just the same imaginary bullshit I think I'm conjuring up in my head. She took a Walmart cheapie last night, too, and it was completely blank. The first "line" we got from the FRER was 10 DP IUI so if HCG really doubles in 48 hours certainly the line would've been at least dark enough to see without shining a bright light on it at 12 DP IUI, right?
Anyway, I do not have much hope now. Really bummed out. We've maxed out our health savings account for the year so we can't afford to try again until January. The RE wants to do an HSG on DW because we've had 2 failed cycles and she's healthy otherwise as far as we know but DW (understandably) does not want to do it. It's $1000 out of pocket and that just seems like throwing money away because, really, she's never had any pelvic/reproductive issues so how could her tubes be blocked? I had the HSG done after 3 Clomid cycles but it wasn't my tubes - it was the medication.
Not sure what we're going to do from here. I thought about doing another Follistim cycle myself but... last time I did this I was 32. I'm 35 now, and I'm just not confident that it'll be the magic bullet. I hate tanking so much money into something that's so uncertain.
We do have one other option I'm contemplating now and that's embryo adoption. We (obviously) used a sperm donor to conceive DS and we found other women who used our donor and have kids so the siblings can know each other growing up. A few of the women used IVF to get pregnant and are done having kids. They have embryos in storage and one is definitely ready to donate and the other is still waiting to see if she wants one more baby but she's fairly certain she's done, too. It would at least be a half-sibling for Graham and FET is much more likely to succeed than IUI. But then I worry about the child's mental health growing up knowing their bio mom created them and essentially discarded them. I don't know if I want to do that. I feel like the child would blame DW and I and feel bitter about not being able to grow up wealthy in California.
It's so hard. Anyway... time for some soul searching. Maybe a second baby isn't in the cards for us at all. And that would be okay. DS is plenty to fill our hearts but I wanted a sibling for him, you know? Bah, I'm tearing up now.
Thanks for having me, ladies. I truly wish you all the best. I'll be lurking and love-titting periodically
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
As for the FET possibility, there are definitely ways to speak to a child that you have from donated embryo, if you go that route and it is successful, that can hopefully lessen any blow about being someone else's biological kid. Plus, that kid would have two awesome moms and a brother, what more can you ask for! I hope you find the right thing for you
Married: 11/2013
M: 6/2016 E: 5/2018
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
I am 4 weeks along tomorrow, my EDD is 25 May, Memorial Day weekend...better have a good Dr on call. I am a STM with an August 2015 daughter. We are lucky to get pregnant on the first time everytime. I hope everything goes well with this pregnancy. Edit to add: I'm AMA, will be 39 next May.
I am a pharmacist as is my DH. We have a live-in Au Pair from Paraguay and if you don't know about this childcare option I would love to talk about my experiences (this is our 2nd Au Pair), it is the best care possible in my opinion.
Good to meet you