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TTCAL Check-In Week of 8/7
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Hope it's ok that I started this...
1. Introduce yourself (if you're new):
2. Status?
3. R/R?
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"?
2. Status?
3. R/R?
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"?
Re: TTCAL Check-In Week of 8/7
1. Been posting here for about a month as @leahcimmichael
2. WTO. CD3
3. Rants: AF hit me hard yesterday. Like had to cancel plans due to cramping/crying. Feeling much better today, fortunately.
Raves: Got my Cycle Day 3 bloodwork done today! Can't wait to get some results back to see if there's something interfering with my ability to stay pregnant. Hopefully they'll tell me I just need to eat more pizza and chocolate (that's a thing, right?!?!)
4. I have a few friends who's relationships I admire. I still try to pick their brains about how they keep their relationships strong. Celebrity-wise, gotta go with Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson. Love that they've been together (like, 1,000,000 Hollywood years) for so long and seem like such a chill couple.
2. CD 4
3. Everything happens for a reason. Sure it may be true but I would like to know the reasons. I personally don't think it makes people feel better and I would never say it to anyone.
4. I would 100% agree with you!!! I love Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson!!! I was just thinking about them before the Pratt/Farris announcement.
On a side note. I love Life in Pieces with Tom Hanks's son!!! Just watched the whole season a week ago!
I'm going to try and hit up yoga 3 times this week. We are going to the pool tomorrow. I'll get some free time on Wens and Thurs. I can't think of an R/R. I did get 2 checks in the mail for weddings we are playing so money is good. I officially have enough saved to put in a rock wall in the front of the house. Any money left over is going to a puppy in the future.
I'm weird and don't follow celebrities. I didn't know Pratt/Faris was even a thing until today on FB.
1. Definitely not new.
2. TWW, but I had no OPKs and didn't buy any. Hadn't had EWCM in months, but just a teeny bit last week, so yay! I think timing was -3 and -2 so whatever. Again, SO jealous of you ED and EOD-ers! DH has performance issues and can't ahem, finish the job if he knows, or even suspects it's FW. I wish we were young and naive again.....
3. I just started a new job and don't have insurance for 2 months, so I hope I don't fall off a ladder or something. I lost my endocrinologist but stocked up on all my meds prior, I'm so Type A!
4. GTKY: I think Kyra Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon.
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
3. R/R? Peak OPK today and EWCM!!
also had acupuncture this past Friday for fertility and arthritis in hip. It is working on my leg so I hope it works on my uterus!
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"? I agree with Tom and Rita as a celebrity couple. And I too love life in pieces
Also, I swear every single tv show I watch always has a pregnancy reference and I kind of hate it!!!
1. Intro:
Hi, my name is Jessica, my husband and I have a 2-year-old son, and I am new here as of last Friday
2. Status?
I got my BFP on Monday 7/31/17 (two Walgreen's digitals to be exact), then a Wal-Mart cheapie and a FRER on Tuesday 8/1/17.
I started cramping Tuesday and didn't fret too much about it, because I cramped with my DS. Cramping amped up on Wednesday and I started to get more concerned. By Thursday I could have sworn AF was coming. I peed in a cup to take a FRER. I noticed what looked like tissue in my urine cup. I wiped. A small spot of brown. I freaked out. The FRER was so faint. I peed again, wiped again. Pink spotting. I called my OB who ordered a STAT Quant and told me to go to the ER if bleeding increased or I started to pass clots. The clots came and I went to the ER.
At the ER they looked at me like I had 3 heads. I was just 5-6 weeks and I hadn't had u/s confirmation yet. I was following my OB's instructions. They told me that they would likely just do a blood draw and go from there. That I likely wouldn't get a scan. I was devastated.
But they did the scan. My mom was with me because my husband stayed home with our toddler. I asked the tech taking me to radiology if my mom could come. She agreed. When we got there, the lady was harsh and said that my mom couldn't come back and that I couldn't watch and she couldn't tell me anything. I understood, but she was so stern, and I was so scared.
We made it back to the ER exam room. I had been there for hours with no answers. The doc came in and asked the same questions I had been asked before. The ultrasound showed no sac and I was told that I was experiencing an early miscarriage. It was at this time that they started treating me with compassion. I was given morphine for the pain and they did a pelvic exam. They sent me home with pain meds and self-care instructions.
I felt crazy. Like it was all a dream. 5 positive HPT and betas of 6 and 5. I felt crazy, and I still do. In those 3 days I imagined a lifetime with this angel baby. I imagined how they would blend into our family. I feel robbed.
We've been told that we can TTC as soon as my cycle returns. This confuses me, because this loss feels similar to AF to me. I was also told that I will be placed on progesterone as soon as I get my next BFP.
3. R/R?
I was so excited when I got my BFP on Monday that I told the world Tuesday. Everything went smoothly when we had our DS. I figured that I would need the support should something go wrong, but I never really thought about the consequences.
Early Friday morning I was announcing our loss. I was embraced by an outpouring of love. So many women in my life told their own stories. My bosses showed up on my doorstep with donuts. My staff sent me flowers. My job has granted me 40 hours of bereavement leave. I am in awe of the support that I have received in this dark time.
I am currently trying to be the best mommy to this crazy amazing toddler and hold it together. We've been having lazy days. I am trying to come to terms with returning to work Thursday. I am so thankful for the time I have had off.
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"?
Oh dang this is hard. I really can't come up with anything. I hate to sound corny, but our relationship exceeds my goals. We've had our ups and downs, but I've loved him since high school. We've been together over 10 years now. I love our relationship. He's 100% supportive and all in.
So sorry that this was so long winded. But a somber hello and best wishes to us all.
First TTC Journey:
- Failed attempts at clomid with OB
- HSG with OB, nothing found
- Met with RE. Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy done on 08/04/2014. Results: Hymenal stenosis, minimal endometriosis, and PCOS
@sprkls8506 Everything that happens for a reason are usually things that suck.
@vlagrl29 I don't even know who ferris is. I'm with you on not following celebrity gossip. SO impressed with all your yoga-ing. I need to get back into my workout routine. Summer is hard.
@amberruka My DH has difficulty finishing sometimes and I swear I'm sore for days after the FW. I don't tell him, but he knows now. I agree, wish we were back to blissful ignorance.
@Mack2342 we are pretty close to cycle buddies. Looks like we are both enduring this 2ww together! FX for us both!
Sooo not new but took a break from the boards. Good to see a lot have moved on. Sad to see familiar faces.
ectopic 9/16- 6 shots mtx no AF until 1/17
CP 2/17
MMC 4/17 @ 8.5 weeks D&C
2. Status?
CD 13~>Peak OPK and loads of EWCM
O is estimated in 2 days.... We have EOD for a week now. We are gonna try to get in ED for the next 3 days.
3. R/R?
Rave- cleaned the garage today to get our new garage doors installed! Can't wait to have automatic openers!
Rave- LOVING all the summer Polar Seltzer favors. Raspberry Rose is my fave.
Rave- DH and I have really strengthened our marriage through communication and kindness. We are going strong even through all of these hurdles.
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"?
Freddie Prinze Junior and Sarah Michelle Gellar - but probably because I'm obsessed with Buffy and all the dumb early 2000s movies Freddie was in.
@vlagrl29 Fall wedding season? I hear October is almost as popular for weddings as June now. Put everything in that puppy bank!!!
@amberruka Not old, you're probably just not a nerd like I am. 'Like' enough Chris Pratt articles on Facebook and next thing you know, you know everything about him... Anyway...
-3 and -2 is really good timing especially if you had some EWCM to help out!! FX!
@mack2342 The acupuncture is working for you hip already? That's awesome!! Hoping that it's helping with fertility too since it sounds like O is imminent for you. The more I read the more I think I'm gonna have to bite the bullet and try acupuncture.
@mrsbark711 So sorry to hear about your loss. Welcome. It's amazing that you got so much support from your friends, family, and workplace! Hopefully you'll find lots of support here as well. And I totally said "awww" out loud reading what you wrote about your hubby.
@justsuzie I was a lurker on this board earlier this year, so I've followed your journey a bit. It sounds like taking a breather from this board and starting to see a therapist have been great decisions for you! Love hearing about your marriage getting stronger even with everything going on. Definitely worry sometimes what the stress of TTCAL might be doing to my marriage, but I think you nailed it that "kindness and communication" are key.
And Yaaaaasss!!! about Freddie and Sarah Michelle. Can you believe they've been married for 15 years?!?! Where the heck does the time go?
leahcimmichael Good luck with the CD 3 bloodwork results!
amberruka Stay safe until insurance starts! And Type A’s unite!
(please sit in your assigned seat. HA)
sprkls8506 Not only the tv lately, but I swear every ad is now focused on PG and babies. Like, every car commercial is now featuring PG tests and ‘new additions.’ Ugh!?
mrsbark711 Wow. Your job is very awesome for granting you that much bereavement leave! I wish all jobs would acknowledge MC as true bereavement loss. Sorry you are joining us here, but this is an awesome support group of women. Also, just as a heads up, The Bump tends to not use ‘baby dust’ as it can be hurtful to anyone who’s had to cremate their babies. Also, we tend to use *TWs* for mentioning live children on the TTCAL board, just as a heads up to those of us having a bad TTCAL day.
justsuzie Automatic Garage Door Openers are the bomb! #Laziness
2. Status? I feel like benched for life should be my new status. *sigh* But down a bit more in weight! So, creeping towards the goal...
3. R/R? Took 2 hours off of work yesterday and drove 1.5 hours (should've been 1 hour) to my eye doctor's appointment. Due to rain and city people freaking out over the rain, I ended up being 20 min. late to my appointment. The receptionist was a snarky biotche about me being late and told me I had to reschedule. What a waste of my life.
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"?
LOL
But in seriousness... I once met an older lady who had just lost her husband. And she confided in me that she met her husband during WWII. They met and saw each other a few times and just 'knew' they wanted to be together. Since he was going to be shipped out and she was not allowed to get married because of her job/where she was living, they took a train to Vegas and got married in secret. After the war they got married in front of their families. Until he died they shared 2 anniversaries (one publicly with family, and one in private) but never told anyone in their entire family about their secret elopement. I thought this was the sweetest thing ever, and decided that if 2 people could meet and spend 2 weeks together only seeing each other occasionally, and make a marriage work, that that's what I wanted in my life. It's probably the sweetest love story I'd ever heard.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
2. Status? So I stepped away because all of the testing and having no plan/direction what-so-ever was driving me absolutely NUTS. Finally feel like I have my head on straight. The RE has narrowed things down to two possibilities. 1 is a septate uterus, which was just confirmed yesterday, so the beginning of September I'll have surgery to correct that (new uterus, who dis?
3. R/R? I've switched some of my beauty products over to natural versions (soap w/ essential oils, dry brushing, natural deodorant, bentonite clay detox masks) and I am loving it. Next is going to be cleaning supplies. Going crunchy-granola as my hubs calls it
4. GTKY: I have absolutely no clue who that is. I'd have to say Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel. Both seem so laid back!
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
@justsuzie yay for almost cycle buddies!
@leahcimmichael not that pain is gone from acupuncture already it has just eased it a bit. Hopefully it will get better each time. And yes hopefully it works with fertility too!
@dpjennifer congrats on getting closer to your goal. Weight loss is so difficult. And what a love story that is awesome. I absolutely love seeing older married couples they are just so cute to watch
@vlagrl29 I miss yoga so much. I used to do it for free at work so I would go 3-4 times a week. But they let our instructor go due to budget cuts.
@amberruka we managed a ton of BDing this cycle but it wasn't always easy for us. It took us almost 2 years of trying to get rid of some of the performance issues that DH had.
@dpjennifer I love that love story!
1. TTC for 2 years - about 1/2 years TTCAL.
2. TWW. I'm around 10 DPO I think. Not testing until af is a year late. Haha.
3. No real r/r this week. I tried the Benadryl experiment this cycle. We will see if it works.
4. I didn't even know those two were married. I'm so clueless when it comes to clelbrity gossip. I don't really follow any of that stuff. I do know that Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard are married (mostly because of their music video they made for Africa by TOTO). If you haven't seen it look it up on YouTube. It's pretty funny. I think they seem pretty cute together. Hopefully they can make it last.
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
@dpjennifer That stinks about your appt!! Ugh!!! And what a sweet story!
@msstephanielynn sounds like you're headed in the right direction! Also, I love Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel too!!!
2. 8d post C&D and clueless
3. I'm currently irrationally angry at every pregnant woman I see including those on my favorite TV shows. The fact that they wear padding and ACT pregnant is seriously pissing me off. Like there's some writer in CA intentionally tormenting me. It'll get better, and I know a huge part of that is my currently out of control hormones. I just feel sorry for my DH for having to deal with my current level of crazy.
4. Current relationship goals are the old couple I saw in our local food court last week. The husband was feeding his very elderly wife ice cream while they both giggled about something. The way he looked at her, you just knew she was his entire world.
Sorry I'm late this time so I can't quickly comment on everyone. I'm sorry to see so many newbies this week. And those whom I'm so familiar with- you'll need to get KU and outta here!
1/2. Not new. TTC for a year now. First pregnancy and loss in March. I have an appointment with my OB next week to talk about next steps.... She said originally when we fist meet over a year ago- to give TTC 9 months and then we would talk. It's time to talk.
3. Meh. Just meh.
4. I had to google Pratt/ Faris to know who they were... I saw a friend "reacted to" the FB post and immmediatly thought "what a tacky way to post about your separation on Facebook" the when I looked closer I realized it was someone famous- clearly not famous to me. Maybe im old or just out of touch. @ELeighMay I'm going to second your answer! So sweet.
2. Waiting patiently for AF this week - fingers crossed. If it happens, my cycles may actually be at a relatively hopefully normal point. Then, we can start actively trying. *long sigh So I guess one could call it the TWW, but if I ended up pg, I guarantee I would actually fall off my chair.
3. Rave - vacay is coming in 3 weeks. Countdown is ON. Rant - One of those stretches where everything seems to be not working out for us. You know when you start to get down on things, and everything seems to be going wrong, or not working? That. We have an ongoing construction project that is halted for no apparent reason, a house we looked at that we found out sold right before we went to our showing, and a car that will likely be in the shop for at least a week. So I am hoping for a turn around soon and very soon.
4. Pratt/Faris - that bums me out! I just thought they were so endearing, and I really don't follow much pop culture. Oh well, you never know what anyone's relationships are behind closed doors. Gosh, that means he is available? hahaha I kid. I have been married 10 great years, and obviously have been through some stuff in that time. No one I would rather have on my team. Much love to that man.
@ELeighMay Yeah, same over here with all the Pg people. Couldn't the universe just give us a break and create a magic bubble around us to we aren't constantly reminded of the things we are desperate to have? Today was hard at work - a nice man who I really do like is announcing his newest grandbaby all over the place. I just can't even fake a smile. Can't wait for the obligatory photo to circulate around. meh. Some days are better than others. Hang in there.
@dpjennifer Thank you for the reminder notes on phrases that should not be used around here. That is a tough one for me, so I appreciate it. Great work on your weight goals! Maybe you have already mentioned, but are you doing anything specific?
@MooFish2364 HAHA your comment on testing made me lol at work. I am right there with you!
@mrsbark711 Welcome to you, so sorry for your loss. I hope the support continues for you.
@Mack2342 So I did acupuncture to conceive with my son I lost in April. I tried for almost a year when I started acupuncture and then after 1.5 months I conceived. I really attributed it to the treatments. I think stress and anxiety had a lot to do with my situation, and it really helped there. It also shortened my cycles from 40 days to 33.
Ok, sorry I couldn't respond to everyone, gotta get back to work! Is it really only Tuesday?
2. Status? Waiting for AF to start. Been spotting and cramping. Just wish AF would start so we can get started TTC.
3. R/R? A friend just announced she is pregnant and we spent all day Sat with them and that was hard. Then on Sunday at church it seemed like I was surrounded by pregnant women.
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"? I don't keep up with celebrities. Several older friends and family seem to have happy marriages and I hope DH and I live long lives so we can enjoy family and travel.
2. 9 DPO (I think). EWCM lasted longer than normal, and I hadn't gotten a positive OPK by my expected O date. Then we left for a road trip to see DH's parents, and I didn't bring them with me. So I'm assuming I O'd 4 days late, when I had EWCM and O pain. The EWCM stopped soon after.
3. Rant - I swear that everyone is PG right now! I have so many friends and family members who are right now (several within 2 weeks of my old EDD), every celebrity is, and it's a story arc on like every TV show. I have one friend in particular who is always texting me bump pictures and US pictures and all the normal exciting baby news, and I'd like to think I can see them and be happy for her, except it reminds me of what I lost, and I'm jealous, which quickly turns to feeling like a bad friend.
Rave - We are finally at the part of our vacation where we spend time with my family (I am one of 4 girls and I'm very close with my sisters), which is nice because we live 14 hours away and I don't get to see them very often. **TW** I love seeing my 2 yo DS play with my niece and nephew. My sisters and I don't have cousins close in age, so it's something new I never got to experience as a kid.
4. My current relationship goals couple are my 80 year old grandparents. My grandmother has stage T3 skin cancer (grown into her facial bones) and had to have from her nose to her ear, her hard palate to her eye socket, removed. She was so worried about being disfigured (not that that matters to us, we would rather a grandma with a funny face above ground than a grandma with a pretty face in it), and the first thing my grandpa told her post-op was "you are as beautiful as the day I met you." (can you say "awww"). He also told her that she has spend the last 58 nursing him (she was an RN), so now it's his turn to play her CNA.
***TW Living child and loss mentioned***
13 March 2017: Loss at 4+6
@MooFish2364 thanks for clearing that up
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
2. Status? Benched sort of. I think I might be 5 DPO. OB said that if we got pregnant this cycle it would be fine. Then I met with a RE and he would like to do more testing first. I'm just so ready to move on. Im still waiting on chromosome testing to come back as to direct my testing, which seems like it is taking forever.
3. R/R? I'm just so down and out. I'm just so ready to be back to myself. I'm sad off and on throughout the day, I can't sleep very well, DH is getting aggravated with me it feels like (I don't really think this is the case but I'm hypersensitive).
One of my best friends miscarried the same week that I did so at least I have her to talk to...but I hate this for her as well. At least I can start trying again soon but she has to wait because her DH is losing his job. And the fact that one of us will definitely be pregnant again before the other (probably her since I have infertility issues and this is my second miscarriage) and that will really suck for either one of us.
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"? definitely Tim McGraw and Faith Hill
@dpjennifer woot woot on the weight loss. What's working? I gotta lose the 10lbs I gained during the pg and loss.....
@msstephanielynn I am completely granola natural with everything. I even washed my hair with apple cider vinegar. (Had to stop though because I colored it) My favorite product is Josie Maran Argan Oil for my face. Her entire product line is amazing. It's pricey but I think it's worth it. My husband and I are vegan so the natural cleaning products were our last step to changing to "all natural".
MooFish2364 I took benedryl today because I cleaned out the garage. I wasn't aware there was a correlation with ttc. I need to go back and find that thread!
MrsBunz I notice ALL the pregnant EVERYTHING. Hoping that it begins to affect me less.
mrsjcrane All sounds rough. SO sorry you're feeling down. My BF had her baby the week of my first EDD. I still haven't brought myself to see the baby and it's been 2 months. I feel terrible but my anxiety is finally getting under control. (Newborns are a huge trigger for me). I am hoping I can meet the baby and not freak out.
2. I ovulated over the weekend. My dh actually asked me yesterday if we could try again in a week or so. I had to explain that you only ovulate once a month.
3. Rave: I start back to work Thursday. I have a new position this year at my school as the librarian. It's really hard for me to be home for longer than 3-4 weeks.
Rant: I walked into school yesterday and the library needs a lot of work, school starts in a week.
4. Hopefully not too morbid but Joey&Rory. They are a big deal in the d.s. community.
2. WTO CD10....second AF post loss was normal with no crazy spotting, so we are good to go and over the next week DH is going to get laid so. many. times. I'm feeling good about starting active TTC, but also really nervous about opening up myself to the possibility of another loss. It feels very vulnerable, I guess is the best way to put it.
3. Just got back from my trip up to Portland and it went so much better than I thought it would (thanks for the gummy tip, @amberruka , lol
4. I don't know if it's just because I majorly crush on both of them, but I really admire the relationship between Michael Fassbender and Alicia Vikander. I think it's incredible how private they are, even though they are some of the biggest names (and best actors) out there. Their relationship is almost entirely out of the spotlight. The privacy makes it seem
so much more genuine. And the fact that they are two individuals just really at the top of their craft, and seeing how much they support one another...it's just kind of awesome. Maybe I'm a sap, but I want to believe that they'll be one of those rare together forever Hollywood couples. It also helps that they are both sexy as hell...
@rklinge0 I'm sorry, that made me giggle about explaining to your husband that ovulation only happens once a month. It's like, on one hand, he was trying to be helpful, and on the other it's like...dude...
@leahcimmichael I hope you get some answers with your testing! I recommend just going ahead with the "More Pizza and Chocolate Initiative", regardless.
@rosemary&thyme glad you had a good trip-minus the sad part of course!!
@knottie1452742068 / @ leahcimmichael: Hope your CD3s give you some more info. And if they tell you that you need more chocolate and pizza, please ask if they are taking referrals, because I am so there.
@sprkls8506: I think the “it happens for a reason” line should be permanently retired. Pretty sure that terrible things like a miscarriage and infertility have no damn logical reason. And my other favorite couple is the bromance between JT & Jimmy Fallon, hah!
@vlagrl29: Awe! What kind of puppy are you looking into? Fall has come to New England as well, although I may not be hating it (I’m basic, no shame)
@amberruka: I’m so type A too. FX for your TWW.
@mack2342: I’ve heard that acupuncture is so relaxing. Is this something that’s covered by insurance? Happy ovulating!
@mrsbark711: Sorry that you are finding yourself here and that you had such a bad experience. ERs can be the worst. With my son (who is also 2
), I had a lot of bleeding and they would always tell me “oh well, you’re
having a threatened miscarriage. All you can do now is go home and hope for
best” No bedside manner or understanding that we have feelings what so ever!
Hopefully progesterone will be the key for a successful pregnancy.
@dpjennifer: What’s the worst about that is that you left extra early to get there on time. AND when they are late oh it’s no big deal, just sit in the waiting room and wait your life away… And I’m learning that Type A and infertility certainly don’t mix. I think I’m getting better at the waiting part as long as there’s some loose idea of a plan.
@moofish2364: From a scientific standpoint, it actually makes sense. Interested to hear if it works!
@justsuzie: I will have to check that out. I was looking at some kind of argan oil organic shampoo that seemed to have good reviews on amazon. Just scared to throw so much $$$ at it.
@eleighmay @robyn2201 @mrsbunz: I know the feeling of resenting pregnant women. Someone told me recently that these feelings are part of the process and they are VALID. I don’t know why but it really helped me to calm down and just accept the feeling when I had it and move on from it, rather than dwelling on it and getting myself all upset. Plus, we’re all a little crazy
@mrsjcrane: I’m sorry that you are feeling down. Are you thinking you will wait until you see the RE or start trying again? In my case as much as the wait sucked, we ended up finding the reason why I have miscarried 3x, but I know I would have lost it if they said everything was fine and we waited!
@rklinge0: Hehe men are so funny. I love watching my hubs at the Dr. I think he sleeps with his eyes open since he just doesn’t understand it, but he tries.
@rosemaryandthyme: Glad you had a good trip. I feel the same way – scared, vulnerable and feel like I generally can’t trust things when I finally do get pregnant. Wouldn’t it be nice to go back to being so naive? But my husband said to me recently “If you are scared the entire time you are pregnant, and this is the last baby you get, are you going to regret worrying it away, rather than enjoying it if it is successful?” It really brought things into perspective to me, but I know it will still be hard.
mrschx Yay for vacay coming up! At least you have that glimmer of happiness in the blah around you! And as for weight loss, I’m trying to focus on exercising almost every day, eating healthier and eating less (although I am at the end of AF so the past few days haven’t been great examples!
).
MrsBunz YES! As soon as you have a MC it seems like the whole world is PG women, ppl announcing, and tv ads featuring babies, baby products, and PG tests. Ugh! Sorry about your friend with the baby news. Can you reach out and talk to them about it? And aww… your grandparents sound amazing!
msstephanielynn YES!!! I’m like… I wait on doctor’s ALL the time, so my 20 min is annoying I get it, but Come On!!! It doesn’t help that I was early in AF and cramping and miserable, plus the weather was giving me a headache and I had to deal with traffic. Just too much all at once! And OMG… Type A and the whole PG thing not working out. Ugh! I like having a plan… I like knowing what’s going to happen… and this just sucks. It’s like the entire thing is out of your control. All you can do is temp, BD during the FW, and have tests if it’s not working out. But they can’t/don’t even give you answers all the time. So you’re still stuck in a ‘Who knows if this will ever work out?’ situation. I like to PLAN man. I’ve really had to work on letting things go and just living life without knowing, which is hella hard for me.
MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)
RE #3: More testing 2023.
Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
Lupron Depo March 2024. Benched 3 months.
FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)
Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.
FET #2: September 2024 (failed)
FET #3: December 2024 (failed)
#BitterHagPartyOf1
@rosemaryandthyme - glad you had a good trip!
ETA - I'd pay for herbs for me and DH. With an already living child I don't want to go in much debt trying to make another one.
2. Status? I had a D&C last Friday, so I'm currently waiting for AF to come back so that I can start trying again. Anxious for my first cycle so that we can move forward.
3. R/R? I know technically I could ovulate before AF returns, but that we should wait a full cycle before trying. I just want to get going so we can start trying! For those of you who temp/chart, when did you start tracking again after your loss? Did you wait for AF to start on CD1, or did you start mid cycle?
4. GTKY: Thinking about the Pratt/Faris break-up... what couple (celebrity or not) is your "relationship goals"? I'm not really familiar with many celebrity couples, so not sure who my goal would be.