@becausescience My daughter has Down syndrome so she qualifies for OT, PT, DT, and speech pretty much just based on diagnosis. Your child's pediatrician can put in a referral for an OT evaluation if you think he/she needs it. I would start there!
@vaewelch I don't even really feel very pregnant, much less hella maternal towards someone that is really just doing their own thing inside my body right now with pretty much no actual mental input from me besides not boozing and stuff. That's a pretty strange thing for your friend to even ask.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
My DH and I agreed to get a puppy and put down a deposit a week before we found out I was pregnant (I just went off the pill in late May and never got a period in June, so assumed it was going to take me a while to ovulate/get pregnant). Puppy comes home in 3 weeks. Now I'm very excited for baby and puppy, but am admittedly overwhelmed at all the life changes... I also left a 7 year career in teaching for the business world in June. Head spinning. But PUPPY.
@kiki75 I don't feel pregnant either, although I'm really sick. It still hasn't even sunk in yet that we will have another baby. Just feels like a dream still. I think once I start showing it will feel more real
@vaewelch I am with you completely. I hope any anxiety you're feeling about that encounter ebbs quickly; it's not like you need anything else on your plate!
@becausescience we had her evaluated for both at once because she wasn't meeting milestones such as crawling or rolling (PT), and she refuses all solid food and won't hold her bottle (OT).
the PT is working wonders, but I haven't noticed any OT improvement yet unfort. She's actually gong for a swallow study on thurs to see if that has anything to do with it. She will only eat purees. Any solid food and she gags and throws up (and she's almost 10 months).
it sounds like we are having a similar experience. I've been having a very rough pregnancy thus far and don't feel connected to it at all (as much as I wish I were). I also am doubting myself. the women in these groups have supported me and helped me understand that these feelings can be normal.... so I'm trying to push through them in hopes that I start to feel better physically in the 2nd trimester. I think it's hard to feel joyful and loving and happy when you are so drained.
let me know if you ever want to talk about. I know it can feel very lonely
I'm CERTAIN of my conception day, but have no real idea on the first day of my last period and therefor I'm not 100% on how far I am. I know my dr. is stuck on going by the period date, but I also believe they'll give me an ultrasound at the first appointment so that should clear it up. I'm hoping I'm as far as I think I am because so far I'm feeling way better than I did with my first two and hoping I get to by-pass the morning sickness. I always said morning sickness was the worst part and I wouldn't mind being pregnant again if I could just skip that.
Adrian 7.6.07 - ADHD, Disruptive Behavior Disorder, Learning Disability-NOS Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
@vaewelch like other PPs have said, I don't feel much besides very ill as well. Additionally, *TW I think due to PGAL brain I am sort of actively remaining detached* Many women take a long time to feel attached, even after baby is born and that is completely normal. I think your friend is a TW and they know nothing (Jon Snow)....sorry too much GOT talk lately ha
Thanks everyone. I think part of the reason is she has been trying to conceive for months now. I was talking to DH last night, and we think it might be jealousy. She has kinda withdrawn from us since she found out. I'm just going to give her space for now. Like you all said,I don't need more stress than I already have.
Thanks everyone. I think part of the reason is she has been trying to conceive for months now. I was talking to DH last night, and we think it might be jealousy. She has kinda withdrawn from us since she found out. I'm just going to give her space for now. Like you all said,I don't need more stress than I already have.
@vaewelch I didn't respond to your first comment but it seemed to me that maybe there could be a chance that you're reading into this wrong? Is it possible that your friend just thought it was odd because she doesn't have the experience of being pregnant herself and just thought that's how it was? If that's the case I don't really feel like she said something THAT horrible. Sounds like maybe she's just unaware and not trying to be hurtful or malicious in any way. It's not like she told you that you were a bad mom or you were doing something wrong. She said said it seemed odd to her.
I also gotta say that as someone who struggled with infertility there's something about this comment that rubbed me the wrong way. If she's your friend and she's struggling with something so painful wouldn't you want to be there for her? I had several friends go through their pregnancies when I was going through TTC/IF treatment and I may have said some innocently dumb things, but I was never malicious and NEVER mean spirited because I wanted to be pregnant when they were.
If she's really your friend maybe you need to have a conversation with her.
I don't know if this belongs under randoms, but I don't know where else to put it. Had a friend ask me if I was feeling maternal yet (I'm 8 weeks), and I said no. She thought that was odd. Now I can't stop worrying if there is anything wrong with me. I've been miserable wise this entire pregnancy (it's my first), and now I'm worried I won't be a fit mother.
You'll be fine! It's not odd at all. I don't think what your friend said was appropriate. If it makes you feel any better, I didn't really feel very maternal until well after my daughter was born, and I turned out to do momming just fine.
My DH and I agreed to get a puppy and put down a deposit a week before we found out I was pregnant (I just went off the pill in late May and never got a period in June, so assumed it was going to take me a while to ovulate/get pregnant). Puppy comes home in 3 weeks. Now I'm very excited for baby and puppy, but am admittedly overwhelmed at all the life changes... I also left a 7 year career in teaching for the business world in June. Head spinning. But PUPPY.
Oooh, congrats on the puppy! We just brought home 2 puppies, the week before we found out we were expecting. Aaahhhh! My thought is that they're preparing me for random late-night/early morning wake ups yeah that. Thanks pups!
Adrian 7.6.07 - ADHD, Disruptive Behavior Disorder, Learning Disability-NOS Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
@gh515 we picked up our puppy approximately 3 weeks before we found out we were pregnant with DS. The puppy ((who just turned 3--he was a clearance puppy)), is best buddies with DS and the two of them have grown up together. I wish I could get another puppy for this LO but we already have two dogs and a cat. Haha.
@vaewelch Adding that information makes it all make so much more sense. It sounds to me like she's built pregnancy up in her mind as this magical thing, which it absolutely is, but that she thinks that you'll feel it immediately. It comes in fits and starts. I cried when I finally saw an ultrasound of an embryo with a beating heart. Now I'm back to doubting and being sure that my decreasing breast tenderness means I shouldn't get attached. But the next ultrasound will come and it'll feel a bit more real. Eventually the kicks will come and it will feel more real.
Please don't ice her out right now. My two very best friends were pregnant *TW* when I had my MC and when I was approaching official infertility. It would have crushed me to be going through that and to lose them both on top of it because they didn't need ol' sad sack me bringing them down. I'm sure it was kind of hard on all of us. For them, it was awkward to find ways to be supportive but not prying and happy but not rub it in my face. And for me, there were times I'd white knuckle it through a night out, asking after their babies, smiling at the right times, laughing at the right times, and then sobbing in my car as soon as I was safe.
Give her space but keep making contact. She needs you right now. I don't remember what your history was but trying for months on end/IF is a special kind of hell that you really don't understand unless you've been there. You two can still connect about all of the things you connected about before you were pregnant. If you want some tips on how to navigate this new season in your friendship, there are a bunch of us who would be glad to help.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
I've caved today and bought the snoogle and an at home doppler. I'm so weak to my cravings and shopping demands at this point, anything to keep me distracted from how yucky I'm feeling.
Oooh, congrats on the puppy! We just brought home 2 puppies, the week before we found out we were expecting. Aaahhhh! My thought is that they're preparing me for random late-night/early morning wake ups yeah that. Thanks pups!
Ahh, TWO puppies! That's awesome! And good for them to have a playmate around all day. I've read having companion dogs can make training them/keeping them healthy easier... though certainly not if you have two pups to clean up and care for on top of kids! (; How fun either way!
@mdfarmchick It brings a smile to my face to imagine your DS and pup "growing up" together. So sweet. And impressive to reign yourself in on getting another... I feel any animal lover could be quick to adopt a zoo if in the right mood.
@JamieK1882 Nobody is in charge of starting specific threads. So if you notice one hasn't been started - go for it! And if you create a duplicate, it can be changed to a GTKY or a gif party.
Me: 30 H: 30 Dx: PCOS Married: June 2013 TTC#1: January 2015 BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16 TTC#2: June 2017 BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
@kalawa I was wrong, you can only use it on your actual birthday I think. I thought it was good any day of the month But you just download the starbucks app and it should give you the reminder a few days before your birthday.
I'm not sure I understood the mess about the FB group on that awful "modesty" thread. Anyone care to break it down?
LOL, I'm quoting myself, but specifically I'd like to know if the two or three people that made themselves the center of that thread did so just for the purposes of trolling this board, and also whether their overall presence here is solely so they can gossip about it in their Facebook page. That's what I took away from all that. Am I wrong?
Care to speak for yourselves? I'd tag, but I'm not sure if callouts are against The Rules. They know who they are, I'm sure.
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Re: Randoms - Week of July 31
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
the PT is working wonders, but I haven't noticed any OT improvement yet unfort. She's actually gong for a swallow study on thurs to see if that has anything to do with it. She will only eat purees. Any solid food and she gags and throws up (and she's almost 10 months).
it sounds like we are having a similar experience. I've been having a very rough pregnancy thus far and don't feel connected to it at all (as much as I wish I were). I also am doubting myself. the women in these groups have supported me and helped me understand that these feelings can be normal.... so I'm trying to push through them in hopes that I start to feel better physically in the 2nd trimester. I think it's hard to feel joyful and loving and happy when you are so drained.
let me know if you ever want to talk about. I know it can feel very lonely
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
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Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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I also gotta say that as someone who struggled with infertility there's something about this comment that rubbed me the wrong way. If she's your friend and she's struggling with something so painful wouldn't you want to be there for her? I had several friends go through their pregnancies when I was going through TTC/IF treatment and I may have said some innocently dumb things, but I was never malicious and NEVER mean spirited because I wanted to be pregnant when they were.
If she's really your friend maybe you need to have a conversation with her.
Cam 6.6.10 - Autism, Global Developmental Delay, Mixed Receptive/Expressive Communication Disorder
@gh515 we picked up our puppy approximately 3 weeks before we found out we were pregnant with DS. The puppy ((who just turned 3--he was a clearance puppy)), is best buddies with DS and the two of them have grown up together. I wish I could get another puppy for this LO but we already have two dogs and a cat. Haha.
Please don't ice her out right now. My two very best friends were pregnant *TW* when I had my MC and when I was approaching official infertility. It would have crushed me to be going through that and to lose them both on top of it because they didn't need ol' sad sack me bringing them down. I'm sure it was kind of hard on all of us. For them, it was awkward to find ways to be supportive but not prying and happy but not rub it in my face. And for me, there were times I'd white knuckle it through a night out, asking after their babies, smiling at the right times, laughing at the right times, and then sobbing in my car as soon as I was safe.
Give her space but keep making contact. She needs you right now. I don't remember what your history was but trying for months on end/IF is a special kind of hell that you really don't understand unless you've been there. You two can still connect about all of the things you connected about before you were pregnant. If you want some tips on how to navigate this new season in your friendship, there are a bunch of us who would be glad to help.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
so many individual threads atm. super annoying.
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Dx: PCOS
Married: June 2013
TTC#1: January 2015
BFP #1 8/24/15 | MC 9/3/15 at 6w2d
BFP #2: 12/12/15 | DD born 8/29/16
TTC#2: June 2017
BFP #3: 7/15/17 | DS born 3/20/18
Care to speak for yourselves? I'd tag, but I'm not sure if callouts are against The Rules. They know who they are, I'm sure.