Randoms - Week of July 31

kiki75

ishmoney

I do NOT want to go back to work tomorrow.  I want to stay in my new pregnancy bubble...

runsoncoffee

Lol at that gif @kiki75

KristinUM12

I was gone all weekend for SIL's wedding, and I feel like I've been gone for a year with the amount of drama/snark. I'm just sad it's a little too late to join in Anyways, back to catching up on what I missed...

heatherdubrow

One more week until my H finally moves here! I seriously can't wait!

Im sick with a cough I got from my DD so I'll be laying low the next couple days. I was all set to go to body pump again and now this! I think the universe just doesn't want me to work out this pregnancy 

KristinUM12

@heatherdubrow Yay! I am excited for you! Also, I feel you on not being able to workout. I hadJUST bought a workout DVD to do with my friend as an accountability partner thing, and morning sickness set in the day it arrived. And then my friend announced she's moving. Lol...I am destined to spend this pregnancy on the couch.

mylovelittlelove

@heatherdubrow YAY! 

YOU GUYS. Some of us hit 10 weeks this week. DOUBT DIGIT WEEKS. I'm so thankful that the first tri seems to not be dragging. 

becausescience

@mylovelittlelove

And I'm over here being excited about getting to be 6 weeks tomorrow. 

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becausescience said:

@mylovelittlelove

And I'm over here being excited about getting to be 6 weeks tomorrow. 

Lol same except mine will be Thursday.  gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

LiveNLove44

@heatherdubrow I can't believe you're single parenting while pregnant and killin' it. (Three cheers for the people who do it on the regular, too.) I'm excited for you to have your H back with the family again, too! I hope you kick the cold quickly so you can join us on the FF check-in I had a 10-week break from a lot of working out with DD because I had a stress fracture in my foot. Time off sucks.

LiveNLove44

DH and I just returned from my u/s and he headed back to work. DD didn't nap but she's "resting" watching a movie. We have our family photos tonight at 7 which is really pushing our luck, and with no nap, we're bound to have some fiercely memorable moments captured. This is kind of a MBF but also just whining. I want our pictures to go well because we're doing to take a few announcement pics, too. FX.

heatherdubrow

@LiveNLove44 thank you! And yes my heart and souls go out to for real single moms. I don't know how anyone does it long term!

vflux33

@heatherdubrow Yaayyyy on getting YH back! I don't do well without mine and I can't even blame it on parenting. 

@becausescience @antoto I am due smack in the middle of the month (8 weeks Wednesday) so I both pine over being 10 weeks and feel relieved about not being 6... though I didn't really have symptoms until after I hit 6 so that was kinda nice.  

becausescience

PSA: I think images are back in signatures!  I just added a pregnancy tracker in my spoiler in my signature!  Any interest in a siggy challenge?

kiki75

@becausescience Yes!! 

wonderbex

I've had zero energy this entire pregnancy and finally finally finally today I woke up and was ready to par-tay! Thank goodness because my house is a disaster, my kids have had way too much tv, and I need to go grocery shopping. 
I hope this energy will stay a while. My husband and kids have dealt with an exhausted moody mama and have handled it like champs. I'm sure I will have another cranky attitude and be tired again soon so I'm doing as much as I can today.

HappyMonkey817

We had to take DD to the cardiologist today for a follow-up. She was born with some heart issues that we were told at the time could possibly resolve on their own. After a very long appointment, we got the best possible news: NO SURGERY NECESSARY! Woohoo! And she was so amazing for the entire appointment. I'm so proud of her. She has sensory issues, so that appointment easily could have gone very badly.

runsoncoffee

@heatherdubrow woohoo!!! I look forward to my DH coming home from work each day let alone not living in the same town! Super mom!
@mylovelittlelove yasss. I'll be 10 weeks this week and so excited... counting down to 2nd tri!!!

vflux33

@HappyMonkey817 That's so great!! I can't imagine how relieved you must be!

ladybugsamom

@wonderbex YAY!!  I'm still waiting for my energy to kick back in.  I literally stayed on the couch all weekend.  My oldest DS broke my heart when he said "Mom, when you're not so tired all the time, can we actually do something as a family?"  I felt terrible!  We haven't told them about the baby yet, so hopefully he'll understand...and hopefully my energy returns SOON!

LiveNLove44

No major meltdowns at family photos tonight, and I think the photographer snagged some gems of the kids. She was also there to capture the moment I showed my DD the ultrasound and told her she was going to have another little brother or sister! It was fun to see her reaction (although I almost bawled), and it was an energy boost for our late-evening photo shoot. I'm so glad the pictures are done and I can just...be. I only have a few "home" days left with the kids before coaching and school ramp up, and I want to just be.

historeliza

I don't know if this belongs under randoms, but I don't know where else to put it.  Had a friend ask me if I was feeling maternal yet (I'm 8 weeks), and I said no.  She thought that was odd.  Now I can't stop worrying if there is anything wrong with me.  I've been miserable wise this entire pregnancy (it's my first), and now I'm worried I won't be a fit mother.

itsmemario

@vaewelch I don't think that's odd at all. It's more odd to me that she called it odd in the first place. Some people may feel "maternal" right from the get go, but it's different for everyone. Some people don't feel maternal until their child's personality starts to show. I know moms who don't particularly enjoy the newborn stage, moms who don't like any part of pregnancy, and moms who love both. It doesn't make you an unfit mother. Especially in the first trimester when you are feeling terrible and you can't feel or see the baby yet. Don't let someone's silly comment add worry to your pregnancy!

becausescience

@vaewelch Your friend is a TW.

LiveNLove44

vaewelch said:

I don't know if this belongs under randoms, but I don't know where else to put it.  Had a friend ask me if I was feeling maternal yet (I'm 8 weeks), and I said no.  She thought that was odd.  Now I can't stop worrying if there is anything wrong with me.  I've been miserable wise this entire pregnancy (it's my first), and now I'm worried I won't be a fit mother.

What a super odd thing for someone to say. Don't give it a second thought. You are this baby's mother, and you are going to be maternal AF whenever it is right for you and baby. No worries!!

historeliza

Thank you guys. This does make me feel better. Maybe once my symptoms calm down, I'll be able to embrace pregnancy more!

babybluu

becausescience said:

@vaewelch Your friend is a TW.

Agree. You will be a great mother. The fact that you're even showing concern shows you care. I'm not feeling that way just yet about this baby, and it's my second. I feel like a lot of times those feelings come when you first meet your baby. @vaewelch

eta: tagged vaewelch  

babybluu

My randomness: being severely emetophobic and having awful morning sickness make for a terrible combination. I feel like the life is slowly being drained from me 

kalawa

@vaewelch How you feel during pregnancy does not dictate how you feel when your baby is born. And don't doubt yourself because your friend made an ignorant comment. I know plenty of women who hated every second of pregnancy, and are terrific mothers. Your feelings are so normal.

JamieK1882

@becausescience same here! 6 weeks tomorrow! 

JamieK1882

So I have 2 daughters at home. The one is 9 months old and is in early intervention for both physical and occupational therapy.

we didn't like the OT we were assigned, so we requested a new one. Today, the old one shows up again! I don't think she was told and it was very awkward.

itsmemario

@JamieK1882 oh no! Yea, I bet that was really uncomfortable. Uhm sorry, we fired you... ha! My daughter has EI too. 

Edited bc my comment was cut off for some reason! 

JamieK1882

@itsmemario I took DD1 to daycare (6 minutes away) and it took me 45 minutes to come back. DH was like "you did that on purpose!" Lol. Apparently she got a phone call while at our house and her whole demeanor changed. She didn't even finish the progress note. Oops

JamieK1882

@babybluu I'm sorry that sounds so rough!

JamieK1882

@vaewelch +1 to what everyone else has said. If you want me to be honest, with my first, I didn't feel very "maternal" even after baby got here. It's an odd feeling to have a baby thrust in your arms who you've never really met. It took me a few weeks as I got to know her and her personality, and of course I fell in love. I feel like there's such a stigma that you need to feel in love with this baby before the pee stick even dries and that's insane.

Also, can I add I'm so happy to be back on the bump where TW is a thing? Lol

hullabalou

@becausescience I would love a siggy challenge!

hullabalou

@vaewelch I don't feel particularly maternal with this pregnancy yet because I feel like crap all day and I'm just trying to function. With my son, once I could feel him moving around, the maternal feelings/connection started getting stronger. Like some said above, a lot of women don't particularly enjoy pregnancy or even the newborn stages, but that doesn't mean they never bond with their babies.

barrelocarol

@vaewelch My unsolicited advice: Ignore this friend wholeheartedly. We need support and being told that how we feel is "odd" is wrong, period. This person will NOT be a good person to have around during those early postpartum days unless they have a major change. 

Spoiler alert: In those early days, people come out of the woodwork to tell you you're "doing it wrong" or feeling the wrong way. 

Stand for yourself now! You've got this and you've got a whole bunch of internet strangers that are here to support!

Sorry...This probably sounds preachy and weird. Maybe I'm just reliving what I experienced and now debating erasing all of this (shame face).

heatherdubrow

@vaewelch there are plenty of women who don't even feel maternal right after birth. Those feelings come when they come. I agree with pp's, your friend is a TW.

becausescience

@JamieK1882 My DD (11m) is in PT too and I've wondered if she needs IT. Do you mind me asking how it was determined she needed OT? @itsmemario

So DH signed up for a weight loss competition at work. (He put on some baby weight lol.) I told him I'm rooting for him and will try to help, but really I'm just worried he won't get me ice cream when I need it.

justkeeptrying

Guys...it's my birthday month